Ivan Vdovin
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A Jewish mother teaches her skinny, bespectacled son: “Son, first of all, you marry a Ukrainian.” She will fatten you up with borscht, you will become handsome... Then get a divorce and marry a Jewish woman: she will give you the right children. When you are 60 years old, get divorced again and marry a gypsy... Son: - Why marry a gypsy?! Mom: - How they bury, how they bury!!!
Yes, many guys have a wrong perception of themselves, many different complexes. And naturally, most guys want to please beautiful girls. And naturally, some guys consider themselves not beautiful for a girl. Therefore, now we’ll talk about how to become a handsome guy, how girls will like you, and in general the reasons why girls don’t like guys.
How to become a handsome guy?
What does it mean to be a handsome guy? What are the criteria for male beauty? Who defined them? Understand this thing: you won’t be able to please everyone. And to become beautiful and cute, then for what purpose? Do you just like girls or show business? If you just want girls to like you, then we’ll talk about it a little lower.
Rocking chair is the most important thing
First of all, go to the rocking chair and start swinging. A pumped-up body greatly compensates for a face deprived of beauty. Most likely, after rocking, a good facial expression will appear, which girls really like. You know, such a stern look.
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It is advisable to start lifting with a trainer, he will suggest a training complex, write a program and diet. The rest is just a matter of doing the exercises and not being lazy. Yes, the main thing is not to be lazy, no one will do it for you if you really want to become beautiful.
Contact a stylist
If you don’t consider yourself super handsome in person, a stylist will help. Only a good one will choose your style, hairstyle and other recommendations. Usually this should be enough if there are no severe flaws in appearance.
Perhaps you are simply growing a mustache or beard that doesn’t suit you and it will be enough to get rid of the excess to find the path of a real handsome man. But I repeat, it’s better to start with the rocking chair.
Shopping
Surely you have a friend who can help you choose a clothing style for you. It’s easier to say, take any girl you trust or at least are friends with. Save up more money and go to the store, buy clothes. So that it would be good and fit in style.
Next, let your friend tell you what is best and what to wear with what, and then you have a huge chance to become a handsome and unique guy. And what’s more, clothes look better on a toned body.
Get your body in order
If you are fat and as a child you were always shouted “Fat at the Gate”, then it makes sense to think about it and adjust your weight to the correct shape. If you're fat, then at least start running and eat less. But if you don’t have the willpower, then practice denying yourself pleasure.
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If, on the contrary, you are too thin, then start eating more, or better yet, use the tips that I mentioned a couple of times. Namely, eat a lot and join a gym. This will be more effective.
Sense of humor
If you learn to be funny, humorous and generally the life of the party. This will be a huge plus than your appearance. If you can make a girl laugh, then you can win her heart. A smiling guy is initially handsome and attractive. Read more about how to develop charisma.
General grooming
When I was young, the punk movement was popular among us. There are crowds of unwashed people walking around, dirty and smelly. This is a lifestyle. And what do you think, if such a punk would approach an ordinary girl, what would the girl respond to? I wouldn't communicate. So here's a simple rule. Clothing must be clean and tidy, without holes, unless specified by design.
You should smell pleasant or neutral. Stinky armpits are just terrible, no one likes that smell. Well, judge for yourself, you see the girl, and she smells of sweat, is it very pleasant? I think nothing.
Be shaved, washed, clean, shower every morning. Socks don't stink, shoes don't stink either. Clothes are ironed. Simply put, look after yourself.
Pickup training
If you are afraid to meet girls, then definitely go to pickup training. There you will understand that appearance is not always the main thing in seduction and it makes sense to develop yourself. The more developed and well-read you are, the more interesting you become as an interlocutor.
For me personally, pickup training was a discovery a long time ago and changed my life dramatically. Now, if I hadn’t happened to get there then, I probably would have degenerated greatly, would not have become interested in psychology, and so on.
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Train your voice
Yes, it has nothing to do with your appearance, but your voice is your powerful weapon. If everything is directed so that girls like it, it means that your voice, if it’s well placed, will seduce girls once or twice.
We need a low chest voice, see how to train it in the video. This is a very strong voice, by training it you will have a positive influence not only on girls, but on all people in general. I call this the voice of power. Low chest voice, remember.
Why don't girls like us?
Who told you such a thing that girls don’t like you? Just because girls ignore you and don’t show signs of sympathy doesn’t mean that no one likes you. In general, it is most difficult for girls to take the first step, so she usually hides all her sympathies and shows her indifference.
Another option, if a girl told you that you are not her type, what should you do? Nothing, most likely she told you this because she wants to test your persistence. He wants to see how you will behave. Girls generally like to manipulate, they are good at it.
