Every person has different fears. What should you do if you are afraid to find yourself in a dark room or suddenly hear a sharp, piercing sound? In order to resist this unexpectedly surging feeling, which causes outbursts of negative emotions, without consequences, you need to try to understand its nature.
Fears are the affective emotions that arise in a person in anticipation of a threat to his well-being or even existence. They are associated with the instinct of self-preservation and are often expressed in the form of a protective reflex. In frightened people, some physiological changes can be observed in the processes occurring in the higher parts of the central nervous system, including thinking and consciousness.
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How can adults not be afraid of the dentist?
All people are afraid of pain to some extent. So, when we think about going to the dentist, we remember how in childhood we had our teeth drilled and this caused significant discomfort. But fear of the dentist can lead to more serious consequences, namely intolerable pain. If you get caries or some kind of pulpitis. The cheek will swell, and the pain will be uncontrollable and you will still have to go to the dentist.
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So just stop and think that if you need to go to the dentist, you will still have to go sooner or later. If you go now, everything will go smoothly, with a minimum of pain and cheaper. If you start the development of tooth decay, you will have to suffer more and pay much more money. And the painkillers are good now, so you won’t feel anything. Or are you afraid of spending a lot of money on the dentist?
Complete rest
How does a modern person relax after a hard working day? Most often, he devotes no more than 5-6 hours to sleep, while at least 8 hours are necessary for health. In addition, the noise of the city bustle and highways does not allow you to fully restore your strength, and pressing problems do not allow you to relax and fall into a deep, sound sleep. In recent years, there has been a significant increase in various disorders of the nervous system - people more often began to suffer from insomnia, insomia, and postsomic disorders (a feeling of weakness and fatigue after rest). Of course, the lack of proper rest contributes to the development of irritability and excessive emotionality. How to become calm and balanced if you have trouble sleeping? Here are some effective recommendations:
- You shouldn’t watch TV or surf the Internet right before bed; it’s better to read a book;
- drink tea with mint and honey - this is a tasty and healthy drink, which also helps to cope with irritation and nervousness;
- take a hot bath with the herbs of sage, lemon balm, oregano, chamomile - such a pleasant procedure will not only relieve fatigue, but also calm the nervous system, set the body up for the upcoming rest;
- It is recommended to avoid drinking strong tea and coffee;
- Don’t forget about a daily walk in the park - fresh air will refresh you, and the picturesque landscape will calm you down.
How not to be afraid of death?
Fear of death is the most common fear among people. But rather, people are afraid not of death itself, but of the torment before death, right? Or are you afraid that you haven’t done something important in life and are now afraid of death? If so, then read the article about the midlife crisis.
But let's look at death itself, because it is a natural process and everyone will go through it sooner or later. At any second, our life can end, so why wait for this moment, if it is better to dedicate this time to life itself? As it is written in many esoteric knowledge, death is our ally. And she rather helps you live than waits to pick you up.
And if you are afraid of suffering before death, well, it depends on what kind of death, but according to statistics, there are few people who die a painful death, and what is torture? Everything is tolerable, the main thing is to live so as not to regret, that’s where the torment itself lies.
Spend your life indoors
Scientific research has proven the benefits of spending more time in nature: spending a few hours every day in the company of nature can help boost your happiness and overall well-being. But you don't want that! To be unhappy, you need to make sure that you don't leave your home for more than a few minutes.
Stay within the confines of four walls all day long, look at pictures on the Internet or mindlessly watch your favorite TV shows, and you will soon feel like you have mastered the great art of being unhappy!
How not to be afraid to fly on an airplane - advice from a psychologist
An airplane is a highly dangerous vehicle. But the plane is the safest mode of transport. Even though you might board a plane expecting something to go wrong, statistically it's not going to happen.
Although I myself am worried before takeoff, I adequately assess the likelihood of an accident on an airplane because, living on earth, much more sophisticated dangers await us than from flying on an airplane.
If you have a really strong and panic attack about flying, but you need to fly, then write to me, we’ll deal with this problem in one go using hypnosis or other techniques. It’s better to eliminate the situation in the bud than to waste nerve cells during a flight or take alcohol for courage.
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Venue negative circumstances in everything
A wise man once stated that we are the creators of our destiny and that we hold the keys to our happiness. But the unfortunate man, who thought he knew better, one day shouted: “We are the victims of our fate! Why do anything to improve your quality of life?”
