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Every woman wants to get rid of loneliness, start a family and live “happily ever after.” Girls dream of getting married for love, study manuals and even take courses where they learn how to behave in order to get an offer and successfully marry a successful man.

Many openly admit: “I’m afraid to be alone and not get married.” Others doubt whether it is necessary to get married at all; still others, especially after a divorce and with a child, are afraid of falling for the wrong person again. There are also many who dream of getting married once and for all and living with their loved one “through thick and thin” until the end of their days, but no one will take it.

A new category of women has also appeared who answer the question of whether to get married in the negative. And the point is not that they don’t call, but that they don’t see anyone, at least, worthy partners for marriage. No, of course, they have men, but they have made their career the main goal of their life, and don’t rush to judge them, it’s better to remember the divorce rate , which is constantly growing.

Have a good marriage

When it comes to marriage, a woman always balances between “I want” and “I’m afraid”: I want to love and be loved , but I’m afraid that the marriage will collapse and I’ll be left alone, and even with a child in my arms.

Whether it is necessary to get married, each woman decides for herself, there are no rules here, but choose the right life partner .

The search for the ideal man

The desire to find family happiness does not arise just like that. A woman is a continuator of the family; she has a natural need to be with someone, to give birth and raise children.

If you decide not to interfere with fate and wait. when the prince himself knocks on your door, then this article is not for you. But if you decide to take fate into your own hands and resolutely find that very, only man who will accept you for who you are and who himself will correspond to your ideas, then go ahead! Take action! And we will help you with this. After all, everything depends only on you. The kind of people that surround you are entirely your merit and the work of your hands.

Before you look for a partner, ask yourself what motivates you to start a family? There is a strong opinion in society that a young girl after a certain age is ashamed to be in a free search. But if you are in no hurry to satisfy the demands of others, feel the need for love and are ready to give it, then first you should answer some questions:

What is marriage for?
Are you psychologically prepared for it?
What will he give you?

Don't rush into marriage:

if you are only interested in the material side of marriage: you leave your job, your husband will provide for you;
get a new status: wife of an oligarch;
if you are still very young, if you have not had enough time;
if your relatives are in a hurry;

Be honest, first of all, with yourself!!! You shouldn't get married for the sake of marriage. Marriage, for the sake of marriage, is doomed to failure.

Even if you have been in a relationship for a long time, weigh the pros and cons again. Talk to your chosen one, observe him, his behavior, his attitude towards children, towards his parents. How does he know how to solve life's problems? What qualities does he have in the professional field? Does he want children? Does he want to develop further as a person? Has he had his fill or would he still like to try something new? What kind of friends does he have? Will they drag him down or encourage him to do bad things?

Do you want to know how to get married well? Then you need to decide on the qualities of the chosen one whom you want to see next to you, his views, standard of living, and attitude towards others.

Romance at work

If you do not like dating sites (and there are many such people), and prefer to communicate exclusively with people you know, then we advise you to pay attention to your close circle - friends, acquaintances, neighbors, as well as colleagues at work. After all, it is at work that we spend most of our time every day, and it is there that you can meet exactly the person you need.

In addition, working together on projects brings you closer and allows you to get to know a person, albeit not very closely, but quite well. You can read an article about how to start an office romance and how to behave when communicating with other colleagues. By the way, many couples living in harmonious marriages met at work. Well, if a man refuses a date, it doesn’t matter, it means life is telling you that this person is an unsuitable candidate for the role of your soulmate, which means you shouldn’t waste your precious time on him. In this case, it is better to quickly switch to looking for another gentleman.

How to get married successfully

You must clearly understand what qualities your betrothed should have. You need to set the bar and stick to it. You should not succumb to the flirting of the first person you meet if it does not correspond to your ideas about the ideal. Of course, you shouldn’t set exorbitant goals, be realistic. If you want you to have common goals and interests, then write about this (1 point), if you are looking for a healthy, full-fledged man, without bad habits, who would love children, strive to achieve more in life than he has now, friendly and good luck - then just write it like that! Don't skimp on emotional colors, more details. Describe the feelings that you want to experience next to him, the emotions that he will give you.

So, let's go!

Make a list of positive and negative personality traits of your future spouse , putting the most important to you first. In the negative qualities column, write unacceptable manifestations in your character.
Think about what the interests, hobbies, and goals of your chosen one should be . His attitude towards children and family values, his life principles.
Pay attention to the family in which your potential spouse grew up and was brought up , what kind of relationships he had between his parents, brothers and sisters, if any. Children often carry their parents’ scenarios into life.

Watch your friends. Often, children repeat the life scenario of their parents. And then the girls are surprised: “Why does he treat me like that?!” Yes, because his father treated his mother that way.

