Each person has his own understanding of beauty and everyone judges beauty based on their own preferences and tastes. Unfortunately, not all girls can realize this fact and they perceive any shortcomings in appearance as a personal tragedy, going into deep depression . When there really is a problem, then you need to figure out how to live a normal life and what to do if you are ugly.
There are not many truly beautiful people. You rarely see them in everyday life; more often you can see their model appearance on a TV screen or in a glossy magazine. We must understand that every person has his own individual characteristics, including in appearance, and obvious disadvantages can and should be turned into advantages.
I'm ugly - is this a disadvantage or an advantage?
The standard of beauty is a kind of template that makes us the same. Therefore, everything that goes beyond the usual attracts special attention. If a girl is ugly, then she will certainly attract glances, because she is unique in her own way.
Just what kind of views will these be? And this is up to you to decide. Stop telling yourself, “how ugly I am, what should I do?”, better get yourself together and do something so that the looks turned to you are full of admiration, and not contempt or pity.
If you think about it, you can find many examples of people who do not have classical beauty, but who are extremely popular with members of the opposite sex.
Barbra Streisand
Barbra Streisand is a classic example of how a woman with an unconventional appearance can conquer cinema. And this is primarily due to the fact that she is a personality, bright and full-fledged, stylish and luxurious.
Although her unusual nose definitely frayed her a lot of nerves in her youth.
Uma Thurman
Another woman, whose appearance is far from the classical ideal, nevertheless enjoys enormous popularity among men. What attracts Uma Thurman?
With special plasticity, artistry and its own unique flavor.
Nicole Kidman
It's hard to imagine, but this red-haired beauty was an ugly duckling as a child.
Living in Australia, she simply hated her red hair, blue eyes, pale skin with freckles - since at the school where she studied, the children were mostly dark-skinned and dark-haired, and little Nicole stood out too brightly against their background. Surely she, too, in despair asked “how ugly I am, what should I do?”
Angelina Jolie
It would seem, how is it possible to mention the generally accepted standard of beauty in such a list? Don't worry, for me personally Angelina is a role model. But let's look at one of the first films with Jolie's participation - “Hackers”.
It’s hard to recognize this girl as a future style icon: just an ordinary girl, a shirtless guy. None of the grace and charm of today's Angelina. This suggests that these are all acquired qualities and manners, but not a gift of nature.
Men's opinions ↑
Every third girl thinks that she is very fat. Our time has given rise to diseases such as anorexia and bulimia - this is a struggle with weight that has turned into a phobia.
For some reason, girls want to look like the “hangers” from the catwalk. However, any normal man will say that he is not a dog and does not throw himself at bones. Who are we losing weight for then?
We often underestimate the stronger half of humanity. It seems to us that they are suited to long legs, cleavage and luscious lips. Yes, nature controls instincts, but a reasonable person, even men, therefore fall in love with all their hearts and marry girls who are pure and beautiful at heart, seeing in them the future mother of their children and a caring, faithful wife.
There are many examples from life when a slender figure, a well-proportioned face, and luxuriant hair do not bring happiness to its owner. At the same time, dozens of men's hearts are broken at the feet of an unremarkable simpleton.
If you ask men, they themselves will not be able to explain it coherently. Pulls. Therefore, it is better not to ask men’s opinion. They don't know it, they just feel it.
What should I do if I'm ugly?
So, how to become beautiful? What do you need to do to turn from a gray duckling into a beautiful swan? To begin with, I want to warn you that there is no such magic pill that, if you take it, you will wake up a happy beauty in the morning. You need to work hard for the benefit of your beauty.
And start with making a plan. So, let’s not get hung up on complaints from the cycle “I’m ugly, what should I do?”, but rather, first, let’s determine what is beautiful about you?
There is something attractive in everyone, even the ugliest people. Don’t panic, “I’m ugly, what should I do!”, it’s better to focus not on your shortcomings, but on your strengths. Some will have expressive eyes, some will have luxurious hair or a stunning velvety timbre of their voice, others will boast slender, chiseled legs or perfectly smooth, delicate skin. Someone has a beautiful nail shape... yes, this can also be an advantage, the main thing is to learn how to use it correctly!
Now let’s think about how we can emphasize these advantages: beautiful clothes, makeup, special gestures that are worth learning. Even a beautiful butt shape can become your highlight - you just need to be able to highlight it correctly.
The concept of beauty ↑
To summarize everything that has been written, one can only repeat it. The concept of beauty is so relative and vague that it simply does not exist in general. You can consider it in a separate, partially isolated society with its own stereotypes and historical problems. But when you find yourself in a different society, get ready to accept a different concept of beauty.
