What to talk about on the phone with a guy

A lively, active conversation is the best way to arouse interest in a man, which helps you learn more about him and open up better yourself. Alas, not all girls are endowed with the gift of speech. Sometimes you really want to talk, but you just don’t know how to interest your interlocutor. Some have difficulty making contact due to complexes and fears, while others simply lack communication skills.

The main rule of an interesting conversation is smooth maneuvering between relevant topics. Long pauses should not occur, because they cause a feeling of awkwardness in both. We offer a list of universal conversation topics that will help if you don't know what to talk about with a guy.

By correspondence on VKontakte

What to talk about with a guy by correspondence? VKontakte is the most popular social network in Russia. Almost everyone on this site has an account, and some have more than one. Most online dating happens here, and not through special services where lonely hearts gather. Do you like a man's profile, but don't know what to write to him?

Corresponding on the Internet is much easier than communicating in person. Messaging is a great platform for testing communication if you are too shy to meet men, and the best option for maintaining a long-distance relationship.

You can write about anything online. When a person does not see the face of the interlocutor, it is easier for him to open up. If a girl is not used to answering quickly, then the Internet gives her time to think about her answer, since messaging is a time-consuming process.

Here is a list of twenty questions that you can ask both guys you know and those with whom you are corresponding for the first time. They are suitable not only for communication via social networks, but also for regular conversation via SMS.

What he does or what he plans to become.
What are his favorite hobbies and interests?
What films does he prefer to watch?
What genre of music does he like and what bands does he like?
Does he like to cook? If yes, what are your favorite dishes?
What cities or countries did he visit? Where did he like it the most and why?
How does he imagine himself in ten years?
What is he dreaming about now?
What is his most vivid memory from childhood?
How does he feel about pets and did he have any favorite pets as a child?
What does he prefer: dancing in a noisy club or hiking, river rafting, picnic in nature.
Does he like books? If so, which ones?
Does he have friends? What do they like to do together?
Does he have a sister or brother? What kind of relationship do they have?
Has he served in the army or is he just planning to?
How does he feel about sports?
Does he like trips out of town?
What is most important to him in life.
If he could go to any corner of the world, where would he go?
Have there been any serious relationships in his life and does he communicate with his exes?

It is best to ask questions in the order in which they appear. Gradually, the person will open up in the conversation, so each question becomes a little more frank.

Phone call rules5

Simple rules for a phone call with a guy are aimed at a girl’s behavior:

“I won’t call first!” and “Modern age: if you wanted, you dialed the number!” Both statements are quite wrong. There is nothing wrong with a girl taking the first step towards a meeting and calling the man herself. But often you can’t call first. Moreover, impose. Yes, and how will a girl understand whether her boyfriend misses her if he constantly pesters him with calls?
Don't drag out the conversation for too long. An ideal conversation lasts about 2 hours, no more. After: the conversation becomes tiresome.
Daily “negotiations” will remove the charming veil of the “magical aura”. The dialogue will develop into an ordinary routine and will cease to delight and surprise. It is enough to call each other about 2-3 times a week.

Ideally, the girl should be the first to hang up and whisper a gentle: “Bye! Let's call you!"

By phone

Talking on the phone is the second stage of dating, which can be called training before real live communication. Building a dialogue with a stranger is always difficult. What can you talk to him about if you barely know each other? To avoid awkward pauses, we recommend that you try texting first. Only when messages can no longer satisfy your desire to communicate should you move on to telephone conversations.

After a banal “hello”, you can ask a couple of universal questions from the list:

How was his day today?
Has he heard about the recent event. If so, how does he feel about it?
What does he plan to do this weekend?
Which celebrity does he like best and why?
How he would act in a given situation.
Does his family have any interesting customs or traditions?
Does he plan to go on vacation this year?
What subjects at school did he like best?
Does he have childhood friends? Do they still maintain a relationship?
How does it relieve accumulated stress?
What goals has he set for himself for the next few years?
Does he have any idols? Why does he want to look up to these people?
What is his favorite time of year?
How does he feel about loneliness?
There were serious relationships in his life and how he experienced breakups.
What he dreamed about when he was a boy.
What kind of relationship does he have with his friends?
If he had more free time, what would he spend it on?
Can he swim? If yes, how did you learn it?
How often does his whole family get together for the holidays?

Where should you start?

First, you need to understand whether the young man is in the mood for communication, whether he is currently busy with important matters. Test the waters with general questions:

"Hello! How are you?"
“How did you get to work today?”
“How was training yesterday?”
“I really want to cheer you up. How can I do that?"
“What good happened to you today?”
“Have you already had lunch? What delicious food did they serve in the cafeteria today?”
“Do you know what happened to...?”