Why some guys don't like the "rich girl face"2
You spent 5 of your monthly salaries at a cosmetologist, ate only buckwheat and kefir for six months to save up for all the manipulations, and they confuse you with other girls? Men really don't always invest in the faces of new acquaintances. Especially if these same faces really resemble each other. Girls who put on a fashionable “rich girl face” lose, in their opinion, their individuality.
However, there is information that guys simply do not want to connect their lives with someone who will demand money for “care and tuning.” But what can we do? Nowadays people are becoming more and more mercantile. Your iPhone is closer to your body.
Inferiority complex
A common problem for young guys. Lack of self-confidence and what a girl might like. In fact, this is the main key to a girl's heart, and not external beauty. More precisely, beauty has its place, but in second place, self-confidence and perseverance come first. But don't confuse it with self-confidence.
Here, read articles about self-confidence, assertive behavior and squirting techniques.
Yes, by the way, sometimes arrogance can be useful, but everything in moderation and when it is appropriate, and not just taken on a whim. You should feel it.
Inferiority complexes need to be addressed or replaced with confident behavior. But I recommend the first tip, because it removes insecurity at the root, rather than masking it. Remember that your inferiority complexes are all driven by emotions that are easy to neutralize and which will no longer bother you.
A guy fell in love with a guy
Good afternoon My name is Alexander, 23 years old. Graduated from university, higher education I work in an electricity supply organization No friends A little biography: I was brought up in a full-fledged family. There is an older brother. In life, like a black sheep: in kindergarten, at school, and at university. Of course, I wasn’t just a completely downtrodden schmuck and didn’t sit on the last desk, as you probably imagined a typical “black sheep.” Naturally, there was a certain very narrow circle of friends (2-3 people). And all my friends throughout my life have always been only girls (girls). I don’t know how it happened, but it was always easier for me with them. I didn’t fall in love with them or anything like that - they were always a full-fledged friend to me and that’s all. Somehow I haven’t been able to make friends with boys since childhood. They are all kind of crazy, daredevil, doing some kind of garbage and discussing some kind of garbage too. I’m talking specifically about the impressions that I had as a child about 10-year-old boys. Now, perhaps, they are all adults, serious guys (men) with work and families, etc. As you may have guessed: at school, other guys, looking at my constant presence surrounded by women, themselves made all the conclusions for them I became a woman/girl/fag, etc. Although at that time I still considered myself an ordinary boy, and like all of them I would like to love girls. So their conclusions and name-calling were unfair. During the entire school period I had relationships with only 3 girls. And then “relationships” is a strong word. It didn't even come down to kissing. Suddenly, in 11th grade, I began to feel some kind of sympathy for my neighbor at my desk. This is where a turning point occurred. At first I thought it seemed, but no, every day from lesson to lesson we sit at the same desk and everything inside me is pounding, as if you were sitting with the most beautiful girl in school. He smelled delicious and all the time there was an irresistible desire to touch him. Or when his knee accidentally touched my leg, I wanted to grab him by that knee. Naturally, I didn’t tell anyone anything about my feelings, I suffered like this until the end of school and that’s it: we scattered to universities/other cities. I didn’t feel bad about losing my “hot” deskmate. Everything inside calmed down. It should be noted that in parallel with all these events, I also liked two girls... Not at the same time, in turn, of course. And with one and the other, everything ended according to the same plot: at the moment when it seems to me that the girl and I are getting closer and closer, it seems that everything is moving towards a serious relationship, I suddenly find out that they have long ago acquired other guys , with which they are becoming more and more serious. All these events inflicted deep wounds on the soul. University begins. And here the male object of affection appears again. Of course, we didn’t sit at the same desk, but I was drawn to him even from a distance. In itself it was feminine. All sorts of thoughts began to pop into my head: what should I do? What is happening to me? I began to notice that when watching porn, I pay more attention to the male body, and I dislike the female body. I tried to watch porn where a guy is with a guy and I liked it. And then a bell rang in my head: self-recognition! That is, I admitted to myself that yes, I am gay. Or bi. One day an opportunity arose, and I grabbed this university friend by the knee while sitting at the same desk. But he clearly didn't like it. We continued to communicate, perhaps less than usual. But I no longer pestered him, trying to develop a denial in myself towards him. By the end of the training, this denial grew into disgust. Overdid it. And in general, I noticed that at the university, just walking along the corridor from office to office, I looked at some of the guys passing by. But again, in parallel with all these events, three more events occur that do not fit with this “blue” picture: First, in the 2nd year I restore friendly relations with one of those two girls from school. This restoration occurs on her initiative. But not even six months pass, if not less, before she again gets another guy. Secondly, in my 3rd year in the south, I meet a 30-year-old girl. She was from Moscow. I'm from Petrozavodsk myself. After the resort “romance” we go to our cities and continue to communicate by phone. I made big plans to move to Moscow with her as soon as I finished my studies. But later something went wrong: she began to be capricious that she didn’t get enough attention. How could I surround her with attention while being a hundred kilometers away? I was going to fly to her for the New Year holidays, but she got sick at that time and told me not to come. In addition, different worldviews still broke our already thin thread of relations that was stretched between big cities. Third, in my 4th year I finally dared to meet a girl I had been watching since my 1st year. We always met at the same stop in the morning and rode the same bus. Only I go to study, and she goes to work. Yes, she is also 30 years old. It is an accident. She looked young. How I got her email address is a different story. Not a page on VK, but an email. Mail!! This added more problems. It simply wasn’t on VK. But our correspondence consisted of only 15 messages and ended with her finding out my age. And she wrote something like: you’re still small. I was shocked: 4 years of observations and only 15 messages. And at that time she had no one and even practically agreed to meet. But now I’ve already graduated from university, I’m leaving for work from another stop and I don’t cross paths with her anymore.
