The dating world is heavily skewed in favor of women. And you can't say that it's their fault - in fact, it's the men's fault, since they literally fall at women's feet just to have sex in return. This has led to many girls thinking of themselves as much better than they actually are.
It is because of this that good guys are often left behind. But if you have a strong intention to change this trend, then there will always be ways to make a girl run after you. And as soon as a man masters this art, he will understand that he has discovered the Holy Grail.
There is a treasured list of dos and don'ts to get a girl to start pursuing a guy.
Don't ask stupid questions
A woman will by default consider a man a jerk if he starts talking stupidly and asking inappropriate questions, and worst of all, you can end up in a ridiculous situation due to your own stupidity. It is better to think through the topics of conversations in advance and prepare questions.
A man needs to show that he is comprehensively developed and intelligent. Thus, you need to intrigue the girl, and each time throw brushwood on the fire so that it does not go out. This fire should be the girl's interest.
Be out of range 2
Absence makes the heart love, wait and hope, and therefore you should not constantly be in front of a girl’s eyes. You shouldn’t bother her with your presence, it’s better to lie low, be patient and wait. It is advisable to avoid long telephone conversations, lengthy dates or text messages until late at night.
Of course, you can make yourself known from time to time, but the girl herself must feel the absence of a man in her life: begin to get bored, look around in the crowd, remember. The less you have, the more you want - for a man this approach is especially effective if his goal is to make a girl run after him.
Give compliments in essence 3
Every girl dreams of being appreciated and seeing in her, first of all, not only her outer shell, but also her personal qualities. Nowadays, admiring the body and cute “face” is too hackneyed, banal, not relevant, and has recently been a sign of bad taste.
A compliment will be considered stellar if you focus on your companion’s professional achievements, character, and traits such as honesty, kindness, and ease of communication. Any little things, even the most insignificant at first glance, that have not been noticed by anyone before, can become a ticket to a girl’s heart. This shows that the man accepts her for who she is, and there is no faster way to keep a girl's attention than to show respect for her as an individual.
Challenge a girl 4
Everyone has long been accustomed to the fact that a man, seeking the attention of a woman, tries in every possible way to prove to her that he is not only worthy of her, but at the same time is the most worthy of all the worthy. So why not, instead of proving his value and importance to the girl, he himself creates a situation where she herself would have to prove her own superiority and uniqueness. How to achieve this? How to win a girl once and for all?
A simple question - “How are you better or different from other girls I’ve dated?” This may seem a little rude, so to avoid a mixed reaction, it is enough to act and speak in a humorous manner.
In this way, the man will be able to keep the situation under control, since the girl will certainly accept the challenge thrown at her and will direct all her strength to point out what exactly makes her so special compared to other women.
How to make a woman take the initiative herself?
Girls love successful men and this is not surprising, because even on a subconscious level they calculate their future and the future of their children, this is a normal phenomenon. That is why crowds of women run after rich men, even if these “princes” are not distinguished by good manners, a rich vocabulary and good intelligence.
But what should those who have not yet earned a million do? Success is not only about having a lot of money, an apartment, a car.
Important! If a guy is purposeful, hard-working and smart, then sooner or later he will achieve certain heights and women understand this very well. But people who sit still and do not strive for anything are of little interest to anyone.
Also, the female half of humanity is attracted to popular men.
And even if this popularity is “feigned”, it is still a way to attract a girl to you.
If a man has many women as friends on social networks and in real life, then this is a signal that he has a lot of positive qualities.
Wife
Sometimes a situation arises when a wife stops showing enough attention and love to her husband, and then the man wants to make her run after him.
This can be done, but you need to make some efforts, namely:
- Become better. The wife knows her husband as “flaky” and if he radically changes for the better, then this will give reason to think.
- Spend more time together. The more time together, the more emotions.
- Solve problems together. Husband and wife must solve all problems together.
Hide despair and attract a woman with confidence5
It's no secret that confidence is what women want to see in men. Therefore, if the goal is to achieve initiative and attention from the weaker sex, you must first of all hide your own despair and fears. Demonstrating confidence, strength of character and determination is highly recommended.
Before you even start trying to connect with a girl, you can use confident “body language.” To do this, it is enough to avoid unnecessary movements, such as fidgeting or fussing around. Instead, move and act firmly and purposefully, with purpose and direction.
