Why is gender psychology needed: modern research

Gender psychology: truth or deception

Many people call gender psychology a pseudoscience and argue that female and male psychology are practically no different from each other. The division of psychological characteristics into two parts depending on gender is very conditional, since certain traits can be present in the character of both men and women. But there is also some truth here, which is associated with the difference in anatomy. In the formation of emotions, thinking and attitudes to specific situations, hormonal levels play an important role, which are completely different for women and men.

The psychology of representatives of different sexes was also influenced by other aspects - norms of behavior, role in historical events, rules of life and much more. A person’s behavior in a given situation depends on both gender and other factors (upbringing, social status, etc.), but women and men have one common line.

Integral RelationsMartin Uchik, 2010

Gender: Differences Between Male and Female Primary Fantasies

Researchers have identified how biological sex differences influence the fantasies of each gender, which are similar across cultures.

Since these fantasies are deeply rooted in our unconscious, they are almost impossible to overcome,[75] and their fulfillment is a condition for any romantic infatuation with a person of the opposite sex. Collectively we will call them primary fantasy. All other demands that lovers usually make of their partner are secondary to the primary fantasy and are most often gender-neutral. Such requirements include common values, interests, lifestyle, temperament, plans and dreams for the future, a mutual need to spend time together, money and sex[76].

If the primary fantasy is fulfilled, then the man begins to experience a completely sincere and real love for a sexy woman, and the woman begins to experience a successful man. The level of stimulating hormones in their body increases, which indicates their ability to conceive and raise healthy offspring. These hormones promote attraction, passion and intimacy between people and temporarily weaken the rational parts of the brain of a couple in love, causing them to ignore all warnings and engage in sexual relations.

Lovers who feel something like this often talk about a certain “chemistry” between them, and they are right[77]. Sexual desire occurs in women and men due to increased levels of testosterone, feelings of intimacy are associated with increased levels of dopamine, norepinephrine and seratonin, and various forms of attachment appear due to increased levels of oxytocin in women and vasopressin in men[78]. Some of these hormones are as powerful in humans as illicit drugs. They can create a feeling of unprecedented bliss in a lover, but also create addiction, leading to a painful withdrawal syndrome that occurs after a drop in the level of these hormones in the blood[79].

Men usually get carried away and fall in love much faster than women, since their primary fantasy is associated exclusively with the appearance and sexual attractiveness of a person of the opposite sex[80]. Looking at an attractive woman, watching erotic images, watching a movie, or watching a striptease in a bar can be enough to raise a man's testosterone levels and make him aroused. Often, to the utter disappointment and perplexity of women, a man very quickly loses interest after he has managed to conquer the object of his desire, and therefore he begins to hunt for other exciting women in order to get his “dose” of hormones.

Attractive women, as well as specialists in the cosmetics, beauty and fashion industries[81], as well as smart developers of product and service advertising, have certainly long known the effect that images of sexy beauties have on men. They constantly bombard men with a barrage of seductive slogans that tell them that earning and spending large amounts of money on status symbols (eg diamond ring, car, watch), consuming the right foods (eg beer, aftershave) or risking their lives health and life (service in the army, participation in dangerous adventures and in brutal competitive sports) will allow them to win the woman of their dreams[82].

Women usually feel the same initial spark when they see a physically attractive man. However, they are quickly disappointed if his socioeconomic status or personality traits do not match their primary fantasy (except when they are looking for a night partner or lover).[83]

Unlike men, women are much more likely to develop romantic feelings over time for an older and less physically attractive partner if his financial situation, social status or character traits meet their expectations. Men's attention is almost always focused exclusively on a woman's body, on the desire to sleep with her and on how she will look with him. And a woman, in addition to a man’s pleasant appearance (and sometimes instead of it), attaches great importance to his income, character, intelligence, wit, devotion, position, reliability, speech, manners, education, work, achievements, health, lifestyle, car, house, other material things, a pension plan, a circle of friends, sincerity[84].

