Ways to intrigue a man so that he waits for days for messages from you

There are many ways to interest a man, and the role of text messages can hardly be overestimated. They are a kind of fuel for maintaining the ardent interest of the interlocutor. The ability to write a message will help to captivate a man again, rekindle desire, and bring playfulness back into an existing relationship.

“Correct” messages intrigue a man and arouse interest. The nature of their writing determines whether he sees in you a woman with whom he wants to make joint plans for the future, or just a cheerful interlocutor for pleasant communication and non-binding flirting.

How and where to meet?

1. Social media. This is a convenient way to find a suitable person based on age, location and appearance. However, there are no guarantees whether a person is free or in search if he has not set the appropriate status.
2. Dating sites and apps. Such applications independently select people located nearby and who meet the specified criteria.
3. Thematic groups and forums. The most natural way to meet each other, guarantees similar interests and many topics to discuss.
4. Online trainings and online master classes. Teamwork on your personality or project brings you closer than ever. It's quite easy to find your people here.

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Important! Don’t delay virtual communication, try to translate it into reality as quickly as possible. Then you will be able to fully assess the character and behavior of a person.

You will learn much more in this article: How to meet a guy.

What is it for?

Where can this be used?

The ability to engage an individual or an audience helps you convey your key messages and encourage the audience to perceive those messages in a positive way.

This skill can be successfully used in:

• personal sphere (to please a representative of the opposite sex, to convince your other half of the need to perform certain actions, to apologize convincingly, to make new friends, to be the “life of the party” and to be popular among friends);
• professional field (successfully present yourself as a specialist, your product and your skills, promote your ideas and attract new partners/investors);
• in the domestic sphere (to take advantage of the sympathy of random people who may be useful).

How to intrigue him, lure him in

1. Reply to messages within 2-3 minutes. A little anticipation builds interest. Just a little wait, if you disappear for a few weeks, the guy will most likely forget about such an interlocutor.
2. Try to be more interested in his life than talking about yourself. All people are selfish and love to chat about their plans.
3. From the first messages, create an image of a positive and wealthy person; no one is attracted to whiners who see problems in everything.

#1. Avoid platitudes

Banal cliches in messages, for example, “Hello, how are you?”, cause irritation and boredom. Guys really value originality and resourcefulness.

You need to write the way you communicate in life. Then unique phrases and words will be associated with you. Don't be afraid to seem strange, the main thing is to remain within the bounds of decency.

#2. Don't even think about comparing him to other men

Comparison always has a negative effect. If you want a guy to become better, never say that there is someone better than him, especially when referring to these individuals.

Most likely, he will deliberately hate them, ignore them, be jealous of them, and definitely will not learn anything good. Suffice it to remember how your parents used your friend or sister as an example, because this provoked quarrels and lowered self-esteem. Important! Even if a man does not show how painful it is for him to hear such statements, it will leave an imprint on the relationship.

#3. Don't talk about your shortcomings

If a man chose you as his girlfriend, this indicates his sympathy. By highlighting your disadvantages, you literally force people to pay special attention to them. At every meeting, he will look appraisingly at the shortcomings and think about them. Why give yourself such a “gift”?

On the contrary, you can point out your advantages. Not plumpness, but juicy beards, not a sad look, but sparkling eyes. Then the guy will look at you with adoration.

Important! No one will love a person who does not love himself.

#4. Look for new topics

To interest each other, you will have to talk about something. Any topic is coming to an end.

To avoid awkward pauses, you can discuss:

• pets;
• the specifics of his work;
• what kind of relationship he wants, what he expects from a girl, how he sees his family;
• mysticism;
• awkward but funny stories;
• features of the horoscope and character of the interlocutor, of course in a comic and light form.

The more you communicate with a man, the clearer his priorities and interests will become. Then it will be possible to talk about your compatibility and more serious plans. Important! The main goal is to impress the guy, but to determine whether he is right for you. Ask what is really interesting.

