Hello, friends.
What do we need to become a truly happy person? So that our life will be many times better, richer and more fruitful. So that you don’t regret later the mistakes you have made out of stupidity, distorting not only your own destiny, but also the destiny of other people. We all lack wisdom. Only by becoming a wise person will our lives change for the better, and we will be able to feel a sweet feeling of joy and happiness inside. But how can you become a wise person? Are there practical techniques that bring us closer to wisdom, or do we only become wiser as we age? Today you will find out everything.
Smart or wise
In fact, the information from this article is very important both for understanding how to find happiness and become wise, and for understanding life itself, how to live correctly. Unfortunately, there is little such information today, both in books and on the Internet. Therefore, please read the article slowly, carefully thinking about the meaning of what you read.
Smart people have always understood that life without wisdom is stupid, empty, and lacks meaning. Therefore, life must be lived wisely, seeking this wisdom, and knowing how to achieve it. But what is the difference between a wise person and an intelligent person? What should you strive for, intelligence or wisdom? Many have asked themselves this question, but few have truly been able to answer it.
Basically everyone strives to become smart. Mind is good. It will help in education, career, business, and in achieving some goals. What about wisdom? Wisdom will wait, maybe over the years we will someday become wise.
But in fact, just being smart is not something that is not enough, it is defective, inferior from the point of view of the development of human consciousness.
Trying to be too smart, reading a lot of books, completing more than one higher education, improving our professionalism in some area and at the same time forgetting about wisdom, we will only degrade. This will be a one-sided development, leading to all sorts of problems in life. Yes, yes, are you surprised? But it is so. By developing our mind too much, forgetting about wisdom, we will never become happy. To understand this you need to know how the human mind actually works.
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- You started cleaning and force your husband to join in the process while he is lying on the sofa. Let's start with the fact that it's your whim to start all this. You definitely won’t achieve anything by shouting, but with unobtrusive involvement, yes. Read about this in the article If the husband does not want to do anything around the house. In it you will learn about the psychotype of your couch potato and how to influence him.
- You want to meet your girlfriends in a cafe, but your husband grumbles and is dissatisfied with your idea. Make a compromise: does your husband love football and doesn’t miss a single match? So throw him a party with his friends - buy beer, roach, and let them scream in front of the TV. You will definitely be the odd one out in the house at this time.
- Is there a scandal brewing in the family because of the stubbornness of your loved one? Is it he who doesn't want to compromise? Don't be bullish in response. Remember your feminine weapon and behave accordingly: cry somewhere, pout, make a house on your eyebrows, admit that you are feeling unwell. But don’t overdo it and don’t get used to this method - this is a last resort.
True Understanding
It turns out that a person perceives reality and comes to understand things with the help of two instruments of consciousness. With the help of the mind when it thinks and with the help of intuition, insight or true inner understanding coming from the core of our consciousness. The second tool really decides everything. It is more important, true and much more important than thinking. And it arises when, on the contrary, we stop thinking. Everyone has heard what intuition is. But few people understand what it is and how it really works.
When we think, we go through a chain of some knowledge, associations from our memory, looking for an answer to the question posed. When performing mental work, we act according to a certain algorithm, program. All computing technology and computers operate on this principle. But in reality this is not enough. Real understanding is not built on this.
Do you know why robots will never become alive and will never come close to truly thinking and understanding like humans. They do not have real awareness, that core of our being, which is often called the human soul. This is where intuition, insight, instant understanding and knowledge of all things reside. It is with this awareness that a person, first of all, interacts with the world around him, understands it, feels it. Yes, you can tell this is a sensory interaction with some kind of inner feeling. But it will be an unmistakable, correct, true understanding of reality. And for this you don’t need the mind.