What can we say about societies and peoples! Each person has their own individual concept of beauty. You like blue-eyed blonds, she likes sizzling brunettes, he likes full-breasted peasant women, and his friend likes freckled, laughing women. All these concepts have only one thing in common – the beauty of the soul.
Think about what can be fixed
We've sorted out the advantages, now let's turn our attention to the disadvantages. Is everything as bad as it seems at first glance? Am I ugly, period? Or are we trying to cheat a little?
No, I’m not advocating throwing yourself under the surgeon’s knife; first, let’s try to use less drastic methods. Let’s say that the concept of “ugly figure” may manifest itself in excessive fullness - in this case, one cannot talk about one’s inferiority by nature. After all, proper nutrition and exercise for an ideal figure can give you the ideal figure. Girls, don’t be lazy, start changing your life for the better right today, because you want to get only the best from life? To enjoy your beauty you need to earn it, but how sweet this victory will be! By the way, you can find useful articles on sports, nutrition, and especially motivation for losing weight in the corresponding section of our portal.
You can try to at least partially correct facial imperfections with the help of the right hairstyle, hair color and cosmetics.
Don’t get hung up on the usual image, don’t be afraid to experiment, this is the only way to become more beautiful. And, of course, choosing the right clothes will help you cope with your shortcomings and emphasize your figure’s strengths.
Grooming and external gloss
Grooming is the magic key that will help your beauty manifest itself. You may have a lot of shortcomings, but you can only justify those that cannot be corrected. Ungroomed hair, lack of manicure and a clubbed gait are not among them.
You can learn more about how to become beautiful and well-groomed in the following article: “How to look beautiful and well-groomed.”
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
I'll give you an example from my life. When I was at school, there were two girls in our class: one with seemingly ideal appearance: slender, beautiful, with big brown eyes, fluffy eyelashes, perfectly regular facial features and long thick hair of natural chestnut color. The second is my best friend, below average height, with brown hair and facial features far from classical beauty. But she didn’t tell herself “what should I do if I’m ugly?”, because she never considered herself that way!
Which of them do you think was more popular? Oddly enough, it was the second girl. Natural charm, sociability, friendliness, dancing - she was the center of everyone's attention.
The second one, having an ideal appearance, was a complete dummy with whom there was not even anything to talk about. Even now, it’s a little strange to me that the guys in our class practically didn’t pay attention to her. But, nevertheless, it was so. Even now, analyzing the past, I am beginning to understand that she simply did not know how to present herself correctly.
Should we strive for the ideal?
Leafing through the pages of fashion magazines, looking at women with ideal appearance, you involuntarily begin to think about your own attractiveness, comparing yourself with them. So how do you know if you are beautiful or not? You need to realize your superiority and uniqueness. Love yourself. All people on earth are different, and not only girls with an ideal figure or impeccable appearance become models. Women who take care of themselves and love the reflection in the mirror are considered attractive. Don't try to change something about yourself and don't think that it will necessarily bring success. You need to change your worldview, and not turn to a plastic surgeon. Each person is individual, which is what makes them good, the main thing is to always look neat and tidy. And then you will be received with dignity everywhere.
You often cannot evaluate yourself. But what if everyone says that everything is fine, but life doesn’t spoil you with new acquaintances? Maybe there is some site where you can objectively evaluate your appearance from a photograph?
Do you seriously think that it is possible to come up with a system that accurately determines how beautiful a person is or not? This is all very subjective. There are, of course, stereotypes that are imposed on us from childhood by television and the film industry, but they cannot be called a standard. I think no service can be fully trusted. Although there have been attempts to create such services. For example, here. I scored 80 points out of a possible 100 there, although my face was not very beautiful. I think everyone will have the same results. All this is very subjective, you should not trust these systems, especially if you consider that the main thing in a person is not his appearance, the main thing is what is inside.
And you yourself only meet BEAUTIFUL MEN. Just think, it’s probably very important to you what kind of person he is. So do men. For one-time sex, they may judge you by the length of your legs, but for a longer relationship, a man is looking for an ATTRACTIVE woman, not a beautiful one. And by the way, many people find an ATTRACTIVE woman MORE BEAUTIFUL than her friend with more regular features. What is the attraction of a woman? A man REALLY appreciates a woman’s inner energy, sexuality, WARMTH of soul, PARTICIPATION in his problems, the desire to UNDERSTAND his hobbies and interests. A man loves to be asked questions with genuine interest, to be admired as a man. A man loves for a woman to notice why he is unique and better than others. Be a light bulb. Moths flock to the light. And beautiful, but cold-hearted women are ALSO often lonely and complain about it on all social networks. They will admire them from afar, but will be afraid to approach them. So as not to freeze.
