Sick love, suffering love, ugly love. How to stop this?

I'm so rooting for you...i

Crazy love is called unrequited, cruel love, when a person is tormented by strong feelings full of fear and dependence on another person. Most often, women become victims of such strong sensations. They meet “that same” man, experience a flurry of tender and passionate feelings, and fall into the “pool.”

Into the pool of fear, doubt and strong emotions. A woman becomes dependent on a person and her feelings. Happiness and tranquility are unknown to the “sick darling.” She is entering a difficult period that is not so easy to survive.

Sick love

Love is one of the most beautiful feelings in our world. It gives wings, elevates, fills with sunlight... It gives life, can revive with just one touch, saturates and nourishes without food.

But why does love sometimes hurt? Where does the look of frozen anticipation, swollen eyes, sleepless nights come from?..

Healthy love is truly a happiness and a miracle, a loving person is filled with positivity. And love becomes painful when it is based on neurotic attachment, negativity, and hatred. This is a feeling of pain and fear from the possibility of losing a loved one. That's why love hurts. Experts even identify a certain mental disorder, an obsessive state, which is called love neurosis. On the one hand, it is similar to love, but it does not apply to love in its true understanding. A person with such an unhealthy condition feels withdrawal without his object of desire, his thoughts are concentrated only around this one feeling, he can even physically feel really bad. Such a love-dependent person can be overly controlled by the one for whom he feels feelings or, on the contrary, overly aggressive towards him. It depends on the personal characteristics of the person himself, his character. Most often, a state of painful attachment occurs against the background of the innate predisposition of each individual person. Sick love is nothing more than an addiction, it is very similar to other types of addictions. In this state, a person is literally obsessed, sick with another person, he is dependent on him, like on a dose of a drug. Often people with such addiction to love can be dangerous, for the reason that they are completely unpredictable. Their behavior is often inappropriate, and their actions are illogical. Sick love is a destructive force, it sweeps away everything in its path, even the brightest and most sincere feelings.

How to get rid of sick love?

Firstly, you should stop the telephone terrorism of your loved one, it’s better to call your girlfriend and take your mind off your obsessive desires. Secondly, do not create dramatic scenes; believe me, you will never be able to tie a man to you through coercion and blackmail. And finally, love is a wonderful feeling, but do what you love, get distracted by work, study or a hobby, learn to find pleasure not only in love.

We should not turn our bright feelings into fanaticism, because otherwise any interest, sympathy or even love develops into a disease that feeds evil forces. Our life is so short, and therefore let's fill it only with positive and bright feelings.

My crazy dream2

Unfortunately, not every love is romantic and easy. Some feelings are called “crazy” for a reason. In the first case, we are talking about people who do not meet the reciprocity of the desired object and are not willing to accept defeat.

First comes the worship phase. A lover carefully collects information about his loved one. Finds out the address, telephone number, hobbies, names and professions of relatives, and the name of the dog. This kind of fanaticism is inherent in fans of movie stars. I want to know everything about a dear person: where he lives, with whom he spends time.

The person seated on the throne of the heart becomes the main character in life. He (or she) is being stalked on social networks. A woman, like an experienced investigator, in a matter of time finds out who, when and under what circumstances “liked” her loved one, and received mutual sympathy.

The young lady experiences the pangs of jealousy and envy for every girl who has some kind of communication or relationship with the “Prince Charming”. She saves photos of her sweetheart, downloaded from the computer, in a special folder and approaches the second point - communication.

Obsessed men behave in much the same way. They drill photos of their beloved, mentally consider her theirs, copy photographs, and write various comments. Some immediately move on to more active actions, while others wait for the right time.

Falling in love - what is it for? What is its meaning?

Previously, love with its insatiable thirst for a partner for the first 1.5-3 years was biologically necessary for the survival of the species: so the male remained with the female for a period sufficient to bear the fetus and its primary development.

Today, this state of “blind” love is often greatly overestimated (or greatly devalued).

