How to behave if a man disappears without explanation, whether to call or not, advice from psychologists

A woman meets a man. Not just another guy in pants, but an extraordinary, wonderful guy. A romantic connection begins between young people, a fire flares up in their hearts, and even in their loins. It would seem that everything is wonderful. The young lady is floating in her dreams. In their minds, they got married, got a dog, had children and settled in a house by the sea. But the sweet future is not destined to come true. Everything collapsed in an instant. Suddenly the man disappeared without explanation.

Unexpected turn

Girls all over the world hate situations like this. When a gentleman disappears without a trace, they are overcome by the most humiliating feelings: confusion, anger, despair, melancholy, terrible resentment. The woman goes through all the options in her head as to why the man disappeared without explanation. She begins to blame herself and look for reasons in her behavior or appearance why the unlucky boyfriend chose to sink into eternity. More active ladies set out to search for their lover, wanting to find out the reason why their sweet communication was abruptly interrupted.

Call me, for God's sake2

Representatives of the fairer sex are very worried when a young man disappears from sight, no matter at what stage the communication takes place. If a girl has known a guy for no more than one day, she is not so sad about his disappearance, but nevertheless, unpleasant feelings attack. After all, it was his initiative to meet and exchange numbers! But for some reason the phone is silent, and the beautiful stranger does not get in touch. There are several reasons why this happens.

Perhaps the guy lost the desired phone number, or wrote down the numbers incorrectly. This happens often. According to one version, robbers could have attacked him and taken away his mobile device. The young man is suffering, he wants to dial the number of a pretty girl he just met, but does not have such an opportunity.

Why did a man disappear after the first date, meeting, sex?

If a man disappears after the first date or sex, then there is a reason for it.

The most humiliating option is when a girl, trying to get back, keeps a man

They may be the following:

• The girl overdid it with alcohol. Nobody likes a drunk person. Under the influence of alcohol, it is difficult to control every word and emotions. If a girl is slightly worried, then a sip of wine cannot ruin the situation. But if she is under severe stress and has drunk more than is permissible, then her actions may be unpredictable and her behavior disgusting. If the girl is very worried, then she should either cancel the date or invite the guy to go to an establishment where there are no strong alcoholic drinks.
• She looks completely different from what the guy imagined her to be. In the modern world, dating via the Internet is not uncommon. The insidiousness of such meetings is that in the virtual world everyone wants to appear better. Plump girls put photos on their avatars where they are thinner than they are; many use Photoshop to improve their appearance, or even pass off other people’s photos as their own. When a guy comes on a date, he is deeply disappointed and feels deceived. There is no need to be ashamed of your body. All people have complexes about appearance.
• The girl's appearance does not match the situation. Embarrassment can occur when the guy does not specify where the date will be held, and the girl dresses completely inappropriately. For example, when a guy tried hard, booked a table in an expensive restaurant, and his passion came in sneakers, jeans, and a sweater. The guy may think that the chosen one does not know how to dress according to the situation or is deliberately expressing disdain in this way. To avoid such misunderstandings, it is necessary to clarify where the date will take place and the surrounding environment.

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Behavior of an abandoned woman3

A new acquaintance does not appear on the horizon, and the woman panics. Her subsequent behavior depends on her character traits, temperament and the strategy developed. In such situations, she can take the following actions:

• roar;
• to execute oneself;
• delete the phone number or blacklist it;
• be depressed;
• flinch nervously from every call and message;
• go looking for a young man, find out as much information as possible, hire a detective, arrange surveillance;
• call the gentleman yourself.

Why can a guy suddenly break off a relationship?

If a guy stops calling and texting and doesn’t answer calls himself, it’s not at all necessary that the fault lies with the woman. Often this behavior is characteristic of people with a certain character:

• Cold and unemotional. He does not realize that his behavior causes pain, he does not experience serious love in the relationship, he does not care how it ends.
• Manipulator. Such a person leaves in the midst of a relationship in order to achieve certain concessions from a woman - more freedom, expensive gifts, obedience. Another reason is the reluctance to fulfill the woman’s requests. For example, she asks to give her at least part of the salary or starts talking about the birth of a child, so the man disappears so that she comes to her senses. After her lover crosses the threshold of the house again 2 days later, the woman will completely forget about her unreasonable desires.
• Infantile. He leaves suddenly and without warning because he doesn't know how to say it. It's like a little child: I got tired - I left.
• Coward. He is afraid to look a woman in the eyes and tell the truth, so he prefers to simply hide and never appear on the horizon again. He is afraid to take responsibility for a woman; he wants easy and non-binding meetings.