When the mind turns off and intuition turns on, we understand better and make fewer mistakes. Knowledge seems to come from within. We feel confident that we are right and act without a shadow of a doubt. In difficult, stressful situations, intuition is the only thing that saves us. At such moments there is simply no time to think. If we think, we simply won’t make it in time, we’ll die, we’ll make mistakes. Understanding bypasses the mind; the mind does not work in such cases. “Don’t think, act,” said the ancient sages. In the east, during training in martial techniques, the teacher forced one to turn off the mind so that the body could act on its own based on internal knowledge.
All great discoveries were actually made through intuition, when the mind was no longer working on the question at hand. Remember how Mendeleev dreamed about the table of elements. Yes, you yourself can remember how the solution to a problem or some task usually came after you were distracted, doing something else, without thinking about it.
Any creativity, art, writing music, paintings is based not on the mind, but on higher manifestations of consciousness. Love, compassion, and understanding of a person without words live there. Any love impulse is done bypassing the mind.
All these facts indicate that, in addition to the mind, a person has a better, more important tool for understanding reality, which decides everything in our lives. Without it, a person turns into a soulless robot, looking at the world inadequately.
Indeed, someone who begins to develop his mind very strongly, forgetting about intuition and wisdom, literally becomes an inadequate person. A highly inflated mind intimidates intuition, leading to inadequacy. This is easy to see in any human activity, in any professional field.
Any profession, if you immerse yourself heavily in it and become a professional in your field, leads to a distortion of consciousness. For example, doctors, teachers or representatives of other professions have a certain way of looking at things. Bosses, for example, begin to look down on people. If a person is deeply immersed in science, he is usually a layman in everyday affairs. A military man does not understand things that an artist understands. A programmer, when dealing with programs, forces his mind to work in a similar way, completely intimidating his intuition, which is often reflected in everyday inadequacy. Of course, I'm not talking about everyone. But it is precisely the one who forgets about intuition, about wisdom, who falls into the power of the mind and comes to this state of affairs.
The whole point is that the mind cannot really and adequately reflect reality, no matter how strange it may sound. Reality is actually a very complex thing and to truly understand it, the mind alone is not enough. Something else is needed. The mind will only help, making its important contribution to this matter. Life is complex and illogical. The mind works only with logic.
Reality consists of a billion components, and it is impossible to grasp such a large volume with our minds at once, even if we look at a selected part of reality. Even the most powerful computer in the world will spend a long time going through all these options, trying to build some kind of picture from them. Our mind also works. It isolates some elements, following the commands of some program embedded in us. He goes through them, building his own small world out of the big reality. And people live in their own little world.
Intuition works differently. Articles about quantum physics said that there were two worlds. Dense decohered and thin recohered world. So the mind works with the decohered world. And intuition refers to subtle manifestations of consciousness.
When intuition turns on, it cognizes reality in its entirety at once. This is not a sequential sorting through of chains of information, as during thinking. This is volumetric, instantaneous cognition. It is unmistakable because it reflects reality or a part of reality with which we are now interacting in its entirety at once. And such knowledge is possible only through the highest recohered manifestations of consciousness. In a recohered world, an object, firstly, can be in several places at the same time. And secondly, there is a connection in which objects merge into one whole. During intuition, our consciousness simply merges with the object of reality that we are aware of. With such interaction, real cognition occurs, a correct, adequate view of things, bypassing thinking with the mind.
Comprehension with the mind alone leads to a one-sided, fragmented vision of the world. Our mind is contradictory, seeing only one side of the coin, rejecting the other, leading to duality. Submitting to the mind alone, one cannot behave wisely.
True common sense does not rest on the mind alone. Analytically, you can prove any absurdity, justify any atrocity, but all this will not reflect the true reality. That is why, being in the power of the mind, we make mistakes in life, changing our destiny for the worse. To be simply smart means to be a soulless robot, obeying only the programs programmed in your head.
Being wise does not mean just being smart.
How to become wise and not go gray: 6 tips
To become a wise person, you don’t need to go to the mountains, grow a long gray beard and sit on a hill for days, looking into the distance. It’s enough just not to get into difficult situations, or (if you do get into them) to be able to get out of them.
