Sincerity in relationships - what is it?

Perhaps all people would like to have a strong and long-term love relationship in which they can trust each other and live peacefully. However, recently there has been a tendency for the rapid termination of love relationships and numerous divorces. Psychologists cite one of the reasons for this phenomenon – the lack of sincerity in relationships. To understand how sincerity affects the safety of relationships and their harmony, you need to understand what it is.

The online magazine psytheater.com understands sincerity as the ability of people to directly and openly express their thoughts, experiences and ideas to each other. Sincerity does not always imply a situation in which a person commits a certain act or experiences feelings that he is not trying to hide from his partner. Sincerity can even concern issues that cannot affect the relationship.

Sincerity does not exist by itself. It is used in relation to some action, belief, friendship or love, interest. Synonyms for sincerity can be:

1. Directness.
2. Honesty.
3. Openness.

With sincere behavior or attitude, a person is consistent and consistent. That is, the external corresponds to the internal, as well as vice versa.

What is sincerity?

Sincerity rather refers to some degree of a person's evaluative perception of another individual's behavior or attitude. Sincerity is a person’s ability to speak directly or act in accordance with internal impulses. Sincerity is often used by people who want to build trusting relationships with others.

When talking about sincerity, people often refer to the fact that this quality can make people’s relationships strong. And you can't argue here. However, in order for sincerity to bind two people together, you first need to find a person whose directness and honesty will be acceptable to a partner.

Two short conclusions can be drawn:

1. Sincerity is honesty and openness. However, honesty and openness are not always positively perceived by people. Sometimes, in order to be polite, you have to pretend to some extent, be dishonest, insincere.
2. Sincerity cements relationships for many years, but only if the partners can not only be honest, but also remain loved and respected by each other, despite what they learn about each other.

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What part of speech is this

To answer this question, consider two examples:

1. SINCERELY thank you for using the services of our company.
2. SINCERELY congratulate you on your birthday.

As you can see, the words differ by only one letter. But at the same time they mean the same thing. They can be replaced with synonyms “from the heart”, “from the bottom of my heart”, “cordially”, “truthfully” and so on.

In this case, both words will not change no matter how the sentence itself changes. For example, in time:

1. SINCERELY thank... / SINCERELY thanked... / SINCERELY thank...
2. SINCERELY congratulations... / SINCERELY congratulations... / SINCERELY congratulations...

Singular or plural:

1. SINCERELY thanks... / SINCERELY thanks
2. SINCERELY congratulations... / SINCERELY congratulations

In masculine, feminine or neuter gender:

1. SINCERELY thanked... / SINCERELY thanked... / SINCERELY thanked...
2. SINCERELY congratulated... / SINCERELY congratulated / SINCERELY congratulated

So, the first sign of these words is immutability. And the second will be dependence on the verb.

And then we can make an unambiguous conclusion that the words SINCERELY / SINCERELY are adverbs .

Sincerity in relationships

Sincerity is often considered in the matter of love relationships. It is there that people want to be sincere with each other, which is associated with trust and love. However, quite often people realize that they were insincere. This conclusion is often made after partners deceive, betray or cheat.

Sincerity is the openness of partners to each other. There is no desire to be around for the sake of receiving material or moral benefits. People love each other and just want to make each other's lives happy.

However, the concept of sincerity should not be exaggerated too much. It’s good when partners can say directly and sincerely everything they think or feel. However, a person does not always have to be sincere in all situations. Let's take those situations when partners quarrel. Here, on the contrary, it is considered the best option to hide your emotions, to distance yourself from them in order to work on solving the problem, rather than insulting each other.

People strive to create relationships on a strong and strong basis. But if friendship, love or business relationships are formed on the basis of initial deception, hypocrisy and arrogance, then such relationships are doomed to failure.

Absolutely any union can be saved. But will it bring joy to the people who make up this union? It should be understood that the basis on which you build your relationships with other people will indicate their further development. One of the components of a strong foundation is equality of partners (this also applies to love relationships).

