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Hello, dear readers of the KtoNaNovenkogo.ru blog. There are many ingrained words in the Russian language, the meaning of which is not completely clear to everyone. Most often these are words borrowed from other languages.
One of these “mysterious” words is adultery. It is used in the media and even in colloquial speech, so it would be good to understand what it is.
But, in addition to interpreting the meaning of this word, today I want to discuss the reasons leading to adultery and how to recognize it by the nuances of the behavior of your significant other.
Adultery: the psychology of infidelity
There is a widespread double standard in society that male nature is impossible without polygamy.
Male adultery is treated much more tolerantly, while female adultery in ancient times was equated with crimes and could lead to serious penalties. Even repeated male infidelities do not cancel his sincere desire to save his family.
Of course, women cheat too. But the statistics are disappointing - for every female betrayal, there are two male ones. One of the reasons for infidelity lies in youthful complexes regarding their sexual viability. Thus, a large number of partners increases male self-esteem.
Freudian theory explains female infidelity by subconscious envy of the male genital organ and the desire to possess it, at least by having sex with men.
Modern psychologists argue that a woman, unlike a man, does not draw the line between physical and emotional intimacy, and also separates old relationships from new ones.
However, it is unlikely that in such a subtle science as sexology there are universal reasons and clichés. Rather, this is another attempt to find excuses for male infidelity.
In early childhood, the boy understands that his mother “belongs” to his father. He feels abandoned and abandoned, and this is what psychology calls the first betrayal that we feel.
In many ways, a man’s behavior in marriage depends on his childhood relationship with his mother. The fact of turning a child against his father and using him in parental quarrels gives the boy the feeling that mother’s love is not selfless and, therefore, complexes on this basis.
In adulthood, such an unhappy boy is constantly forced to look for love and prove to himself his exclusivity. This is complicated by the fact that in marriage, for various reasons, a person may feel a lack of affection and suffer from a lack of physical intimacy. Hence the stereotype that a man begins to cheat when children appear in a marriage.
All about infertility
Adultery - what is it? and poems about adultery Adultery - what is it? Wikipedia Adultery Adultere (_fr. adultere), adultery, adultery - voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not his or her spouse. Although the definition of adultery varies across different legal systems, what is common to all is the fact of sexual intimacy outside of marriage, in one form or another. And if now women are catching up with men in terms of the number of infidelities, then earlier: beware of the harlot!
- Back in 325 BC. Demosthenes wrote: “A worthy Hellenic husband has the right to have girls for pleasure, hetaeras for entertainment and a wife to continue his family. A wife, even in her thoughts, does not dare to cheat on her spouse, and any infidelity should be punished publicly, up to and including death.”
- Until the second half of the 19th century, the guilty party in the case of divorce due to adultery (regardless of gender) could be punished with imprisonment for up to 6 months. In 1964, the International Congress of Criminal Law in The Hague decided:
- So that I lie to my wife?!!!! Come on, I'm not that stupid! No, I didn’t cheat on you. I… took revenge for the unsalted soup!
“Adultery cannot be considered a criminal offense and is therefore not subject to criminal punishment.” And here is what the legal dictionary says: ADULTERY is a violation of marital fidelity, in the criminal law of some countries a crime that encroaches on the family and public morality. In Russian law, criminal punishment for P. remained until 1904. In the criminal law of Western countries (except England) and Japan until the middle of the 20th century. punishable by imprisonment or correctional labor, . in some Western countries, criminal liability for P. was retained later. In Muslim law, sex (any extramarital sexual relations) is one of the most dangerous crimes, punishable up to the death penalty (if the Muslim man or woman who committed sex is married). I found these poems on the Hochmodrom website, author Andrey Sitnyansky
And again a dilemma arose before me. It’s not very pleasant for me to think about it. “Taking away” someone else’s wife is not a problem, The problem is getting her back afterwards. Just as there are no rose hips in the world without thorns, so to a beauty, we don’t hide it. It can be difficult in life without a lover. It’s even more difficult to get by with just one. If a friend beats off your wife, it’s not worth loving him any less. Maybe he's just a moron, or maybe he doesn't know women. Percentage of fidelity I am generally a faithful husband, and I affirm this. Here is a calculator, if you are not lazy, do the math: I cheat on my wife only an hour a day, Also note that it is not every day. Here is more about adultery: Oleg Ozaryanin Adultery Come back to me. Through the sorrows of grievances. Through the pain of the soul and tears of restlessness. I know that this cannot be forgiven, But if it’s not you, then who will forgive me? Come back to me. Forget my sinful step. Or pretend that you forgot him. Break the misfortune that has crept up from the rear, uniting us again into an archipelago. Come back to me. Let love be saved, Do not throw it to the slaughter of resentment. I repeat three words like a spell - Come back to me. Come back to me. Come back ——————————————- Yesterday someone told me that, by the way, the Yakuts don’t have the word “changed” at all, but they do have the word “confused”. Leonid Goncharov A new day began, BRIGHT, I woke up and became Mute: For some reason my husband is NOT MY husband nearby... Therefore, I am no longer a SAINT[/size —————————————————— Adultery I came to my mistress for lunch. It’s good that there were children at school, And it’s good that my husband is not at home, (More precisely, he is at home, just on the Internet). —————————————— The only culprit of adultery is Easy Rider. Why did the Almighty reward me with polygamous nature? My bully is not sleeping in his pants - I have no more strength to fight him! No, I am not responsible for him - He is greedy for any nude, ** And I keep affection for the only one in the world In my soul. I wouldn’t cheat on her even once, But when he sees the beauty, My mind is immediately clouded, And all loyalty is down the drain! The ruler of my thoughts and body has clearly not matured morally - Only he is the culprit of adultery, *** And if so, then the demand is on him! But I can’t part with him - He’s firmly rooted down there, And what’s a man without ..me? Here’s a rhetorical question... ———————————————— Adultery Natalya Kheifets You know almost nothing about him. Concern does not put pressure on the crown of the head. He will come and go. You see him off. And time will drag on again. He is cheerful and funny. He plays pranks, not loving, With naive childish affection. He's somewhere. And, in general, lives without you. Appears rarely, with caution. Calls regularly to keep up the ardor. If he arrives, he won’t hug you right away. Are you looking - confused, or maybe cold? - Signs that are not visible to the eye. The shy night will fly away like a moth, And the morning will burst in unexpectedly. He will suddenly hurry up and, dearly, will embrace you repentantly. You will smile easily. He will say: “Bye!” He will be embarrassed, and with an air of sadness, he will place on the table, like the wing of a moth, Payment for stray happiness. Publication date: 06/01/2009 Read: 16708 times
Adultery - reasons, prerequisites
Women, for the most part, are unable to accept the idea that they may not be the one and only that their husbands desire.
