Suffering: concept, psychodiagnostic signs, its legal assessment

It is common for all people to want something, to strive for something, to make certain plans.
It’s great if everything works out, but this doesn’t always happen, alas. In moments of failure, disappointment comes, we give up, and we involuntarily begin to suffer. None of us are immune from mistakes or losses. It is important to understand what suffering leads to and learn how to quickly restore peace of mind. From this article you will learn:

What is suffering
What are the main causes of suffering
The dangers of constant suffering
Is it true that women suffer more than men?
How to get rid of suffering

What is suffering?

In essence, suffering is an emotional state of a person in which psychological discomfort is combined with unpleasant thoughts and sensations or with physical pain.

This state is exactly the opposite of the feeling of happiness. Suffering can be physical, with real pain, and mental, with negative mental and energy surges and emissions. This condition can manifest itself in the form of physical or emotional pain, tears, and nervous depression. But we will dwell in more detail on emotional suffering.

In addition to suffering, researchers of the psycho-emotional state of people identify:

despondency, which has a less actively expressed emotional connotation;
grief, which combines despondency and suffering, and is a reaction to loss;
depression, which is a whole complex of emotions, including suffering.

The presence of an internal unresolved problem, unfulfilled desires, a feeling of internal pain or anxiety that cannot be gotten rid of for a long time - all this can cause suffering.

Main Causes of Suffering

Without apparent reasons, suffering does not arise on its own. It is not common for a normal person to torture himself needlessly. Suffering becomes a consequence of certain circumstances of our life, a psycho-emotional reaction to what is happening.

Unfulfilled hopes.
Our inner beliefs and expectations are not always consistent with reality. Each of us sees our own meaning in current events. It is he who moves us, leads us forward, forces us to develop. Another person cannot know what you want and expect from him, because he has his own meaning in life - maybe even the exact opposite. By making claims to a loved one that he considers creativity to be a priority rather than family, we will inevitably provoke a conflict.

Unjustified expectations give rise to all kinds of suffering. When we don't receive the attention we want, we may decide that we have been forgotten or are being deliberately ignored to demonstrate our attitude. It doesn’t even occur to us that it is completely absurd to be offended in such a situation, because each of us has our own priorities and values.
The unattainability of the ideal.
Creating an ideal image for yourself and trying to bend reality to it often leads to disappointment, apathy and a lack of desire to act further. A period of suffering begins. Mental pain blocks all attempts to find some meaningful meaning in what is happening. The fact that we are focused on a fictitious ideal prevents us from simply enjoying life, making plans and being ourselves. This invariably leads to suffering.
Resentment.
Under the influence of unjustified expectations, a feeling of resentment is also formed. A person who does not get the desired result from interacting with someone loses his mood and develops a feeling of resentment.

It seems to him that the one he hoped for betrayed and violated all his plans. In reality, the opponent did not even know what exactly was expected of him and acted in his own interests. But the feeling of resentment that has settled in the soul begins its destructive effect, not giving a person the opportunity to find meaning in what happened, and turning him against the opponent. What does this kind of suffering lead to? Lack of mood, frequent tears, general emotional distress.

Suffering

Suffering occurs in the life of every person, from his birth to his death.
A person encounters suffering in every area of his life, and where he does not expect to see it, he dooms himself to suffer from disappointment. There is no place in life where a person does not suffer, even satisfying all his desires and dreams, a person begins to suffer from boredom and lack of purpose in life. The poor suffer from having little money, and the rich suffer from having to protect their money. Rulers suffer from their power, which they have to maintain by fighting with others, and a powerless person suffers from his lack of rights. A lonely person suffers from loneliness, and a person in a relationship suffers from his relationships. Any object can bring suffering either due to its absence or due to its presence. One way or another, it will cause suffering and anxiety, forcing a person to devote his life to either achieving something or not losing it. Despite the fact that it’s impossible not to lose something completely.

One way or another, everyone suffers, and getting rid of suffering is one of the most serious goals in human life, the fight against which is unsuccessful. After all, it would seem that the standard of living has improved a hundredfold, and you no longer have to die from disease and hunger, but people still suffer. This is the nature of the human mind, and no matter how well or poorly a person lives, he will suffer approximately the same until he finds a source of happiness that does not depend on circumstances.

