How to answer someone when they ask: “How are you?”
Turn the words around and give a counter question: “How are you?” You can exaggerate: “How are you?” or “How are you?”
If you don’t respect your friend, answer: “Don’t poke, show respect!” He will ask: “How are you?”, answer: “For what purpose are you interested?” What's next? - Dead end!
We answer the guy
In the case of answering a young man, what you can answer depends on whether you like him or not.
In the event that the interlocutor pushes you away, you can remain silent at all, measuring him with your gaze. If there is sympathy, and the guy asked: “How are you?” can be answered in many ways. Starting with “I’m trying to break the record for eating chocolate”, ending with “I’m going for a walk, but unfortunately, I’m alone.”
The phrase about a walk can serve as a hint that the girl does not mind spending time with someone who has taken an interest in her affairs.
If everything is not in order with your mood at the time the question is asked, you can answer the following: “It seems possible to live. But why?..” If the guy who asked such a question is not indifferent to you, then he will immediately begin asking about the situation and what could have happened.
How to overcome communication difficulties?
What do ordinary people say in everyday life?
Everything is as usual. People answer differently. It all depends on the person asking and the situation in which they find themselves. See for yourself.
The harder the work, the more significant the answer that lies right on the surface!
The loader's answer is no less significant, lies in the hands and weighs in kilograms!
The deeper and more complex the profession, the simpler the answer to the question!
An ordinary conscript's answer.
Yandex Taxi taxi drivers also have their own twisted answers.
“Terpila” at the foot of the volcano answers your question.
"How are you?" - We answer wittyly!
Answer the question “ How are you?”
” can be no less witty.
And most importantly, such a result will certainly surprise the one who asked this question. After all, they usually answer with the standard “ Okay.
And how are you? ”
And you will answer in such a way that you won’t forget it for the whole day!
- "How are you?"
“Like winter summer spring.” By answering in this way, you can present yourself as a mysterious person, and the combination itself will also sound witty. - "How are you?"
“I'm trying to remember my dream.” With such an answer, your interlocutor will probably think that it was he who you dreamed about today. - "How are you?"
“Like the first day of January.” This answer will work regardless of the perception or personality of the person who asked it. After all, the first days of January are different for everyone.
Another very important point is the need to ask back, even if you have previously answered as effectively as possible.
After all, no matter how interested the interlocutor is, without a response he may begin to gradually cool down and stop making efforts to communicate with you. How to Learn to Say NO to People?
In relationships, your answers according to concepts
People tend to ask each other such questions at various stages of their relationship. Everyone and everything is interesting, this is of course true, really - you want to know if everything is fine (or how) - for a person in whom there is a personal interest.
Answers for those especially curious
What is tactlessness for some may be healthy curiosity for others, in which there is nothing shameful. Such people don’t even realize that their questions have offended you in some way. They expect a sincere answer and will likely repeat their question if you try to hush up the conversation. You won't achieve anything with hints either.
For example, if you respond to an inappropriate question with a meaningful counter-question, “Why are you asking?”, be prepared for the fact that this will not work and the person will not understand that he asked too much. It may also turn out that you will receive an answer to this that is stunning in its simplicity: “I’m just interested.” After which they will continue to wait for an answer from you. In this case, you will have to directly say that you do not want to discuss this topic.
The dialogue may not end there, because your interlocutor will quite sincerely ask why you don’t want to talk about it. And if you have the time and patience, it would be a good idea to actually explain why you think the subject of the conversation is inappropriate. You will have to answer simply and directly:
- Because we discuss this issue only with our family and with no one else.
- Because this topic is unpleasant to me.
- Because this is personal and concerns only me.
- Because I promised not to talk about it.
- Because I don't like sharing these things.
- Because I don't want to.
It is very important to say this in a calm tone, without a challenge in your voice. Let your interlocutor understand that you are not hostile, but that you will not allow your boundaries to be violated.
It is more difficult if your interlocutor is not just curious, but deliberately seeks to put you in an awkward position. In this case, there is nothing else left but to say directly that you will not answer this question and this topic is not discussed.
How can you answer a girl?
To choose the right direction of the answer, it is important to have at least a little information about the subject of your interest. First of all, evaluate what is important to her and what kind of young man she is looking for. A career woman will look for someone who is passionate about work, a homely girl will appreciate a guy who helps his mother around the house and loves to cook, an extreme sportswoman is looking for a guy with whom you won’t get bored.
But absolutely any of them will appreciate recognition of themselves as an important part of your life. Therefore, the answer is in the style: “I was keen on searching for the one and only one... until I met you!” - will be universal. The main thing is not to abuse it.
Also, most girls will appreciate a guy who is into sports. Sports with alcohol and smoking are incompatible, and it is rare to find a decent girl who approves of these harmful activities.
Why ask questions at all?
We ask questions to find out what is happening around us, but not in order to learn something fundamentally new - to only confirm and strengthen the already existing “map of the world.”
