How to care for a girl: how to behave correctly with a woman you like

When a man and woman get married, they, out of holy naivety, believe that they will be able to smooth out the corners in the relationship in any life situation. There is nothing wrong with such enthusiasm: otherwise the registry offices would have to be closed as unnecessary, because who wants to tie themselves into marriage, knowing in advance about all the sad consequences. A woman turns a blind eye to a man’s shortcomings, believing that she can change him - and the man convinces himself that his beloved will always be so tender, affectionate and devoted. And what happens in the end? 829 divorces per 1000 marriages. A terrible indicator that once again confirms the idea that people simply do not know how to build a life together and decide to throw out the white flag long before the main battle. We suggest that you hold off on capitulation. If you don’t know how to improve your relationship with your husband, but you want it with all your heart, then this material will definitely be useful to you - and it may well be that it will help save your marriage.

Reasons for cooling in relationships

The correct approach to solving a particular problem is a deep study of the causes that gave rise to it. A thorough analysis of topics is good because it allows you to throw aside unnecessary information and focus on important details. So, if a black cat seems to have run between you and your husband in a relationship, then urgently determine what was the impetus for its fatal run.

jealousy of one of the spouses;
discovered fact of treason;
household routine;
problems in intimate life;
disappointment in each other;
new hobby;
financial problems;
poor living conditions;
problems with alcohol and gambling addiction;
lack of human sympathy;
lack of common interests, etc.

It just so happens that only a few relationships stoically withstand the test of everyday life. Of course, not everyone immediately turns to the last resort - divorce. Basically, people choose the third path, which is usually more comfortable for themselves - a calm, compromise existence under the same conditions. And although the spark of passion in a relationship has long gone out, the power of habit and the fact that you have already gotten used to each other are much more significant. Are you okay with this? Any sane person will confidently answer that no. Therefore, urgently move on to specific tips to solve this problem.

How to start respecting yourself:

Your achievements.
Goals and their implementation.
Eat right.
Sport.
Beautiful women.
Money.

Your achievements.

You must have achievements that you are proud of.

So that the next time you think that you won’t succeed, you remember them.

It is important to achieve goals and see their positive results. This way your self-esteem will grow. After all, you know how to do everything you planned. And this means that you are cooler than those who do nothing and go with the flow.

Goals and their implementation.

You must definitely implement everything that you have planned for yourself for the day, month, year.

There is no need to immediately set large-scale goals for yourself, because their implementation may take a long time..

Break one big goal into several small points and complete them. Move forward, set yourself basic tasks, but complete them every day.

Eat right.

It is important. This will help you feel better.

For example, you ate a salad and a delicious steak in a restaurant - you feel good. And if you steamed noodles from a bag at home, your fortune will drop.

It’s not for nothing that they say that we are what we eat. Try not to eat cheap, low-quality and tasteless foods - they will completely kill all your aspirations, desires and development.

Sport.

You have to pump up your body. In a healthy body healthy mind.

Go to the gym, pool, or choose a sport that you like and do it.

Achieve results, don't skip training. And when you see your pumped up arms or beautiful abs, you will begin to respect yourself.

He wanted it, set a goal, achieved it - this is what self-confident men do.

Beautiful women.

Don't waste your time - that's the golden rule.

Surround yourself with beautiful girls. Those whom you admire, with whom you are interested and cool. Raise your bar and refuse disposable young ladies.

Believe me, then only cool girls will pay attention to you. You yourself will attract them.

Leave telepathy to telepaths

If you are not familiar with this term, then we can easily explain: telepathy is a person’s extrasensory ability to read other people’s thoughts. Which your husband definitely doesn’t have. Therefore, the best way to build a relationship with him is to talk to him.

voice your requests and desires;
talk about what you plan to do;
formulate your thoughts accurately and clearly.

Every time your husband throws up his hands in bewilderment and repeats that he does not understand you, before accusing him of weak intellect, think again: did you accurately express your thought? Or did your wording allow for ambiguity?

Each spoken word must be well thought out, and the phrase as a whole must have logically placed accents and meaning.

Moreover, you need to contact your husband not only with some question or request, otherwise he will associate your image exclusively with some problems. But you just need to evoke the exact opposite association - with their decision.

Conversation to nowhere

Let's see how two unfamiliar people talk.