If a guy suddenly stopped communicating with you and simply disappeared for no apparent reason, this is not normal. Thank fate that it so quickly took such an unreliable person away from you, and do not look for meetings with him anymore.

Other reasons for stopping communication

When a woman is not to blame, and the characters described do not at all fit the description of her lover, it is worth looking for the reason elsewhere.

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Why did he stop writing?

If you just communicated with a guy via the Internet for a long time, and then he simply stopped writing and responding to messages, then this can be explained by the following reasons:

1. Force Majeure. For example, a man had to leave urgently, but there was no way to warn about this, or he simply did not attach any importance to it. Or maybe his network simply disappeared (thunderstorm, rain, power outage, forgot to pay for operator services).
2. I realized the pointlessness. If a guy hinted several times about dating in person, but did not receive consent, then he began to worry about the refusal and realized that he was not interested in you as a partner, and your correspondence would lead nowhere.
3. I found a more interesting pen pal or a girl in real life, after which I decided to stop corresponding with you.
4. I realized that you are deceiving. For example, you sent him a photo, but it turned out to be from the Internet, or you said that you don’t have a lover, but on a social network you posted a photo of yourself kissing a guy.
5. Being stuck at work or school. There is no free time to even open a social network, not to mention long conversations.

These are the most common reasons if a man suddenly stops writing on social networks and does not respond to your messages. If the reason is not force majeure, which will become clear in a few days, then stop pestering the guy with your messages and cut him out of your life.

After sex

If a man suddenly stopped communicating immediately after the first sex, this means that he most likely did not consider you for a serious relationship. The reasons for the disappearance in this case may be the following:

• I only needed sex from you;
• considered you as a mistress, but did not suit him in bed;
• considered for a long-term relationship, but was disappointed due to the fact that she quickly gave up;
• I didn’t like my behavior in bed: for example, I laughed when I saw a small penis, or I pretended to have an orgasm too much.

Although men want to get a girl into bed faster, this does not mean that they will offer to date after the first sex. Few people are ready to consider an easily accessible woman as a life partner.

Shortly before the wedding

The most painful and unpleasant thing for a girl is when a guy disappears shortly before such a bright holiday as a wedding. You have already formed clear plans for your future life, invitations have been sent out to guests, a restaurant and a dress have been chosen, but suddenly your partner stops communicating and it is impossible to find him. This behavior may occur for the following reasons:

1. The groom was afraid of responsibility. This often happens when a woman or her parents insist on a wedding, and also when a girl finds out about pregnancy, after which the guy has only 2 options - to be a scoundrel or to propose marriage. He chooses the second option, but realizes that he doesn't want it.
2. I met another girl and realized that I didn’t really love my fiancée.
3. He cheated, for example, on a bachelor party, now he is ashamed to even talk about it. He considers himself the last scoundrel who is unworthy of such a beautiful woman.
4. I found out about a girl’s betrayal and cannot forgive her for it.

If there was no quarrel between you, but your loved one suddenly disappears, then you need to find him and find out the reason for this behavior. Perhaps it is still possible to fix everything, resume the relationship and have a wedding.

For no apparent reason

If a guy stopped communicating for no reason, perhaps an unpleasant situation happened to him, or a tragedy occurred:

• lost a close relative (or he became seriously ill), so the man urgently left for a long time in another city;
• became a victim of a robbery and is now in a hospital or morgue;
• urgent unscheduled business trip to a place where there is no cellular coverage;
• I lost (broke) my phone and doesn’t know your number by heart.

Of course, such situations occur rarely, but still you shouldn’t write them off right away.