It might be interesting: how to understand that a man likes you by correspondence.

#5. Don't answer dryly

Dry answers indicate disinterest and formal communication. Emotional responses, on the contrary, provoke the guy to continue the conversation, catch him, and intrigue him. Sympathy is felt even through correspondence, as well as stiffness and detachment.

#6. Call him by name

The sound of one's own name is music to a person. When you pronounce his name, you emphasize his uniqueness and significance in this world. This is why people find it so unpleasant when their name is distorted or their letter is forgotten.

During the conversation, you can ask the man whether the meaning of the name matches his character.

Important! If you didn’t catch the guy’s name, it’s better to ask again than to make a mistake or try to avoid names.

#7. Let him miss you

Any girl is pleased to know that she is missed. The feeling of melancholy when apart makes you appreciate spending time together more.

To make a guy miss you:

• Don't tell all the secrets about yourself, extend the pleasure by becoming a mystery girl.
• Don't forget about your friends, relatives, business. The guy must understand that you have your own busy life, then it will be even more interesting for him.
• Look after yourself even when you are not with him and do not forget about your social networks. If he sees your gorgeous photos, hears friends discussing your image, this will encourage him to be even closer to such a girl.
• Stop texting for at least 1 day. Then he will have time to miss you and appreciate spending time alone. The contrast is especially noticeable when you bring positive emotions into a guy's life.
• If you are planning a meeting with your interlocutor, you can send a message in the spirit of “I can’t wait to meet you.” Then the guy himself will begin to anxiously wait for this moment.

#8. Add intrigue

The intrigue caused in the correspondence may be connected with you or with his personality. All people are selfish, men are no exception. To intrigue a guy, make him think about himself at your suggestion. For example:

• “I realized something about you...”
• “Do you know that you have a special character?”
• “Did you come to my page?” If he says that it’s not him, you can answer: “But I would like it to be you.”
• “Can I ask you a personal question?”

You don’t need to reveal all your cards right away, he should be intrigued. Instead of a quick answer, flirt with your interlocutor. For example, “I don’t even know, I’ll think about whether it’s worth telling you this :)” Then you need to flirtatiously describe the man’s virtues, he will be very pleased.

The intrigue associated with you may look like this:

1. “I’ve been smiling all day since your message/last night.”
2. “Today I woke up so early, I decided to watch the sunrise on the roof/in the park/on the balcony.” Extraordinary girls attract much more attention. You also emphasize your energy and interest in your own life.
3. “Uh, I have a problem...”, then wait for a response from him, and: “I can’t stop thinking about you.”

#9. Don't reply to a message right away

The one who responds longer than the interlocutor seems more unavailable and busy. However, we are talking about 5-10 minutes; it is tactless to respond after a few days.

Pay attention to how quickly the young man responds; if the message arrives immediately, it is enough to pause for 2-5 minutes. If he answers after a few hours, comes in once a day because of work or business, there is no need to hang on the phone. Copy your interlocutor.

Important! A person who always responds to messages immediately appears to be a phone addict. One gets the impression that you have nothing else to do, and besides, the guy will immediately guess that you are “stuck.”

#10. Don't talk only about yourself all the time

A person who talks only about himself unwittingly demonstrates:

• egocentrism;
• lack of attention;
• desire to gain recognition;
• fear of being alone, unheard.

This causes boredom and rejection for the interlocutor. A guy who communicates with a girl for the first time does not feel the need to know her mental traumas, all her interests, hobbies. We can talk about this, but in moderation. Give your interlocutor a break, let him also talk about himself. Dialogue is like a game of tennis; the ball cannot be on one side of the field.

#eleven. Communicate regularly

Regular communications show interest on both sides. This way you won’t let them forget about you, you show that you can find time to communicate with a person. At the same time, observe the guy’s behavior; if during the whole day he has not found 1-2 minutes for a short answer, he is not interested in communication.