Usually they have a polite conversation about nothing. The conversation moves around meaningless, well-known topics that are completely safe to touch on and about which anyone can talk for as long as they like. Basically, the purpose of talking about nothing is to fill awkward pauses when you and an unfamiliar person find yourself in the same space.

The feeling of such a conversation is quite awkward - but this conversation is much better than prolonged silence (although for some, of course). And when your time together ends, you say goodbye with relief and go your separate ways, with a sense of accomplishment.

However - when you talk to a girl - you have a certain goal (at least, you should have one). And if you talk to her about nothing, then you will not get one centimeter closer to your goal.

If you don’t know a girl well, you need to get to know her as soon as possible. And here talking about nothing helps.

Also, when communicating with a girl, you need to interest her, make sure that the girl is looking forward to your next meeting and perceives you as an interesting interlocutor. And here superficial chatter is more likely to harm than help.

Talking about the weather and other generally known things does not bring you closer to a girl. Your phrases like “The interior here is so beautiful” or “They make very tasty coffee here” don’t really build any bridges between you and the girl.

The most unpleasant thing is that in such dialogues there is an inevitable awkwardness that both feel. If you are not particularly good at building rapport (trust in communication), then you may notice obvious signs of loss of interest on the part of the girl too late. For example, when she is deeply buried in her smartphone and mutters something unintelligible from there.

Visualize your ideals

The good old method, which family psychologists stubbornly push to the masses. And, in principle, they do it right, because it works properly.

Petr Valentinovich Karimov, psychologist, 20 years of experience, head of the family research group:

— Visualization helps very well to establish a dialogue with your husband if your wife has very specific complaints about him. However, it only pays dividends if it works in both directions. After all, not only do you have a specific vision of an exemplary husband, but he also has a schematic image of a wife who meets all his expectations. The task of visualization is to present your images to each other in a single picture that is as close as possible to reality. The created model can be used as a guideline for the desired relationship for both spouses, towards which they should confidently move.

Tips for guys

Advice regarding behavior will be fairly general, but each guy will be able to adapt it to his own situation, temperament, and relationships that are causing difficulties. Initially, you need to work on your own positioning and presentation - the primary self-presentation, not a sleek appearance.

Girls prefer confident, slightly cold-blooded men who strive for achievement and have their own clear position on every issue. It’s difficult to play such qualities, and it only lasts for a short period of time, and then the girl faces reality and stops communicating. Therefore, it is necessary to spend time, look inside, evaluate your value and semantic attitudes, reflect on many things and understand your attitude towards them, so that in a situation where a dialogue arises, you do not hide behind someone else’s opinion.

It is necessary to discard the main desire - to be good and try to please. People without flaws are boring, good boys are boring, and the desire to impress only brings tension, both to the guy and to the entire dialogue. Therefore, a pleasant bonus that allows you to build harmonious relationships is freedom from the need to strain. In fact, the main task comes down to providing yourself with a feeling of comfort when communicating and not being afraid to show qualities or some traits that are usually recognized as shortcomings. How you ensure a comfortable state when communicating depends on personal preferences - you can choose a familiar environment or work through a meeting with a psychologist, or you can think through the meeting in detail or do calming breathing exercises before leaving.

In order for a girl to generally understand who she is communicating with, what you need, how similar you are, and what is happening between you now, you need to be able to talk about yourself. This does not mean constant self-praise and retelling of a biography, but the ability to correctly convey one’s desires and feelings regarding what is happening. We are all looking for a response from other people to our external manifestations, trying to understand what is possible and what is not, and to establish internal boundaries of interaction. Therefore, there is a constant urgent need to talk about desires and honestly show dissatisfaction with some of the girl’s manifestations. Perhaps you will be the first to reprimand her for deliberate demonstrative behavior, the purpose of which is to get a prohibition-concern to behave this way.

Guys should remember the only win-win pattern - the main thing is to be non-verbal. Therefore, you can not particularly listen to the text regarding some event or your person, but pay the main attention for further conclusions to the nonverbal expressions of interest or rejection. When she refuses to go to the cinema, but smiles widely, don’t stop trying to invite her somewhere else or just take tickets and pick her up. If she says that this joke is vulgar and offensive, but her eyes light up, then this trait is present in her character. When a girl tries to show indifference by talking to everyone except you, but her body is turned exactly in your direction - this is a game to attract attention. There are a lot of such examples, but the point is that women’s decisions and actions are controlled by emotions, which can be hidden with text, but not with the body.