Speaking of work, what was this whole long story about? Now I have a problem at work. I really liked one colleague! Young guy! It would seem that the energy industry is a serious undertaking for tough men, and there is no place for gays there. But I can’t help it, I’m just drawn to him and that’s all. As soon as I see him, everything is like a fog, I seem to get drunk. It seems to me that one day he will figure me out just by my look, because I simply devour him. I know for sure that he is straight. He has a girlfriend. If the university friend was at least feminine, then this one is the most ordinary normal guy. Of course, I don’t put my hands on his lap. If you could laugh at it at school/university. Then all of them are adults and may not understand. But sometimes I still notice such subtle “thin threads” in his behavior, as if he himself is reaching out to me. But I do not understand. As you can see from my biography: I have never had the opportunity to be friends with guys and I don’t know how they behave among themselves. Either this is a normal friendly relationship, or it is something more. Either I’ve already gone completely crazy and I’m already imagining these “thin threads”, and the poor unsuspecting guy just wants to be friends with me. Is it spring? I think about him a lot. I don't know what to do with this? Just be friends with him? Or build a barrier of hatred towards him, as was the case with the guy from the university? If you are friends, then how to overcome this “blue” craving for him? What if these “thin strings” are not my hallucination after all? What if he is also reaching out to me? I have never seen his girlfriend and I don’t know how things are with them.
Help with advice. Thank you in advance!
PS: I apologize to the site administrators for duplicating my question! The fact is that when I wrote here for the first time, for some reason my topic was classified under the “sexology” section. But my problem is still not sexual desire, but spiritual. I am controlled not by my penis, but by my soul: the soul requires warmth and care from the male sex. Warmth and care, not sex. Sex is in the background. I believe that this problem lies at the heart of personality psychology. This is why there is such a detailed biography. Therefore, dear administrators! You can remove my same question from the “sexology” section if the site rules do not allow repetition.
Fear of not being liked by people/girls
In addition to the inferiority complex, there are a lot of different fears. And this is one of the most powerful deterrents. Your psyche is trying to leave you in the comfort zone, so fear arises, for example, fear of success or fear that a girl will like you. Like, you’re used to girls not liking you, but if you suddenly like me, what then? This will have to go on a date.
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Say something, look into your eyes. But damn, I’m so used to being alone, why do I drag myself to a cafe? I'd rather stay in this place and not develop. But believe me, there is a way out, and again it’s a rocking chair. Physical strength will in most cases protect you from fears. You will be pumped up, look in the mirror, which means you will like yourself, and if you like yourself, then others will like you too. Therefore, one of the main rules is that if you love and value yourself, then others will love and value you. This is psychology.
What kind of girls do guys like?
If on the street, what kind of girls do guys like the most in appearance, then you can hear the same type of answers. Something like: of course, beautiful! But everyone has their own beauty.
But in most cases, a guy will appreciate:
- Long slender legs. If you can't show them off, heels will come to the rescue. By the way, getting rid of excess hair on your legs is a must. He will notice. And he won't appreciate it.
- A smile. A gloomy girl is hardly anyone's ideal. A sincere smile can attract attention. By the way, guys also pay attention to their teeth.
- Athletic figure. Guys don't like a fat belly and a sagging butt. However, like us girls. But we are delicately silent, but they are not.
It is a fact that blondes are a priority for guys. By the way, long-haired ladies are liked by the stronger sex more than girls with short hair. I’m generally silent about bald people. True, the length of the hair should not be to the floor (maximum to the waist). It's unlikely that Rapunzel is every man's dream.
Find out how to tell if a guy likes you here.
How to become beautiful and like girls?
Develop yourself and do everything I described above. And don't forget about the rocking chair. Next, train your psyche, train your self-confidence and everything will be fine. Start training to love yourself, don’t be shy to tell yourself in the mirror that you’re handsome and girls like you.