How to continue correspondence to keep the interlocutor’s interest

Starting a correspondence is a simple task, but then it is much more difficult to maintain the interest of the interlocutor for a long time.

Basic rules for developing dialogue:

1. First of all, it is necessary to create an atmosphere of easy communication: you cannot demand anything from a man by correspondence and ask him uncomfortable questions. You should not create the feeling that a woman needs something from him: you should not ask for gifts or constantly beg for any help. We need to joke more. At first, laugh off serious questions.
2. There is a list of questions that cannot be asked to a pen pal: “Where have you been?”, “Who were you with?”, “Why did you come back so late?”, “When will you write to me?”, “When will we meet?” etc. Men don’t like such questions, especially at the stage of meeting a woman.
3. It is important not to forget to monitor your speech, choose the right words and expressions so as not to frighten your interlocutor.
4. You cannot write messages that are too long, no more than 300 characters at a time.

To maintain long correspondence and mutual interest, it is important to feel balance in everything. You can’t seem too cold and at the same time force yourself on a man.

You should not use abstruse words or write long phrases; communication should be easy. It is necessary to show the man that the interlocutor does not pursue any selfish goals in communicating with him.

How can you tell if a guy is interested in you?

1. Frequent messages. A guy who enjoys communicating with a girl will constantly look through messages, looking for reasons to accidentally write at least something.
2. Quick response. If a man tries not to delay the message, then his interest in you outweighs the importance of current affairs.
3. High quality correspondence. It's easy to send a monosyllabic response and conduct a dry dialogue. If a man is interested, he will talk in detail about his affairs, will not forget to ask about your plans, will take an interest in your mood, events and plans, and will even try to cheer you up.
4. Flirting. Emoticons, kind jokes, compliments indicate his interest in you as a girl. Likes and comments. This is also a signal of interest in you.

Important! To accurately determine sympathy, you need to meet in real life. Guys can be polite on social networks, but completely stingy with emotions in reality.

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Perfect Makeup3

There are girls who can't even throw out the trash without wearing makeup. If you can recognize similar traits in this image, then you should reconsider your life plans or even consult a psychologist. Now is not the time when tons of cosmetics on the face are in great demand. On the contrary, everything should look as natural as possible. This is not about giving up cosmetics completely. It was created to emphasize and embellish existing facial features, and not to change the appearance beyond recognition (make-up was invented for this task).

In order to hook a man and not scare him off in the morning with the sight of a completely unfamiliar woman nearby, you should not overdo it with makeup. In addition, numerous layers have an adverse effect on the skin of the face. Without makeup, it will not look very fresh or even healthy. And who needs such sacrifices?

What questions can and should be asked, and what not?

To understand as much as possible about a person, you can talk:

• about studies, future goals for study;
• about hobbies and interests;
• About work;
• views on future life, family, whether the guy even wants to start a serious relationship;
• about family, parents, brothers and sisters, relationships within this family;
• what kind of girls a man likes, what he looks for in his chosen one;
• what type of vacation does a man prefer? If you like to travel and don’t sit in one place, then being a homebody won’t suit you.

However, it is better to avoid some topics, especially at the initial stage of acquaintance:

• ex-partners, relationships;
• sexual themes;
• political and religious views;
• man's income.

Attractive appearance

No matter how much men talk about how important a woman’s inner world is, in reality the situation is a little different. How to attract a man? Without a doubt, empty people can hold few people for a long time and inner peace plays a big role. But the situation is such that external data (especially a woman’s chest and legs) is what men pay attention to first. This is how their psychology works.

No man, having met a woman, will begin to talk about her love of art or views on architecture. That is why a girl should always look attractive, because it is not known when she will meet the one. Of course, you don’t need to get up four hours before going out somewhere in order to do complex makeup and hairstyles every day. It is enough to think over your appearance so that:

• the clothes did not look awkward (for example, a size too small, or hung in an untidy bag);
• makeup was appropriate for the destination (casual and not flashy for work and meeting with friends, but brighter for going to dinner or events);
• there was a neat hairstyle on the head;
• and a friendly smile on his face.