Do not forget about the classics - neat appearance, cultural appeal, demonstration of respect, education, erudition. Any charisma can be negated by dirt under your fingernails or a message with nine errors. Girls are quite scrupulous in such matters, and not because a cleanly ironed shirt is more important than the fact that you can kill a dragon for her, it’s just that the women’s world is based on slightly different values, taking into account which you can make a better impression and avoid many scandals.

Make your husband want you again

The statistics are inexorable: in about a third of marriages, intimate life is completely absent. And the worst thing here is not even that the spouses do not want each other, but that they have come to terms with this. Of course, it is difficult to maintain passionate desire in a relationship even after several years of living together, when you have already learned all of each other’s habits inside and out. But who said it would be easy?

While women most often accuse them of lack of romance in relationships, men blame their wives for not wanting to have sex with them at all.

It would seem like a vicious circle: the wife doesn’t want to, but the husband can’t. But no, there are no hopeless situations, and the first thing you must do as a woman in order to improve your relationship with your spouse is to again appear before him as a full-fledged sexual object. Don't know how to surprise him in bed?

read the Kama Sutra - or rather, look through it, because the most interesting things are in the pictures;
update your intimate wardrobe - if you don’t have a catsuit, babydoll and other current solutions in the field of underwear in your arsenal, then urgently fill the gap;
give your husband a sensual erotic massage - especially if he is tense and urgently needs relaxation;
change your clothes, hairstyle and makeup - even if all this suits you so well, your husband has studied all this for a long time and wants to see you in a different image.

Most often, men are attracted to decisive and even a little daring women for serious relationships, so throw away your natural modesty and play along with his fantasies. There is nothing wrong with this: today you play along with your husband, and tomorrow he will do the same.

After all, your goal is to connect with your date, and there's no better way to do that than to get him into bed.

How to get along with your husband and behave wisely

We perceive our close and dear people as they are. We put up with all the shortcomings and disadvantages of our loved ones. This is, for example, like children and parents. First of all, you need to understand that when choosing your companion, you are choosing not a designer who wanted it and remade it, but a person with whom you want to live your whole life. And who will become as close to you as your parents.

Don't try to change your spouse. Yes, perhaps relationships at the everyday level have somehow influenced your present. But think about it, if you try to change your husband, will he later be the person you fell in love with? Probably no.

If you decided to take such a serious step as marriage, then you should have understood that new problems of an everyday nature will appear, but they should not affect your relationship in any way. In any case, if you are not satisfied with something or don’t like something, you should talk about it in a gentle, correct manner.

Life together should be built on trust. Dealing well with your husband means not playing spy and checking your phone and email. This will only cause you more problems. Men are interested in many things, so if your husband went fishing or to football, don’t think that he immediately went to other women.

You should look for common interests. If they are not there, then no amount of love will keep you together. A man should perceive you not only as a sexual object, but also as a worthy interlocutor who can talk to him on almost any topic.

If you don't like your husband spending a lot of time with friends, then you could be a worthy replacement for him. You should be interested in what he is interested in. And your spouse should understand that you are the person with whom he can discuss absolutely everything.

Try to keep your senses sharp. To do this, change your life and change yourself. Be unpredictable. Change your image, your style - this will help you maintain your love for as long as possible. Coming home, your man should not know what awaits him, in the good sense of the word.

You will see, after you try to implement at least one of the above points, the question “how to get along with your husband” will disappear by itself.

Be together more often

Offer your husband a trip out of town together, and if you have children, leave them with your parents for a couple of days. Or organize an exciting hike along an interesting route. As a rule, new places and solitude contribute to the unity of people very quickly, even without further ado. In addition, your husband may understand what an important place you occupy in his life and radically change his communication tactics in his relationship with you.

And don’t be afraid that bad weather may interfere with you: practice shows that even the harshest rain is a joy when there is someone nearby who always supports and is ready to help.

Proper care from a distance

Caring for a girl from a distance is not so easy and, unfortunately, so far there are only three possible ways to do this:

Write SMS or letters as before. Many people even like paper letters more, because this method of communication is more romantic.
Use delivery and courier services if you want to give your loved one flowers and gifts even from a distance.
Use social networks. With the help of social networks, you can create interesting videos, give virtual “gifts”, communicate via video and much more. Of course, this will not replace live communication, but it will help maintain constant communication and contact and even diversify relationships (for example, virtual sex).