You can say that the system works well - why ask any other questions? Einstein said this: “If I have 1 hour to solve a problem on which my life depends, I will spend the first 55 minutes searching for the best question I can ask myself. When I find it, it will take me 5 minutes to answer it correctly.”
Common questions
By asking, we want to receive information that confirms our vision of the world, our perception of the situation, our “map of the world.”
If someone does something that seems very strange to us, we immediately ask, “Why are you doing that? What's gotten into you? And he will be forced to justify himself and explain himself. Because we want to understand him! We want to understand what he did, but in our coordinate system. Because we limit the questions we ask to 15% of their total variety.
Let's talk today about the remaining 85%, which we usually don't touch. And also about questionology - the art and science of asking questions.
Magic way
You're talking to someone and you feel like there's something wrong with the story. You suspect that this person is lying, hiding the truth. Try to maintain your posture and tone, as this is important so that the other person does not realize that he or she is being tested.
For example, your opponent brags to you that he was invited to the wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle. If you're skeptical, ask a question like, "Did the chocolate cake taste good that day?" (if you really know that the wedding cake was vanilla). If the other person doesn't stop praising the chocolate cake that day, then you've met a liar.
` We do not allow ourselves to be put in an awkward position and learn to respond intelligently to uncomfortable questions.
How often do you feel uncomfortable with unethical questions? In my opinion they will live forever. Our ships are plowing the vast expanses of the Universe with might and main, people have invented laser hair removal, and the question “Well, when is the second one?” so it hangs in the top.
Let's remember the most inconvenient questions, and later I will tell you how to answer them.
So, a damn dozen...
• Why don’t you have children?
• When will you go for the second/third/tenth?
• Is there a boy when there is a girl? Is there a girl when there is a boy?
• From here: why isn’t your husband happy that your daughter was born? Did you want a boy? Kind of sad.
• When will you baptize your children?
• When will you get married? The clock is ticking.
• What? How much does such a bag/skirt/car/apartment/lips/breasts/(your own version) cost?
• How much do you get if you spend so much?
• Where is your husband? I haven't seen my husband for a long time! Are you OK? I'm worried!
• By the way, how much does he earn from you? I'm still worried!
• Oh, why is she so skinny? They don't feed you, or what? At least follow you with a spoon and shovel food.
• Wow, how much do you weigh? Given your height, 10 kilograms are definitely extra.
• Ugh! Do you eat meat? Ugh! Don't you eat meat?
Well, let's hit the road with an off-road rally? Let's learn to answer tactless questions! There is a whole set of specific rules on how to parry in a conversation with an ignoramus. Therefore, we put on serious faces and remember psychological techniques.
• RECEPTION FIRST. The answer is not specific. It seems like he answered, but he also seemed to “wash himself.” - How much do you earn?
— Many hours of sleep deprivation per week.
• SECOND RECEPTION. Magic abstruse phrase: “I understand correctly that...” Psychologists promise that it will work unconditionally.
- Why don’t you eat meat?
— Do I understand correctly that you want to discuss the harmful lack of pork in my diet?
• RECEPTION THIRD. Be boring. It's infuriating. - Well, when is the second one?
Speak slowly and monotonously:
— According to my horoscope for this year, the Moon will enter Mars for a long time, and Venus will be stuck in the third circle. And for Capricorn, this is terribly unfortunate for procreation. Therefore, on the growing Moon, I will also try to lay out tarot cards. And at the same time I’ll check on my husband. After all, he is an Aquarius, and Capricorn and Aquarius are terribly unstable, so...
• RECEPTION FOURTH. Make it funny, it infuriates you even more. - Do you have your own breasts/lips/eyelashes?
- No, my friend let me wear it.
• RECEPTION FIFTH. Answer a question with a question. - Well, when are you going to have children?
- When are you going to get a cat?.. How is it not up to the cat? What are you doing? You are already 38! Time flies, then you want to get a cat, but it will be too late. Or maybe you have health problems?
• RECEPTION SIXTH. Aikido. This is when you hit the enemy with his own slipper. - So what? When to get married?
- Right after your divorce.
If all else fails, start sneezing. Quietly and often, or once, but loudly. This distracts and disorients the ignorant. Or you can simply smile silently and ambiguously.
© From the book “Fun Etiquette”
Socratic technique
There is a technique that allows you to expand questions.
The first who long ago understood the need to change traditional questions was Socrates. For example, if one of his students complained about injustice, Socrates did not ask him: “Why are you complaining about injustice?” Recognize that answering this question will not advance the debate much. Socrates asked: “What assumption have you made to conclude from it that this is unjust?”
See how the focus is shifting? This time the student thinks about how his own inferences function. By asking this question, Socrates allows us to think about his way of thinking, that is, reflecting. And on top of that, he asked the student to determine what his “world map” consists of.
The purpose of Socrates' questions is to make the student think, teaching him a lesson through it. A brilliant idea, I must say.