Traits of a man who is attractive to girls
He is determined and self-confident. These traits are integral to the persistent image of a real man for women of all times. Everyone needs a defender nearby, someone she wants to trust, who will solve any problems for her.
Once you give in and say something like: “I can’t do it,” “I can’t do anything,” a man automatically becomes completely unattractive in women’s eyes.
Secondly, one is attracted to someone who is always developing and working on himself.
This explains the secret of celebrities: girls are attracted to them because just yesterday they were ordinary guys from the crowd, and now, thanks to their efforts, they have become famous throughout the world.
Show a sense of humor 6
Besides confidence, another trait women want to see in a man is a sense of humor. However, this does not mean that from now on you need to be the funniest guy or joke non-stop. Instead, a man should prove that he can always make a girl laugh, thereby cheering her up.
A well-chosen joke will not keep you waiting long for the result, making the girl smile. And, therefore, it will act as the main weapon to attract a girl’s attention to a man. It is always necessary to have a couple of funny short stories or funny jokes in your arsenal.
And then... leave_8230
Literally, not figuratively. Sometimes the best way to get a girl to chase you is to deliberately reduce the amount of time she can see a man after the connection has already been established and established. If a girl has already felt a deep interest in the object, her desire to see each other more often will only increase. And the greater the distance, the greater the likelihood that she will be the first to take the initiative for further meetings.
In what cases do men resort to manipulation?
Philosophers and thinkers of all times tried to comprehend the depth of a girl’s soul; poets wrote about her, she was praised in songs. With the advent of psychological science and the emphasis on interpersonal relationships as a key factor in research, women's experiences were embraced by a new wave of popularity.
Psychoanalysts interviewed dozens of men, highlighting key aspects of intersexual communication. The first scientist who was able to create the most detailed picture of such communication was Sigmund Freud. He identified 4 main components of verbal communication:
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- sympathy;
- disgust;
- lust;
- indifference.
Freud made a startling conclusion: women experience disgust and indifference much more often than positive feelings. Men, in turn, tend to sympathize and lust most intensely. When communication components are not mutual, one of the partners attempts to achieve balance through manipulation.
Psychology gives 10 detailed recommendations for manipulation. They will be outlined further, but before moving on to familiarize yourself with them, you should delve deeper into the features of the female psyche.
Show willpower 8
When a woman begins to express interest in a man, there is always a risk of showing him weakness and giving in under the onslaught of surging feelings. But here it is very important to hold your ground and not give in to emotions. A man should be patient and not back down, and it would be even better to stay away from her at such moments.
Also, you should not tell any personal information, thereby not being too accessible. Sometimes, even if you have a lot of free time, it is better to procrastinate and, for example, not immediately answer calls or SMS messages, or do it monosyllabically and vaguely.
How to make your ex-girlfriend chase you
The news of separation is painful for many. If you want to turn back time and start all over again, you can try to charm your ex-girlfriend again.
All you need for this:
- to let you know that feelings have not yet cooled down;
- hold on and not call first after a frank confession;
- try to revive the best memories from the past;
- take the first steps towards rapprochement if the partner is ready for this.
If the reason for the separation is the appearance of another young man , then you should not insist and try to revive your past love. You just need to accept the breakup as a given.
Listen carefully and show interest in all details 9
Women appreciate men who actually take the time and effort to listen to their girl talk. This will once again make the girl think and want another meeting with the guy, simply because of the anticipation of genuine attention to her person.
And if a man has dared to take such a serious step, he should be attentive and absorb all the important details of the conversation, and only then, from time to time, include them in his conversations with her. This will drive the girl crazy from emotional overload.
Moreover, by using these small pieces of information to surprise her again and again, you can simultaneously give her seemingly insignificant things (souvenirs, books) that will have much greater emotional or sentimental value for her.
Basic methods and techniques
When it becomes clear that your friend is interested in a new acquaintance, you can apply the techniques described below. They will allow the young man to achieve rapid rapprochement and awaken the woman’s feelings.
Technology is closer - further
The “closer - further” technique does not require any special knowledge to apply. You need to get close to a stranger, charm her, let her feel the happiness and pleasure of intimacy. Next, the guy may suddenly demonstrate a cooling of feelings or make a critical remark.
The woman begins to think that she has made a mistake and tries to correct it. If you behave this way with a girl, you can achieve significant concessions.
Make her call or text first
In order for a friend to start calling on the phone first, you need to gradually accustom her to this. An obstacle to such an intention can be public opinion, which inspires ladies that it is indecent to impose themselves. Therefore, you need to create the impression that the call is being made on the guy’s initiative. To do this, an SMS is sent with a request to call back or ask to call at the agreed time.