Despite the fact that our era is no longer so romantic, myths about love remain, love is greatly romanticized and dramatized:

experiencing it, people often seem to turn into the boys and maidens of the times of Romeo and Juliet;
They continue to write poems, write books, and make films about her;
she is pathetically extolled and pathetically hated;
dedicate their suffering life to her (“I love, love is pain, but I am powerless to change anything”)
And so on…

And everyone calls this love, confusing it with falling in love.

In modern times, there is no need for a partner's affection for the survival of the species. Often, within 3 years, couples do not even have time to create an official family. And this changes the course of things a lot.

This has its advantages, and the main one, in my opinion, is the opportunity to better study a partner without dopamine addiction. There is an opportunity to understand what it is like with a partner in communication, sex, friendship, everyday life, society, and so on - after all, all this is very important for further life together.

Thanks to his greater general consciousness, modern man has the opportunity to understand all this already in the process of falling in love. It’s just important not to turn a blind eye to this. If something exists now, then without any actions or interactions it itself will not change (and a lot of empty promises too). This is about reality - falling in love itself does not change people (rather, it only shows it).

The thought “love is pain” can hardly arise when it comes to mature love, so this article is devoted almost entirely to the state of falling in love.

While studying defense mechanisms in Gestalt therapy, I realized how similar one of them is to the state of falling in love. And I want to talk about it and draw a direct analogy.

Love drives you crazy3

A person experiencing mad love is quite decisive in his declarations of love. He will definitely make himself known to the object of his adoration, asking for communication or closer acquaintance.

The first impression can be very positive. A woman in love behaves sweetly and affably. She laughs, expresses admiration, looks devotedly into the eyes and shows all kinds of signs of attention. Such a mademoiselle will not think long about the proposed intimacy. How can you refuse someone you have dreamed of for so long, even if this is your first meeting? She will give herself with all her passion and will probably evoke very positive emotions in the guy.

But then, step by step, the painful addiction will take over. The girl does not so much wait for a man’s attention as express it herself. She cannot do without her own eyes, a dizzying voice and the warm hands of a loved one.

Causes of love addiction

As psychologists say (and we can already guess), the prerequisites for painful love are childhood experiences. Perhaps you are repeating the scenario of your parents’ relationship or, on the contrary, creating the opposite of what was in your family. Many people associate the tendency towards love-dependence with a lack of parental love at an early age and, as a result, a constant desire to make up for this deficiency already in adulthood with other people.

Painful love is characteristic of those who are dissatisfied with their lives . The absence or shortage of positive emotions, beautiful impressions, a feeling of emptiness accompany a person and, having met someone who paid attention to him, he strives to fill his life with newly arisen love. By the way, many authors and psychologists do not even call love-dependence love, preferring other definitions or putting it in quotation marks. Indeed, it has little in common with true love; it is rather a passion for dramatic experiences and an attempt to give meaning to life using another person.

Relationships with painful love rarely last long (not many people are able to withstand the pressure of an addicted person and his behavior that goes beyond all limits), although there are exceptions - when being the subject of addiction is exactly what the second partner wants.

Destructive feelings4

Crazy love acts on a person like a drug. To the object of adoration, in addition to love and tenderness, a strong, irresistible dependence appears. To be close to the guy she loves, a woman goes to any lengths. She needs another dose of communication with her sweetheart, no matter what.

The lady does not think about her behavior. The first one calls, runs at the first call, waits at the entrance, endlessly looks for meetings and brutally imposes itself on the poor fellow. This behavior bothers a man. Despite her beautiful appearance, seductive figure and a list of other advantages, a woman experiencing dependent love is subject to unworthy behavior.

This is her problem. The veil of charm and charm instantly falls from the beauty. She is humiliated and cries, pestering her with calls, messages and an uncontrollable desire to meet again. The young lady can’t help herself. After all, she needs a guy like air! Without him she:

will die;
will suffocate;
will be unhappy.

The woman becomes manic-obsessed. She responds to a man’s indifference with inappropriate actions, ranging from daily harassment to immoral intrusion into someone else’s life. For the sake of the attention of her beloved man, the girl throws from side to side, from tender love to merciless hatred.