If sexual attraction is mutual, a woman still needs more time to become confident that a man is willing, able and ready to commit to her as a supportive, generous, reliable protector and provider who can be relied upon. The evolutionary reasons for women's deliberation and selectivity in relation to a lover and partner lie in a woman's ability to become pregnant. Conceiving a child is a much more emotionally intense and life-changing event for her than for a man[85]. Even if a couple uses contraceptives or can no longer conceive a child, the woman's hormonal system reacts as if she could become pregnant: if she becomes pregnant, she will have to endure 9 months of physical discomfort, not being able to conceive a child from another man, she will have to risk her life during childbirth and take care of the child for many years, but his father can easily leave her, giving his seed, love and support to another woman[86].

Logic vs intuition

Males are characterized by logical, spatial thinking, while women rely on intuition and emotions. As a result, misunderstandings arise related to simple everyday situations. For representatives of the fairer sex, it acquires a large number of necessary and unnecessary details, while men are looking for a specific and most convenient way out of the situation.

Example : The family car breaks down. The spouse will think about where to find a master who can properly repair the car, but all other details remain beyond his thinking. The wife’s way of thinking will be completely different: she will be upset because of the disrupted plans, she will begin to worry about how to get the children to school in the morning, whether a breakdown is dangerous and how much it will cost.

Due to different perceptions of the situation, a serious conflict may arise - the woman will begin to get angry with the man because he does not understand the complexity of the situation. The man will be angry in response because his wife is distracting him with unnecessary questions and making mountains out of molehills.

Career versus family

In ancient times, a man was a breadwinner - his function was to protect and provide food for his family, and women were engaged in giving birth and raising children. Since then, times have changed, and in modern society, representatives of the fair sex can choose any profession, build a career and earn money, but manifestations of inner instincts often become a serious problem.

Example : the husband goes to a meeting instead of a children's party. This does not mean that he is not interested in his own children, their affairs and successes; simply, in the hierarchy of his values, professional growth comes first. Men’s greatest fears are usually associated with their career – they perceive unfulfilled ambitions as their own failure in life, so they are ready to do a lot for their sake.

Attention to detail

Women express themselves through details and nuances. Little things matter, none of them are random. This applies to appearance, smells, and behavior. When men ignore details and don't notice them, it's annoying.

Women often say that they are changing and becoming better for themselves. So be it. But deep down, they still want a man to appreciate the changes. Men, in turn, do not deliberately ignore details. It's just the way their brains are wired.

British researcher Helen Stansay found that “women have more developed areas that process information from nearby objects. For men it’s the opposite. In this sense, they are good for perceiving everything remote. And to evaluate the whole picture.”

Despite this feature, the skill of mindfulness can be developed consciously. Try to put in a little effort and see how your lady blossoms. As you notice details, voice them and evaluate them.

Moment vs Eternity

The different psychology of men and women leaves an imprint not only on everyday situations, but also on love relationships. Representatives of the stronger sex live one day at a time, and sometimes one moment at a time - they are able to quickly become infatuated with a woman, after a few days they want intimacy, and after that they quickly cool down and repeat the cycle. Women are more constant in their affections - the process of courtship, the passage of each stage, and after that a wedding and family life in the spirit of “they lived happily ever after and died on the same day” are important to them.

Example : why doesn't he call me? The eternal women's problem - why a man doesn't call after the first meeting or a night together - is again associated with different attitudes to the situation. The guys do not draw any conclusions from what happened and do not make long-term plans - the evening was great, but today there are many other things that need to be done urgently. The woman, due to her psychology, develops a whole drama out of these events - she mentally selects a wedding dress and the name of her first child, and perceives the lack of calls as a painful collapse of her fantasies.

Dictionary

We are so different that a dictionary was even created to better understand each other. It will be especially useful for men.

From female to male

• Yes = No
• No = Yes
• Maybe = No
• We need = I want
• Great! = Shut up!
• Don't talk to me anymore = Apologize
• Sorry = You'll regret it
• Yes, as you wish! = Fuck off!
• Five minutes = Sit down, relax, have a beer
• We need to talk = I want to complain about you
• What? = You better not repeat what you just said
• Of course, continue = Better stop
• Do what you want = You'll pay for it
• I wasn't upset = Of course I was upset, idiot!
• You need to learn how to talk to people = Just agree with me
• I'm not angry = You're dead
• Yes, forget it = Remember and better compensate me for this somehow
• I'm tired = Boy, you've already missed your chance
• I went to the restroom = I'm going to redo my makeup
• I'm not crazy. And I'm not mad = I'm on my period
• Leave me alone = Don't go
• She looks so good = I want her dress
• You're so manly = You need to shave
• I am fat? = Tell me I'm beautiful
• I'm cold = Take a blanket and hug me
• I love you = Tell me that you love me more