Start meeting girls on the street, or at least just approach them and ask any ordinary question, so you will train yourself to simply approach a girl and that this is a normal phenomenon. Yes, there will be fears, you can’t live without them, but this is development. Fear limits you, but when you do what you were afraid of, a lot of energy is released and euphoria appears.
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Further more, you will acquire a certain shell of self-confidence and courage. You will meet people wherever you want, regardless of your appearance. Because I repeat once again, male appearance is not the main thing for girls. There are, of course, those who only want super handsome guys, but there are only a few of them.
Everything else is your inner qualities and only they will show the girl who you really are and that she will be comfortable, fun and calm with you.
Advice from a psychologist and practical recommendations
It’s hard to command the heart , but it is quite possible to simulate a situation in which there is a greater chance that you will fall in love with a person. What do psychologists say about this?
How to fall in love with a girl who loves you?
The problem with reciprocal feelings is eliminated here by itself. Therefore, you can act more boldly.
Spend more time with her - dedicate her to the details of your hobby, passion - if she loves you, it will bring her true pleasure, and you will be pleased that someone shares your interest.
If you are confident in a girl’s devotion, trust her with your secrets or experiences that you consider intimate - secrets bind people. She will definitely open up to you in response, and perhaps you will see something new in her that you have not yet considered.
Rest together more often . Your task is to get maximum positive emotions together.
Allow her to pay attention to you - and it is quite possible that you will sincerely want to pay attention to her in return.
How to love the guy you're dating?
How to fall in love with your boy or boyfriend?
You are already together and it seems that you know each other well enough . He told you about his hobbies, it seems that you know everything about him.
Add some adrenaline to your relationship.
Go on a hike for several days, visit a place you have long dreamed of - indulge in some kind of extreme sports - because it is in such situations that people fall in love with each other faster.
How to fall in love? 3 secrets to attract love:
What to do to love a woman?
At a more mature age, they pay more attention to the reliability of their partner, to the feeling of peace with him . However, no one has canceled the feeling of falling in love among adults.
Organize holidays for each other - take a break from work together, get a charge of good emotions, and then give her a little care - in any case, this will find a response in her, will give an impetus to her taking care of you.
Let her take care of you and feel how pleasant and calm it is to be around someone who pays attention to you.
How to be loved?
In order to love a person, you need to get to know him well .
Take an interest in his hobbies - he will tell you a lot of interesting things about his favorite hobby.
This will be the first step towards learning more about him as a person.
Meet him halfway - as a man, he must take the first steps to ensure that your relationship strengthens and develops. If he is shy, hint that you would like more, encourage him.
Don't be shy about giving your man a little more attention - all men appreciate it. Tell him more about yourself, hear his stories in response - frankness brings people together.
Remember your youth and have fun with him on a weekend.
Strive to diversify your life while remaining alone - and soon you will feel that in his absence you will already be missing something.
Is it possible to return feelings to my husband?
You can be near each other almost 24 hours a day, seven days a week, and this gives you certain cards in your hands .
Try to diversify your life as much as possible .
Arrange role-playing games in bed, romantic evenings, outings in nature - everything that will resonate in your feminine heart. Give him compliments and push him to do great things - perhaps you will see a much better side of him that you didn’t know before.
Be frank with him - you can even ask him to tell you in detail about all his exes - perhaps this will make you jealous and understand that he should only be yours.
Don't be afraid of emotions - feel them while being together.
How to love your own husband? Psychologist's advice:
conclusions
Of course, it makes sense for a guy to be handsome so that girls will like him. But he's not in first place. As I wrote above, it is better to develop personal qualities and appearance will no longer be needed. I know a lot of guys who didn’t come out, so to speak, but they have a lot of girls. Therefore, I suggest you to develop.
And of course, learn how to make money, this is also not an unimportant factor. Money is a resource and by managing money, you can control girls. But don't buy them. Why spend on what you are entitled to by nature? Yes, meeting girls and having sex is natural. And here the strongest and most confident get everything.
And believe me, it’s quite easy to change and grow from a frog into a prince if you start doing it. Go to a couple of trainings, even though your friends will be against it, but it will still be useful for your overall development.
Here’s an article on how to make a guy more handsome, I think you’ve found the answer, even though all these lines were written in 60 minutes. The main thing here is not to bother, but to act.
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All is decided
If a girl decides to have a relationship with a young man whom she does not find attractive, then she has already made her choice. All is said and done, and physical attractiveness no longer plays a special role. The girl was attracted to this guy, but not because he is handsome, but because they suit each other.
Regarding hurt feelings: how can you hurt the feelings of someone who doesn’t feel anything towards their partner. So, despite the shortcomings, feelings for the ugly guy
still there is. And, according to the experience of older generations, these feelings only intensify with age. So if an unattractive young man never manages to hurt feelings in any way, then this is hardly love, which defies logic at all.
