What to do if your husband is tired of you?
One day in every family there comes a time when partners get tired of each other. This phase is inevitable for a long-term joint relationship. Once a loved one is annoying, he has become uninteresting and somehow predictable. You know what he will say now, how he will react to this or that event, what will cause his anger, and what will make him smile. It would seem how great it is to know everything about your man... But, no, it drives you crazy. Such a monotonous life makes you depressed, and one day you begin to think, what if this is all, what if there is nothing interesting and bright in the future, is this really how it will go year after year?
And, really, what to do if your husband is tired of you?
This is a typical period, which sometimes smoothly turns into a crisis in family relationships. And in order to survive this period, or better yet, to win, you need desire. If your attitude is specific - I need to break up, and I no longer want to live with this person - then it’s unlikely that anything can be done. But if you realize that you still love your husband, you only want to be with him, that there is no better one, then you need to fight.
You need to be distracted at least a little, to go beyond the boundaries of your usual life, which has made your life monotonous and insipid.
You were once interested in your husband, he seemed different to you than everyone else, which means that now you need to add a spark to the relationship.
It’s understandable that you’re tired, but you still need to pull yourself together and, for example, go for a visit on the weekend. Or maybe to a restaurant. Or to a new film. Just don't look for flaws in your entertainment. Even if the film turned out to be not very good, there will still be interesting moments that both you and your man will like. If the food in a restaurant did not live up to your expectations, and there is no need to turn everything into the end of the world, well, God be with it, with the food, just talk, evaluate the interior, and, in the end, discuss other clients.
And bed is a completely separate topic for conversation. Sex has revived almost every dead relationship. Try something new, experiment, and don’t dismiss all your husband’s suggestions from the first word. If some of his proposals seem “a little” strange to you, discuss it and find a middle ground. Many “strange” things later turn into very pleasant sensations.
What to do if your husband is tired of you? Act and fight! The easiest thing to break off is a relationship. Only other relationships will one day also turn into routine and monotony. You need to find a common language with your family, if you wish.
Reanimation of your own feelings
Having found out the reason why a guy is starting to get boring, you should start rethinking your attitude towards him. It should be understood that at the initial stages of a relationship, the partner is presented in an ideal image. Having fallen in love, a girl cannot objectively assess all the shortcomings that he has. And the guy himself does everything to seem like a real prince to his beloved. Closer communication reveals the true flaws that a person has. That's when disappointment and emptiness sets in. The girl feels deceived, and the guy perceives him as a traitor who crushed her love and hope.
In this case, it’s worth figuring out whether the guy is really tired of it, or whether it’s the girl herself. Perhaps her bar is too high and she has forgotten that every person has shortcomings. A woman is advised to analyze her attitude towards her chosen one and understand what she expects in the future. After all, there is no guarantee that the next partner will be much better. It is worth remembering all the good things that are present today. To do this, you need to honestly answer the following questions:
- What exactly doesn’t suit you about a person?
- Is it possible to fix this?
- What are the benefits of this relationship?
- What are the disadvantages of this relationship?
- Will it be better after the breakup?
You can write the pros and cons of the relationship as two parallel lists. Compare the number of points on each side and draw the appropriate conclusions (is your ex-boyfriend really tired of you, or is this just a way to change something in the relationship).
Advice from psychologists
The stronger sex differs from girls in its psychology. Very often they do not give their words and actions the meaning that women understand.
Here are some tips to help you figure out what's going on:
- Do not demand an immediate explanation for what was said or done. This will cause a storm of emotions.
- When in doubt, don't blame him for it. Your statements will be annoying.
- Be less offended and especially don’t say: “No, no, everything is fine!” If something is bothering you, tell me personally. Such misunderstandings accumulate and then result in trouble. The guys are straightforward and that's what they expect from you.
- It is also unusual for them to be so excited about some events or your new dresses. They are a more silent and reserved people by nature. They don't have the same set of emotions that girls have.
So, let’s summarize: you shouldn’t torment yourself with thoughts of how to understand that a man doesn’t need you? It’s better not to think about it again. Trust him to come forward and say it directly when such a problem arises, and not beat around the bush.
Answers to any questions
The relationship between two people is work and the desire of these people to be together. But sometimes it seems that the partner has cooled down and would gladly interrupt communication. Most often, the weaker half experiences this feeling, since girls are more emotional and suspicious. Then they begin to be tormented by the question: how to understand that a man does not need you? After all, few people want to be a burden.
When resuscitation is not possible
If nothing has changed in the relationship, and the man is still annoying with his presence, it means that the guy is completely tired of him. The situation has reached a dead end and it is necessary to take drastic measures to correct it. Here you need to listen to your feelings. If a man does not want to improve (especially if this is associated with authoritarianism, violence or aggression), it is recommended to finally break off the relationship. If a girl has met another guy or still feels discomfort in her soul even after the corresponding conclusions made by her partner, she also needs to break up. There is no point in resuscitating a love that no longer exists, or in wasting your own and other people’s time.
Asymptomatic care
Everything described above is a loss of contact, the connections that hold us together like hooks. If a couple, by silent, mutual agreement, has been living without them for a long time (let’s say it’s convenient for them), then, of course, there is a high probability that one fine day “for no reason or reason” the woman will pack her things and simply leave, or offer you to leave .
