A little bit of necessary theory
Yes, I can’t live without it. I believe that without theory (= fundamental knowledge) you can’t get anywhere. So here's a fact: Women are less likely than men openly initiate sex with their partners.
Men and women are socialized differently. Girls are taught from childhood that sex is shameful, secret, intimate. Men are more direct in expressing their sexual interest.
In addition, many girls want to see if a man is perceptive enough to see and understand their cues, and if he is confident enough in himself to act in a given direction (i.e., the path to bed).
The difference also lies in the natural hormones that male and female bodies produce. Men are goal-oriented, and their leading hormones, testosterone and adrenaline, make them goal-oriented.
The main female sex hormones - estrogen and oxytocin - force you to focus on emotions and sensations.
The sexual interest of girls is determined by love.
Fortunately, there are special female signals that allow you to recognize that she wants to have sex with you.
Signs that a woman wants a man (in a relationship).
A woman is a complex person whose emotions and gestural message are difficult to define. Rarely does she have the intelligence to put a sentence together so that a man understands that she wants intimacy. Psychology provides clues with which you can understand the signs that a woman wants a man.
Touching intimate places.
We are talking about touching places on a man’s body that are desire stimulants. These are the neck, ears, chest, hips, torso and knees. If she is turned on by these parts of the body, she is not able to control her appetite, so the stronger the attraction, the more often she will touch.
Looking at lips.
How to understand that a woman wants you? Take a look at her gaze and analyze whether it often shifts from her eyes to your lips. If yes, then this is a clear sign of lust, because kissing is a strong stimulant.
Licking and biting your lips.
This could be a provocative request that she is willingly doing, or it could be a knee-jerk reaction to thoughts she is currently having about you. Not only is this seductive, but it's also a pretty good sign that she might be willing to sleep with you if you just ask.
Direct question.
The question of a direct question is sometimes puzzling with its vulgarity, alarming and suggestive of the lady's polygamy, however, it is worth paying attention to the presentation. If she is warm, gentle and calm, you can identify a woman’s feeling as nascent love, but if it is rude, the romance will not last long, and the contact to which a woman is brought together is nothing more than a test of her ability to bring her to the “boiling point” in bed.
Talk about intimacy.
Since many men fail to find out that a woman wants you They don't hesitate to talk about positions, duration and foreplay in order to somehow get through to you. Sometimes a man’s vulgar joke is taken seriously, the woman does not laugh, rather, on the contrary, she says something like this: “Well, don’t talk about it, I can’t stand it anymore!”, “Oh, don’t remind me, it hasn’t happened for six months already!”
Specially worn clothing that provokes male desire.
It would be foolish to believe that women dress ostentatiously because they lack other clothes or because they want to stand out (although the latter is often argued). If they dress like this for a meeting with their chosen one, then this is for him, if for work, for a walk with friends, etc., look for a catch (see Signs of a wife’s betrayal.).
Invitation to visit.
An invitation to your territory for a date or after it is a clear sign that you would like to continue the evening in a more intimate setting without prying eyes. Here it is advisable to assess a woman’s readiness by appearance in order to enter the next phase of the relationship.
A passionate kiss goodbye at the entrance or near the house.
Controversial sign. In youth, such a kiss means that the beauty wants to be satisfied in order to be less bored and “stamp” her attitude towards the guy. But how do you know that a woman wants a man? Ask if anyone is at her home. If she offers to come over for tea without asking questions, she’s ready.
Changing the timbre of your voice to a more sensual one.
The voice is a manipulative instrument and a mirror of feelings. It is difficult not to notice a woman’s intention in a conversation based on the outlines of vibrations. Usually, the voice is included along with other signs, so you should not focus on it.
Whispering in the ear.
The words “I want you!” spoken by a woman can be misinterpreted, the lover may believe that this is a joke, depending on the emotional background of the society or the atmosphere of the date. Whispering will be perceived correctly because the vibrations emanating from the lips are perceived close to the ear. The ear zone is an erogenous zone for most men who do not have an ear for music.
Complaints about a former or current spouse who cannot cope with “bed obligations.”
Since it is extremely difficult to find out whether a woman who has been in a relationship or marriage wants you, she sends open signals to those with whom she would like to get closer. When showing mutual desire, remember the consequences.
Hugging involving genitals.
A well-known and widespread technique in which a woman demonstrates not only affection, but also interest in physical contact with you. In morally healthy societies, these are not signs that a woman wants a man, it is considered open lust.
Compliments about a man's body.
The concept of modesty is alien to choleric and sanguine people, however, they do not shine with the duration of relationships, but they are not averse to raising bilateral self-esteem through one-time contact, so they will use all possible tools to win new hearts, including compliments.
Attractive aroma of perfume.
