Hello! My name is Igor Lapin and I am the person who will tell you about pickup training. It’s impossible that you’ve never heard of it and don’t know what it is. But, even if this is so, everything can be explained in a nutshell: pickup training for men is the art of seduction. Yes, yes, I was not mistaken or misspoken, pickup is really an art, and not ordinary chatter in a club or flirting on the street.
But don’t be alarmed, anyone can master this art. Under the guidance of a skilled teacher, of course. You've probably seen the famous film with Will Smith, which once made so much noise. In fact, much of that story is not far from the truth, and people like the main character of this film actually exist and do an excellent job. I won’t be modest and say straight out that one of them is me - Igor Lapin, pickup coach. And in order not to be unfounded, I will simply give an example of what I managed to achieve in this pleasant field:
- seven sex tours to the Philippines;
- twelve years of successful communication with girls;
- an established business that brings me satisfaction and income;
- more than eight hundred boys and men whom I have already managed to help.
I think this is a lot. Do you still have doubts? Then let's talk about pickup training.
What is a pickup truck for?
The concept of “pickup” means a type of activity aimed at getting to know the opposite sex for the purpose of seduction and obtaining the knowledge and practical skills necessary for this.
Currently, there are many trainings whose purpose is to teach clients the basic methods and techniques of pickup.
Such training includes not only a theoretical part, but also practical exercises.
Learning pickup techniques allows men to solve the following problems :
- become self-confident;
- learn to meet women;
- develop skills in building effective communication;
- understand female psychology;
- learn to quickly seduce the object you like.
In practice, the main goal is precisely acquiring the skills to quickly seduce the women you like. Essentially, pick-up artists strive to engage in sexual contact without wasting extra effort and time.
Pickuo.ru – Pickup training for men
Address: not specified Website: https://www.pickup.ru Phone: Cost: not specified
Program:
- Where seduction begins: a step-by-step model .
- We study the details : where/when.
- The correct image of a seducer: we train gait, gestures, facial expressions, posture, smile.
- We put the right look and voice .
- We analyze the appearance with a stylist .
- Approach behavior . What should you tell a girl?
- We destroy fears in your head, FOREVER!
- We learn to “extinguish” unpredictable reaction .
- Technique: “ Bell ”. We learn to call girls and make a date.
- First date techniques . We analyze force majeure; learning to engage a girl in a conversation; learning to avoid awkward pauses in conversation.
- Technique: “ Touch ”. Learning to touch a girl. How to pass women's checks.
- How not to turn a date into a friendly meeting .
- Developing our success. Learning to avoid common second date .
- Basic rules and techniques of seduction . How to get a girl to have sex. Step-by-step instruction.
- How to take a girl to your place and prepare a base. The right setting, atmosphere and other tricks.
- Cocoon technique . How to be alone with a girl anywhere.
- Learning to read women's thoughts .
- What is sex like and how to make it perfect?
- Technique: “ LMR ”. We overcome the last resistances.
- Technique: “listen to the woman and do the opposite ”
Basis of teaching
The founder of the teaching is considered to be the American writer Ross Jeffries , who wrote the book “How to Get the Woman of Your Dreams into Bed” in 1992.
It was Jeffries who founded the very first seminar on seduction. He later held a conference on a similar topic.
The writer to some extent justified the consumer attitude towards women by the inherent inequality between the sexes .
In his opinion, even the most unattractive woman who demonstrates her readiness for sexual intercourse will find herself a partner without any problems.
This may not be the most handsome or the most successful man, but in any case he will be found.
For a man to quickly enter into an easy relationship with a woman in the absence of an attractive appearance, wealth and charm, he has to work hard .
Lucky chance 4
Every situation is individual, do you basically not meet people on the street, for fear of being deceived? But among the freaks, there may be only one who fell in love with you. After studying pick-up phrases for girls on the Internet, memorizing a couple of jokes, I waited for the right moment to meet and dared to approach.