From male to female

• Yes = Yes
• No = No
• Maybe = Yes
• I'm hungry = I'm hungry
• I'm tired = I'm tired
• I want to sleep = I want to sleep
• I love you = I like you, I guess, well... maybe I'm confusing something. No matter what, I love you.
• Nice dress = Deep neckline (or you look great)
• I liked it better = Yes, just buy a dress and let’s get out of here
• Yes, I like the way you cut your hair = Yes, I didn’t realize that you cut your hair
• Yes, everything is fine, don’t rush = For God’s sake, hurry up
• I'm bored = Do you want to have sex?
• What's happened? = What kind of senseless, useless suffering are you having again?

We are very different, but we should not be like each other. A man is a perfect person, but in order for him to become a man, he needs a woman.

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Rivalry versus friendship

Men are interested in competition, dominance and the expression of individual characteristics, while women love to observe human relationships. For this reason, representatives of the fairer sex are characterized as gossips (although recent studies have shown that guys are not inferior to girls in this aspect).

Example : a husband watches football, and his wife wants to switch to a TV series or melodrama. Men are often accused of being thick-skinned and lacking emotion, citing their dislike of romantic films as evidence. In fact, they are no less emotional than women, but they are interested in their own, not other people's, emotions. They are absolutely not interested in watching the development of relationships between strangers - their psyche requires something more dynamic and active, which includes sports competitions and action films.

Excerpt from a lecture by Khakimov A.K.

Alexander Gennadievich Khakimov is a well-known specialist in Vedic culture in Russia and other countries, writer, psychologist, artist, philosopher, theologian, preacher.

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Khakimov A. G.:

Today we are talking about a man and a woman, aren't we? Let's understand their psychology. What we have just described is typical for both men and women. What is their peculiarity? look carefully. Here I will draw a simplified diagram of a man and a woman. This “M” is a man, this “F” is a woman. And here I divide their internal content, psychology, into two parts. Simplified. There are two hemispheres of the brain. One part is responsible for feelings, emotions, one hemisphere. And another thing is for - rational thinking, reason. A man and a woman have the same thing, they have a mind and they have emotions, feelings. Two functions.

One thing is interesting. Modern psychologists say that if we take men’s ability to feel and distinguish as a unit, then women have more of them, they are stronger. A woman predominates over a man, approximately one and a half to two times. According to modern research. But in the Vedas, we found another figure, in ancient books. Not one and a half or two times. A woman has 9 units of a man. As you understand, the difference is practically incomparable. She is 9 times more powerful. Her emotions are deeper, and her mind is also deeper. That is, a woman experiences any situation differently than a man. Love, it experiences 9 times more deeply. I feel the loss 9 times more deeply. That is, everything is experienced 9 times more deeply. And this is her weakness, as you can see. At the same time: both advantages and weaknesses. She is 9 times more dependent on circumstances than a man. And he is 9 times freer from everything. Where a woman cries, a man does not hesitate. Well, remember in the old Russian society, secular women very often faint, they are such sensitive people, you know, this female sensitivity is presented in these examples. And then I asked myself: where does this difference in numbers come from, modern ones are one and a half to two times, and in ancient books - 9 units. It turns out that I found the answer there too. A woman has these nine units of strength if she is chaste. This condition. That is, she thinks about only one man all her life. This is her natural power. She becomes a mystic, she can see the future, she can heal, she becomes very sensitive in life. This is like an indicator, the sensitive side of creation. The most sensitive part, the fingers of the world, women. But if she is not chaste, she thinks about two men, divide the nine in half, about three men, divide the nine by three. If we talk about four men, well, one and a half to two units remain, modern ones. That is, the emancipation of a woman, her unchastity, it turns out, reduces her power and influence, her depth of mind and feelings. And now we still have an interest in, as it were, the outer side of a woman. The form remains – female. She's attractive.

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But when you communicate closely with such a woman, you will see that she is not really very interesting. We need some kind of entertainment constantly, somehow. Multi-channel television, or go somewhere to have fun. Because we have enough with each other - it’s boring to communicate like this for a long time, face to face.