In fact, this situation cannot be asymptomatic. The point, most likely, is that you have either resigned yourself or deliberately do not want to notice obvious things. It is naive to live with a person for years without warmth, participation in his life, and think that both are satisfied with this.
All the above points indicate the danger of a breakup only in complex, since in fact a woman only leaves when she actually gets up and says goodbye to you. At this point there is nothing you can do except close the door behind her. If you notice any of these signs (or even all), but the woman is still staying with you, this means that all is not lost, there is still something you can do to make her stay. But remember that the bomb is ticking slowly.
How to understand that a married man needs you
Relationships with married men are even more confusing.
The signs of coldness given above may be elements of conspiracy. The man does not want to destroy the family yet. And if you agree with this approach (you decided together that it is worth waiting a little - because of the children, the wife’s sick heart, solving financial issues, etc.), then you cannot focus on the standard signs of cooling in a relationship. But there are other symptoms. Let's talk about them below.
So, you can determine whether a man who already has a wife needs you by the following signs:
- He often writes emails, texts, and calls whenever possible.
Even if a man is married, but his passion for you has taken over him, he will look for an opportunity to communicate with you as much as possible and participate in your life.It is understandable that frequent calls may arouse suspicion. But he can afford to write letters and emails more often.
- He gives you gifts and arranges surprises.
Going to restaurants and theaters with your lover actually means opening up your relationship to others.But there are other ways to please your loved one: send flowers by courier, give a gift, arrange a romantic evening.
- He invites you to spend time outside the city or in a place far from home.
The desire to spend time with his beloved will not stop even a married man.He will come up with something - about a fishing trip with friends, about a business trip, etc. And he will definitely find an opportunity to take you away from everyone so that you can spend an unforgettable weekend alone, without prying eyes.
- He doesn't refuse to discuss your future together.
If a man decides to break up with his wife, he will make plans for the future with you.Talking about a shared house, car, children, dacha, business - all these are positive signs.
- He accurately names the time of the divorce.
A man doesn’t feed you stories about how the children must first grow up, the mortgage has been paid, and the parents have been cured of heart disease (so that the news of their son’s divorce does not become fatal for them), but names a specific date for the divorce, and you think together about this It is better to present the news to his wife.
If a woman is tired of a man’s advances and wants to get rid of them, it is best for her to marry her pursuer: in this way she will most likely get rid of the gallantry that has bored her. Martti Larni
How to conquer an Aries man
You will need it
- - analysis of the situation;
- - conversation with a man.
If a man’s attitude towards you has suddenly changed from positive to indifferent or, even worse, negative, it’s worth painstakingly analyzing the situation. You should not bother him with various questions, reproaches and complaints, as this will make the situation even worse. Has the man's attention actually weakened? Maybe your demands have increased, and he behaves just as closely as he did at the beginning of your relationship. Your problem may turn out to be fictitious.
Analyze the actions of past days. Maybe you think that you are tired of the guy, but in fact some kind of quarrel occurred between you, in your opinion, very insignificant. Maybe you said something to him that seemed like a safe joke to you, but really hurt his dignity. Men, no matter how strong they want to appear, are sometimes very sensitive.
Has your man's lifestyle changed? Perhaps his new job or the emergence of other unusual obligations for him are to blame for the current situation. If this is the reason for your torment, have a heart-to-heart talk with the guy, explain to him how hard it is for you without his attention and affection.
There are indeed serious signs that indicate that a man has lost interest in you. If you once again hear something like: “Sorry, I don’t have time at the moment,” the man refuses to date you, and when we meet, he prefers to have fun with toys on his phone, casting fleeting glances at you, most likely, he is bored with you. Another sign of a lack of enthusiasm is a man’s excessive irritability. A cool young man often criticizes almost every little thing and finds fault with behavior that he previously liked.
Refusal of a romantic evening that involves an intimate continuation is also a sure sign that a man is tired of you. He may say that he is very busy, but the insincerity of his excuses will be quite easy to recognize, especially if this is repeated more than once. Alternatively, he may accept the offer, but will be cold in bed. Try to vary your sexual life, give him some pleasant surprise. If the number of dates does not increase, and the coldness only grows, the conclusion is obvious - he is tired of the relationship.
Not all relationships lead to a happy and long family life. Breakups are not uncommon, and often the reason for this is a banal reason: one of the couple is simply tired of the relationship. But he is not always ready to communicate this directly, so it is important to be able to recognize such a situation. And be able to distinguish it from temporary difficulties.
A woman doesn't hold on to you
A woman who loses interest in you begins to break off her usual ties: going somewhere together, sleeping, walking - she no longer needs all this. At the same time, when you leave her somewhere (for example, to meet friends, go fishing), she does not react with the usual phrase: “Where are you going?” No objections or reproaches; instead, the other half also helps you pack your bags.
But this is not always a bad sign. Sometimes this behavior accompanies the onset of maturity, when a person becomes an individual and begins to understand the value of personal space and solitude. This usually happens closer to 40 years of age and does not always mean a break in the relationship.