Along with attractive clothes, most women use perfumes containing pheromones for special occasions. As you know, they combine a complex of products that affect the human brain in such a way as to awaken the desire to get closer. Married women also do not hesitate to use them when the relationship “cools down.” How do you understand that your wife wants intimacy? Listen to your body at the moment when you feel the bright aroma of perfume.
Gestures, gait or accident, in which part of the intimate area becomes slightly visible to male eyes.
This psycho-physical technique is used by women who prefer to conquer their hearts. However, such a situation may turn out to be a mechanism to encourage selfish courtship of a lady. If your relationship lasted some time before this turn of events, and after the “awkwardness” you saw playfulness in a woman’s gaze, the time has come for intimacy.
Unobtrusive message about free weekends.
There are situations when there is no opportunity for privacy, funds do not allow or there is no home ownership (for example, she still lives with her parents). The story about relatives leaving for the dacha on the weekend in this case becomes an open hint of intimacy.
The woman's position is too close.
When meeting someone, every future partner experiences jitters. To weaken it on the eve of an intimate pastime, young people reduce the distance to the minimum where parts of the body touch.
Laughing at men's jokes, even if they are not the wittiest.
Natural signs that a woman wants a man are behavioral. If you are trying to make jokes to make your future partner laugh and win over you, but in your mind you understand that the mood is terrible, you should understand that the lady laughs only because she likes you and she makes you laugh and wins over you. It is more advisable to make jokes in a remote place where you will be alone.
Interest in men's intimate life before meeting a woman.
It is logical that a woman interested in sexual intimacy with a man is puzzled by her health after contact, so she will ask about the number of partners before her. Also be prepared for questions about the presence of contraception with exes and about the last relationship, yes, these are also signs that a woman wants a man. This is asked in order to understand how long you can hold back the “peak of excitement.” The fact is that men who are prone to self-satisfaction are not the best lovers and, on the contrary, long-term restraint provokes a “sudden shot”, which women are not happy about.
The proposal to spend a joint vacation is delayed in response.
If you are thinking about it, most likely, you are considering whether you will be free within the time frame referred to in your proposal. If the pause is too long, ask her about the problems and troubles that need to be resolved in order to free up the date.
This is where the signs that a woman wants a man are over, but don’t rush to leave. Next, I’ll tell you what reasons will contribute to the opposite effect and how to psychologically force your partner to have sex.
How to understand that a girl wants you
Unbuttoned top buttons on a blouse, revealing neckline, looking into the eyes with a wide smile on the face - we have seen all this a hundred times in 18+ films. This also includes a terribly short mini, vulgar stockings peeking out from under a skirt, “accidentally” being squeezed into a narrow space. Yes, it's exciting, but somehow cheap. And it's not interesting.
And modern girls, who have absorbed kilograms of cosmomololityne, will no longer be able to do this, so you need to be a little more attentive to details. Which one? Now I'll tell you.
So, I present to you the TOP 14 signals on how to understand that a girl wants to make love to you.
Signals are false or meaningless
Some nonverbal cues from women can have double meanings. In order not to make a mistake in deciphering and understand in time whether she really wants you, you need to know which of them do not necessarily mean a desire to continue communication in a private setting:
- Staring or dilated pupils. The lady may well be thinking or dreaming about something of her own. Perhaps the guy just has something wrong with his outfit or hairstyle.
- Pose. We shouldn’t rule out the possibility that it’s more comfortable for her to sit this way.
- Intimate topics for conversation. Maintaining such a conversation demonstrates the manners and emancipation of a woman.
- Good mood. This doesn't mean the woman wants a boyfriend. She can perceive him as a friend and interlocutor.
- Sexy dress. It is likely that the lady just wants to look good.
- Stories about separation. A clear sign that the girl is not smart. It is known that this topic is unpleasant for most guys.
- Games with curls. This technique is outdated and is used more as a flirtation rather than to show desire.
- Games with decorations. The young lady may be nervous or shy and try to calm down in this way. Some women fiddle with jewelry when they are bored.
READ The guy says he wants me: how to understand male psychology
She touches you
One of the classic signs of female attraction is overcoming the sensory barrier. Girls are wary of men, so the desire to touch you is a sign that she feels comfortable and good around you.
She may touch you more often than usual. Or act more boldly, touching and lightly running along the thigh, neck, chest. Even more gently - patting the thigh, stroking the back. If you find a girl touching you in your private parts, either accidentally or on purpose, then you are probably a regular guest in her wet dreams!
Don't forget to look into her eyes when she touches you, this will mean that the challenge is accepted and you hear her.
She may also touch the areas described above and mutter, “Oh, sorry!” and smile all the way. This is also a sure sign of sexual arousal.
Yes, you might be interested to know: Which men make women crazy.
Accelerating the convergence process
Even if a man finds out that a girl wants him, it is important for him not to ruin everything after that. Here are some tips from psychologists:
- It is necessary to realize that women love sex. Perhaps even stronger than men. They are able to get much more pleasure.