Love addiction is a serious disease

Love addiction should be understood as a set of negative emotions and feelings caused by suffering and longing for a certain person. Statistics show that love addiction is more common than alcohol addiction, because 98% of people are prone to creating dependent relationships. Love addiction is a disease of the soul; psychologists seriously consider love addiction to be the disease of the century.

Don't confuse true love with love addiction. True love is a high feeling. It inspires, brings joy, and does not interfere with living, working and enjoying life, even if you are separated from your loved one. A person in love glows with happiness, becomes slimmer, prettier, and younger. Love helps move mountains, adds strength to do business, create, make a career, etc.

And the signs of love addiction are constant mental anguish, suffering and pain when the loved one is not around, and even when together. A love-dependent person has a constant feeling of anxiety, jealousy, doubt, suspicion, fear that he will be abandoned. Without a loved one, life is not sweet for him. A person suffers, looks exhausted, health problems begin, depression begins, a person loses weight or, on the contrary, may gain weight. Nothing in life interests him, everything fades into the background. The only desire is to see your loved one nearby all the time. A person loses himself, like a slave, submitting to a loved one, ready to do absolutely anything for him, even bad things. This addiction can be equated to alcohol or drug addiction, only the subject of addiction here is a person.

The “addicted to love” can call many times a day, literally follow him step by step and become annoying. Ultimately, this irritates the lover, tires him, he lacks freedom and independence, he tries to avoid excess communication and meetings. This makes the addict feel even worse, at times losing control over his actions and emotions.

There is no point in looking for the cause of love addiction, because it lies within ourselves. A relationship that causes suffering and is not stopped in time can develop into a very serious mental disorder. It is still possible to completely recover from love addiction. And it is important for a person to realize that this method of showing love is nothing more than an illness that needs to be treated, like all other diseases. For such treatment, the help of a qualified specialist psychologist is necessary. Here are some tips to help you overcome love addiction:

You should not resort to using drugs and alcohol, which create a short-term false effect of alleviating suffering.
Remove from your life all things that may cause unnecessary memories, namely letters, gifts and photographs.
It is advisable to compose a farewell letter in which you express everything that you think about him and express gratitude for the good things that happened between you and at this point completely stop any communication.
Do not make or answer relevant calls. Keep at hand a list of all the worst and most offensive things he has done to you, if your hand suddenly reaches out to call him.
Avoid meetings, try if possible not to meet with mutual acquaintances and friends. Finally, even leave for a while.
Find a new goal in life for yourself, thus eliminating the old object of dependence (as they say, “they knock out a wedge with a wedge”).
Take care of yourself and turn your attention completely to yourself (at least for the period of getting rid of addiction).
Strengthen your willpower by going in for sports, a healthy lifestyle, diet, etc.
You can completely immerse yourself in study, work, or find another useful activity or hobby. As you achieve success in your chosen business, a kind of new passion will appear, which can significantly speed up the process of weaning from love addiction.
Automotive training or attending psychological training is recommended, working together on your negative feelings and changing your way of thinking and life values.

Only my 5

The gentle form of mad love looks pretty cute. A woman meets a man with love, joy and a prepared surprise. A plate of freshly baked pies is brewing in her hands. She is ready to show her tender feelings by any means, she is on duty at the door like a devoted dog just to have the opportunity to see her own face, talk and be close. At least a little bit.

The harsher side of dependent feelings spares no one. Both she and he suffer. The woman understands that she is not at all interested in the man she loves and turns on plan “B”. From the outside, her actions resemble the behavior of a child who does not receive enough attention from her parents.

A child raised in indifference, not seeing participation and love on the part of his ancestors, commits various stupid things in order to turn on himself the negative emotions of his relatives, since he cannot reach tender feelings. This is what girls who carry crazy love in their hearts do. They begin to harm their beloved guy. Under the motto: “Suffer like me,” the young ladies commit a number of stupid and unworthy acts.

They break windows, scratch cars, send angry messages or insulting letters. They look for a lot of reasons to do nasty things to someone they love so deeply and devotedly. Both she and he suffer from such desperate actions. You don’t want to hurt your loved one, but you can’t do anything differently.

Love addiction. Illness or obsession

“I can’t exist without him, he’s the best in the world. I have never loved anyone so much or experienced such emotions...”

