10 tricks of a wise woman so that a man will always be drawn to her

• August 13, 2019
• Psychology of relationships
• Maria Kravets

Men and women in relationships often face many different difficulties. And all because they don’t know what the other half really wants. It is important to be able not only to convey your desires to your loved one, but also to know what he wants. In an ideal relationship, all these nuances are discussed between partners, and then disagreements become much smaller. But are there many such couples? Most often, ladies have a question: “What does a man want from a woman?” And it’s not always possible to get an answer from the man himself.

Men don't say what they mean

Remember the Soviet two-part film “Vacation at your own expense”? It contains a wonderful phrase that can still be found in statuses, Internet memes and in signatures on forms:

When asked what you value most in a woman, any man will answer: “Of course, the soul!” And then he looks at her legs.

This is truly a life quote, which once again confirms the fact that men do not always say what they really think. You can understand what is in his head only by his actions and active actions.

If he is constantly busy and does not find time for you, there is no need to create illusions: he is not interested in you. A man's brain is designed completely differently than a woman's. Even if he is “drowning” in work and affairs, he will never forget to call and ask how you are doing, will take 10 minutes to drink coffee with you, will deliver flowers by courier and thereby remind you of himself.

It is also important to note that at different stages of a relationship, the answer to the question of what a man wants from a woman will be different.

Sexual relations

This is perhaps the most personal part. You can truly understand your partner in bed only in person, not necessarily the first time. Intimate relationships are the pinnacle of trust and the surest way to get to know a person completely and completely.

Don't be too passive in bed. Many girls confuse passivity with a complete lack of initiative, almost indifference to what is happening. Such an attitude will be unpleasant for anyone, and a sensitive and vulnerable man may perceive it as an insult towards him.

You shouldn’t overact either - men in practice do not behave so stereotypically and can recognize falsehood.

Be original. Not every partner will immediately open up and admit some preferences and fantasies that seem too personal to him. You just need a little patience and participation - as soon as the bridge of trust is built, any man will be happy to let you in to his deepest secrets. Offer new experiences, overcome barriers together, and reciprocate with mutual trust.

The first stage of relationships, instincts and the biological environment

By nature, men are conquerors. The prey they get with easy labor is not as tasty and appetizing as the one they had to hunt for all day. In relationships with ladies, men also want to be winners. And if they succeed too quickly, interest instantly disappears. Girls who don’t understand this unanimously repeat: “Men want sex, and women want love.” But in fact, the desires of both coincide in many respects, only the ways to achieve the goal differ.

Every man has his own “ideal woman” in his head. Which? On the one hand, she is a good housewife and mother, and on the other, a passionate and depraved lady. When a man likes a woman, he dreams of becoming closer to her, of mastering her completely.

It is the woman’s behavior at this stage that will determine the further development of events. If she immediately becomes his, interest will disappear, and with it the conqueror himself. Most men do not have the goal of getting laid and leaving. They, just like us, are looking for love, affection, understanding. But they talk and hint about sex a lot. It is this closeness that will be a kind of beacon for them: “that’s it, she’s mine.”

If this happens too quickly, in 90% of cases the man runs away headlong. And all because he doesn’t know what to do with it all. On the one hand, he has achieved the young lady’s favor, but on the other, he still knows his chosen one very poorly.

He wants a hot and beautiful woman5

No matter how trivial it may sound, but according to statistics, most men after 30 years old lack fire in relationships. Every time, looking back, he remembers hot kisses, sudden sex in the kitchen, right on the table, your bath together, with caresses turning into foreplay, new underwear on his girlfriend, and how nice it is to take off this underwear from her.

Yes, over time, everyday life takes you into its tenacious clutches and doesn’t let you go back. Work, constant problems, and then also children - all this does not contribute to the mood to be beautiful, much less hot. All you want to do during the day is sleep. However, at least on the weekend, try to please your man, if not with a new outfit that costs money, then at least with a beautiful dress that you haven’t worn for a long time.

If not mind-blowing sex with simultaneous orgasm, then a relaxing massage that turns into caresses of explicit areas. Come up with ways to brighten up your life. After all, from ancient times it was the woman who was the keeper of the hearth. And if you don’t ignite the fire in your man, then at one moment another one can do it.

Living together

I would like to think that when the first stage is successfully completed, all misunderstandings remain in the past and a strong and friendly family awaits the partners. But family life brings its own surprises. And in different couples, conflicts arise for different reasons. But the most important of them is misunderstanding each other. What does psychology say about this?

What does a man want from a woman? This seems incredibly difficult to understand. He may talk a lot, or may be completely silent, but his true intentions can be seen by his actions. In addition, many do not at all consider it necessary to constantly sing the praises of their passion and confess their love every minute. He brings money home, calls to ask how she is doing, scolds her when she goes outside in the cold without a hat - a lot of little things that mean that he has strong feelings and serious intentions. In the minds of many women, if a man doesn’t talk about his feelings, it means they don’t exist.