- Don't be afraid to take the initiative. For a representative of the fair sex, it is extremely important that a man knows how to take responsibility for himself and for the situation. Even if the guy realized that the girl dreams of kissing him, she is still unlikely to take the first step.
- Under no circumstances should you judge a woman or reproach her for her sexual fantasies. It must be remembered that girls often experience fear of not conforming to social stereotypes. They are afraid of ruining their reputation, so they often behave with restraint, hiding intimate desires.
- If a man feels constrained and awkward when talking about frank topics, a woman will also not be able to open up and relax.
Prefers to spend time alone with you
If you haven't known each other for long and the girl is interested in spending time alone with you, then this means that she sees you as more than a friend.
Why?
Girls prefer to spend one-on-one time with those men with whom they feel good, with those to whom they feel sexual attraction. In a non-public place it is much easier to achieve intimacy.
Her initiative can be expressed straightforwardly:
– an invitation to your home for a cup of coffee; - fix some small thing; – set up a “suddenly” broken computer; – try a new dish and give your expert opinion, and so on.
Or it could be something softer, such as questions like “What are you doing tonight?” or “What are your plans for the weekend?”
These are ways in which she communicates that she is available to you at this time and would like to spend it with you.
Favorable conditions for intimacy
If the attraction turns out to be mutual, it is important to prepare suitable conditions for the first sex. Often, the further development of a couple’s relationship depends on how the first intimacy went.
If the guy lives alone, then it is appropriate to bring the girl to his home. This will allow him to feel more confident and comfortable, because he will be on his own territory. If, of course, the home does not create a positive impression, you should consider some other options. For example, you can try to ask to visit a woman.
You should not do this too actively, as such behavior can repel the weaker sex. If the girl herself does not take the initiative, most likely she will have to look for another shelter. There is no need to put pressure on a woman and force her to justify herself, because she is not to blame for anything. If she doesn't show enthusiasm, it means she has some reasons for it. Trying to figure them out at any cost would be the height of tactlessness.
You may have to rent a hotel room or apartment. If finances allow, then it is better to give preference to a good hotel. When trying to find a suitable place for a date, a man should make sure that the area is good. A beautiful view from the window will provide additional benefits.
As for sex on the street, everyone has their own thoughts on this matter. If such a pastime is acceptable for both, if you have a penchant for adventure, you should definitely take a risk. An adventure like this can leave unique memories that will last a lifetime. If a woman considers such behavior immoral, it is better to refuse experiments. In any case, it is recommended to choose more comfortable conditions for the first time.
If a guy realizes that a girl wants him, but at the same time he himself does not want to sleep with her, he should gently refuse so as not to offend the person. Most likely, if a man found himself in a similar situation, he would not want to face rudeness and rudeness. It can be explained that there is no feeling of readiness for sex yet.
The story that you recently had to break up with your loved one will help soften the refusal , and the pain has not yet passed, but it is not yet possible to rebuild. Under no circumstances should you undermine the self-esteem of a girl who wants sex. The emphasis should be placed on the fact that the reason is not in her, but in the man himself.
She dresses up in something special
Of course, if vulgarity is your girl’s usual style, then you can skip this point. But most modern young women dress modestly and stylishly. It’s not difficult to see the subtle details of the “bait” if you know them. These may not be so familiar to her:
– clothes with lace details (skirt hem, blouse collar, dress); – special makeup, with an emphasis on the eyes or lips (a little brighter than usual); – loose hair with which she plays; – feminine silhouettes in clothes (flying, airy dresses a la a little girl, a narrow waist emphasized by a belt, tight-fitting clothes that show off your figure); – jewelry around the neck, including bright scarves (draw attention to the chest).
Playing with yourself.
Notice how she plays with herself.
I know what you're thinking. No, that's not what I mean. Rate it like a girl:
- plays with his hair;
- strokes himself;
- straightens his clothes.
She does all this to get your attention.
If she has beautiful legs, she will touch them. If she has beautiful breasts, she will adjust something around them. And you will look there and notice that your underpants are becoming tight, and your jaw has already dropped.
Wants to please you
Yes, yes, in every sense of the word. But for now she’s only trying to please you with something small - treat you, cook your favorite dish, give an easy gift, perfume yourself with your favorite scent, wear that dress in which you once praised her, buy tickets to the movie you were talking about.
A woman won’t just take care of a man and do nice things for him. This is her way of showing you that you are special to her. You are her man and she views you as a serious partner. Including for bed.
And laughter and sin
Not a single young (or not so young) lady will even smile at the joke of a gentleman she does not need. But any refined nature will burst into laughter at the absurd, perhaps even stupid, phrases of her lover. This is psychology that works unconsciously. Ladies do not always understand that they laugh because they want to be liked, and not because the joke is funny or the story is entertaining. Thus, they attract representatives of the opposite sex. Coquetry is very easy to recognize.
