If you are determined to break off your relationship with your spouse, you need to carefully consider how to do this as painlessly as possible for both of you. First, clearly formulate for yourself what reasons are really worth breaking up.
Next, make a plan on how to leave your wife and start a new life beautifully and with dignity, as well as how to behave in the future. From us you will receive recommendations on what mistakes to avoid, as well as valuable advice from experienced psychologists.
When to leave your wife
The stereotype that men leave their families only because of loss of sexual desire is actually wrong. In male psychology and statistics, the following situations most often come up when it is worth leaving your wife:
- Loss of trust . If a woman repeatedly manages to undermine her faith in her honesty, sooner or later the relationship will fizzle out. And even more so, few men will be able to forgive betrayal.
- Dissatisfaction in bed . If there is a mismatch of temperaments, a reluctance to try for each other, excessive workload that interferes with regular sex life, the partners gradually move away.
- Constantly tense environment . Eternal hysterics, discontent, scandals with humiliation without constructive behavior of partners get worse, after which the man packs his suitcase and leaves.
- Lack of attention. If a woman stops caring for her husband, he understands that he is simply not interesting, preferring to self-destruct after some time.
- Dissatisfaction with the appearance of the spouse . In some family relationships, women gradually stop taking care of themselves, triggering their appearance.
- Lack of warmth and comfort . After a hard day at work, everyone wants to return to a cozy home and a warm atmosphere. Ideally, a man strives for one that will provide him with cleanliness, tasty food, comfort and tranquility.
- Increased demands. If a woman scandalizes on a constant basis, squeezing out of him attention, love, financial benefits, passion, etc. Constant “I want” without proper return will sooner or later devastate him.
The most compelling reason to decide to break up is mutual desire. If you both understand that there is no point in squeezing out of the relationship something that has been gone for a long time, it is worth amicably agreeing to get out of the marriage painlessly with the least possible losses.
Should a man be forced to leave his family?
Although you call him your beloved man, you are just a mistress. Yes, you are a different woman, and will always be so. If you stop being a lover, the man will find another woman. If you marry this man, he will also find another woman. Even if he doesn't find anyone, you will still accuse the man of infidelity, because you know that he once cheated on his wife. He who betrayed once will betray again. You can't blame your mistress for everything. After all, it was the husband who made sacred vows to always love and cherish his wife and be faithful to her. But the man has proven that he cannot keep sacred vows, so how can you trust such a man? Is this the life you want for yourself?
And even if your plan comes true, the man divorces his wife and marries you, imagine how jealous and insecure you will be every time he has to communicate with his ex-wife about children, finances, etc. You would go crazy wondering if the person you love is cheating on you.
Ask yourself the following questions to gain insight:
- Why did you decide to become a mistress, and not someone's wife, without destroying someone else's family? Didn't your parents instill in you certain values that you cannot build happiness by destroying someone's family well-being?
- Why did you decide to be with a man who is not ready to devote all his free time to you? Do you enjoy being a temporary shelter? Are you satisfied that time is devoted to you in fits and starts, and on important days (holidays, birthdays) you are alone?
- Are you with this man for financial reasons? Do you see it as a social ladder? Why can't you find a job and support yourself? We live in times of great opportunity, when every person can do whatever their heart desires. You can be a doctor, a lawyer, or have your own business, regardless of your background. Financial assistance is provided to those in need. Are you among them?
- What is your relationship with your father? Was he unavailable to you? Have you struggled to get his attention? Did your father insult, humiliate or physically abuse you? Perhaps you are subconsciously looking for a father in your lover.
- What is your parents' relationship like with each other? If there has been infidelity in your family, this type of relationship you are probably in is normal for you.
As psychological studies show, those women who are attracted to married men become mistresses because they do not really want a close, honest, long-term relationship.
Perhaps you don't trust men because of unsuccessful past relationships. Most likely, a man is having an affair with you for the same reason: there are barriers to real intimacy.