Equality does not lie in the fact that partners equate themselves to each other, but in the fact that they take responsibility for building relationships. Each of them performs the functions that are assigned to him, and also has the right not only to demand, but also to give.

Quite often, relationships deteriorate due to a lack of equality between partners on a psychological level. For what reason did you start making friends, love or make business connections? It’s not just that a person communicates with someone, meets someone, or does business together. Each of the parties has its own motives for why he started a relationship with this particular person and for what reasons he behaves this way and not otherwise. It is the inequality and instability of these reasons that can lead to the instability of the union itself.

What could be the psychological reasons that lead to the destruction of relationships?

1. A person pretends that he doesn’t need anyone, he feels good alone. However, he is simply compensating for his inferiority complex and protecting himself from fears.
2. The “weak” partner becomes even weaker due to the fact that the “strong” side does not allow itself to be weak.
3. Dependence on the benefits or strengths of another partner. One person clings to another only because he does not have the same benefits or traits that his partner has.
4. The desire to be surrounded by someone who is more prosperous and happy, since the person himself cannot achieve this.
5. The individual is accustomed to being in a subordinate position, so he takes on the role of a “slave”.

In relationships that are unequal at the psychological level, there is no harmony and happiness. One partner often asserts himself at the expense of the other, which is why their relationship exists only because someone needs something, and the second person gives it to him. But as soon as the needs disappear or gratuitous giving ceases to occur, the relationship begins to collapse, since initially it was built on shaky ground, where one only wants to receive, and the other wants to compensate for his complexes. In such a union there is no love, respect and reciprocity between partners.

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Love and sincerity

People usually look for sincerity first of all in relationships with loved ones. When a loved one is present, it is from him that sincerity is required as one of the criteria that he is truly interested in a trusting relationship. If in other areas people agree that they may not be completely open and honest with them, then in relation to loved ones people cannot even tolerate insincere behavior.

And here many problems arise. E. Fromm said that people initially enter into relationships insincerely. The fact is that every person tries to get happiness and love, to realize their desires in a relationship, so they often look at their partner as a tool. The partner is not perceived as a person who needs to be known and understood how to exist together with him, without demanding anything from him. No. People get to know each other by first screening potential partners according to the criteria that are important to them in a relationship.

If your partner is handsome, rich, and interesting, then you can date him. And even after this, a person does not always puzzle himself by recognizing his partner as a person in order to understand him and accept him completely. Usually, when entering into a relationship, a person longs to begin receiving the benefits that he expects and hopes for. Otherwise, quarrels and even separation arise.

Sincerity today is a rare phenomenon, since a person in this case should be interested in the partner himself and in ennobling his life. The same should happen on the part of the partner. In this case, a long and strong union is possible when both partners want to be together and direct their energies to making their lives and their common lives happy and comfortable.

Also, sincerity in relationships means that people will honestly and openly tell each other what they feel, what they are worried about, what worries them. But here too many difficulties arise. People can easily talk about what is happening inside them. But how do their partners react when they hear something they don’t want? If people could calmly accept that their partners don't always feel happy and comfortable in their relationships, and then fix the problem, then it would be possible to remain sincere. But often people not only start to quarrel with their loved ones when they feel bad, but they also get offended that their partners feel unhappy.

Love as a manifestation of will does not mean the violent creation of an artificial situation. True love is a holistic relationship between a man and a woman. By this we need to understand the entire spectrum of feelings - from the most coarse, material, to the most subtle, spiritual. A person must consciously manage the entire scale of feelings for a more holistic unification with a partner. Relationships must be based in reality. A person needs to be realistic, conscious, balanced, he should destroy empty fantasies that lead to subjective relationships in love that exist only in his imagination. Pity is caused by those people who are so deeply immersed in their pleasant dreams that they find themselves completely divorced from reality, and therefore live in an imaginary world, as if under the influence of drugs. Unfortunately, fantasies eventually replace reality and people spend their whole lives waiting for events that will never actually happen. We can say that such people do not live at all.