We are not very deeply built. But this is where we come to now. You see, even our technical development depends on the behavior of men and women. That's where multichannel comes from... What's the point of it? You won’t watch all a hundred channels, you will never be able to capture this information.

So look: a woman is 9 times more sensitive and dependent, a man is 9 times more free. It makes life easier for him. To a man, without a woman. When he touches a woman, he also begins to worry, of course. And besides this, these two parts also work differently for them. The man has one thing. If the mind turns on, attention to the mind, then the feelings weaken and eliminate themselves. That's it, you have a tough judge in front of you. And his voice changes, and his behavior. He decides. And try to contradict him. Now he will clench his fist and say something. The man in this role is very tough. But, if he turns his attention to his feelings, sensations, then the mind is eliminated, gradually, so as not to interfere with him. That's how it's built. That is, in front of you is no longer a man, but a “jada” - an idiot, the Vedas say. He literally acts like a jerk in this state. When there is no reason, these feelings, he starts there, some kind of swearing, jokes, dragging after every skirt there, compliments, drinking. “Jada”, stupidity in general (“greedy” for sensual pleasures – admin’s note).

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- Therefore, the elders say, when a person has already reached this age, and such a big idiot is already running around, you know, there is anxiety in society, they tell him: “Get married!” You need to settle down.” What does this mean? It means that the wife represents the husband’s mind. She reminds him more of reason than of feelings. This is what is possible and what is not, she seems to control him.

There is a similar hall in St. Petersburg, where we once performed back in the 90s, with Kuryokhin. He was such a scandalous director, who even had donkeys running around on stage. Sawdust rained down onto the hall. This is a surrealist in general. Scandalous famous stage director. And so, at his performances and stages, anything was possible. And we performed there too, as part of the project. It was like a “vinaigrette”, nonsense, but interesting. He was so looking for something new. And we came out in such clothes, you know, in such Indian clothes, with instruments, with some attributes strange for that time. And he liked it all. But the point is that we had to wait for our release there, behind the scenes. And they also imposed a beauty contest on him. He later apologized to us. Do you know what a beauty contest was in the 90s, during perestroika? This means that half-naked, almost naked women walked around the stage, back and forth. And people watched and applauded, some more, some less. And then they were awarded some awards. And here we are behind the scenes. And these beauties are also behind the scenes. Together with us, imagine, we have a serious solution. We have a spiritual program, we have meditation, mantras, something divine. And here are these girls, they’re not just like that, they’re from a Miss America magazine or something. There with us, they are ready. They come up to us, begin to wonder what kind of clothes you have, they come close, smile, and talk. And our mind and mind “went crazy”, everything got mixed up, feelings, everything was according to this scheme. And we - let's focus on what we're going to do now. And there was one woman among us, the wife of one man. She immediately checked us all (laughter in the audience). She approached her husband and said: “Where are you looking?” He: “I’m not looking anywhere,” he immediately got scared. “Look at me! You can look at me. Don’t look there.” He immediately felt ashamed. You know, wife, I’m ashamed, my mind is awakening. Then he comes up to us: “Where are you all looking? Everyone look at me!” (laughter in the audience). This is how a mother is, in her purest form. And she saved us all, the whole situation. One woman. So, that is, the wife protects, you see. Because a man tends to enjoy many women. He needs a wife to stop this trend.

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– Culture exists. Marriage is the cell where this culture and control exists. Regulated life.

I will explain why this is important for a man later.

For a woman, these two things work completely differently. That is. 9 units, imagine, this is already a problem. Not only a problem, but also a concern, of course. And besides this, the mind and feelings work - simultaneously. Like this, such a vibrating circuit. So, I understand everything, I feel everything, but I don’t understand, I don’t know what to do, what to do... That is, make a decision in such a state. almost impossible. She understands everything, feels everything, but goes to him: “Darling, what are we going to do: this way or that, this way or that way... Speak.” He can't do it that fast. This is impossible for him. So as soon as he realizes that, he says, “Stop. Enough. We do it like this. I decided, no matter what.” She: “Well, I don’t know, I don’t know, I don’t know...” And she will doubt (applause).

And so he does as he decided, and - he is wrong! "A! I told you, I told you...” Or he’s not mistaken. “I told you too!” She is always right, protected, everything, married. Everything is fine.