A girl is like a flower: the better you look after her, the more beautiful she blooms.

It is not without reason that they say that female beauty is a reflection of a man’s attitude.

Look after the girl, give flowers, give compliments, and she will be the most devoted, caring and gentle friend, loving wife, good mother and keeper of the hearth.

Don't pull the blanket over yourself

Have you ever wondered why the male gender is called strong? And women, accordingly, are weak? And even if you perfectly understand the key gender characteristics, but resist this, then you risk destroying your marriage in a very short time. The fact is that, at its core, any man is a leader, a breadwinner, and a woman is the keeper of the family hearth. Of course, the 21st century has made significant adjustments to this classic arrangement - and there is nothing wrong with that, since any changes indicate that society is developing.

However, the key to well-being in a single marriage is not respect for the rights of feminists, but elementary harmony in the relationship between husband and wife.

It logically proceeds from a clearly constructed and observed hierarchy, in which each family member occupies a position that is comfortable for them.

Inna Vyacheslavovna Lipnitskaya, chief psychologist of a private clinic, Irkutsk:

— By ignoring not just the desire, but even the right of your husband to be a leader in the relationship, you are thereby confidently moving him towards the development of an inferiority complex, which can lead to weakened potency, low self-esteem and other psychological disorders. Such a man will slowly but surely move away from you and from the family as a whole. And it’s good if he limits himself to only this. But often a pulsating feeling of inferiority and unrealized potential forces husbands to turn to alcohol as a means of solving all problems. Or to gambling, which is also destructive for any marriage. Is there an antidote for this? Of course there is: you must feel for your husband and respect his right to make decisions. A wise woman always makes it seem to a man that all his decisions are made solely on his own initiative. But in reality... In general, be more cunning: the minimum necessary supply of it will more than once help you establish relationships even with the most difficult husband and thereby save your marriage.

The first steps towards the girl you like

The first steps towards the object of sympathy should be more than careful.

When starting to care for a girl, a man must take into account one important nuance:

At the initial stage of establishing contact, when it is too early to talk about a relationship, a young man can show signs of attention, but in such a way that the girl does not think that they want to buy her.
If your financial situation allows, the first steps and gifts can be expensive, but they should be presented in such a way that the girl does not feel that she is obliged to do anything.

Reference! A simple example: a guy makes several unsuccessful attempts to ask a lady out. Once again, he reinforces the invitation with a large bouquet of flowers or another gift, saying: “Well, shall we meet now?” Any self-respecting girl would find this behavior offensive.

Therefore, the fine line between courtship and bribery needs to be felt.

How to properly care for a girl is explained in the video:

We intrigue and interest

If the object of your attention is a difficult little thing, the task is to surprise it. Therefore, the classic options with flowers, soft toys and perfumes disappear immediately.

But! They take place if you present the gift in an original way. How exactly?

Bouquet of flowers

Let's say you want to please a girl with a bouquet of flowers.

Attention! One way to do this in an original way is to eliminate personal delivery and courier delivery.

If you know the girl’s path or her plans for the coming evening, agree with friends and acquaintances that they will hand over one flower each, saying a compliment or a word that she will associate with you (if she has one):

For example, you know for sure that she is meeting a friend in a cafe this evening.
Gather 7-9 acquaintances near the meeting place, give each a flower and tell them what to do: go into a cafe one by one, hand the girl a flower and say “he’s thinking about you” or “you’re incredible.”
The key phrase is limited only by your imagination!

A walk to the movies

Even a banal trip to the cinema can become unforgettable and surprising if you prepare for it in advance.

Select a show, buy two tickets, then contact the cinema administrator:

You will need to ask for a video to be played before the start of the film, which will have to be prepared in advance.
It may contain your video message to the girl, in which you talk about her merits, confess your sympathy, or simply read a poem.
Imagine: you sit down, and the series of advertisements is diluted by a video dedicated to your companion. She will be very pleased.