Men's opinions

It is important for me that the girl writes correctly and is interested in communication. I do not accept any kind of manipulation. I never drag out correspondence and I don’t recommend it to girls. It’s better to meet in reality right away, it will be clear whether the person is suitable or not. Spending months on messages and then being disappointed after the first meeting is a waste of time and effort.

Maxim, 25 years old

I love light and cheerful girls. Usually they will make a joke and lighten the mood. The purpose of correspondence is to find out a person’s initial mood, to evaluate his views on life, we still don’t owe each other anything. I don’t continue communicating with those who, from the very first lines, begin to load me with their problems, blame me for not being online, complain about their complexes, or start asking about my income.

Alexander, 32 years old

If I'm interested in communication, I'll always look for a reason to drop a line or two. I am pleased to receive answers, develop dialogue, and flirt. I don’t see anything wrong with a girl writing first, especially if I like her. Interest can be easily assessed by frequent replies, long messages, guys are the same people.

Matvey, 29 years old

Appearance

Many women, having become interested in a man, rush from one extreme to another. Either she is too fat or thin, and her whole body needs to be carefully hidden, or her figure is the height of perfection, which, of course, needs to be exposed to the maximum. No, no, no, you can't do that. In the first case, the man most likely will not pay attention to you at all, but in the second he will take you for a vulgar, accessible woman. It is necessary to observe the golden mean:

Dress femininely, avoid men's clothes in your wardrobe.

Emphasize only one of your advantages - gorgeous breasts, long legs, elastic hips.

Give preference to light, flowing fabrics in light or bright colors.

Choose shoes with small, comfortable heels.

Wear light makeup and leave your hair loose or tied up not too tightly.

Play sports. Absolutely everyone likes a toned body.

Advice. Forget about your complexes. A man would rather sense your insecurities than notice any flaws. In addition, a well-groomed woman is always beautiful, so everything is in your hands. Choose the right clothes, experiment with makeup and hairstyles, and that's it, half the success is in your pocket.

Question answer

How to get a guy to text more often?

Often girls take the position of an offended interlocutor. They begin to ask questions like: “Why didn’t you write?”, “Where did you go?” This behavior is very off-putting. Instead of a complaint, use positive emotions: “So glad to see you!”, “How are you doing, I miss you,” etc. Then the man will be happy to log into the messenger.

How to increase interest if correspondence has become boring?

Modern communications allow you to connect photos and videos to correspondence. It’s one thing to write “Good morning!”, another to attach a photo where you smile broadly, wishing a man a good day. Short positive videos and congratulations also evoke much more emotions than text.

The man doesn’t answer, doesn’t write first, what should I do?

There could be several reasons for this. The guy perceives you as a friend, is afraid of seeming intrusive, or is simply not interested in communication. The latter, unfortunately, is the most likely. A frank conversation will help bring clarity.

Respect 6

How to get a man? Respect him as a person. So many women come up with cunning plans to win a man, but they completely forget that what they value most is simple human treatment. A caring woman who listens to a man's interests and can demonstrate warmth is more likely to fall in love with her than a cold and calculating queen. A sensitive character and respect for the desires of a partner play a greater role in a relationship than a sexual image and feminine tricks.

Psychological techniques in correspondence

1. Make him feel emotions, show your interest . Guys are also attracted to girls who are not afraid to be funny and cheerful and show their true feelings.
2. Don’t be afraid to lift your man’s spirits by sending a simple message : “I’m very interested in you” or “Today I remembered you :).” He will be hooked and will end up thinking about you all day.
3. Don't let yourself be humiliated . If a man suddenly starts writing vulgarities and hints that he wants to meet for one night, playfully but confidently put him in his place. If a guy is interested, he will continue communication in a different format.
4. Leave room for your interlocutor to act. Write a little less, answer a little less often. Go offline sometimes. The agonizing wait will only brighten up the next communication.
5. Create a psychological swing. After you have disappeared from the network, be sure to surprise the man and give him positive emotions. Send him a compliment, a good morning wish, share a funny story. This way he will notice the contrast - it’s fun and good with you, but boring and lonely without you.