To become wise you need to be able to learn from your mistakes, or do this by observing others.
Don't be afraid to make mistakes
How to learn to get out of difficult situations, and even more so, to identify them in order to avoid them? You need to face it once.
Each of us knows that sticking a finger into a door crack is prohibited. And it doesn’t matter that the door will be in one position without moving a millimeter. We still won't stick our finger in there. The question is, why? Yes, because at one time (when we were little), each of us made our parents turn gray, uttering a hysterical squeal in pain because we pinched our finger in a door crack.
Is the meaning clear? When we encounter certain difficulties, we study them in order to get out. Having gained due experience, we will never allow a situation to provoke similar or similar problems.
Learn from mistakes
Surely you have come across a person who got into the same problems?
For example, only after he had squandered the loan, which had sucked all the vital juices out of them, did he take out a new one (and for a larger amount). By loudly slamming a car door, a person causes his vehicle to break down, for which he contacts a car service more than once. And everything like that.
In a cartoon world, such a person would be depicted as a mindless zombie walking through a field strewn with rakes and stepping on them.
The moral is this - when you find yourself in a bad situation, while you are in it, getting out of it, and after it is behind you - analyze! How did you get into it? What prompted certain actions? How can you avoid getting into this situation again?
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Learn from other people's mistakes
A fool learns from his mistakes, and a smart person learns from the mistakes of that fool. Conclusion - the source of wisdom is stupidity (joke).
If you see a man's hand blown off when he sticks his fingers into an electrical socket, would you dare to do the same? Naturally not! Use the same approach for the rest. Look at the mistakes of others. Analyze their actions.
When observing the next “situation” of a familiar person, divide it into three columns:
- What did he do to get out of it?
- What did you have to do to get out of it?
- What shouldn't you have done?
Thus, you will never allow a similar situation to happen in your life, so that you will have an idea about it and the necessary actions to avoid it
Understand people
Knowledge of dangerous situations may be worth a lot, but knowledge of the people themselves is priceless! Study those around you. There are many branches of science that can help you with this. Physiognomy will tell you how to read facial expressions in order to learn more about the character of its owner.
Typology will teach you how to determine your personality type. All this will come in handy. Moreover, you will study those around you much faster than the sages of the past managed to do.
Knowing your neighbor is the main rule on how to become wise!
Know human qualities
Make yourself a list of all possible qualities of a person. It's simple - they can be courage, cowardice, hot temper, calmness, etc.
After a whole list is formed on the piece of paper, support each item with your opinion about this or that quality. Do this throughout your life. Think more.
Be interested in how people around you feel about this or that phenomenon. What do different personality types value? And what they despise. Who said that becoming wise is easy?
Communicate
It’s not always possible to observe other people’s mistakes and how to overcome difficult situations. But it is always possible to communicate with a person. In order to fill your knowledge bank, do not communicate with just anyone.
Remember that the one who seems wise today will tomorrow turn out to be an ordinary upstart who does not know how to perform the simplest actions (make the bed, lace his shoes, etc.). As one famous figure said, “Restless stupidity is easy to confuse with genius.”
The best source for life experience is old people. The main thing is to make sure that the person really has the necessary knowledge.
What kind of person is this wise?
That's why real wisdom begins when we stop obeying our mind. When we reveal the highest manifestations of consciousness within ourselves. When we discover intuition, a true understanding of things, real common sense.
And indeed, it is believed that a wise person should have such qualities as tolerance, peacefulness, and modesty. Be able to listen and understand other people. Think soberly, clearly defend your views, but at the same time understand the other point of view of your interlocutor. Have flexible thinking.
Don't push yourself forward, but don't hide from danger either. Be able to love others and the world. Be calm in any difficult situation, managing your emotions. Be mentally relaxed. Don't be afraid of life's difficulties. Accept all manifestations of life, any turn of your fate. Be happy with what you have. Be able to enjoy life, be happy no matter what.