Being well-groomed is much more important than knowing how to apply makeup professionally or dress stylishly. Inconspicuous details can either make the simplest image unique, or completely ruin it. We have compiled a list of 10 signs that indicate an unkempt girl. Check yourself and correct your shortcomings as soon as possible - it’s easy!
Nobody loves me because I'm ugly
It's time to understand that this is nothing more than an excuse. They may not like you because you are withdrawn or unkempt, uninteresting or boring. If a person doesn’t like something about your character, it may cause irritation, but this in no way relates to your appearance. You don't need to blame all your problems on her. Of course, you can sit down, fold your arms, once again, sighing: “I’m ugly, and that’s why no one loves me,” just know that this is just a banal excuse.
In fact, you very quickly get used to a person’s appearance, no matter what it is. Even if at the first meeting someone may seem ugly, after a few meetings you completely forget about it - character, pleasant communication, common hobbies and interests are much more important. Friends always love and accept you for who you are. And as for men...they need to be conquered by your charm, be stylish and well-groomed, friendly and mysterious.
As a teenager, I read a letter from a man in one of the women's newspapers. I still remember it almost word for word, its content shocked me so much. A man wrote about his problem: he fell head over heels in love with his friend’s wife, to the point of obsession, and asked for advice on what to do in this situation. But something else attracted me to this story.
He described the first meeting with his love something like this: “My friend introduced me to his wife. When I saw her, I thought, how did he manage to marry such an ugly girl? Long nose, pale face, expressionless eyes, colorless hair...” And then, visiting a friend, our hero gradually fell in love with the girl, as she turned out to be the kindest, most interesting and brightest person he had ever met. Now he no longer sympathized with his friend, he envied him! And even yesterday’s shortcomings now seemed to him sweet and the most beautiful in the world.
Why be attractive ↑
Let's start from the stove. Why does a woman need makeup and why does a peacock need a tail? Naturally, to attract the opposite sex. The Bible says, “Be fruitful and multiply,” because this is the most important goal of nature - to reproduce itself. Everything in the world serves only this purpose: the aroma of flowers (attracts the insects that pollinate them), the trills of a nightingale (charms the female), the pleasure of sex, the beauty of a woman, etc.
Previously, the standard of female beauty was considered to be corpulence, full hips, a wide pelvis, healthy teeth and a “blood-and-milk” body. That is, she should have everything to give birth to a healthy child. Isn't that reasonable?
Today medicine has stepped far forward: babies are nursed and fed artificially. That’s why sometimes fashion goes crazy and promotes pale drug-addled youths and slender, breastless top models. You understand that this is superficial and will die off over time. And the woman-mother will remain with ample breasts, a thin waist and a healthy complexion. Every man, even a smoky goth, has a love for just such female beauty in his subconscious.
You have to be attractive in order for men to love you and want to be with you.
Psychological moment
Another important point on the path to achieving beauty is self-confidence. Never tell yourself “I’m ugly” again - don’t humiliate yourself, don’t create complexes that no one needs. It’s better to go to the mirror and say: “I’m sweet, I’m beautiful, ideal, I’m the best...”.
Don’t let complexes come between you and a happy life: communicate, live, rejoice, meet new people - each of them will change your life for the better, at least a little.
But the most important thing is that you need to start changing not tomorrow or next week, but right now, at this moment. Do not delay the start of a new life, and then today it will begin to delight you with pleasant surprises.
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We sincerely wish you to be not only beautiful, but also madly loved. After all, this, you see, is much more important!
Accepting your appearance
How do you know if you are beautiful or not? You can ask your friends or objectively evaluate your appearance by looking in the mirror. But it should be understood that recognition of attractiveness is greatly influenced by self-esteem. If a girl is not confident in herself, she will be shy, embarrassed and make an unpleasant impression. Her beauty will not be revealed to a person, and the interlocutor will not be able to understand that a completely attractive person was talking to him. If a self-confident girl does not become embarrassed and blush, she will leave a good opinion of herself. There is no need to be afraid to present yourself worthy to your interlocutor. Confidence in your attractiveness will help you relax, which will be felt and appreciated by your opponent, who will not doubt your charm one bit.