Is it true that women suffer more often and more severely than men?

Have you ever thought that women suffer much more often than men? Observing a man and a woman who find themselves in the same situation, you clearly see that men, starting from childhood, endure everything more easily.

For girls at school, the first two grades bring suffering. The boys, having stuffed diaries with three “couples” into their briefcases, play football carefree.
Tightly braided braids make girls suffer, but boys enjoy pulling them.
The suffering of girls is associated with menstruation, which is completely unfamiliar to boys.
While jogging in physical training, my growing breasts hurt a lot.
Heavy earrings weigh down your ears. High heels, in addition to beauty, also cause pain in the legs.
The fashion for models with a low waistline in the cold brings inflammation of the kidneys and ovaries.
The boys manage to remain calm when preparing for exams; they do not rack their brains about what to wear to the prom.

They are not worried about the global question of whether family or career is priority. They do not need to pause their career growth for 1.5 - 3 years in order to get pregnant, give birth and raise a child.
Men will never feel despair over torn tights, small breasts, problem skin, a broken nail or unsculpted legs. These small troubles lead to suffering for women.
Unrequited love and first sex in life bring suffering. Women themselves choose men who are unworthy of them. She will suffer, spending her life on an alcoholic, drug addict and parasite, not understanding what suffering leads to, without trying to get rid of it. Such a husband is like a “suitcase without a handle” for her - it’s of no use, and it’s a pity to throw it away. So he feels sorry for his tormentor instead of just enjoying life.
Abortions and miscarriages bring severe physical and mental pain. Pregnancy requires enormous mental strength. Toxicosis, worries and fears of giving birth to a defective child, and the threat of miscarriage lead to suffering. And women's pain during childbirth is completely beyond description.

But this most important step in a woman’s life does not relieve her of suffering, but adds to it. Despite the unbearable postpartum pain, the woman takes care of her newborn baby.
After leaving the maternity hospital, a woman experiences new suffering associated with sleepless nights, childhood illnesses, trips to the clinic and household chores: cleaning, cooking, washing and ironing. The endless routine of the same type of tasks bogs her down so much that she does not notice how she has gained weight, stopped taking care of herself, and began to pay less attention to her husband.

This is only part of the female suffering that almost every woman experiences. But not everyone understands what suffering leads to and how to help a woman carefree enjoy motherhood and other life events.

While some of the suffering on this list cannot be cancelled, you can learn not to add additional sources of suffering to yourself, knowing what they lead to.

Fashion myths

Suffering is often associated with guilt. Any trifle torments you with internal torment. For example, a child could not become a great musician - objectively there was no ability for this. But even after many years, the mother accuses her child of laziness and irresponsibility. And the sufferer feels strong guilt - it literally destroys him.

But there may also be a very sophisticated reason why a person gets used to suffering. The ability to endure pain is surrounded in society with a heroic aura. To say about a person that he is patient is almost an exquisite compliment. And what can we say about congratulations on birthdays and holidays, when they openly say: “I wish you patience, patience and patience!” It is very dangerous. An adult can at least have critical thinking, but not always. What can we say about children!

Alas, there is also an opinion that suffering supposedly ennobles, makes a person kinder and more moral. Well, not always. This can only be true of great saints. But an ordinary person becomes embittered and stops believing in goodness. And this turns into a ruined life. Or it pushes you to destructive actions, for which you are tormented by remorse, which brings new torment.

Wilhelm Amberg, “Reading Goethe’s novel “The Sorrows of Young Werther,” 1870. Photo: gallerix.ru

The dangers of constant suffering

Each of us experiences negative life situations, but not everyone knows what suffering leads to. If there are too many of them in a person’s life, then they devastate the soul, deprive them of strength and self-confidence. The biggest blow falls on the nervous system, causing a sharp change in mood. A person becomes vulnerable and even uncontrollable, his life is filled with negative thoughts, images and ideas. His will is suppressed, the person cannot express himself positively and act openly. Suffering drowns out all aspirations, dulling the desire to achieve something in life, set a goal and make it a reality.