Misunderstandings manifest themselves in many other things, and if a lady has the question “what does a man want from a woman,” then there really are certain problems in the couple.

Friendship

Men are needed not only for creating a family or relationships. Many neutral or friendly men often appear on the path of the average woman. These could be work colleagues, dance partners, fitness trainers, childhood friends, husbands or other relatives of close friends.

A few simple rules:

1. Just light flirting. Flirting is a natural form of communication, but if this particular man is only a friend for you, you need to set clear boundaries. Allowing too much and then abruptly pushing such a friend away from you would be a frivolous and stupid act.
2. Don't be intrusive. There is no need to force your friend into your interests or, on the contrary, carefully memorize topics that interest him. This will not help communication, it will only create awkward situations.
3. Don't turn your boyfriend into a girlfriend. No matter how close you are, it will be indecent to devote him to openly “feminine” topics.

Men are usually loyal and sympathetic friends. Don't give up on this kind of relationship and you will soon discover a lot of new things.

Why should I?

And this is another important question that often arises in women’s minds. At first the thought comes that it’s time to change something in the relationship. The young lady begins to study a mountain of literature and comes across simple advice. She must:

• be in love;
• respect;
• understand;
• take care.

Then a logical question arises: why exactly is she obliged to do this? In fact, there are reasons for this.

If you want to save your union and live in happiness and harmony, you need to start with changes. And since forcibly changing another person, and especially a man, is a difficult task, the easiest way is to start with yourself. It’s good when each partner thinks: “What else good can I do for my loved one?” To do this, you need to completely reconsider the problems with your man and try to change everything. And if you are already wondering what a man wants from a woman, then you understand this.

Psychology of men

Representatives of the stronger sex are very proud that they were born this way. They are courageous, strong, responsible. And they definitely demonstrate this to their ladies, if they allow it, of course. But in most cases, conflicts begin precisely when a woman begins to suppress these qualities. And this happens unnoticed for the lady, but painful for the man.

For example, he decided to nail a new shelf in the wrong place. Many women immediately react to the situation very aggressively. Most often with a scream or even a scandal. When the situation repeats itself over and over again, the man stops doing anything altogether. In any case, your partner needs to be supported in all endeavors. Any situation can be turned in the other direction. Even if you don't like the idea, you can change it a little without hurting the person's feelings.

Men love to give gifts, flowers, and invite them to a restaurant. They experience incredible pleasure from this. Thus, they show their financial solvency and interest in the lady. This is inherent in their nature, and this is exactly what men want from women in relationships. But ladies often refuse this, especially when their love has been going on for more than a year. Often a woman herself persuades her husband to have dinner at home, rather than in a restaurant. It is logical that there are reasons for this:

• small children who have no one to leave with;
• financial difficulties;
• depression and apathy.

But you should understand that by refusing, you yourself are pushing your husband to find a woman who will happily accept courtship. You shouldn't give this chance to someone else. A man should feel admired. And for this he is ready to make many sacrifices. You just need to push him towards this a little. And you need to start not with requests and insults, but with admiration. The more you appreciate your boyfriend, the harder he will try.

What do men want from life and their partner?

If we systematize the desires of any representative of the stronger sex, the result will be as follows:

• Self-realization. For a man, social status and a sense of self-worth are of great importance. That is why any representative of the stronger sex strives to realize himself in a professional field, buy an apartment, a car, a house outside the city and be financially stable.
• Feeling supported. A man wants to be sure that the woman he loves will always understand and support. Support means agreement with his position and his plans. It will be enough for him if his beloved simply listens to him and says that he is doing the right thing and she agrees with his actions. Women see support elsewhere. They begin to express their opinion about the existing problem, give advice and criticize the actions of their chosen one. It is precisely because of the difference in understanding of support that disagreements often arise.
• Respect. This desire is embodied in recognition and respect for a man’s needs, in particular his hobbies. He doesn't want to hear that fishing is a waste of time and just a way to get drunk with friends. Any hobby for a man is, first of all, a way to relieve accumulated irritation and distract from pressing problems.
• To be loved. In a relationship, an important role for a man is played not only by satisfying sexual appetites, but also by a feeling of spiritual closeness and tenderness with his beloved. He feels when he is truly loved, he needs kisses and hugs. All these little signs of attention from the chosen one help a man feel loved and needed.
• Feeling of reliability and safety. It's not that a man needs protection, it's about confidence in his life partner. He takes responsibility for the welfare and safety of the family. Like any owner, a man wants to know that his beloved belongs to him not only in body, but also in soul. Confidence in the woman he loves and in her feelings helps him feel safe and stable, even if there are a lot of problems in everyday life.

Inviolable territory

Here is another reason why spouses quarrel so often. A man expects a woman not to infringe on his freedom. And this doesn't just apply to hanging out with friends. When a girl chooses what a man will wear, what he will eat and how much he will drink, this is all an invasion of personal space. Especially if she uses hysteria and scandal for these purposes.