After the first date

After the first date, a man's attitude can change dramatically. He will not want to get to know the girl better for the following reasons:

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1. I wasn't happy with the appearance. On social networks, girls post edited photos in which they have a model appearance. And if instead of a beautiful long-legged blonde a pimply and plump lady with glasses comes on a date, then she is unlikely to see him again. And there is no point in calling a man to re-arrange a meeting.
2. Too talkative. A date is not a marathon “Tell your biography from the cradle in 1 hour.” If you chat without giving a man even a chance to get a word in, if you lay out information that is absolutely uninteresting to him, then he is unlikely to want to see you again. Communication should be pleasant for both.
3. Runs ahead of the locomotive. You just met, and you are already planning your next weekend together or finding out who you will live with after you decide to move in together. Men, by their psychology, avoid such conversations even in serious relationships, not to mention the first date.
4. I didn't like it. This is a banal, but the most obvious reason. It seems that the girl is pretty, sweet, smart, and has something to talk to her about, and listens attentively, but does not catch on.

After the date is over, a man may say that he will call, but will not do it. You shouldn’t intrude and call, you need to accept the situation and move on with your life, especially since nothing serious happened.

Someone influenced his opinion

If you stopped communicating with a guy, although everything was fine before, think maybe someone influenced his opinion. For example, while walking, you met a mutual friend, and then he “opened the eyes” of your lover by telling him something unpleasant. Or the guy decided to introduce you to his best friend, but he didn’t like your appearance, and he started teasing: “Why do you need such a scary story?” Or maybe the man talked about his new beloved mother, telling details about you that did not suit her, for example, that you are divorced or have a child.

Reasons for missing behavior5

Men who have been in relationships with women for several days can disappear according to the principle “Figaro here, figaro there.” In such cases, there may be other reasons why the subject suddenly evaporates.

• Betrayal by a partner.
• The frivolity of a man.
• Cowardice in the face of responsibility.
• Bitter disappointment and resentment.
• Other factors.

Advice from a psychologist when a guy stops writing

Before continuing reading, ask yourself the question: “is it so important for a guy to write to you?” Very often I observe a situation where stopping communication with a man is only for the benefit of the woman. You may think that this person will not bring anything good into your life and fate is preparing someone else for you. If he now, from time to time, ignores you, what will happen next? If the guy answers when you write first, then the situation here is completely different, you can read more about it here.

Wait a week

When a man stops writing, don’t rush to draw conclusions; maybe an emergency happened and he doesn’t really have the opportunity to get in touch. Therefore, there is no need to send hundreds of messages every two minutes about ignoring it. Take some time for yourself, go for a walk, rest, and refrain from texting him.

Manifestation of ignoring

Pretend that you don't care whether the guy texts you or not. Showing a little ignorance is sometimes useful. Hide the fact that you want to communicate with him and are waiting for a message from him. Control yourself and stay calm. If no more than a week has passed, do not write. If a guy has feelings for you or at least minimal interest, he will contact you on his own.

Final message

When your acquaintance happened quite recently, or you communicated only on the Internet, without live communication, you can safely stop initiating communication. Why waste your time on a person who doesn't want to waste his time on you? If you were in a relationship with a guy, then write something like this: “I decided that you and I look at life differently. Be happy.". Gather your strength and put an end to the relationship. Behave with dignity and do not belittle your own importance.

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Keep your messages short

If a man decides to resume communication, behave politely and show seriousness. If you start reprimanding him for ignoring him, this will make the situation worse. But also, if you really have something meaningful to say, say it. The main thing is to avoid conflicting communication.

Reciprocate

When you notice that a guy only responds to messages, but does not write himself. Don't bombard him with your messages, have normal communication. Start replying to his messages less often and don’t write first. It is necessary for the guy to understand that this model of communication is not acceptable with you.

Focusing on your own life

Sometimes there are situations when a guy does not write to a girl. It happens that many people encounter this. Instead of analyzing and looking for reasons for such behavior, get busy with your life. Why waste your nerves? If you can engage in self-development and spend time usefully for yourself. I'm sure you want to change your manicure, visit your friends or go to the gym. Respect yourself and your time.

Honest conversation6

There is nothing more unpleasant for a woman than for a man to disappear without explanation and suddenly stop communicating with her. Whatever the reason guides his decisions, he must honestly call, come or write a message explaining his action. Then the girl will stop hoping and waiting for his return, draw thoughtful conclusions, and perhaps leave him behind forever and ever. A rare hysterical woman will rush to sort things out and get to the bottom of the truth: “Why did you do this to me!?”