Suffering changes our brains. Intuitively, we all understand what suffering leads to. Long-term experiences are deeply imprinted on our brains and inevitably change our personality. A good example would be children who are subject to misunderstanding and bullying. This has a devastating effect on their psyche and personality formation. Doctors and psychiatrists are confident that the psychological state of such children is close to that of a soldier in battle.

They constantly experience fear, anxiety, sadness, which is clearly reflected in the brain. Due to the release of neurotransmitters, the amygdala or insula, that is, those parts of the brain that are responsible for fear and pain, are stimulated. This leads to personality changes, in particular, to mistrust, outbursts of anger, a tendency to depression and violence.

There is no doubt that not everyone is subject to such personal changes, but the likelihood of them is high. An unhappy family life ultimately leads both spouses to depression, frustration and outbursts of anger.

You should not endure either physical or mental pain. Suffering can lead to unpredictable consequences: severe depression or even suicidal behavior.

Everyone knows what suffering, hiding mental pain and serious experiences lead to. People who choose silent and quiet suffering are one step away from frenzy and despair. This behavior can lead to physical illness. Problems need to be solved, they need to be shared. You shouldn’t joke about your state of mind and nerves.

Some tips on how to stop suffering

Each of us is free to choose our own path and how to go through it. Some people like victory, others like suffering. Anyone who chooses weak-willed suffering will always feel like a victim. It's his choice. Many of us know firsthand what suffering leads to. Certain rules will help overcome or reduce their negative impact on a person’s physical and mental state.

Pursue the ideal.
At the moment when you are overwhelmed by suffering and dissatisfaction with your life, try to mentally imagine yourself as you would like to be: successful, beautiful, smart, open, positive and sociable. Behave as this ideal character would behave. At first, take everything as a game, but very quickly you will get used to your new role, imbued with its positive attitude, filling your soul with healthy ambitions and happiness.
Think about the future.
You shouldn’t evaluate your real self and focus on the negative. Try to imagine yourself as you can become in the future. Strive for this goal without fear of losing yourself, adjust your character and behavior. Often imagine yourself as you want to see yourself.
Love yourself.
Try to love yourself not for some qualities, but simply for what you are. Do not cause yourself unnecessary pain, remove all negativity from yourself. Knowing what suffering leads to, try to get rid of it, filling your life with bright and joyful events.
Do breathing exercises.
Breathing exercises will become your devoted friend and assistant, especially in those moments when positive energy declines and some events lead to apathy and suffering.

By breathing calmly and deeply, you can distract your thoughts from annoying problems. Concentrate on your breathing. Feel how your body is filled with strength and your soul with positivity. The mood lifts, the world around becomes beautiful and harmonious again.
Turn on your willpower.
Your inner strength should protect you from suffering and adversity. Forbid yourself from complaining about life, worrying about trifles and problems that are visible only to you. Direct all your efforts towards self-improvement. Happiness requires effort, patience and a little time. Even if a period of inspiration passes, do not give up or despair. Gather your will into a fist, drive away suffering and continue to take care of yourself. Believe me, the results will not take long to arrive!
Make a plan.
Making a plan will help you make the right changes in your life and find answers to important questions.

Ask yourself what you want from life, what people are important to you, what you need to do to get what you want, what you want to be, etc. Take paper and pen, divide the sheet into two parts. On the right side write all your ideas and desires, on the left - the actions necessary to implement your plans. Try to enter all your wishes and immediately begin to perform the actions from the left side of the table in order.

Suffering. Two sides of the same coin

In our society it is common to suffer. Everyone suffers. From loneliness, from relationships, having children, not having children. We don’t know what to do - we suffer, there is too much to do - we suffer. They say we don’t have our own national idea. Lies. Suffering is our idea.

It seems that suffering is embedded in our “genetic code.” Is it so? Let's check. Let's start by defining the term suffering. There are many definitions. I like this:

“Suffering is feelings, the emotional state of a person in the form of negative experiences that arise under the influence of events that traumatize his psyche, deeply affecting his personal structures, mood, well-being, and health.”