Friends, close circle . It is known that the microsociety in which an individual is located influences his life position, character, and actions to a greater extent than he himself influences this society.
Choose a man who is in the same social and material status as you . An unequal marriage will bring little joy, although there are exceptions.

Sometimes girls, not receiving proper attention from guys, succumb to the advances of guys not from the best social circle. They give birth to children. They are getting divorced. And then they say about them: “Well, how is that possible?!” It seems like she comes from a good family, but she found herself such a loser.” Sometimes it’s love, and sometimes it’s just self-doubt: “Who needs me with my height?!”, “Who else will love me at 28 years old...”, “I’m probably destined to be unhappy, this is probably my destiny.”

Common interests and similar views on things and the world in general contribute to a strong union.

Who should you avoid?	Suitable candidate
Unfree men. Most often, such men are satisfied with relationships on the side and, no matter what he promises, he is unlikely to abandon his family and children. And where is the guarantee that in marriage with you he will not look for affection on the side.	A man in active search, not in a relationship, established in life or who clearly knows what they want.
Unable to compromise. Relationships with such a man are doomed to constant quarrels. If you are a strong-willed woman, then in such a relationship you will always compete and pull the blanket over each other.	Flexible, compliant, pliable.
Men with an explosive character. They start easily and get upset over little things. Such guys give birth to anxious children.	Patient and balanced.
Tyrant. If a man even allows him to take a swing at a girl, then the beating is a matter of time. Men should not be forgiven for such things.	Can find compromises and accept your point of view if it is justified. Knows how to argue his opinion if he fundamentally disagrees with you, without raising his voice.
Greedy miser. A man who allows money to be spent without consulting his chosen one is incorrigible. If a guy allows you to spend obscene amounts of money on his hobbies (games, beauty salons, cars), and you buy groceries exclusively with your hard-earned money, there is reason to think about it.	Moderately generous . An overly generous man is not always a good quality. Sometimes there is something hidden behind this that he would like to hide from you, blinding you with expensive gifts.
Silly.	Intellectually developed, has diverse interests
Cruel. A tyrant is able to suppress your own “I”. A cruel, stupid, greedy miser will not create a favorable marriage environment for you.	Kind, responsive
Self-contained. One should not expect great deeds, masculine and strong-willed strength from a silent and quiet person.	Relaxed and open to communication, but not wasteful in making acquaintances. A man who has his own core of devoted people (friends, family).
Men are pedants. In a relationship with such a man, you will always listen to a sea of criticism and complaints.	Self-confident, but not self-confident men, with a stable life position.
Has harmful bad habits . This includes gambling, alcohol, and smoking, whatever it is.	Leads a healthy lifestyle or strives for one. A man may be out of shape (with a “tummy”), but at least he doesn’t drown his problems with alcohol and doesn’t seek self-affirmation in online games.
Despite his age, he continues to live with his parents . A strong connection with your mother or father is a reason to think about whether you will have a marriage for three. “Mama's boy” does not decide anything in his own life. If you choose this candidate, be prepared to “let your mother-in-law into your bed.” She will be the one who will make important decisions for your family. The only outlet for the father is the “registration” of the father-in-law in your apartment.	Having experience of single life or living together with the opposite sex.
A bachelor is a hunter. A confirmed bachelor is not made for marriage. This is a person accustomed to living independently, not depending on others, he has an established life and freedom of action. He loves the process of conquest itself, but is not created for long-term relationships.	Previously been in a relationship, but not a ladies' man or polygamous type.

But remember, there are no perfect men! If you set yourself the goal of getting married successfully, then be prepared that you will have to come to terms with his shortcomings, just as he will have to come to terms with yours. But there is a limit to everything and this should also be remembered. A marriage will not be successful if the girl endures beatings, lies, drunkenness, infidelity, etc. This should not be tolerated!

It is equally important that a man becomes ideal next to a woman who loves, respects and appreciates him. Having fallen in love with a man, you will not pay attention to his minor flaws and he will immediately become ideal for you.

The third secret. In a relationship, everyone seeks their own attention. Give it to your partner.

It turns out that when starting to build a relationship, partners are ready to delve into the life of another person, “fluff their feathers,” “sparkle their scales,” and charm in all possible ways, including by showing interested attention to their partner.
The classic model: a man is a protector-warrior, a woman is a keeper of the hearth.

Female attention and male attention are two different things.

The woman fully listens, immerses herself in the world of her interlocutor, and without resistance perceives the image conveyed to her. Often adopts a man’s values, shares his views and beliefs.

A man tries to involve a woman in joint activities, in some process led by him. To trust him, the hero, unconditionally.