Why did the person disappear?

Let's say he's tired of you. Or he has plans for life that you don’t agree with. It's sad, but it happens.

However, in this case, the partners explain themselves. Or at least letters are written by those who find it difficult to say face to face.

By the way, if they personally tell you about a breakup, this does not mean that no one “tried.” By “tried” I mean magical intervention.

People are usually reluctant to break off relationships, because existing ties, even with some internecine problems, become a habit. 60% of relationship breakdowns are the result of magical intervention. The remaining 40% includes various situations when the partners’ life together does not work out for objective reasons. In 90% of such cases, the consumption is not sudden.

If there were no visible reasons for the breakup of the relationship, and there were no “bells”, such as frequent disagreements, quarrels, mutual misunderstandings, and the person just up and disappeared, then, most likely, your partner was “taken away” with the help of magic.

Think for yourself. If you decided to end a relationship with someone, why not say so directly? It's that simple. Well, okay, sometimes it’s difficult at first, but then what ease comes! And most importantly, you can be completely sure that you did the right thing and honestly towards both your partner and yourself.

Runic love magic

Cold cracker7

A brave, self-confident man will not “evaporate”, not wanting to continue a romantic relationship with a woman. He will talk to her honestly, listen to the flurry of emotions and go home. But this doesn't always happen. If a guy disappeared without explaining anything to a confused girlfriend, it means his character traits allow him to do this.

Most likely the young man is emotionally cold. He is an egoist, focused on his own desires, who is absolutely indifferent to the experiences of other people. He doesn't care about women's snot, screams and sleepless nights. He disappeared, having chosen the right decision for himself, in complete calm and equanimity. What happens in the soul of a former passion is completely indifferent to the man.

Manipulator with a special purpose8

In some cases, the guy disappears to manipulate the girl's actions. He achieves something from his “stubborn and disobedient” girlfriend and uses these methods to try to reason with the woman. In this case, there is no need to sound the alarm, but rather calmly wait for the “prodigal parrot” to return. Psychologists do not advise building your life with manipulators, but deep down in their souls, every person is a little bit of a “dictator.” The wise behavior of a woman will show a man that such methods will not have their effect. Next time the man will not disappear without a trace. But with frequent manipulation, at one point the woman herself will disappear.

I'm not a coward, but I'm afraid9

Making responsible decisions often frightens timid, childish guys. From early childhood, he decided to entrust his worries to his busy mother and his grandmother fluttering nearby. Having become a mustachioed man outwardly, he remains the same indecisive boy inside his large body.

When a relationship with a woman becomes difficult or requires serious decisions, the man “hides under his grandmother’s skirt” and disappears. Difficulties such as financial issues, marriage, or the pregnancy of a lover especially strike a guy with trepidation and horror. The last reason ranks high on the list of reasons why the man disappeared without explanation. Having learned about the conception of a future heir, most men, pulling their heads into their shoulders, try to quickly run away. Even to the ends of the world.

Accept reality10

There is no more unpleasant situation for the fair sex than a “missing” boyfriend. The woman feels insulted, depressed, pathetic and unhappy. An unpleasant fact, like a bolt from the blue, tears her heart into pieces. She definitely wants to find the fugitive and sort things out with him. This is a big mistake.

If a girl understands that there is no fault on her part, and the guy made his own decision to leave the relationship, then she needs to accept the sad fact. Yes, the romance, love relationship or marriage has turned to dust. The man chose to live a different life and this fact must be accepted. It is important to understand that this is his vision of the situation and a firmly weighed decision.

Ritual to find out if quarrel magic has been used

This is a simple magical analysis that is easy to describe and do step by step. But it contains many stages and elements.

First, spread a red tablecloth, or a bright red cloth, on the table where you will perform the ritual. There should be no unnecessary drawings on the tablecloth!

Draw two circles with charcoal directly on the tablecloth. Thus:

Then you need special chalk. This is a simple piece of chalk that should lie in consecrated ground, or in a holy place. That is, in a cemetery, or on the territory of a temple building. Cemeteries are sanctified, so the easiest way is to come to the cemetery and bury chalk (shallowly) in the ground, then pick it up a day later. It is better if this is done during significant Christian celebrations. For example - on Easter, Christmas, or Epiphany, etc.