No reason, just accept it as it comes, no matter how much you suffer - this is your destiny! Think and act like a passive, helpless person and let your negative circumstances define who you are.
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How not to be afraid of a fight?
It depends on what kind of fight it is, if it’s a fight in the ring, it’s one thing, but if it’s on the street, it’s completely different. In any case, fear of a fight is normal. Many famous fighters calmly say that they are afraid of a fight and that’s normal. If you are not afraid of a fight, then something is wrong with your body’s psychological defenses. Although the matter may be different, you have learned ZEN and are not afraid of death and defeat.
Fights in the street are another matter. If you are attacked by gopniks on the street, then it is easier to run away and this is also normal. Since you don’t know whether the attackers have a knife or some kind of gun, so from the point of view of protecting yourself, it’s better to be a coward.
What to do if you are walking with a girl and gopniks attack? Well, buddy, then piss, but send your girlfriend behind your back, or better yet, let her scratch it quickly, and you try to resolve the conflict. If it’s a robbery, then do whatever they ask, again you don’t know what’s on their mind. And then call the police immediately. But ideally, you need to sign up for a rocking gym and preferably for a fight, boost your confidence in sparring, and then the gopniks will definitely not get to the bottom of you.
Look at the game as a waste of time
Time is money and entertainment is pointless because it doesn't make you any money, right? When we were children, we found joy in games, having fun and laughing with our friends who were doing what we loved to do. But now that you are an adult trying to be miserable like most of the adults around you, you have to stop acting like a child.
Dismiss the game as a foolish act, become desensitized to humor, put on a serious face, and rest assured that your unhappiness levels will be greatly increased!
How not to be afraid of heights?
I heard or read somewhere that the fear of heights is equal to the fear of big money. I don’t know how long this is true, but it’s worth thinking about. Conduct analysis. Fear of heights is a natural reaction of the body, which is very worried about its life. It's normal to be afraid of heights.
Of course, I saw air conditioner installers who climbed completely out of the window to connect the internal unit to the external one and, looking at this, I was afraid for this man even more than he was tall. Such people, most likely, are not in danger for their lives or have confidence that they are immortal. They're lucky.
If you want to calmly climb at heights like such installers, then you will have to work with the deep subconscious in order to understand the causes of fear and reconfigure it. This requires hypnosis or other similar techniques. But if you need to slightly remove the anxiety before the height, the technique will be lower.
Eat crap food
Your body is the vehicle you use in this lifetime to experience life. The healthier you are, the happier and brighter you will be. On the contrary, the more unhealthy your body, the sadder and more unhappy you will be. And since you are interested in being unhappy, what is the best way to be unhealthy? Food that is not rich in nutrients and causes disease!
So feed your body a variety of processed, non-organic foods regularly and reap the amazing health benefits!
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Fear of people
What have people done wrong to you that you are starting to fear them? Think about it. If you were insulted as a child and were unable to respond to the aggression, then you need to deal with the underlying reasons and increase your self-esteem.
You need to figure out what exactly you are afraid of in people and dance from here. Fears can be different: physical violence, moral humiliation. If you have a strong fear of people, then you definitely need to remove the negative scenario from your past childhood. To do this, it is best to contact a professional in the contacts section.
Continue a relationship that has long since exhausted itself
Being close to someone you no longer love is stupid. Staying close because of guilt or pity is doubly stupid. No matter how well you hide it, the person still feels that the attitude towards him has changed. And he will harass you so that you confess. Particularly talented partners also manage to instill a feeling of guilt, because of which you will definitely never leave him.
By remaining in such a relationship, you deprive yourself of the opportunity to find new love and start a new life. It's like you're stuck in a negative past with no future. The phrase “We are responsible for those we have tamed” is only suitable for pets. With a person in this state, it is no longer love, but simply affection. These two completely different feelings should not be confused. You need to get rid of attachments.
The same goes for relationships with friends. No matter how sad this fact may sound, people change and over time some connections fade, weaken and are completely broken. Drawing on them just because you are friends is just as stupid as staying with someone you don't love. Such friends will not appreciate or listen to you.
You had a wonderful completed relationship. It's time to move on.
How not to be afraid to drive?