Pleasant morning

A budget-friendly and very romantic way to invite a girl on a date is to have a pleasant morning:

To do this, you need to know exactly the entrance and the apartment in which the girl lives.
When preparing for a surprise, you need to stock up on adhesive stickers or colored paper with tape, a marker or pen, and a balloon.
On each sticker (or piece of colored paper) you will need to write a compliment, a good wish, or a line from a poem.
Then you will have to set the alarm for an early time, get into the girl’s entrance (wait for someone to come out or worry about the key in advance), paste stickers from the girl’s apartment to the entrance door.
This is done so that the girl comes down the stairs and reads your messages.
The final point should be a balloon, in which you need to place a note in advance with the main phrase: “I like you,” “let’s go on a date,” or “be mine.”

Rest assured: even the most difficult person will respond to such a sign of attention.

Interesting compliments

Let's reveal a secret: the most interesting compliments are those that come from the heart and are dedicated specifically to this girl.

Well-worn phrases from the Internet are no longer capable of surprising, as they were, for example, back in 2007. Think about why you liked the girl, what’s unusual about her, how does she differ from others?

Gorgeous hair? Cute moles on your shoulder? Adorable dimples? Funny laugh? Beautiful smile? Luxurious figure? Deep eyes? Each girl is full of highlights, which, most likely, hooked you.

Reference! And remember: compliments don't always have to be about appearance. Surely you were also attracted by her personal characteristics, for example, kindness, sense of humor, intelligence. The better you study a girl, the more options for compliments will appear.

How to compliment a girl correctly is explained in the video:

Appearance

Appearance is not the most important thing in a relationship, but a girl will still be much more interested in a neat and stylish man than a stooped guy in a washed-out sweater.

What do girls pay attention to most often?

The first is shoes. A girl will appreciate clean shoes or snow-white sneakers, but old sneakers with dirty laces will not.
The second is the neatness of clothing. It is clear that it is not worth picking up on a girl wearing stale, dirty or wrinkled clothes.
Third is the sense of taste. The ability to combine clothes should not only be present among the fairer sex. It is unlikely that you will win the heart of a beauty if you wear shoes with a tracksuit, sandals with socks, or wear clothes of incongruous colors that make you look like a parrot.

Cultivate your taste.

If there is no money

When finances sing romances, charm and handmade gifts come to the rescue.

If you are charismatic, well-read, and know how to structure a conversation, your chosen one will not refuse a walk in the park or along the main street.

Handmade gifts leave no one indifferent. Girls are delighted when guys make cards, cut out hearts from paper, and make funny crafts:

You may think this is a stupid, childish activity that can be done either by girls or by guys who have nothing else to offer.
In fact, this is a romantic, budget-friendly and very valuable gift, because the guy gives the girl the most valuable thing - his time.

Reference! Interesting options for handmade gifts can be found on the Internet on sites and forums dedicated to handicrafts, origami, embroidery, and drawing.

Don't treat her like an object

First of all, you need to remember that a woman is a person just like you. Therefore, there is no need to treat it as a thing or an object. Remember that they have their flaws, just like you. And any woman is not perfect, just like any man. This imperfection is part of being human.

After all, too many guys, when they meet a girl, focus on getting her to go to bed with him. But such behavior only shows one thing: that a woman is treated as an object that can be used and abandoned. These days, many channels and resources are filled with intimate scenes that motivate men to be physically intimate with women. But if this is your only goal, then such an unhealthy obsession will not lead to anything good. And in the future, it can cause serious mental health problems, in addition, it will be quite difficult for you to build a successful relationship with someone. Therefore, treat girls with respect and not as an object for entertainment.

Be polite and respectful.

How to refresh your relationship

In everyday family life, everything seems boring and the same type, so it is necessary to refresh the relationship.

It's better to start with yourself. Remember what femininity and sexuality are. Dress up and take care of yourself.

Try something new in your intimate life. Loosen up, add sexuality, change the environment. It might be worth trying role-playing games. Even if something goes wrong, you can still have fun without taking it too seriously.

How to improve communication

Even after a small quarrel, resentment and reluctance to communicate arise. But the problems and disagreements that have arisen cannot be resolved in this way. To establish communication with your husband, you need to:

talk calmly, without unnecessary emotions , thereby showing that there is a positive attitude towards communication;
it is worth asking for advice more often , making it clear that a person is needed in life;
share your feelings and experiences , showing trust and openness;
During conversations that resolve conflicts, it is necessary to express thoughts and positions specifically , without unnecessary lyrical digressions.