If you don’t receive a response for a long time, don’t panic!
A person may simply be busy with business. As soon as he is free, he will answer immediately. How to get the attention of the guy you like

On a walk

Starting a conversation while walking is both easier and more difficult than communicating on the phone or through social networks. A girl may simply feel shy when she is next to a guy.

The advantages of such communication are that you can see how the interlocutor reacts to a particular question. This will allow you to quickly adapt to him and choose the right direction for the conversation.

While you are walking, you have a unique opportunity to show that you are a smart interlocutor who knows how to listen. In a short walk you can learn a lot about a guy’s past and find out his plans for the future. Don't miss this chance.

Topics to talk to a guy while walking around the city:

Does he like his chosen profession?
Where would he like to go?
Can he call himself a romantic?
What he was like as a child.
The family's negative attitude toward his choice of girlfriend may influence his opinion.
He knows how to give in in an argument.
He forgives misdeeds and quarrels or never compromises.
How he feels about women who take the initiative.
How he copes with difficulties.
I wish he could fix something in his life.
He often gets involved in conflicts.
Were there any real enemies or rivals in his life?
He believes that the ends justify the means.
What attracts him to people?
What dreams does he plan to turn into reality in the near future?
What did he spend the first money he earned on?
What does he dream of doing?
What does he mean by the word love?
Does he believe in love at first sight?
I could live with one person my whole life.

List of funny questions for a guy

It is worth remembering that a serious conversation cannot be long, as it tires and strains all participants in the conversation. It is recommended to use humor in dialogue; this will help relieve unnecessary tension and cheer up your interlocutors.

The following questions will help you rise to the positive wave:

What do you usually do with an alarm clock that rings in the morning?
What color would you decide to repaint your refrigerator?
Have you ever walked along city streets wearing just a robe?
Do you have a dream of riding white clouds?
What pattern do you usually use to fold your socks?
Are you jumping over puddles?
When taking a shower, what song do you hum most often?
Do you like that young man you see in the mirror every day?
Imagine that I have 2 invitations to a ship in Space. Will you agree to fly with me?

On the first date

A first date is an exciting event, because it is during a live dialogue that a person decides whether to continue communication. Relationships can end before they even begin. A first date is like walking through a minefield. Any careless phrase, vulgarity or joke can ruin the atmosphere and create awkwardness in the conversation.

It is better to start a conversation from afar, and it is better to move on to more personal topics gradually. No one will bare their soul to a stranger, so do not try to extract information from him using pincers.

Topics for conversation with a guy:

What is his relationship with his family?
What attracts him to you?
What qualities does he value in girls, and what character traits does he not like?
He often gives advice to others.
Where does he like to go on weekends?
Where was he born and how did he spend his childhood?
I would like to become a celebrity.
What brings him happiness.
Does he believe in astrology?
What does he think about love?
What talents does he have?
He had significant achievements in school.
Does he like sports?
What would he do if he found himself in a woman's body?
Where would he go if he became invisible?
Does he justify white lies?
How do you feel about people who don’t know how to lose?
Where does he dream to go on vacation?
Which country does he love most and why?
If he were offered to take up any activity he liked, what would he choose?

The last minutes before parting will tell you whether the date went well or not. If a guy without vulgarities expresses a desire to kiss you, it means he is interested in you. All that remains is to prepare topics for conversation on the second date.

List of questions to help spark interest

Here is a list of topics for conversation, they can be safely discussed, but you should remember that your opinion and his may not coincide. Don't argue, but listen carefully to the opposing point of view.

So, 13 sensitive questions that will definitely not leave him indifferent:

What is the greatest value in your life?
Do you have a desire to be immortal?
Do you believe in God?
Your day is perfect. What is he like?
Are you grateful for anything in your own life?
What abilities or talents would you like to have?
What qualities do you value most in others?
Were you happy in your childhood?
If you want to change your own life, then what exactly?
Is there something that can make you shed a tear?
What is absolutely forbidden to laugh at?
What's your biggest phobia?
What is your secret dream?

If you notice that a young man is actively maintaining a conversation and suggesting topics for conversation, he is interested in you.