The main thesis of this definition: suffering is the feelings that we experience. The question arises: What maintains these feelings that cause suffering?

If we do not question the sincerity and severity of the suffering experienced, then the main physiological function of this complex of emotions is to inform a person about the adverse impact on him of certain aggressive environmental factors or his own conclusions (!).

That is, “normally,” when we suffer, we send a signal to ourselves about self-destruction and then, in theory, our instinct of self-preservation should be activated and we should limit/reduce/stop our suffering. Why isn't this happening? I offer 5 answer options for your choice.

1. Suffering can be a way to reduce internal tension

The fact is that in some cases suffering is cyclical. A certain category of people accumulates negativity (any kind, not differentiated) in parts, increasing its concentration to a threshold value and then reflexively processes it, releasing it through suffering. This cycle then repeats.

2. Suffering can be a way of communication.

A very common form of interaction in a disharmonious partnership. In the normal state, communication here is formalized, distant and not emotional. When one of the partners begins to suffer, a reason, field and “benefit” for communication appears.

3. Suffering can be a way of subconscious manipulation

Most people perceive the suffering of others with pity and a desire to help. An effect of compassion arises, which very often manifests itself in satisfying the non-verbal request of the sufferer.

4. Suffering can be a way of structuring life.

Another configuration of suffering that allows you to fill the emptiness and lack of purpose in your own life for a very long period of time. Such a self-destructive way (I say this without sarcasm or evil irony) of living life over time turns into a “harmonious” I - concept.

There are only three main types of Self - concepts that are based on suffering as a Process and meaning at the same time:

1. Existential concept - suffering as a response to the surrounding reality

I am the sufferer

I am sacrificing myself to the world

I'm waiting for all this to end...

2. Concept “Family Feat”

I live for you

I endure for the sake of the Family (you, children, etc.)

3. The concept of life collapse “Everything is Lost”

Nothing can be changed

It will only get worse

I don't see any point in changing anything

5. Suffering as a way to meet the expectations of others
Society supports and encourages suffering. Because it’s easier to manage and ensure stability. The thesis that a person is weak makes society “strong”. Everyone willingly takes advantage of this - both “saviors” and “victims”. Most of the world's religions are also built on the need for suffering. Let us remember the well-known folk wisdom: “Christ endured and commanded us.” Secular society stands on the same positions: “Do you want to be happy? Learn to suffer first” (I. S. Turgenev) or “Suffering leads to perfection” (A. P. Chekhov) One way or another, suffering has long become a universal, socially approved payment for change. And we pay, but do we change?

Transformation of suffering

All five types of suffering that were described above have one thing in common.

They have ceased to be just a process of feeling, but have become a form of interaction between a person and the external environment, society. And if we really call a spade a spade - an irrational mechanism of psychological defense.

The idea that suffering can be profitable is not new. Below are the main assumptions why people choose suffering:

1. Fear of change

2. Unknown future

3. Low level of responsibility

4. Public opinion, etc.

Earnestly? In my opinion, not very much. Let us, as an example, analyze the suffering that is maintained by the fear of change.

In order to make sure that not everyone suffers due to fear of change, let us turn to the typology.

Retrogrades don't suffer, they just don't want change and don't change.

Manipulators can also remain unchanged throughout their lives and feel great.

Conformists generally interpret the concept of change exclusively from a situational point of view.

Realists - may not want change now or change selectively.

Do these people feel fear?
I think that to one degree or another, yes, but none of them suffer. Suffering is the lot of a specific category of people.

It is believed that the following specific factors underlie the predisposition to suffering:

1. The effect of distorted self-perception

The sufferer perceives himself in life as a kind of target at which “everyone and everything” is aimed. But instead of asking yourself the question: “What needs to be done to change the current state of affairs?” - he/she asks another question: “Why is this happening to me?”, causing reflection and continuation of suffering. By initiating feelings of guilt, the sufferer blocks his own need for change.