Finally, if a man really wanted to marry you, he would have divorced his wife before you asked or demanded it.
How to leave your wife painlessly for her
An ideal divorce is one in which both partners want it, but, unfortunately, this rarely happens in life. In practice, it happens that one has fallen out of love and has made a final decision, while the other loves and suffers the pain of the breakup. If the initiator is a man, the question arises of how to leave his wife painlessly for her.
To do this, several points should be taken into account:
- get ready for a storm of emotions, most likely this news will be a blow for her, show patience and loyalty;
- discuss any issues related to your children together, financial assistance, meetings, maintaining close communication;
- discuss the division of property, make sure that her life does not change as much as possible with your departure;
- be sure to identify the honest reasons that pushed you to take such a serious step, but try not to blame her for everything, do not blame her for misconduct;
- promise to lend a helping hand in any of life’s difficulties, express your desire to part ways on a good note without offense or complaints.
Be sure to think ahead about how you will structure this difficult conversation. If you find it difficult to find ways to decide to leave your wife and child, give yourself more time to make a final decision. A consultation with an experienced psychologist or a joint visit with your spouse will help.
How to build a conversation
When you make your final decision, you will need to build the right communication to facilitate an open conversation. The hardest thing is to start, go from afar, remembering how many good things you have experienced together. Be prepared for different reactions, and then follow a few rules:
- When to say? When she is relaxed, balanced and calm.
- Where to speak? Avoid public and crowded places; the fewer witnesses, the better.
- How should the dialogue begin? Indicate that there is a serious conversation ahead. Move to a room that is comfortable for you, for example, to a hall, where there are fewer dangerous objects that she can throw at you.
- What to prepare for? You are leaving at this very moment, so pack your suitcase with the most necessary things in advance.
- What is required of you? Restrain your emotions, no matter what words she throws out, no matter what intonation she reacts with.
Was the breakup with your wife painful for you?
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How to behave
No matter how many years you happen to live together, you can never predict your wife’s reaction to the news that you are leaving her. Usually the female sex reacts expressively and hyper-emotionally; you just need a few rules of behavior:
- even if she insults you, do not allow yourself to do the same;
- during a quarrel, do not mention her relatives;
- do not say that you wanted to leave without explanation;
- do not react to her provocations, show calm;
- do not show pity, hold your position until the end;
- do not put off this conversation until later;
- dot all the “i’s”, do not leave any unsaid things;
- whatever the degree of the showdown, don’t give up.
Expert opinion
Elena Druzhnikova
Sexologist. Family relations expert. Family psychologist.
Every self-respecting man should leave gracefully. Don’t focus only on everything bad, as if justifying your decision. On the contrary, emphasize how dear this relationship was to you, how happy you were, but for the reason stated, this cannot continue.
Ways to separate your beloved girl from her rival
Not only married men face the problem of a love triangle. Young guys often have a situation where the girl they love is carried away by another boy. Simple lapel spells will help you break the love triangle and end the connection between your partner and your opponent.
Lapel to the wind
The power of the elements has long been used in practical magic. It can be used to turn your beloved girl away from her opponent. The spell is recited during the waning moon, when there is a strong wind outside, a hurricane (possibly with a thunderstorm):
“The wolf walks through the mountains, and the devil walks through the water, they cannot meet, they cannot meet, they cannot speak, they cannot love each other. So you (woman’s name) and (man’s name) will not find anything in common, you will not have a relationship, you will not find love, he will not be your friend, he will not be your spouse. As it is said, so it will come true.”
You can read the text of the lapel for several days in a row (weather permitting). To give the conspiracy greater power, its words must be pronounced at night, after midnight, standing in an open area (field, roof of a house).
Ritual with a pin
To carry out this version of the lapel, a new pin is purchased. You need to choose a large, noticeable one. They say conspiracy words to her three times:
“Lord God, almighty Heavenly Father, and Mother Theotokos, help me, the servant of God (name), save and protect my beloved servant of God (name of the girl). Protect her from my rival (name), so that she does not look at him, so that she does not want to know him, so that he is disgusting to her, as he is disgusting to me. Let it be so. Amen. Amen. Amen".