A man wants to set the vector of movement and through this creative activity attract attention and gratitude. He hopes that his woman will be impressed and begin to listen to him first, and then arrange their life using the space and resources he has won.

If a woman stops supporting a man in his external activities, contradicts him all the time and does it regularly, then he gets the feeling that she does not appreciate him, all efforts are in vain. And he gradually ceases to win her favorable attention.

However, if at the beginning of a relationship mutual attention and involvement in each other's affairs and feelings are maintained, then an attraction arises from which a happy marriage can develop.

Where to find a husband candidate

Don't expect the prince to knock on your door (unless your ideal guy is a pizza delivery guy), look for him yourself!

You shouldn’t be afraid to break off a relationship, even if it lasts forever, if you have little in common with the person, if you want different things from the relationship, if no one around you likes him (sometimes you can see better from the outside what a person really is like). There is no need to be afraid of appearing bad in the eyes of his mother or friends because you abandoned him. You only have one life to live happily . And not 9, to correct your mistakes and regret your choices.

Sometimes, to find the one, you have to take drastic action! For example, he will change his job and exchange a predominantly female team for a male one. If this is unacceptable to you, then you should go out in public more often. Where there are potential suitors.

It’s worth joining a gym, dancing or yoga. Even light jogging at the stadium or in the park in the morning or evening increases the chances of meeting your future husband.
Visit clubs and restaurants, but remember about the filter - the qualities, status, interests of a potential chosen one, take them into account when choosing an entertainment venue.
Do not refuse your relatives and friends’ offer to introduce you to a suitable candidate. Sometimes this is how the first meeting of future spouses happens.
Interested in intellectuals? Visit exhibitions, museums, theaters, conferences, seminars, and trainings.

The Right Approaches for a Successful Marriage

Among the right steps for a profitable marriage, of course, is the desire to get a good match, as well as balance and deliberation. It is not without reason that it has been noticed: a girl who strives to get married at any cost remains single for a long time, and the one who does not even think about such a step acquires loyal fans much faster. So, the wrong motives for marriage are:

I will go to the registry office only out of passionate love (practice shows that such couples break up instantly, and nothing remains of heartfelt affection - only mutual hatred and anger at each other);
I want a snow-white dress, an airy veil and a chic wedding like my friends (the desire to imitate does not lead to a successful family life, it is only the desire to “be like everyone else” and keep up with others);
I take what I have and then remake it (an extremely erroneous opinion, fraught with enslavement, humiliation, subordination, on which there is no way to build a happy life);
If I get pregnant, she will immediately ask you to marry me (usually people run away from the mistakes of their youth, trying to quickly forget momentary connections, while you acquire a bad reputation that can follow you like a long train of an imaginary veil for the rest of your life);
let him understand who he lost (marriage out of revenge, and not out of love for the future spouse, does not bode well - the figure of your ex-boyfriend will always loom between you, which is why the marriage will not be successful);
I will only marry a rich man (the wives of generals married soldiers, that is, everything comes with time - wealth and fame, especially with a beloved spouse).

How to get married with a child

How to get married for a woman with a child

Bad experiences from past relationships can greatly influence present ones. Let go of everything that upset you, your fears - start living from scratch. It is possible to get married with a child.

You should not hide your offspring; immediately warn the man about your status as a mother. After all, some representatives of the stronger sex are frightened by the prospect of becoming a stepfather. This will simplify the search and immediately weed out unnecessary candidates. But don’t rush to introduce your man to your child: if things don’t work out, it will be traumatic for the child.

If a man, knowing about the child, insists on continuing communication and strives to establish contact with the child on his own, include him in the educational process right away. You can have a roller skating date where you can all have fun together. This method will allow us to draw a conclusion about the paternal qualities of the chosen one. Take a close look at how he behaves and how he communicates with the child. If, when meeting a man, he is irritated by petty whims, he cannot restrain himself, it’s worth thinking about - there will only be more dissatisfaction in the future.

Children are not “baggage” that slows down your prospects for a successful marriage; on the contrary, they are an opportunity to find a wonderful, caring and loving person who will value family and all the ensuing consequences . After all, you and your baby are one whole and your chosen one needs to realize this.

Even if you are a little over...

Older people clearly know and understand what they want to get in new relationships and what traits a spouse should have for a strong and long-lasting union. But for the same reason, getting married in adulthood is more difficult. Few people will make concessions when character and habits are formed.

It is possible to get married after 40 years. The only problem is the availability of available men. Expand your circle of acquaintances - travel. Master the Internet, there is nothing wrong with finding your chosen one through social networks. The main thing is to approach this issue thoroughly and at the same time carefully. If you understand well what you will not tolerate from your partner when communicating online, then this alone will prevent you from having an unsuccessful acquaintance in real life.