But if a man makes a mistake, so what? Let's do it differently now. What are you worried about? He has a “one” there, no problems. It is very primitive in this case. It's very simple. He can live under a tree without a woman. He is not interested in any kind of scientific and technological development or comfort. While there is no woman, he can live under a tree, it is written in the Vedas. Very simple. But when a woman appears, she is the customer, he is the performer. She is an inspiration. 9 units, this is very inspiring for a man. This is his meaning, this is his love, do you understand? He is ready to move mountains. He's getting stronger. He begins to “come to life”. He needs a woman to realize himself. Otherwise, he will sleep like a vegetable, like a potato. If he never awakens to love, to this relationship, he may live a boring, not bright life. A woman is needed in order to fulfill his mission, to inspire and gives - reason, supports him. And therefore, the Vedas say that a wife is very good for a husband. And a woman (not a wife) is very, very bad.

A man for a woman is the door to hell. And the husband is salvation. Do you see the difference? It's a huge difference. That is, a man is one function, and a husband is a higher one. This is duty, this is responsibility, this is reason, this is making decisions, achieving goals. A lot of this comes from the mind. If you think that the husband is just a man, this is a bad marriage, I’ll tell you right away. If you understand your partner this way, the end of your marriage will come very soon. And if you think that your wife is a simple woman, that is also a big problem. You must know that we are neither male nor female. We are also souls. This is the most important thing. This is the mind. And we must respect each other. Not just falling in love, arousing feelings, but namely, being friends for life. And this already develops into love - later.

Digression on the topic. Sergei Amalanov’s book “BUTTERFLY OF LOVE” has been published on our literary website . It describes three main reasons why a strong love arises for a specific person. What is the difference between love and falling in love? And what 6 qualities in relationships will indicate the emergence of a strong feeling of love between close people. ON THE SAME SITE you can familiarize yourself with the books of Alexander Gennadievich Khakimov.

Continuation of the lecture by Khakimov A.G.

– By the age of 50, he will be able to understand what true love is. My parents declared their love for each other when they were almost 70 years old. But anything happened in life. But when they made this sacrifice, when they endured and endured much and much, in the end they said amazing things. This is what I received from them as something valuable and important, as continuity. That is, they did not disgrace their family. Honor and praise.

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Concrete versus abstract

Men's thinking is aimed at solving specific problems, and abstract concepts like “how do you feel” are of little interest to them. They do not understand hesitation and reflection if the way out of the situation lies on the surface (take it and do it). Women literally drown in their emotions and can think about solutions several times, which is why they can go down the wrong path.

Example : a wife talks about a problem, and the husband begins to get angry. Typically, women who talk about their problems do not expect advice, but sympathy and compassion. For men, this concept is too abstract, so in every similar situation they see a veiled request for help. If it is impossible to help through action, representatives of the stronger sex begin to feel their inadequacy, which results in discontent and aggression.

The main differences between men and women

1. Communication skills and body language

The communication center of a woman’s brain is much larger than the corresponding part of a man’s brain. As a rule, other things being equal, women find it easier to work with words and use various verbal tools more easily. Women are very attentive to words, read between the lines and much faster than men notice the discrepancy between what is said and the speaker’s body language.

2. Openness and problem solving

Typically men are more independent than women. They prefer to solve problems on their own, without devoting them to anyone. Women, on the contrary, experience much more stress, not being able to share their experiences with friends, even if the latter cannot help in any way in the current situation. Here you have the classic conflict pattern, when a woman tells a man about a problem because she needs to talk it out, and then is unpleasantly surprised by his cold answer (the purpose of which is to offer a solution to the problem). For the same reason, women often go to the restroom in groups: here they can share their impressions of the past day, and not a single man will disturb them.

3. Attractiveness and sex

Because in the male brain the area responsible for sexual desire is much larger: 1) Men think about sex more often than women 2) Men pay more attention to a woman’s appearance than women themselves 3) Men instantly pay attention to seductive women. For women, appearance is just one of the personality characteristics, although not the least important; men, on the other hand, are often subject to the cult of appearance, and then may even neglect other qualities in order to win the most beautiful woman.