Of course, from a moral point of view, adultery is an unacceptable and disgusting phenomenon
, especially if the subject does not hesitate to bring his favorite (or mistress - whichever is better) to the family home and put him in the bed that he now shares with his wife.
You can understand a man who threw away the wreckage of his love boat and dived into a pool of new sensations. You can also understand a woman who feels like a Little Mermaid whose tongue and legs were taken away: it’s a shame to share with someone, and it’s impossible to resist.
However, there are cases when infidelity fuels and strengthens marital relationships. Paradoxical, isn't it? But the point is that only a single case of adultery can save a marriage, but not a repeated one.
It is wonderful and surprising if for many years a woman, in addition to supporting a man in everything, skillfully embodies one or another male fantasy in bed. It is unlikely that her husband is capable of exchanging such a treasure for a complete stranger. But, alas, such women are very rare.
Basically, our compatriots are accustomed to thinking like owners, inappropriately and inappropriately brandishing the phrase of the great A. Exupery “We are responsible for those we have tamed.” Do you understand? Pri-ru-chi-li. What kind of passion can we talk about?!
The touch to the portrait is routine, in which both get bogged down. And then the first alarm bell sounds: the man finds joy and consolation - moral and physical - on the side. However, this can be a salvation for a marriage that is bursting at all the seams.
Being a hunter and conqueror by nature, he must constantly prove this. Awareness of masculinity is primarily important for him, because self-esteem and motivation for many actions, for example, self-improvement, depend on it.
Cultural traditions of all times
In the vast majority of cultures, spouses' voluntary renunciation of outside sexual relations was generally accepted. In most cases, the infidelity of one of the spouses provided good grounds for starting divorce proceedings.
In some countries, where society strictly adhered to established religious dogmas and rules, adultery was severely punished by law and the person who cheated faced the death penalty. In most cases, such cruel punishment was applied to wives who cheated on their husbands. This was largely facilitated by the fact that the fact of a woman’s infidelity cast doubt on the man’s paternity in relation to the children growing in the family, and, accordingly, the heirs of all property and the successors of his family.
In modern countries, attitudes towards adultery differ, as do the general concepts of the ethics of extramarital sex.
Is adultery a fleeting affair?
Having found an opportunity to assert himself and satisfy his primary need, a man feels a surge of vital energy, relaxation and calm.
Having received what he wanted, he simultaneously realizes that his own wife is waiting for him at home, to whom he is now able to give amazing emotions not only in terms of sex, but in general. The man understands that fleeting passion only fueled his feelings for his wife. How will she behave in bed? He will want to experiment with the body he has long studied and find previously unseen aspects of pleasure. Single sex on the side opens up a colorful range of new sensations that you will definitely want to experience again, but this time with your wife.
Is it worth confessing?
Let's be honest
: an affair on the side should not become known to the wife, just as the manifestation of compromising behavior should not be noticed by her. It’s as if the man is re-studying his wife’s mood, noticing moments of despondency and joy and trying to support her.
He suddenly wants to give her gifts, remember good moments together, and bring some to life. In return, he is guaranteed the care and affection of his wife, which once faded into the background. A short-term affair becomes a catalyst for a good mood for both partners.
Feeling her husband’s sudden interest in herself, the woman begins to transform. She wants to match the attention and love that her husband bestows after a long break, and she reciprocates.
Feeling a surge of vitality, being motivated for new achievements, a woman wants to be the most charming and attractive to her husband, and she begins to take care of herself: buys beautiful lingerie, takes care of her figure and appearance in general. A new round of the candy-bouquet period begins in the life of the spouses, which, with the efforts of both, can last a very long time.
Even if after some time a woman understands what determined her husband’s increased attention, she can easily overcome the feeling of deception. Why make a scandal about what happened in their “past dull life” if everything is great with them now?
A man, having gained some experience in a new aspect of interpersonal relationships, will be able to analyze the reasons that pushed him into adultery, and in the future will make every effort to ensure that this never happens again.
Wrong environment
Every person has friends or at least acquaintances. There are men who communicate with those who understand perfectly well that they have a family. And there are those whose friends constantly do nothing but push them to cheat.
The environment plays a big role, especially if a person is influenced. For example, if all a man’s friends cheat on their chosen ones, then he will think that this is normal.
If you believe the statistics, then approximately 44% of men after cheating claim that there is nothing shameful in this, because their friends also do the same. So draw your own conclusions.