In fact, there are a lot of qualities, but they all speak, first of all, about the spiritual maturity of a person. They become possible only when a person goes beyond the mind and discovers higher manifestations of consciousness within himself. When it awakens intuition within itself. When it puts under control the manifestations of the mind and psyche that give rise to a sense of self-importance, all kinds of fears, and a dual, one-sided view of things.
But you need to understand that wisdom is not throwing away the mind, it is also one-sidedness. The mind is also needed; it adequately performs its function of analyzing information. Only the combination of true understanding through intuition and the use of analytical thinking leads to adequacy and common sense.
The value of a man in the eyes of a wise woman
From the moment of marriage, a man's assessment is transformed in a strange way in the eyes of his wife.
Nobody appreciates you at work, you deserve more. Demand a salary increase. No one needs you except me.
The man's self-esteem begins to suffer. This begs the question: why did you marry a worthless man if no one needs him?
You shouldn’t play on a man’s emotions, belittle his dignity and poke your nose at his shortcomings. How often do we scold men, but so rarely admire them. Praise your husband when he does something well. The tongue will not fall off from the praise. Don't focus on your loved one's failures. Support in difficult times. A woman should inspire heroic deeds, and not make her want to run away anywhere, just not to be at home.
Be the muse!
Don't confuse flattery and praise. False flattery will never get through to the heart. The man will think that the woman needs something from him, so she praises him. Be sincere!
A woman looks disgusting in the eyes of others when she speaks badly about her husband. Get a divorce if you can't live together. An intelligent, wise woman will never humiliate a man in the presence of strangers. She will not humiliate a man at all.
Don't humiliate!
Representatives of the fairer sex are sometimes afraid of appearing weak.
Go away, don’t bother me, I’ll do it myself, I’ll do better.
Why do ladies forget that nature rewarded gentlemen with strength, courage, and ingenuity? He is a protector and provider, and not a seal on the sofa under the TV. Hercules is hidden in every man, and only a woman with wisdom can see the 12 labors. Be weak. Strength is in your weakness!
TRUST IN GOD
From arrogance comes discord, but from those who consult, wisdom comes. (Proverbs 13:10)
When we arrogantly declare that this and that will happen because I want it this way, this will certainly lead to conflict.
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up rage. (Proverbs 15:1)
At the very beginning of a quarrel, we suddenly feel a call inside to take part in the battle. Instead of entering into this battle, remember the wisdom from the Bible: “a gentle
answer turns away wrath” !
Do not try to insist on your own, because this is exactly what you think is right... It happens that our desire to do the right thing is dictated simply by the desire to control the situation. But what if you try to trust God? After all, He sees everything, knows everything and controls everything.
How can you show trust in God? Not every challenge needs to be accepted!
Sometimes, perhaps, it’s worth saying something unusual for yourself:
“Well, okay, fine, let it be as you say ...”
After all, as soon as you get into a quarrel, accusations or insults will rain down one after another as if from a cornucopia, and in a few minutes the reason for the quarrel will not be remembered, only a bitter aftertaste from it will remain! After all, you can sometimes come to terms with the opinion of another person - this is part of our relationship.
You can sometimes try to do what someone else wants to do. It is not necessary to always prove that you are right. God is watching everything and what seems unfair to us is just a short period of time in which we live. You shouldn’t take control of all situations, you need to trust God!
The beginning of a quarrel is like a burst of water; Leave a quarrel before it breaks out (Proverbs 17:14)
When a quarrel is already in full swing, it is harder to stop than at the very beginning. You have a choice here, which is why the Bible says, “Leave!”
During the quarrel itself, emotions run so high that you may say something offensive that will be difficult for the other to forget and forgive. You will have to pray and ask for God’s mercy, so that God will heal the “wound” that you inflicted on your opponent in a moment of anger and so that He will help the person forgive you.