You don't want a man to get drunk at a party tonight? Then promise him something that he will think about all evening. Don't you like his sweater? Hide it one fine morning. And when a man has to wear something different, be sure to admire him. Say that in this he is so sexy and desirable for you that you lose your head. You might even be late for work for this. The main thing is for the man to see that you are really delighted with his appearance. The next morning, the “awful sweater” can be returned to its place. We bet he won't even remember about him?

He needs your affection and care3

Let's say your man is a serious and confident person who achieves a lot. But when he comes home from work, the first thing he does is receive a new batch of tasks. “Feed the baby, walk the dog, go to the store, finally make that damn socket” - all these seemingly insignificant responsibilities accumulate day by day into one big problem - your man will not feel comfortable and cozy next to you.

This can be the root cause of nights out, get-togethers with friends, and then even delays at work and strange trips in the evenings. Especially if, after a hard day of work and household chores, he receives a dry “I’m tired” from his wife, then he will not want to be near her and will avoid her. You shouldn’t allow this to happen if the person is truly dear to you.

Look at everything from the other side: yes, it’s difficult for you with children and your back hurts from cleaning the house, and also these neighbors with their hammer drill, which gives you a headache, but your partner is also tired at work. And when he comes home, he expects to be relieved of stress and to be greeted with warmth and care.

So give your man something that will make him smile, maybe for the first time all day. Hug him, tell him how much you missed him during the day, how much you were waiting for him to return, kiss him and pat him on the head. After all, what could be better than the warm look of your beloved after a busy day at work? Probably nothing.

Work and free time

Women like to complain about two things:

1. He earns little.
2. He doesn't spend much time with me.

And such complaints usually sound almost simultaneously. That is, on the one hand, the young lady dreams of living a prosperous life, and on the other, so that her beloved will always be nearby. But this is practically impossible. All successful men work like oxen. Such dedication to work will certainly be generously rewarded.

A man wants to find a woman who will support and understand him. He needs a reliable rear, but he didn’t drink. Let him feel that his efforts are not in vain. But proper organization of rest is a woman’s task.

He wants to feel sexy and desired9

Nothing pleases a man's ego more than popularity with the opposite sex. Neither a high salary, nor a prestigious job, nor an expensive car can replace the excited look of a girl for a man, especially when she is already with him. To have the reputation of an excellent lover is one of the main desires of all men, without exception.

For some, you need to win as many hearts as possible; usually such men do not quickly create families. And for some, one is enough, but forever, to please only her for the rest of their lives. But be that as it may, any male representative loves to feel the burning gaze on him, with which he is stripped naked. Not only is it incredibly exciting, but it also perfectly raises the self-esteem of all guys, without exception.

A little about appearance

When it becomes clear what a man expects from a woman in a relationship, questions inevitably arise that relate to the lady’s appearance. An intelligent and well-mannered guy will never make comments about excess weight, greasy hair and a dirty robe. However, this does not mean at all that he is satisfied with everything.

Yes, a woman has periods (especially after the birth of a baby) when it is incredibly difficult to find at least a couple of minutes for herself. But when this drags on for many years, a man ceases to see a woman as a sexual goddess, in front of him is just a housekeeper. That's the same attitude towards her.

Qualities you need to have

Do you think that a man expects something from a woman? But in fact it's the other way around. Actions and active actions are his prerogative. And if you are already pulling this burden yourself, be prepared that sooner or later you will also play the role of a man. The attitude towards a woman depends entirely on her behavior.

If she is fragile and defenseless, a strong man will be nearby. And if this is a vixen who sweeps away everything in her path, it is possible that sooner or later the loved one will turn into a lack of initiative and inertia.

The main function of a woman in a relationship is to give love and beauty, to provide comfort, peace and tranquility in the home. For a man, a home is an oasis, an island where you can relax from all your problems. If you value relationships, immediately let go of all grievances and build a new - strong and happy - family.

Love

No wonder they say that the best partner is a friend. The ideal way to maintain a harmonious and stable relationship with your loved one is to become his friend. Of course, your interests may not coincide in many ways, which is quite natural, but you can always find several points of contact. If there are none, think about whether you chose the right person?

Courtship is not a one-way process. Doing nice things and gifts (even if purely symbolic) is not a purely male responsibility.

Pleasant surprises, unexpected joys or interesting events that can be experienced together warm up the relationship and preserve the passion and commitment of the partner longer. A man, even the most purposeful and stubborn in his leadership position in life, will be very pleased if a girl decides to please him.

Of course, men love fidelity. You really want to be close to a person who is faithful to you and everything that has already been built between two people - it’s unlikely that anyone will argue with this.

To prove your fidelity, you don’t need to run away from all your male acquaintances - only a weak, very insecure partner can demand this.