And you didn’t even take the headphones out of your ears during the meeting. How to find a middle ground so as not to remain an old maid? Sex is the main goal of all ladies' men. By any means and persuasion, in extreme cases by force, he will strive to get what he wants. And the sooner the better, because he needs to add new victims to the list.
Try to delay this process in every possible way, do not be alone with him, meet only in public places, come up with valid excuses, because they know hundreds of ways to get a girl into bed. Previously, before a disco, girls would sew up the zippers on their pants, a great way to get rid of an annoying boyfriend. If a young man really cares about you, he will never harm you and will wait for the cherished intimacy until you agree.
In connection with the emancipation that took over the world in the 21st century, a women's pickup truck appeared. In style, it is softer and unobtrusive; the gentleman falls under the alluring spell of charm.
Girls don’t even need words to attract the candidate they like, just remember a few gestures and body movements and the client is ready. However, in the female version, sex is not an end in itself, the main thing is a manifestation of interest, flirting and coquetry. Any man would agree to become a victim of such an experiment.
Negative side
a rational grain in the pickup truck - it helps insecure men learn how to meet women and communicate with them.
These skills can help you impress the girl you like and start a relationship with her.
In reality, pickup training often promotes a rather immoral lifestyle.
A man learns to endlessly seduce women who act as soulless objects for him. Moreover, the more goals are achieved, the better.
As a result, such a consumer attitude towards the opposite sex leads to the following negative consequences:
- the development of cynicism, which manifests itself in open disregard for existing norms of morality and morality;
- causing moral suffering to women who may misinterpret the pick-up artist’s attitude towards them and subsequently have a hard time dealing with the breakup;
- the risk of missing out on a truly promising relationship with a suitable woman in the pursuit of new victories;
- rapid satiety from a constant change of non-binding contacts, which is guaranteed to cause a feeling of boredom;
- the low quality of life experience gained from such fleeting relationships without emotional involvement;
- loss of the ability to express sincere feelings, experiences, and sympathies.
Pickup courses of the project “Like” (CAO)
Address: courses are held in social places of the city Website: https://muzhskoj-pikap-trening Phone: not specified Cost: from 14,500 rubles. per course
Evgeniy, founder of “Like”
The “Like” project is a hobby for him. It will help guys and girls, all those who really want to improve the situation in relationships, sex or social communication.
Conducts individual pickup training, after which you will change 100% and improve yourself. How will you achieve this: let's have dates, remove fears in approaching a girl, dispel myths about girls.
Online and individual pickup courses for men in Moscow and Russia from a trainer with 9 years of experience. You will learn how to get acquainted easily or you will receive the full cost of training.
Technicians
The pickup technique includes a number of sequential actions:
- Acquaintance . This is the most difficult stage at which you need to make contact with the woman and not scare her off. There are many ways that have long been proven effective: helping to carry heavy bags, sitting at a table and buying coffee, giving a compliment on the street, giving up your seat on public transport, etc. At first glance, these are ordinary methods of casual, easy acquaintance. A woman has no chance of recognizing a pick-up artist at this stage.
- Revealing . During communication, a man begins to receive the necessary information: age, place of study or work, hobbies, character traits, life goals, etc. Questions are asked naturally, without pressure, so as not to create the impression of interrogation.
- Rapport. This psychological technique consists in the fact that a person artificially adapts to the values of his opponent. As a result, he achieves complete trust and favor in himself.
Women, as you know, are easily captivated by a companion who colorfully describes his virtues and exploits.At the initial stage of a relationship, they have no desire to check the accuracy of the information they receive.
- Setting the evaluation dependency . Every person has certain complexes. You can easily detect weaknesses and use the acquired knowledge for your own purposes. The easiest way is flattery. Thus, a woman who is insecure about her appearance will instantly fall under the influence of a man who will constantly compliment her.
- Touching . This moment requires a truly subtle game. Most women are alarmed by the boyfriend's quick desire to establish physical contact. For this reason, pick-up artists learn to influence in this way quietly, unobtrusively. This could be a light touch on the arm or shoulder while discussing a serious issue, an inconspicuous pull on the waist when crossing the road, a hand out when going down the stairs, etc.