I want to tell you about my experience of starting to learn to drive a car. I was 29 years old, and I decided to become a car enthusiast. My friend and I signed up for a driving school and had our first lesson with an instructor. I get behind the wheel, he says, press the gas pedal, hold it up to 2000 rpm and release. So 10 times. Then he says, hold the clutch, put it in 1st gear and slowly release the pedal and let's go.
It was very scary, driving a car for the first time in my life; passages 5 meters wide seemed insurmountable to me and I would crash into them. For the next lesson we went to the city and it was even worse, just terrible. But I graduated and received a driver’s license, bought a 2002 Mini Cooper car, and I was very afraid to drive alone when there was no instructor nearby.
You can’t even imagine what it’s like when my friend said, let’s go to practice in the center of Moscow along the 3rd ring, the Garden Ring, in Moscow traffic jams. And in the middle of the journey, he got out of the car and drove home, and told me to go straight from the Mendeleevskaya metro station along Dmitrovka to the Moscow Ring Road and from there to Altufevskoye Highway and home.
The shock was impossible, but thanks to this I began to drive the car much faster and confidently.
Therefore, the advice would be this: fear of driving a car is a normal process, a matter of habit, just practice more and your psyche will constantly gain experience and in 3-5 months you will already be an experienced driver.
Fear of dogs
What kind of dogs are you afraid of, probably the big ones? Did a dog bite you or bark a lot as a child? Then your fear is understandable. But the fear of dogs is natural for humans, since who knows what is on the animal’s mind. And if you are afraid of small dogs, then this is a little strange, since they do not pose a danger to you.
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Another question is, you are afraid of dogs, so live with this fear, it is normal and protects, but another thing is, if you have a vital need to get a dog and live with a dog, then of course you need to identify and solve the problem, preferably with a psychologist, so how a psychologist will take memory deep into the past to eliminate the dog’s fear. It's easy to do.
Let others think for you
Why think about yourself when others can think for you? Thinking is tiring anyway, and who wants to spend time and energy thinking about how to overcome life's problems to find peace, happiness and freedom?
Don't tire yourself out - just let others do the dirty work for you! After all, there are teachers, priests, journalists and politicians who can think for you. So listen to them, believe everything they say, and never doubt what they tell you. Walk blindfolded and relax, knowing that the light of truth cannot reach your sensitive eyes!
How not to be afraid of pain?
Is the pain physical or psychological? More like physical. Why are you afraid of her? Fear of pain is a normal manifestation of the body in danger. If the body hurts, it means there is a danger to life. And our subconscious protects us. Therefore, I do not recommend removing this fear.
But another thing is at the dentist or when donating blood, you are afraid of an injection, especially at the 5th point. Well, yes, it will hurt, but if not treated, the pain can be stronger and more costly to life, so show courage and do what you are afraid of. It will heal until the wedding, as they say.
See money as a goal
Perhaps the best way to fill your life with misery is to do everything possible to acquire a large amount of money and make that your only goal in life. Instead of spending your time creating healthy, loving relationships with your fellow humans, and following your passions by doing what you truly love to do, you should be spending your life day after day like a robot to increase your bank account. so you can take it with you into the afterlife!
How not to be afraid of thunderstorms?
A thunderstorm is one of the natural phenomena of nature, why be afraid of it if you are not in an open field with nothing in the middle. If you find yourself in such a situation, you urgently need to find some kind of ravine and lie down in it, or simply lie down in a field, but under no circumstances should you sit, stand or run. Lightning will definitely strike.
Another thing is that if you live in a city, then tall buildings with lightning rods will save you 100%. Therefore, you are worrying in vain, everything will be fine and there is nothing to be afraid of what is natural.
I won't be left alone
Being alone is the dream of many. But not those who suffer from autophobia. Moreover, this problem manifests itself in different ways. So, for example, some people simply feel discomfort when they are left alone - they feel uneasy, have nothing to do, cannot concentrate on anything. Others may well panic and feel useless.
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The art of saying no. How not to feel guilty Psychologists often associate autophobia with a person’s childhood, for example, if he suffered a serious loss - a loved one, friend, etc. Also, a similar phenomenon can develop if a child has not received sufficient attention from his parents for a long time.
A person who is afraid of loneliness should not try to cope with the problem by ignoring his condition, believing that it will go away on its own. On the contrary, you need to go somewhere more often, make new friends and look for company. Nothing will happen on its own.
Sleep paralysis - what is it?