Paradoxical but true - most sufferers are self-centered. And don’t let it bother you that the sufferer is suffering for someone or something, let’s look deeper. A suffering person satisfies his (and only his!) needs. The question is - what are these needs?

The basic basic needs of the sufferer are presented below:

Self-actualization - I suffer - that means I exist (no comments)

Self-presentation - I suffer and completely surrender to this “intimate” process. (It is difficult for us to admit that suffering is a universal phenomenon that has general patterns, stages and methods of resolution/deliverance)

Self-regulation - now I’ll suffer, I’ll get tired of suffering, I’ll forget and it will become easier (for the category of people who are “suffering”, suffering does bring short-term relief, but since there are no qualitative changes in mentality, such “respites” are always temporary)

Self-satisfaction is obtaining specific satisfaction from negative and sometimes clearly destructive experiences. (At first glance, it looks like masochism, but the basis is the effect of martyrdom, which is characterized by receiving satisfaction not from pain, which is already enough in suffering, but from the firmness of faith in suffering as the meaning of life)

2. Denial of the principle of effort
The essence of this phenomenon lies in the dual nature of suffering itself, as a psychological phenomenon.

In order to stop suffering, you need to make an effort, that is, increase the degree of suffering at least for a while! The egocentrically altered consciousness of the sufferer is not capable of allowing such a turn under any circumstances. He is already suffering, much worse...

In fairness, we must admit that there is a directly opposite approach to liberation from suffering and it is called the “method of paradoxical intention.”

This method was developed by V. Frankl back in 1929, officially published in 1947. The essence of the method (in relation to suffering) is that the sufferer forces himself to suffer 100, 1000, 10,000 times more intensely than he does now and preferably without break. The paradox of the method will lie in the fact that the more a person forces (namely forcefully) himself to suffer, the faster this intention will begin to decrease and disappear. This is achieved by “distancing” oneself from the “suffering oneself.”

3. Inner monologue

An integral part of a suffering person. The content of the monologue can be very different; for you and me, the location of the action of this monologue is fundamentally important. Almost always it is either the past or the future. Why not real? Very simple. Read the statement out loud: “I feel bad right now.” Do you feel it? Is there something wrong. Our consciousness requires clarification and evidence. What is wrong? What's happening? What can be done to make it better? “Now” requires inclusion in the real life context of today. Inclusion involves a different level of activity and, ultimately, the emergence of CHOICE. A suffering person denies choice, or rather, he denies choices (Because he has already chosen suffering).

It turns out that suffering is a tool of self-destruction and then (by this logic) we need to always refuse, avoid or block it? Drug addicts, gambling addicts, alcoholics and other “addicted” people do this. For everyone else, a fundamentally different vision is open:

Suffering as a tool to achieve goals

Please take your time to read the two quotes below.

“A person can endure the most difficult trials if he sees meaning in them. The whole difficulty lies in creating this meaning... The feeling of the expanding meaning of existence takes a person beyond the limits of ordinary acquisition and consumption. If he loses this meaning, then he immediately becomes pitiful and lost.” Carl Gustav Jung "Archetype and Symbol"

Suffering is the mysterious self-healing of a person, his body and soul: it is he himself who fights for the renewal of the internal structure and harmony of his life, he works on his transformation... Deliverance has already begun, it is already in progress; and a person must listen to this mysterious process, adapt to it, contribute to it. One could say: “Man, help your suffering so that it correctly solves its problem. For it can only stop when it copes with its task and reaches its goal”... Ivan Ilyin “The Singing Heart. Book of Quiet Contemplations"

Will it turn out that suffering has meaning when it has meaning?

In the history of mankind, the meaning of suffering has always been quite diverse and the emphasis regularly shifts from one imperative to another. Let's do a little experiment: after each word in the column, simply insert “... Through suffering.”

Redemption

Cleansing

Back to the roots)

Humility

Epiphany

Elevation…

So how? We see that the meaning of suffering is, in one way or another, always associated with spiritual growth. I have nothing against it, but in society this spiritual growth cannot but be localized in the realities of everyday life, that is, at the level of new behavior. Conscious behavior.