- Enticement .
When the victim has already matured and is completely under the influence of the charm of his seducer, the moment comes to lure him to the desired place. This is where sexual contact can occur. Of course, such plans are not voiced out loud. Enticement can take the form of an invitation to coffee, a friendly party, etc. - Removal of responsibility. This rule works in two directions. The pickup artist convinces the victim that she is not responsible for her reckless behavior. It just happened that way. If conflict situations arise, then the man easily removes responsibility from himself - there was no coercion to sexual contact, everything happened by mutual consent.
What women want in a man5
Another factor that turns women off and makes them feel uneasy around a man is when a guy seems “fake,” that is, when his words and actions are inconsistent with who he is, what he looks like, and how he feels. On the other hand, women are attracted to men who do the opposite and show integrity.
Showing sincerity is as simple as following your thoughts, opinions, feelings, however, many men make mistakes here. They think that in order to please a woman, you need to agree with everything she says. But it's not that. A guy who is afraid to disagree with a woman is simply showing insecurity, dependence, and a lack of integrity.
But, being confident that he is right and ready to disagree with the girl, a man actually becomes more attractive to a woman. This suggests that he does not seek approval and is a reliable man who trusts women.
Here's an example of what honesty that women find attractive might look like: If a man likes science fiction movies and the girl he's interested in or her friends say those movies are stupid, don't back down and agree with that opinion. Instead, you need to stand up for yourself and, preferably, do it with a smile.
You need to use this as an opportunity to have fun and start a light flirtation with the girl. You can respond with something like “What!? Don't you like science fiction? Nothing will work out with you, I demand a divorce. You can leave the house, and I'll take the dacha. You never liked going there anyway..."
Mystery Methods
The most popular in the world are the pickup methods of Eric von Markowicz , better known as Mystery. This is a Canadian figure who created a system called the Mystery Method. This system has gained great popularity in the pickup community.
Demonstrating social value
Mystery attributed the success of individual men to the ability to demonstrate their social value.
In his opinion, the biological value of men, which consists of attractive appearance and good health, is of little importance for women.
much more attention to social signs:
- financial security;
- leadership skills;
- self confidence;
- force.
Mystery's method involves seducing women by demonstrating socially significant behavior .
Moreover, it does not matter what qualities a man actually possesses; the behavior he demonstrates is much more important.
If he seems strong, confident and successful , then she will immediately follow him. And the real picture will be revealed when it is already too late.
Linear seduction
Every woman, in the process of being attracted to a man, experiences three states: interest, trust, excitement.
It is important to guide her through these three stages and ultimately get what you want.
Interest arises after a man demonstrates high social value.
This takes a few minutes. To develop trust, you need to spend at least 4-10 hours together. to demonstrate openness, friendliness, and interest during communication .
Some kind of joint process that requires combining efforts helps to achieve a quick effect. Emotional intimacy and constant unobtrusive touches lead to excitement.
A game
Pickup is a game . The whole process must be perceived from this point of view. Trying to meet a girl is a start.
Receiving a refusal means a restart and a reason to start the game over again in a different place. No worries, grievances, disappointments.
Secrets of men's training.
You won’t find this on any trainer’s website, but up to 50% of participants leave without any results at all, another 40% get temporary results during the training, under the pressure of motivation from the leader and support. But after finishing, they quickly return to their normal state. And only a few acquire the coveted skills. Why is this happening?
The main method of such courses is to force, under the guidance of trainers, to step over your complexes, barriers, to do what you don’t want at all, to move through fear, crossing it. Some try to work on a deeper level, but due to the short time, they are simply not able to achieve the desired result and fully teach seduction and flirting.
Preparation for training for men.
Therefore, it is worth starting by identifying those internal limitations that prevent you from becoming successful. Of course, it is ideal to do this under the guidance of a psychologist, but not everyone will decide to do this. The independent process usually takes longer, but now a lot of information on this topic is open, and if you want, you can find everything. Or just look for psychological training on identifying and removing limiting beliefs. After this, you can work on self-esteem or overall personal growth.