Anyone would hate a depressed, angry, and sad person. Even if you are strongly impressed by a person, when communicating, this will more likely push you away than bring you closer. Therefore, if a beautiful lady giggles endlessly with you, then you can be sure that you are on the right path to a relationship! Embarrassment is also easily recognized. If you feel shy or embarrassed (for example, when you have lunch together), then most likely she is afraid of seeming imperfect.
“Guides” your hand
You touched her knee, and she put her hand on top, intertwined her fingers and began to guide it higher. Or also from the waist to the chest.
Although, this may be less explicit - for example, you stroke her hand, and she again places her palm on top and follows it off.
In general, this means that she also wants to caress you in return , but not in this setting. For now, he can only afford to hint in this way.
By behavior
If a man is attractive to a woman, then she will flirt with him, smile, and demonstrate her interest in communication. When a girl wants sex, these signs are added to:
- Desire for tactile contact. A woman will not miss the opportunity to touch the interlocutor’s hair, arms, shoulders, and will try to reduce the physical distance during the conversation.
- Deep and rapid breathing, dilated pupils.
- Redness of the face and other manifestations of excitement. Psychologists have noticed that when communicating with people they like, interlocutors more often show signs of mild nervousness.
- Overtly sexual behavior by a girl, such as playing with her own hair.
How to respond to a girl who wants to have sex with you
If you are interested
If she is interested and you are interested, congratulations! This is a dream scenario.
Then your job is to make it clear that you reciprocate her interest. Pay great attention to what she says, give a compliment ( But not parts of her body! – Read more about how to compliment a girl) and gently touch her arms or shoulders.
Look into her eyes long and hard and wait, now it’s her turn.
If you are interested in having a sexual relationship with a girl, then your job as a man is to reciprocate in a gentlemanly manner, increase interaction and initiate forward movement.
If she touches you back, pet her (not nice). If she bites her lip, lean in and kiss her. Well, further according to the script.
Facial expressions.
If you want to understand what a woman wants, look at her, not listen.
Women communicate nonverbally. Notice how she:
- bites lips;
- plays with eyebrows;
- shoots eyes;
- smiles sweetly - these are signs of her interest.
Don't pay attention to her words to understand whether she wants you or not. Look at her behavior. If a girl wants you, she will say everything with her body, gestures and eyes. A woman won’t come up and tell you straight up: “Let’s go fuck.”
Secrets of the physiology of the weaker sex
There are two separate groups of signs of arousal in a girl. The first group includes signs that can be seen, the second group that can be felt. Very often, girls try in every possible way to hide their interest in a man. But not all body reactions can be so easily controlled. Don’t worry, because body language will tell you what feelings the girl has for you and indicate all her desires.
It is also very important to consider the importance of foreplay in this matter. She will help the girl tune in to the right wave, so that she can then achieve maximum pleasure. Of course, there are some exceptions, when passion completely covers every cell of the body in a matter of minutes. But we must be frank: this happens very rarely.
Wants to play
It doesn’t matter at all what game the girl wants to play. The main point is the desire to play, which is never so innocent. And the man also understands what such games lead to.
With the help of such actions you can guess the girl’s desire. You don’t need to be a psychic for this, just pay more attention to details when communicating with a lady. If a woman clearly wants sex, she will definitely find a way to tell you this. Moreover, the man will still believe that it was he who initiated the love affairs.
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Do girls want sex?
There is no doubt about this issue, since many girls love sex. It's just that not each of them is able to openly declare this for their own reasons . It should also be noted that if the partner does not bring the necessary satisfaction, then the girl herself, for example, has to fake an orgasm. In this case, there is a high probability that she will simply avoid intimacy with such a person. But such a fact will not mean at all that a woman does not like sex.
How often does desire occur?
In general, everything will directly depend on the woman’s arousal level and her character traits. Particularly temperamental people can have sexual intercourse with their loved one several times a day. In general, if a girl is not naturally loving, unlike a man, then you can easily solve this problem if you learn how to properly excite your partner.
Some guys demand regular sexual contact from a girl, without thinking that their desires may not coincide. If you really want to continue to stay with this particular girl, then you must definitely study her character and tastes and understand what exactly can excite her and awaken desire in her. Otherwise, misunderstanding and alienation may arise in the relationship of such a couple.
Age for sex
According to many experts, the flowering of female sexuality begins from the age of thirty to about forty. For many, this process lasts much longer - it mainly depends on the man who is nearby. Although, of course, there are girls who even at the age of twenty show a high level of temperament, this phenomenon is not very common. Often in their twenties, they not only begin to discover the merits of being sexually active, but also understand what it is they like about sex and what they don’t. A clear awareness of preferences in intimate life is fully formed by the age of thirty.