Universal topics for conversation with a guy

If you really want to talk to the guy you like, but don’t know where to start, we offer a large list of universal topics that your interlocutor will definitely not get bored with:

What he loves to do in his free time.
When was the last time he was in the cinema?
What films, TV series and programs he prefers and what actors he likes.
Does he watch any podcasts?
What social networks do you prefer to communicate on?
How he gets girls interested.
He will choose a relaxing or active holiday.
Which makes him sad.
How he relaxes after severe stress.
Does he like to sing?
How often does he go to dances?
Who is his favorite author?
Which bands did he attend?
Where was his first date?
Who was his first love?
What kind of relationships did he have with his classmates?
What childhood memory would he call his worst?
What does he fear most?
If life after death is in his opinion.
Whom will he choose: a cat, a dog or his own version (ferret, hamster, dwarf dog).
Is it possible for men to cry?
Has he ever fallen in love with a friend's girlfriend?
He visited museums or art galleries.
Which historical figure would he like to talk to?
Has he ever been to karaoke?
What was the most curious situation that happened in his life?
How often does he get into adventures?
What action in his life does he consider the craziest?
How he treats children.
What would he do if he found himself on a desert island?
He would choose exact sciences or humanities.
He considers himself an owl or early bird.
What place on earth would he call paradise?
Does he have innate talent?
Does he have a terrible secret?
How often does he replay the most embarrassing moments of his life?
When was the last time he rested in nature?
Does he like games? If so, which ones?
How often does he return to the past?
Where does he see himself in the future?
What goals are on his agenda?
Has he ever flown on an airplane? If yes, what sensations did you experience during the process?
Does he have any bad habits? How he fights them.
Whom could he call an authority for himself?
He keeps some things from his childhood.
Where he had his first kiss.
How does he feel about betrayal?
If there was a time machine, what time would he go to?
What are his food preferences?
Which book/film/game universe would he go to if the opportunity arose?
Which superpower would he choose?
What actions make him proud?
What summer of his life was the happiest and why.
Which planet would he go to in search of extraterrestrial life?
What was the longest relationship in his life?
What brings him joy.
Does he consider himself a happy person? If not, what is he missing?
Does he believe in mysticism?
What genre of films does he like best?
When was the last time he walked in the park?
Which place does his warmest memories associate with?
What does he want to achieve in this life?
Does he like his job?
When he first realized that he had become an adult.
Do difficulties scare him?
What does he think about blind dates?
Has he ever woken up in a completely unfamiliar place?
Does he believe in psychic abilities?
Where would he like to spend his old age?
He would want to live forever if such a possibility existed.

Equipment and gadgets

Almost every modern person has gadgets. What is their role in your boyfriend’s life?

Do you spend a lot of time talking on the phone?
Do you like to play computer games?
How old were you when you got your first computer?
Has it ever happened that you sat at the computer all night?
Does it annoy you if your interlocutor regularly looks at his phone?
Could you give your girlfriend social network passwords?
Which social network do you spend the most time on?
Do you approve of virtual dating?
Could you give up using your phone/tablet/laptop for at least one day?
Have you ever experienced a virtual romance?

What you can't talk about

During a conversation, you should try to avoid sensitive topics. When a person does not want to talk about something, there is no need to force him, although sometimes the temptation to find out some secret pushes a girl to take wrong actions. The guy will open up as you get closer. You also can’t put pressure on your interlocutor.

Try to avoid discussing political and religious views, financial issues. If your opinions differ, this may lead to an argument or conflict. You won't want to talk anymore.

Try to avoid direct questions. If a guy says he knows English, don't force him to immediately translate your favorite band's latest hit.

Leave stories about your ex for your friends3

Wanting to seem like an experienced girl, the girl describes her relationship with her ex-boyfriend in every detail. They complain, hurl contempt and curses when they find “free ears.” You can't do that. If a man is not interested in this topic, you should not mention your ex-boyfriend.

When talking with a guy, there is no need to talk too much:

Vulgar jokes, swear words and loud explosive laughter remove the veil of charm and tenderness from the girl. If the guy doesn’t hang up, it means he has moved to the level of familiar communication. Or he is very polite, in love and loyal to other people’s mistakes.

Sharing sexual fantasies is possible only with a beloved guy who has been in a relationship for more than one day. Your partner will appreciate the seductive flirting, use your imagination and get a kick out of the intimate conversation. But an unfamiliar man will think that in front of him is a promiscuous, frivolous lady. It doesn’t matter how long a woman hasn’t had sex: a month, a year, five years, when talking with the stronger sex you need to be polite, sweet, full of dignity and tenderness.

Psychologist's advice

When communication is just starting, follow the simple advice of psychologists:

Try to talk freely, because feeling constrained interferes with open dialogue.
Let's talk to the guy, but don't forget to talk about yourself.
Lighten the mood with jokes.
Don't get distracted while talking.
Try to understand your interlocutor.
Be attentive to his words.
During your interlocutor's monologues, gently interrupt him with insignificant phrases so that he understands that he is being listened to.
Don't try to give advice unless asked.
Learn to put an end to the conversation. Endless conversations are exhausting. Such communication does not bring pleasure.

Now you have 150 topics in stock that you can talk about with a guy by correspondence, by phone or live. It is not necessary to use all the points. Select only those that you think will be most interesting to your interlocutor. Don't forget about yourself. When a girl always takes the initiative and goes out of her way to liven up communication, but does not feel any return, it is better not to waste your time on this guy. The situation here is the same as with a serious relationship - both must give their all.