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This behavior of a man will allow his girlfriend to get in touch without breaking behavioral patterns. Many girls will call a young man if they are sure that the boyfriend is waiting for a call from his beloved. Thus, having taught a new acquaintance to get in touch first, the young man at the same time instills the idea of an emerging relationship.
An SMS asking to call back always works if the recipient is interested in the guy. The rules of politeness say that when a girl contacts the subscriber, she must give the reason that prevented the guy from calling himself. It’s better to explain this by the desire not to bother your friend, but to give her the choice of when to call.
Soon a new friend will get used to calling the guy at his request, and then, out of habit, she will call back herself.
The desire to talk will be stronger if the topic raised during the last conversation turned out to be interesting. Therefore, a young man should start exciting conversations and end them before they exhaust themselves. In such cases, the call must be interrupted with reference to important circumstances and with an apology. This is how you should train your new friend correctly so that she does not hesitate to call first.
Pretend that you have lost interest in her
In order for a friend to feel that the admirer has begun to move away, one must act using the method of contrast. Initially, intimacy is built, attention is shown, and frequent meetings are organized. After a new acquaintance has gotten used to being cared for, suddenly cut off contacts, disappear, become silent. After two or three days, appear, citing important circumstances, and behave somewhat aloof, perking up after each attempt by the girl to regain her former disposition. This behavior allows you to maintain tone in the relationship. Hoping to regain the former warmth in the relationship, the woman will try to get closer to the guy, gradually making more and more concessions.
Maintain attention
To prevent your new friend from wanting to look for another gallant gentleman, you need to keep the attention on yourself. You should look after a woman beautifully, communicate cheerfully, and during a meeting events should follow each other, like in a kaleidoscope. Then the relationship with the girl will always be at a high level, and you won’t have to worry that your friend will leave for another man.
It's good to study her character
Knowledge of the secret strings of a woman’s soul will allow us to select effective methods of influence.
For example, a perfectionist girl will definitely start looking for her mistake when her boyfriend shows signs of cooling off. By playing on her feelings of guilt, a young man can extract significant concessions from her.
Cause jealousy
It is necessary to cause jealousy from time to time. A woman who notices that a young man has fans begins to devote more time to the guy and becomes more accommodating. To make a girl jealous, you need to come to an agreement with your friend. An “unexpected” meeting in which a stranger adjusts her boyfriend’s collar will awaken a sense of ownership. The disadvantage of this method is that you need to have a sense of proportion and carefully calculate your friend’s reaction. A woman can throw a scandal at a guy and leave without trying to return the young man.
Mentioning women's names during a telephone conversation in an ambiguous context can also have an effect:
“And what did Lena say about me yesterday?” - at the end of the conversation, it is imperative to explain that we were talking about the head of the personnel department of the company where the young man wants to get a job. An instant pang of jealousy is enough for a woman not to forget about him, but it’s safe for a guy. If real jealousy is awakened, it can become a source of trouble and headaches.
This is how you can make almost any girl jealous and run after you.
Give more time to your hobby
Hobby activities hint to a girl about the diversified development and high intellectuality of a young man, and therefore about his potential. To give your friend the impression of a busy guy with broad interests, you don’t need to spend every evening with her. She shouldn't feel like she's the main one in her boyfriend's life. A friend who understands that her boyfriend has other interesting activities is much more comfortable in communication.
Show that you are busy with important things
Constantly being busy with important matters is a sign of high position and significant weight in society. A woman who is thinking about possibly starting a family will become more respectful of her potential groom and will try not to miss the chance to get married successfully.
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So sometimes you pick up the phone and go into another room, explaining it as a call from your boss and an important assignment. In some cases, you can cancel an appointment and complain about force majeure to the department assigned to you.
Use touch power 10
Human interactions rely heavily on the sense of touch - the more comfortable they are with each other, the more they will consciously and subconsciously touch each other. This is not at all a call to action to approach a girl and touch her in inappropriate places or at inappropriate times. No!
But the next time, for example, when she tells a joke and the man starts laughing, he can lean over and gently touch her shoulder or elbow, as a sign that the joke was very successful. Or, let's say the situation develops in the office, a good handshake will be enough.
We have collected all the facts about why even after such tricks a girl does not want a relationship in the next article.