Why is this? The ritual summons the shadow of a demon to obtain an answer. Not the demon himself, only his shadow, but still this is also dangerous. The chalk will outline his “zone of influence,” so to speak. Demons are the other side of Christian occultism, so you need chalk charged with Christian energy. This chalk will need to limit the space of influence of the demon's shadow. The circle is a defensive line.

Draw with chalk along the contours of the circles drawn in charcoal:

Inside the smaller circle, draw a five-pointed star in the same way, with charcoal and chalk. Its orientation (upside down or upright) does not matter.

Between the inner and outer circles, write with charcoal 4 times the name of the demon “ANDRAS” , whose power you are appealing to in this ritual. The inscriptions should be located according to the cardinal directions: east-north-west-south. Yes, I forgot to say - one of the vertices of the pentacle (star) should face west!

Place green candles at the tops of the pentagram on the outside of the outer circle.

One candle - it must be placed on the western ray of the star - should be the main one, that is, above the rest.

You need sweets to appease the demon. But this is more of a demonstration of respect - the astral essence doesn’t need dates. In general, these are the ancient recipes for careful handling of demons, and I see no reason to violate them, since they work.

Take dates, prunes, hazelnuts and raisins:

From left to right – dates, prunes, hazelnuts, raisins

And place them between the inner and outer circle:

This is all preparation. Now a little more preparation, and the fun will soon begin.

You need 2 photographs of a person who suddenly disappeared from your life, your partner. In this example, we take the case that the guy left the girl, and the girl initiates the ritual. Therefore there will be a photo of the guy.

One photo must be burned to obtain ashes. That is, burn the photo in some container.

The photograph must burn completely so that only ashes remain.

Add salt to the ashes. Salt should be added in pinches, not with a spoon, or poured from a bag. So that the salt is charged with your energy. The number of pinches can be any, but odd.

Mix the salt and ash with a wooden stick. It’s better if the wand is made of mistletoe or aspen.

On a piece of paper you need to draw the Andras seal (ANDRAS). This is the only demon listed in the Goetia that is directly responsible for all strife. "Goetia" is, roughly speaking, a manual for controlling demons and spirits. It is believed that its author is the biblical King Solomon.

IMPORTANT! You are not summoning a demon, and you will not communicate with it directly. This would be too dangerous, because ANDRAS, although not the main one, is the most evil demon of the 72 listed in the Goetia. However, if the discord between you and your loved one occurred due to magical intervention, then this demonic entity, roughly speaking, is aware. And you can get the answer without involving the demon himself, but only using a copy of his seal.

Seal of Andras

You can simplify the task - copy and print this drawing on a printer, and then trace it over by hand with ink. The main thing is that the creation of a seal symbolically includes a moment of handmade work.

Roll the piece of paper with the seal into a thin tube and tie it with a red silk or satin ribbon. Pour the salt mixed with ashes into a glass or cup.

Now everything is ready for the ritual, you can begin. Light the candles:

Place a photograph of your partner inside the magic sign on the tablecloth, about the reasons for whose disappearance you want to find out, and place the dishes with salt and ashes there. A folded copy of the demon's seal needs to be secured above the photo. You can use tweezers or a fork. You should end up with a similar design:

The lower end of the folded piece of paper with the seal should be 2-3 cm above the photo.

The top end needs to be set on fire.

Now watch the smoke come out from the lower end. If it rises upward, like any smoke, then magic is almost certainly not involved in the discord between you and your partner. But if smoke clearly descends on the photo, as if connecting a piece of paper with the seal of the demon of discord with the photo of your partner, then you have been separated by magic!

Smoke falls like a thin thread right into the photo

The stream of smoke can remain as thin as a thread. Or it can grow and become wide and dense:

This shows how strong the magical intervention was. If, in addition, the set piece of paper quickly fades out, it means that the one who performed the discordant ritual, or the black love spell on your lover, or beloved, tried to hide the traces of the influence, and the information is closed. To obtain more information about what happened, more complex rituals are needed, and the work of a professional magician is needed. And even more so, if you want to neutralize the impact, then you cannot do without the help of a specialist.