All this, to one degree or another, is given at the training itself for men, but in order to absorb, or as the trainers themselves say, integrate changes, it takes time. And during the course, this time will not exist.
At trainings for men they do not give a “magic pill”.
All trainings involve hard work on yourself, on your fears. But the most important point is not the very fact of overcoming this fear of what you will be forced to do one way or another, but the awareness of where these problems came from, what false beliefs were the prerequisites for the emergence of this fear. Only by accepting this can you get rid of fear.
As for choosing which pickup training is suitable, there are several tips. The presenter himself must impress you. The fact is that during classes you copy the behavior of the trainer, and this is quite difficult to do if he is unpleasant to you. In addition, of course, the experience of holding such events influences. The number of assistants, or supports as they are called, is of great importance.
After all, they are the ones who will motivate you and monitor your exercises. Therefore, it is worth asking how many there will be and how many people the group is. The normal ratio would be no more than five participants per assistant.
And if you prepare correctly for this event, choose the option of men’s training that is best for you, and most importantly, go through it with a good attitude, completing all the tasks, then everything will work out!
Lessons
The following real-life examples demonstrate the basic principles of pick-up for guys in action:
- In the flower pavilion we choose a woman who evokes sympathy. We approach her and ask her for help in choosing a bouquet for her grandmother’s birthday. Let us make it clear that we have no problems with finances: we can purchase a bouquet of any cost, grandmother’s birthday will be celebrated in the most expensive restaurant in the city at the expense of her loving grandson, etc. After purchasing a bouquet, we suggest you take a walk in the park together. If a woman is busy at the moment, the date is postponed to a time convenient for her. During communication, we build the conversation around her person, not forgetting to ask leading questions and obtain the necessary information. We “openly” talk about ourselves, share our “most secret”. Don't forget about unobtrusive touches and constant eye contact. If she shows interest and disposition, we suggest moving to a suitable place.
- We select the object we like on the dating site. We carefully study the page for interests, hobbies, and views. We begin our acquaintance by mentioning her interest. In the communication process, we focus on common ground. We openly talk about ourselves and ask her leading questions.
If she is reluctant to respond, you should increase the time it takes to respond to her message. The need to wait will cause slight irritation and impatience, and this, in turn, will fuel interest.When her responses to messages become prompt and detailed, you can suggest a meeting. During the date, act in the same way as in the previous case.
Examples of messages to a girl online
Original messages on the network are a win-win option for starting a conversation with the woman you like.
You can use one of the following example greeting phrases :
- What do you think a man should write to the woman he likes so as not to be rejected?
- Good afternoon, what shoe size do you wear? ………38… Well, we met!
- Hello! I am one of those who thinks that you are very beautiful.
- I've never met someone like this before.
- The Constitution says that each of us has the right to happiness.
- I've been trying to figure out an original way to meet you for two days now, but nothing works.
Pickup course Alexander Brightside (Moskovsky district)
Address: metro station Kievskaya, Kievskaya st. 7 Website: https://pikap.rf Phone: +7 91b 910 48 53 Cost: consultation free of charge
Remember the girls who were cold to you and seemed unattainable and unrealistic. After, and even during the training, communication with them will become commonplace for you. They themselves will offer to write down their number and will wait for your call, sometimes reminding you of themselves in messages or, unable to bear it, they will dial you themselves. Even if a girl has driven you into the “FRIENDLY ZONE,” after the changes that await you, she will reconsider her attitude and want sex with you.
The first consultation is FREE!
The first consultation is a meeting at which we get acquainted and determine a convenient training format and outline goals.
Individual approach - the trainer creates a lesson plan based on the goals of the project and the individuality of the client. Start of the project
Training where the trainer is 100% involved in the process and is in touch with the client 24-on-7 (phone, Whats App) and is aimed not only at achieving results, but also at harmonious internal changes in the client.
Achieving results, completing the project