Things you shouldn't do in correspondence

As mentioned earlier, it is extremely important to respect boundaries and not get carried away by too many questions. You are not under interrogation. Keep a certain distance.

Nuances that should also be taken into account:

without interrupting, listen to his point of view;
you should not categorically reject your counterpart’s questions;
refuse the requirement for an instant response from the interlocutor;
you should not ask repetitive questions;
use humor and jokes more often;
do not load the dialogue with questions, but rather discuss something more;
avoid what you cannot answer at the moment.

How to interest a male colleague?

Finding a common language with a male colleague is not so difficult; you already have something in common - work. You can send him a message asking for help, invite him for a cup of coffee, “accidentally” drop papers in front of him in the office.

Important! It is better to seduce a colleague after work. During a busy day at work there is no time for chatter, and the man will not take such a worker seriously.

To get a colleague's attention:

demonstrate your sense of humor or wit in a general conversation; positive and active girls always attract attention;
take an interest in the area in which your colleague is knowledgeable, ask him a question on social networks;
don’t forget to look stylish at work, but you still shouldn’t dress up in vulgar clothes with a huge neckline;
do not talk about your sympathy in the team, especially in correspondence with other colleagues, this can compromise both you and him;
find out about his hobbies, invite him to an exhibition, a match;
prepare delicious snacks or sweets and treat your colleagues, including him, quite possibly in the evening he will thank you in a message;
don’t miss corporate events and business trips, especially if your chosen one will be there.

What attracts men to women?

No pauses

Conversations sometimes reach a dead end. Interlocutors begin to get nervous due to boredom and awkward pauses. How to avoid this?

Think through possible topics of conversation in advance.
Have a few questions at your disposal that can help out in case of an awkward pause or in a situation where the conversation has gone in the wrong direction. Helpful topics include local news and events, new releases from the world of cinema and books, and popular TV shows.
Don’t answer with a simple “yes” or “no.” Give detailed answers to the guy's questions.
Try not to stress or get hung up on the process of conversation and thinking about every word. This distracts from the judge of the dialogue.
Be curious, don't be shy to ask leading questions.

Attention! Don't take advice too literally. You shouldn’t chatter incessantly during a telephone conversation, not allowing your interlocutor to get a word in edgewise. Be not only an interesting conversationalist, but also a good listener.

Conversation startersConversation_starters

These are the names of universal phrases with which you can start a conversation with someone. You can use them in almost any situation - choose, turn on your charm, act.

List of phrases:

“We haven’t met before?

Can you add a couple of interesting details to your phrase - “We met you at the rock music festival last summer?” or “Aren’t you the guy with whom we ran away from the Barcelona police in an alien costume? No? It’s a shame, you would have liked it.”

“Sorry, could you help me with this?”

Choose a book in the store, find the keys you dropped, or drag your bags to the car. Act according to the situation. An important point - ask the guy to help you with what he can definitely handle. Otherwise it will be awkward for both.

“Can I sit next to you?”

Bus, cafe, bench in the park, etc. Smile a charming smile and turn up your charm and friendliness to the fullest.

"Hello"

You can't imagine anything more universal. Are you tired of looking for a reason to talk to him so much that the desire to meet him has become stronger than any fears? Go straight ahead. Guys are fine with girls who take the initiative. Many people find it sexy. And why should we be surprised? Courage is always attractive.

And experience, the son of difficult mistakes...i

The less experience you have with guys in general, the harder it will be for you to talk to the guy you like. Learn to communicate with the opposite sex - on the Internet, in public places, among mutual friends. Take the initiative, talk to guys and get to know them yourself.

If communication in person is difficult for you, start with social networks and dating apps. Make jokes, learn to build a dialogue. When you feel more confident, start winning over guys offline.

Not all girls feel comfortable communicating with men. It doesn’t matter how old they are - fifteen or thirty-five. If you are one of those girls who dread every compliment and “Hi, how are you?” in the notification line, when you meet the guy of your dreams you will simply faint. It’s impressive, of course, but you’re unlikely to be able to talk.

So, start by upgrading the following useful skills:

Get rid of the fear of the male gender and attention from men;
Learn to accept compliments - do not feel obligated to respond to praise with praise, do not deny or belittle your merits;
Learn to maintain a dialogue with guys;
Get rid of fears and beliefs that decent girls are not the first to speak, write or even breathe in the direction of a handsome guy.

What analogy would you like to draw... Okay, imagine that you are a character in a computer game, and the guy of your dreams is the “boss” who needs to be defeated. Until you earn “points” and improve your level, you will not see victory.

You don’t want your handsome boy to be taken away by some other elf, do you?