The charmed pin is attached to the girl’s clothes in the most visible place, reading the spell three times:
“As this pin comes unhooked, so the love of the servant of God (the girl’s name) for the servant of God (the name of the rival) ceases forever. What is said will come true. Amen".
The lapel will begin to work when the girl finds the pin and unhooks it from her clothes. The relationship between the beloved and the rival will gradually deteriorate, and over time they will separate.
How to avoid mistakes
Both of you will have to decide how to live without each other, so be prepared to help and interact, especially if you have children. So try to avoid making a few mistakes:
| What not to do? | Why not? |
| Doubt your decision | This will provoke feelings of guilt and ingratitude. Even if you give up your idea, the marriage will no longer be happy. |
| Leave without talking | The conversation should begin before you leave. Running away from problems will cause them to hang over you like a big black cloud. |
| Insult, show aggression | Do not show your weakness, maintain your courage, even if it descends to swear words. |
| Accept her blackmail | In a fit of anger, she can threaten the children, which will prevent them from seeing them, or manipulate them into suicide or other serious actions. You don't need to believe such words. |
Keep it consistent
Psychologists say: the most disgusting and terrible thing that can happen in the process of separation is endless tossing and turning. The husband then leaves, then returns again, begs for forgiveness on his knees, and then again remembers what exactly pushed him to take this difficult step. These tossings slowly but surely destroy love in a woman’s heart, torment her, make her irritable, nervous and aggressive. This is why it is very important to be consistent. If you decide to leave your family, think about all the circumstances: how and where you will live, how you will arrange your life. Only then announce your resignation.
Advice from experienced psychologists
If you contact an experienced psychologist for advice on how to leave your wife as correctly, painlessly and with dignity as possible, you will receive instructions consisting of several basic steps. Namely:
- Talk . This should be a calm, balanced conversation about relationships, the reasons for the impossibility of continuing.
- Her position . Be ready to listen and hear her, let her express her feelings and don’t hide yours.
- Common denominator . Having expressed your feelings and wishes to each other, try to find a way out that will be as comfortable as possible for both parties.
- Children, property. You have gained a lot, so show nobility and leave everything that will allow your wife to remain in circumstances that are comfortable for her. Tell them that you are ready to help with the children and don’t want to lose touch with your family.
- Care . Do not show doubts or uncertainty in your decision, this will cause her even more pain, and it will also cause a lot of unpleasant emotions in you.
How to read correctly at home
It is very important to adhere to certain rules when reading lapel texts. More than half of the final result depends on this.
How to read the text correctly:
- you need to memorize words in advance;
- the text should not be spoken too loudly or quietly;
- you cannot change the words of prayers in places or skip them;
- should be read clearly and clearly;
- the spell is pronounced with the head slightly bowed down, as in prayer;
- It is necessary to pronounce the text closer to midnight and during the period when the moon begins to wane.
Important! There is no need to add your own words to the lapel text.
Any magical intervention has negative consequences, especially in terms of health
Possible consequences for both parties
Before bewitching your husband or wife, it is worth considering what consequences such a ritual will bring, because its impact can only be removed with the help of a very powerful sorcerer. Only after weighing all the pros and cons should you begin to turn the lapel, otherwise, if you rush, you may later regret your action, and the effect of magic will no longer be able to be changed.
“What didn’t suit you?”
Very often a woman asks her husband this question. That is why psychologists recommend preparing in advance and thinking through what you will say in response, so that the emotions that will certainly arise during the conversation do not prevent you from saying everything you want. Most often, this question is asked because of the feeling of hopelessness that appears in the heart of the woman you want to leave. This is why, when it comes to him, you should stop talking and walk away. Then there will be only emotions.