It seems like this triad emerges: suffering - awareness - change. Let's look at the diagram

The diagram shows the transformation of suffering into change through awareness under the influence of a group of factors. Let's try to analyze each of these factors in detail.

Factor 1 Loss

I believe that it is loss (as a basic element of suffering) that activates the process of awareness and no matter what a person has lost: feelings, ability, himself or another person - it is loss that stimulates the strongest emotional response in his soul. The loss divides the life of this person, as it were, into two parts - into what was before and into what is now. An intrapersonal conflict arises between the desire to preserve what was (but with a different degree of significance and value) and the inability to do this. Against this background, there is an awareness of the emergence of a new coordinate system and oneself in this system

Factor 2 Insight

I am close to the thesis that awareness is accompanied by a certain insight. I assume that this insight is more a complex of emotions and thoughts than some kind of mono reaction. My experience of working with clients who have experienced suffering allows me to divide the phenomenon of insight into the following types:

new understanding of yourself

new understanding of the departed person

a new understanding of the value of a particular feeling

new understanding of an event or life in general

Naturally, the most common is a mix of all three subtypes.
Be that as it may, insight brings something qualitatively new into a person’s life. Factor 3 Impulse

It is interesting that this qualitatively new state, which carries insight, has not only informational, but also energy components. The combination of information and energy in the human mind forms the need for action, which is realized in the form of a primary impulse. The man comes to life.

The changes that have occurred/are occurring in a person draw a line under past suffering.

In conclusion, some practical advice:

1. Do you feel guilty and does it torment you? Seek professional psychological help. Your feeling of guilt and “atonement” for guilt are completely different things. Guilt can destroy you, but redemption should and can create something new out of you, more valuable to yourself and others.

2. Are you suffering and can’t stop? Seek professional psychological help.

Your suffering is not:

a sign of weakness
delusion
mistake

Suffering is a special state of your soul; it is natural and natural. Help in suffering is not only consolation. The main task of your work with a psychologist is to help you find meaning and support in order to move on with your life. For all our uniqueness, suffering is an integral part of us and the quality of our life depends on how we go through it. And not only ours.

Take care of yourself and your loved ones.

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A little about the benefits of suffering

What does suffering lead to? Most often it leads to the destruction of the usual way of life, loss of mood and reluctance to change anything. That is why you need to get rid of them as soon as possible. But every coin has two sides. Suffering, which robs us of self-confidence and strength, can sometimes be useful and cleansing. Psychologists are confident that there is still some benefit from suffering. Which?

Character is built through suffering.

People are not born strong and strong-willed. Only difficulties that bring suffering and correct victory over them strengthen a person’s character and his will.

Suffering teaches you to empathize.

The suffering experienced makes a person better understand other people's points of view, complex human emotions, evaluate art differently, react sentimentally to sad films and other things.

Fighting suffering makes us stronger.

Understanding what suffering leads to, we try to get rid of negative thoughts and everything that causes us pain. Over time, we harden, become more resilient, experienced and calm. We can no longer be led astray by expressions: “Don’t you think you’re living wrong?”

Beyond suffering, perspectives open up.

People fully understand the importance of what they have only when they lose it. That’s when all the pleasant little things in life that were no longer noticed are truly appreciated. Having experienced something bad, you want to hug all the good things to yourself and not miss a drop. But the most important thing that suffering teaches is the realization that there is always hope. The main thing is not to give up.

Suffering brings us down to earth.

Even the most intelligent, cunning and dexterous person is knocked down by suffering for the first time. Sometimes people forget that they are just people and the universe does not live according to their laws. Suffering helps us realize this fully and draw the necessary conclusions.

About self-development and the difficulties of this process:

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Why does a person need suffering?

Suffering is necessary for a person at least so that he does not get too attached, get involved, fantasize and engage in other mental activities. A world without suffering is a mythical world of sentimental, weak and infantile people who are only capable of enjoying life. A kind of densely populated Eden. But in such living conditions, a person cannot show his humanity, he cannot express free will because potentially, it can bring suffering to another. Therefore, such a world is possible only with the complete destruction of freedom and the desire for freedom. But as long as a person has the desire to act based on his own will, there will be no Eden.