4. Aggression and diplomacy

With the exception of rare cases when strong psychological factors transform the nature of the fair sex (we are talking about hatred of everything feminine), women are biologically programmed to avoid conflicts. Men are by nature more aggressive. According to research, men notice angry faces faster, making it easier to identify enemies. Typically, a woman will try to avoid conflict and make every effort to maintain peace, while a man, faced with a threat or challenge, will most likely go into confrontation.

5. Logical and emotional thinking

Basically, when making decisions, men leave emotions aside, but women in similar situations are often based on sensory-emotional factors that are not important for men.

Instant reaction versus adaptation

Representatives of the stronger sex know how to mobilize in critical situations, react correctly to them and quickly solve problems. The female psyche is a little late - they are scattered into small things and details, which does not contribute to a rational decision. At the same time, interference in completing tasks unsettles men, while girls quickly adapt to new conditions and look for optimal ways to avoid obstacles.

Example : a pipe burst in an apartment. If there is a flood in the house, the husband will quickly turn off the common tap and try to eliminate the breakdown on his own. The wife will begin to grab the phone, then rags, worry about the damaged furniture and the neighbors’ apartment below, which can aggravate the situation. If it is impossible to solve the problem immediately, the woman will figure out where to get water to wash the dishes and cook dinner, and the man will get into a bad mood due to the fact that he cannot take a shower, as he is used to doing every evening.

Despite the fact that the boundary between female and male psychology is quite vague, knowledge of the psychological characteristics of representatives of different sexes can improve mutual understanding and minimize the likelihood of conflicts.

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Features of male and female psychology

Why is it so often difficult for men and women to understand each other? Where do the constant non-connections out of the blue come from? And all this happens because no one delves into the differences between female and male psychology. That is, everyone knows that, of course, there are differences, they are obvious. But few people use this knowledge. When disagreements begin, everyone thinks only about their own point of view, and is not able to imagine themselves in the place of the other. The very lack of understanding of the behavioral characteristics of women and men is the cause of family problems. When two people decide to build a family, they must understand that, first of all, this is a union of two personalities in which not all tastes and views coincide. Reluctance to understand what a partner wants, reluctance to compromise, selfishness, or, conversely, excessive dedication of oneself to this relationship is the cause of a number of family problems: infidelity, cooling of relationships, jealousy, which can lead to divorce. Harmonious relationships are those that are built on respect, trust and equality.

In order to understand why your partner’s behavior does not fit into your ideas, you need to understand how he acts, how he thinks he acts this way. Once you understand these issues, you will see that many things fall into place.

A man’s perception works in such a way that what he sees comes first. The woman is more impressed by what she hears. It is not for nothing that there is such a saying among the people: “a man loves with his eyes, and a woman with her ears.” In terms of speed of information perception, a woman is very superior to a man. Women, for example, read and remember faster. A man embraces and evaluates the situation as a whole, while a woman focuses her attention on the subtleties.

It's interesting to watch how women and men choose a book. A woman will open the book from the middle and flip through it, men open the content first and use it to decide whether to buy the book or not.

It is easier for women to understand how a person feels by his facial expressions, gaze, gestures, gait; she quickly recognizes that something is not as usual. This makes it much more difficult for a man to deceive a woman. A woman can easily deceive herself and not show it.

Women are usually much more emotional than men; they can cry whenever they want and laugh with the same ease. It is customary for men to restrain themselves and their emotional impulses, it is not appropriate for them to cry, which can show their vulnerability, and they are more immune to mood swings, unlike women.

Women react much more sharply to punishment and reward, troubles and conflicts. A man can express his opinion and nothing else will bother him.

A man is more focused on results in a conversation, while women enjoy the communication itself. This is where the saying “it doesn’t matter what you said, it matters how” comes from.

Women can also do several things at once, men focus on one thing until they do it, then they don’t start the next one.

The behavior of men and women is under constant cultural pressure, which drives them into boundaries and dictates how each of them should behave. Therefore, we see the prevailing stereotype about a woman as follows: pliable, gentle, caring, dependent on a man, and logical thinking is not about her. A true man must be logical, successful and hard-working. But life in modern society is such that women and men have begun to exchange certain qualities. For example, a woman of the 21st century may well be independent, have a car, run her own business, and in this she does not need the support of her husband. And men who earn less than their wives stay at home, taking care of children.