True love is different from false love. Besides the obvious signs that you are not loved, there are some factors that indicate that you are not being loved.

For example, most often a partner who does not love cannot show patience. He is demanding, especially if he himself does something for his partner. Often people who do not feel love manipulate those with whom they build relationships. They desire submission to themselves, control over their partners.

One of the important components of a love relationship is sex. Many people say that a lack of sex will lead to the destruction of a relationship. Well, they're right. But this only happens when partners do not love each other. We are not talking about the constant absence of sex between a man and a woman. It happens that one of the partners is simply not ready for sexual pleasures for several days. In a relationship where there is no love, quarrels will arise and the union will break if someone refuses sex for several days. In a relationship where partners love each other, the absence of sex for several days is not a reason to break up the union.

False love contains concepts such as “should” and “obliged.” Sincere love, on the contrary, tries to give without requiring any obligations from the outside. It’s good when both partners love each other, then they try to give good and kind. But when one or both partners do not love, then they build their relationship on obligations and promises. Commercialism can also be seen here, when partners build their relationships only on mutual benefit. They are looking for benefits, which is absent in relationships where there is love.

False love is often based on hypocrisy, lies and pretense. Partners are closed from each other. In sincere love, partners, on the contrary, try to open up to each other, trying to learn everything about each other. It is often said that a person must have a mystery. But it is only needed in relationships where there is no love. Riddles are needed to maintain intrigue and passion. And to develop sincere love, you need to know your partner like a “read book.”

It is noteworthy that in relationships where there is love, the partners are equal to each other. The question of equality between men and women has been going on since women received some rights to their freedom from men. So it turns out that in love, a man and a woman are equal to each other. Each partner is concerned with developing themselves and helping their partner develop. There is no hierarchy (“I am the boss, and you must/should obey me”). Moreover, the development of both partners occurs by their mutual agreement. This is not the case in false love relationships. There is a hierarchy there, one partner exploits the other. Here no one is interested in the development of another. Each partner is concerned about his own development at the expense of his partner. And everyone strives to ensure that their partner remains “underdeveloped” so that it is easier to exploit him. In other words, in sincere love, partners strive for cooperation, and in false love, they strive for competition among themselves.

There are no relationships where partners do not quarrel and try to agree on something. Here, too, the attitude of the partners towards each other is manifested. What do a man and a woman do during a quarrel? If they look for each other to blame, then they are not experiencing love. But if they try to find mistakes in order to correct them together (“There is no one to blame, and we will correct the situation together”), this indicates the partners’ love feelings.

And lastly: what is the difference between false love and sincere love? The extent to which you idealize your partner. The more ideal he seems to you, the more you immerse yourself in your own fantasies, the less you love your real partner. Sincere love is always realistic. A person loves his partner for who he really is, in a real light. False love is aimed at experiencing feelings in relation to an illusory idea of ​​​​what kind of person a partner is. You love the illusion, and not the one who is really next to you.

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Spelling of words "sincerely", "sincerely"

To understand which letter should be written at the end of an adverb, let's turn to word formation.

From the qualitative adjective “sincere” a cognate adverb is formed using a suffix:

• sincere ← sincerely

The choice of the suffix, designated by the letter "e", is obvious. The final voiced consonant of the adjective [n'] is soft.

In the Russian language there was an adjective “sincere”, lost in modern speech, which had a stem with a hard final consonant. A similar adverb was formed from it using the suffix -o:

• sincere ← sincerely

And now in the Russian language there are the words “sincerely” and “sincerely” as full variants of the same concept “to treat with soul, cordially.”

These words may be a short singular form of a neuter adjective, depending on the meaning of the context.

The grammatical forms of the adjective that are homonymous to the adverb have the same variable spelling.

Although the adjective “sincere” (“sincere”, “sincere”, “sincere”) is outdated in modern Russian, nevertheless, its short forms with a solid base are preserved in speech:

• the girl is sincere;
• these people are sincere.