A smooth stream of smoke directed directly at the photo shows that the discord was sowed by a professional magician. If the stream is interrupted, blurred, or does not hold its shape, this may indicate that the discord was caused by an amateur using primitive, crude magical practices. However, amateur magical influence, with inevitable errors in such cases in performing rituals, can turn out to be even more dangerous than the work of a professional.

You can see soot in the photograph of the person for whom this ritual is being performed. The density, color and richness of the soot also indicate the depth and destructiveness of the magical effect.

The degree of smoke in the photo shows the strength of the magical effect. Here a medium-strength, but rough, spass was used. The fact that an amateur worked can be seen from the blurriness of the spot

The last important recommendation: The essence of the ritual is that the demon, whose shadow you are addressing through the described magic, is aware of all the strife occurring on this sinful earth. Calling him to ask him personally would be too rash. From the point of view of astral forces, our human problems are dust. And the demon will be very angry if you call him because someone left you there.

During this ritual, no summoning of demons or other “hellish forces” occurs. You don't need this. But still, at the level of astral vibrations, this ritual disturbs dangerous entities (magicians call them egregors). Therefore, for your own safety, the ritual should be performed either from 9 am to 12 noon, or from 3 am to 6 am. This way there is less chance that the spirit you are addressing will manifest itself more than is relatively safe. And it's not a joke!

I cannot give a 100% guarantee that you will succeed in the ritual. Because doing something according to instructions, without experience and deep knowledge, is never reliable. In addition, even if you find out that your loved one left not of their own free will, but because they became victims of magic, you will still need the help of a professional.

I am not the only professional magician you can turn to. But I can do a lot. And very good.

Evening for bitter sobs11

When your heart aches from love's wounds, no amount of advice can ease the pain. At first, a woman will want to cry and be alone. You shouldn’t withdraw into yourself and bury painful feelings. It is necessary to give them a way out, to throw out bitterness and pain through tears and intimate conversations with a trusted person. It is important to analyze your feelings and the situation in order to understand the reasons that pushed your friend to take such a step. It is worth taking away a lesson from the situation that will protect future relationships from mistakes and breakups.

Regain self-confidence12

After painful experiences, you need to look around and focus on yourself. Watching films about unhappy love and abandoned heroines will demonstrate how the unfortunate survived the separation of a man with dignity. The classic film “Moscow Doesn’t Believe in Tears” tells the story of how unhappy love helped a provincial girl achieve great success.

Later, the main character met her soulmate, but was grateful to fate for the sad experience in the past. It is important for a woman to regain her calm and self-confidence, which have been greatly shaken due to the situation that has occurred. Sports, dancing, visiting the swimming pool, beauty salon and gym will definitely be beneficial.

Go with God13

If a man disappears without explanation, there is no need to pursue him. It's his decision. A cowardly but thoughtful decision. His choice should be respected and accepted. Let him build his life elsewhere. The woman should forgive and release the fugitive. The future will show that this situation was only for the better. The black stripe is certainly followed by a white stripe.

Instead of an unsightly character, a worthy person will definitely appear. There is no point in feeling sorry for a man who disappeared and did not bother to explain the reason. Whatever the motives, it is not nice to do this. As one wise woman said: “My man would not do that. So this is not my man!”

Does something similar happen to women?

We are surprised when we hear that a girl, not a man, disappeared after sex. The image of a fatal temptress immediately appears in your head, for whom men’s hearts are just toys. In fact, the explanation is simpler: if a woman disappears after sex, it means she is not sure that the relationship should be continued. This happens, for example, when a guy and a girl accidentally slept together, having had a little too much wine and succumbing to sudden passion. Or maybe the sexual experience turned out to be unpleasant for her, and after weighing everything, she realized that she was not ready to share a bed with such a guy.

In general, the female psyche is so delicately structured that any little thing can provoke indifference to sex with a specific man. A partner needs to be sensitive in order to notice “alarm bells” in time and prevent them from ruining the relationship.

It has been proven that the better a man and a woman understand each other, the fewer problems arise in their relationship. This also applies to sex. Read the articles in the “Love and Sex” section, or better yet, come to the “Secrets of Women’s Happiness” training. Coach and psychologist Pavel Rakov will teach girls to behave with dignity with guys, find a way out of difficult situations and build healthy relationships from which no one wants to suddenly disappear.

Your boyfriend disappeared after sex? What do you think was the reason?