Do you know this feeling? Do you think that these emotions are that true love? You are wrong! This blind love is love addiction, illness, fever, obsession.

Who is most susceptible to this?

It is believed that the weaker half more often falls into this love addiction than men. But not all psychologists agree with this. It’s just that women tend to express their emotions and feelings more openly than gentlemen. And they more often turn a single case of love sickness into a repeating scenario of relationships with a partner.

At risk, first of all, are people with low self-esteem, lacking self-confidence, and unable to properly love and respect themselves.

As a rule, these are children raised in authoritarian or indifferent families who did not receive enough of the necessary parental love and warmth from their parents. As adults, these people experience an excessive need for care and love, self-importance, and a sense of security. At the same time, they do not feel worthy of love and believe that it must be earned through compliance, fanatical obedience, and helpfulness.

Or maybe this is true love?

How does the mature, wonderful feeling of love differ from addiction? First of all, these two concepts differ in the attitude of two independent and adult individuals. And not the “child-parent” relationship. In these relationships, one of the partners is completely emotionally dependent on the moods and decisions of his partner.

Love addiction can continue for many years and even after lovers have separated. To get out of this obsession, you need to understand and accept the fact that you are entangled in this relationship that is destroying your personality and life. You must realize that this fruitless relationship will bring you nothing but disappointment and pain.

The principle of recovery from this disease is one - you need to learn to love, appreciate and respect yourself and understand. That you are valuable as an independent, self-respecting person, and not a free addition to your other half.

After all, true love gives self-confidence, good mood, joy, independence, harmony, calmness, and a sense of security. And addiction, on the contrary, is a feeling of fear, doubt, anxiety, irritation, jealousy, and a feeling of burnout. A person is constantly stressed and depressed.

Symptoms

You are dependent on the behavior, mood and words of your loved one.
Your loved ones and friends have faded into the background, you communicate with them less and less.
You are afraid of loneliness; you always need to be with your loved one.
You are terrified of betrayal, and you are trying to keep every step of your loved one under control.
You become despondent, it seems to you that your loved one does not love you enough. At least less than you do.
Your personal interests, thoughts, life, career are completely subordinated to the life of your half.
Your self-esteem and sense of personal dignity are low, you have become more callous and indifferent to the people around you. They became a nervous person who cannot control their emotions.
Relatives and acquaintances openly hint to you that you have changed not for the better and it’s time to end this relationship.

So you should seriously think about these symptoms of love obsession and stop being afraid that you will never be able to love anyone again.

Don't let anyone get you 6

The fate of the young lady who will arouse the interest of the man dearly loved by the “dependent Juliet” is not easy and difficult. The girl will have to endure a wide variety of tests. The obsessed madam will stop at nothing. She will insult the girl from head to toe, rush into a fight, and spread the most terrible gossip.

Women are insidious creatures, capable of bringing you to tears with a skillful and sharp word. Not the rain, not the wind, not the threats of a loved one or the police will stop her. She feels pain and bad from unrequited love, and she carries this pain on the head of the poor fellow, who was not lucky enough to become the object of strong adoration.

Blinded by passion7

Men who are madly in love don't behave any better. First, they shower the girl with compliments, attention, gifts, and she, in turn, will feel the pleasure of immense care and worship. But gradually reckless tenderness tightens the tight noose. Crazy passion is most often the other side of a selfish feeling.

A man treats a girl like a favorite doll. She doesn’t let anyone near her, is constantly jealous, and doesn’t give her enough freedom and space. He becomes obsessive and obsessive. A woman is trying to free herself from such an annoying boyfriend or an overly jealous partner. Well, that was not the case.

The guy is stalking the young lady, pestering her with letters and calls. He watches over her wherever possible, drives away potential suitors and showers her with threats. Even after moving away from the object of passion, the man does not stop observing.

Like a dog in the manger8

The guy, under the influence of crazy love, cannot forget and “throw away” the image of his beloved. He may squeeze himself into the “friend zone” territory, but the passion in his soul will not subside. The girl deceptively believes that he has calmed down and accepts friendly attention from him.