This is another of the strong fears of people. It is connected with the fact that you wake up, but you are in a state between awakening and sleep. You can’t move, you’re completely immobilized. And the most frightening thing is that various hallucinations begin to appear, they are different for everyone. I had this happen, it was just terrible.
Some people associate sleep paralysis with a brownie who is trying to show what he doesn’t like about his owners. Believing is up to everyone, but there is a good way to get out of this state.
If you realize that you have been overcome by sleep paralysis, start moving, but not sharply and quickly, but slowly, very slowly, with each part of your body in turn. And if you believe in spirits, then read the Our Father prayer.
Uploading Consciousness
Uploading consciousness is a term familiar to all first-year students. This is when, after a night rave party, you immediately go to a calculus exam, cheered up by an alcoholic energy drink :). In science and science fiction, “consciousness uploading” is understood as a hypothetical technology that allows, after scanning the synaptic structures of the gray matter, to transfer consciousness from the brain to another medium.
Accurate brain scans produce a wealth of information about what is happening in our bodies psychologically, physiologically and chemically when we are happy or sad (or experiencing stress, rage, love, the desire to kill, spiritual upliftment or the desire to selflessly help people) . But is it possible to recreate, as a result of scanning, not an exact copy of our consciousness, but of ourselves? Scientists do not yet have an answer to this question, but research is already underway. For example, you can read about an experiment with connecting the human nervous system to a computer in Wired magazine .
Proponents of transhumanism believe that the human species is not the end of our evolution, but rather its beginning. Let's assume that we managed to remove the tracing paper from human consciousness without destroying the brain, and place it on an adequate medium so that the structure of the human brain is completely preserved. Will this be a step towards immortality? After all, the resulting copy of the human mind is perhaps nothing more than a copy that can henceforth live its long life, while the owner of the original mind grows old and dies.
To some extent, the problems that arise with identifying a copy of consciousness can be circumvented if the process of consciousness transfer is made smooth. To do this, for example, you can insert a chip with telecommunications capabilities into a person’s head, and as the brain biologically ages, transfer more and more replacement powers to the chip. In this case, at the moment of physical death, there will no longer be an independent human consciousness, and the problem of identification can be considered solved.
How to stop being afraid?
First, think about what you are afraid of? And is it necessary to get rid of this fear? Basically, all our fears have a protective function, so they are our helpers.
In general, I wanted to describe here 10 techniques for overcoming fear, but I remembered that I had already described them in another article, so go here, 5 methods of dealing with fear are described here.
Settlerika: is resettlement possible?
Settleretics (by analogy with cybernetics, and from the English settler - settler) is the science of the continuous and regular “relocation” (i.e. transfer of information content) of consciousness and personality, from the aging brain to the reserve brain (the brain of a young body - bioclone, or into the artificial neurocybernetic brain of a cyborg), with this person achieving practical immortality. Settleretics must solve two problems: first of all, find methods for retrieving this information (the so-called uploading ), and secondly, write the information into a natural or artificial medium (the so-called downloading ).
As for the first task, the main question here is: is it possible for consciousness to exist in isolation from the biological body? The answer is most likely yes. According to one popular theory, consciousness is not matter, but a function of highly organized matter. It exists in the form of encoded information concentrated in the human brain, mainly in the neocortex (the latest, “highest” part of the brain; in humans, the surface of the neocortex occupies 95.6% of the total surface of the cerebral cortex). At the same time, the laws of nature should not prohibit the “movement” of personality and consciousness to another material medium, because information is invariant with respect to its medium, both the material one on which this information is encoded, and the ideal one, that is, the code itself.
conclusions
All people are afraid and this is normal; a person cannot be completely fearless if he is not completely repulsed. I think there are such people, but do you need to become the same? I think no. This was an article on the topic of how not to be afraid of anything, write comments if you have your own fears, we will help you overcome them. Thank you.
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Self-control diary
Experts recommend a method such as psychological control to patients who complain of incontinence and imbalance. Its essence lies in observing the reactions that occur in a person to any external stimuli. To do this, psychologists suggest keeping a diary, in which it is recommended to note various conflict situations and the reaction of the person being studied to them. After which the recordings, together with a specialist, must be analyzed, determined and, if possible, eliminated the root cause of incontinence.
In addition to keeping a diary, there are other ways of self-control. For example, such as meditation, switching attention, breathing exercises and others. In addition, the inability to control emotions can be hidden under the guise of humor and a positive attitude towards others.