And this is a normal phenomenon, to strive for an ideal utopian world, where every person is happy and no one suffers - this is a child’s view of the world. Suffering does not live in the world, it lives in the human heart. They live in vices: in envy, anger, greed, pride, lust, vanity, rudeness and other qualities from which, first of all, the person himself suffers. It is impossible to simply build a place where people do not suffer, because the source of people's suffering is their hearts.

You cannot escape from suffering, and if you try, there will be even more suffering. Man is not designed to not experience suffering at all. This is even biomechanically written into the brain. Receptors responsible for both stress and happiness become less sensitive when exposed to neurotransmitters frequently and more sensitive when exposed to them infrequently. Thus, a person who is constantly in stressful situations develops resistance to stress and becomes less susceptible to it, and a person who rarely experiences happiness becomes more sensitive to happiness itself.

Man tends to run away from his problems, stress and important decisions and strive for happiness and pleasure. This approach, based on knowledge of human nature, guarantees a person a lot of suffering and a little happiness. In fact, giving up happiness gives a person the opportunity to be happy, and calmly facing one's suffering allows one not to experience suffering. Knowing this, a person can be happy if he acts in a certain way, but in order to acquire this knowledge, a person needs to suffer. Thus, a person needs suffering in order to remain human and not turn into an animal.

If you give a person everything he needs to live, his development will stop, he will become dependent and incapable of independent achievements. Is such a form of life worthy to be called the Crown of creation - Man?

A real incident from history. On one of the islands of Polynesia, the Spaniards discovered an island abundantly covered with trees, which, due to certain climatic and other circumstances, produced an incredibly rich harvest and were very accessible, that is, low. Of course, people lived on this island, but they didn’t look like people. These were short, semi-animals that did not have a single sign of civilization. They did not know how to write, speak, build or work. All they did was eat, because they had no need to work. When someone talks about building an ideal society in which no one will work, remember this story and what it can lead to.

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So, suffering makes a person human. The most powerful civilizations were formed in the harshest conditions. This also indicates that suffering is necessary for humanity and man, in particular, for his progress and development. A person suffers - a person looks for a way to get rid of suffering - a person becomes better. Thus, if we did not suffer from diseases, we would not know anything about the structure of the human body. If we did not suffer from cold, rain or heat, we would not have houses. If we did not suffer from the need to compete with other people, we would not have the best specialists in all fields, as well as the means of production that give us some of the best technological inventions in the world. For example, the Internet.

Thus, suffering for a person is a huge incentive for progress and life in general. A person would not work if he were not afraid to suffer. For the same reason, he would not have developed, would not have accomplished feats, would not have saved others, and would not have done a bunch of things that make a person human. A person’s suffering for others, for the world, for an idea is one of the main motives of creativity, and we owe a huge number of works of art to it.

Suffering, a person turns away from material wealth and turns to spiritual ones, which brings a person closer to God and the Absolute Truth. It is a rare person who turns to heaven when he feels good. But fear, suffering or unbearable desires are the main reason to return to God. Thus, suffering also leads a person to spiritual good, giving him the opportunity to feel like a soul and not a body.

In suffering, a person shows his worst and best qualities. It is in moments of despair that a person is ready to either show his resilience or break down, lacking inner strength. Suffering is a natural trial that always accompanies a person. The punishment for exposure to suffering is suffering itself, and the reward for overcoming it is fame, power, wealth and happiness. Everything a person strives for lies through overcoming his suffering and fears.

Suffering is an indicator of human dignity. Depending on how a person behaves in times of trouble will determine his character, because it is difficult to judge a person by how he behaves in prosperous times. Any serious disaster or difficulty can affect any person. Yesterday's friend can become an enemy only because the suffering that friendship promises him will be stronger than the suffering that a breakup promises him. Such unworthy behavior is very severely punished from the point of view of fate, if only by the fact that a person loses willpower and will always be forced to choose only the easiest, and, therefore, the lowest paths, which will only lead him to great suffering.