Stop actions: common mistakes girls make

You shouldn’t talk about marriage on the first date (not even on the tenth). Hints will not help you, but will only scare the guy. It's better to say that the wedding scares you a little. You will definitely receive approval for such a remark. There is a stereotype that all girls dream of getting married as soon as possible, and such a look will make you unique.

Important! Don't gossip. A girl who reveals other people's secrets and rummages through the dirty laundry of those around her looks unpleasant herself.

Men appreciate women who do not cage men in their society. The chosen one should feel that at any moment you can easily leave and leave him alone. Frequent meetings will eradicate the spirit of excitement, and besides, when apart, men remember the lady of their heart even more.

In conversations, do not mention your complexes, problems and relatives. Never talk about ex-boyfriends. There is no need for a man to know how many admirers you had and what tricks you used to charm them.

How to interest a male colleague?

Finding a common language with a male colleague is not so difficult; you already have something in common - work. You can send him a message asking for help, invite him for a cup of coffee, “accidentally” drop papers in front of him in the office.

Important! It is better to seduce a colleague after work. During a busy day at work there is no time for chatter, and the man will not take such a worker seriously.

To get a colleague's attention:

• demonstrate your sense of humor or wit in a general conversation; positive and active girls always attract attention;
• take an interest in the area in which your colleague is knowledgeable, ask him a question on social networks;
• don’t forget to look stylish at work, but you still shouldn’t dress up in vulgar clothes with a huge neckline;
• do not talk about your sympathy in the team, especially in correspondence with other colleagues, this can compromise both you and him;
• find out about his hobbies, invite him to an exhibition, a match;
• prepare delicious snacks or sweets and treat your colleagues, including him, quite possibly in the evening he will thank you in a message;
• don’t miss corporate events and business trips, especially if your chosen one will be there.

What attracts men to women?

A smile will make the world brighter!3

Pay attention to your smile. She should be calm, gentle, friendly and in no case sarcastic or impetuous. The smile must become memorable, so that he wants to see it again.

You can smile slightly with the corners of your lips, slightly opening your snow-white teeth, so that a man wants to see your laughing and sweet mouth. This will be the impetus for continuing the relationship. Make him picture you smiling and think about you!

Conclusions on the article

• Despite the stereotypes, you have every right to show interest and write first. However, if a man does not initiate a response, you will have to draw conclusions.
• You need to communicate politely, competently, and not resort to offensive jokes or swear words. First, become a friend to your interlocutor.
• Don't impose. Write in a similar manner as he does, respond with similar frequency, don’t bombard him with a ton of messages and don’t burden him with problems.
• Don't be afraid to lift your man's spirits. Even with an acquaintance, it is quite appropriate to joke, give a compliment, and say that you remembered him. In any case, it will be pleasant and make me think about you.

Useful tips

There is a concept called NLP (neurolinguistic programming). Psychology and knowledge of the methodology greatly help to establish personal contacts. It includes:

1. The principle of the mirror - similarity evokes sympathy on a subconscious level. Just repeat facial expressions and gestures.
2. Do not strive to show your best side, but show sincere interest in the personality of your interlocutor.
3. Pleasant associations. Remember happy moments or funny incidents from life. So in memory the girl will be associated with a smile.
4. Don't be intrusive or vulgar.
5. Do not violate personal boundaries.
6. Respect as a person.
7. Don't talk too much.

First of all, you should not be afraid to show interest. This does not mean that you need to throw yourself on your chosen one’s neck with the words “I am all yours.” Just a warm look, a smile, an interesting conversation. And then it’s up to him.