He can offer help, support or spending time together, assuring him of his selflessness. Perhaps the gentleman will stop constantly making himself known, but such behavior is deceptive. As soon as a new man appears on the girl’s horizon, the dependent lover “Othello” will definitely appear, right there.

Like a fearless beast, he will drive away from his beloved anyone who covets “her honor.” Her feelings, screams, and pleas don’t matter to him. After all, he loves and needs her. That's what really matters.

Signs of painful love

All conversations and thoughts are reduced only to a loved one, images and fantasies with his participation take the form of obsessive ones, haunting day and night.
You are ready to give, lose and do anything for this person; you feel like you're losing yourself.
You cannot function normally at work or in relationships with other people. The quality of life decreases.
All other activities and relationships lose interest and meaning for you. What you used to love to do is no longer attractive. All the time is spent either with a loved one or in thoughts about him.
You are accompanied by sudden mood swings - from euphoria to complete despondency, sometimes in a few minutes. Your way of thinking is characterized by maximalism in relation to love: “either all or nothing.”
Loss of concentration, insomnia, constant tension.
You are experiencing signs of addiction, for example, withdrawal symptoms if a person does not make themselves known for several days; inability to get enough - even being next to a person, it seems to you that you are not “with each other” enough. In other words, you miss him even when he is around.
And also: worrying about stupid and insignificant reasons (“what did he think of me”), showing excessive concern, wanting to know every second where and with whom a person is, testing him for honesty (inability to trust), scrolling through negative scenarios in his head ( “he will leave me”) - as a result, fear, horror and despondency.

I see your image9

After a while, a guy, subject to crazy love, finds a new girlfriend. From the outside he seems peaceful and happy, but this is not so. The image of that young lady, in whose feelings he is seriously bogged down, is constantly ripening in his head.

He will constantly compare his new passion with his ideal. Some guys, experiencing unrequited love, choose partners according to the same principle: red-haired, plump, or with glasses. If only each of them had that same zest inherent in the girl living in his heart.

Together it’s cramped, apart it’s boring10

Crazy love can overcome a couple who are immersed in deep feelings for each other. Such relationships are called “toxic” and unhappy. Yes, this is the love of both madmen, woven from strong emotions, moving from tender love to uncontrollable hatred.

Partners cannot live either separately or together. They constantly swear, are jealous and mock mutual feelings, despite mutual suffering. In such a couple there is often physical assault. Partners have a lot of claims, selfishness, and debilitating emotions.

They are full of passion, hatred and tenderness. Such couples rarely grow into prosperous families. A man and a woman break up, find more comfortable partners, start a calmer relationship, but do not cease to be tormented by love for the “poisonous other half.”

Causes of Toxic Feelings11

What causes mad love? There are several reasons that influence heavy, dependent feelings towards another person.

Internal complexes that do not allow you to treat your partner sincerely and warmly.
Not received love and attention in childhood.
Disappointment and severe pain in past relationships.
Cheating and betrayal in real relationships.

Finding themselves in such a situation, partners must understand themselves and understand the reasons for their uncontrollable dependence on the “chosen one.” There is no normal future in a toxic relationship and this fact deserves great attention.

Yes, love is pain... but only when it is blind

Falling in love is also often called “blind love.” And it is this “blindness” that does not allow the establishment of genuine contact in which a person sees another as he is, and not as he is convenient or wants to see. By the way, this is probably the key difference between love and being in love!

What does the blind desire to merge in a partnership lead to, the desire to constantly feed the state of love or “love is pain when... . .":

Love is pain when unresolved problems accumulate

Obviously, points of conflict will arise. Usually, lovers strive to be similar in everything and extremely avoid differences. Thus, one turns a blind eye to complexity, and these unresolved issues begin to destroy the relationship from the inside.

Love is pain when addiction arises (codependency)

A lover cannot see his life without the other. Almost in the literal sense: he does not exist without a partner and sometimes defines himself through him (“I’m good only because he/she praised me”). Most of his autonomous interests are suppressed - almost everything that differs from the interests of his partner. Everything that the partner does not like and/or becomes a risk of disrupting the “harmonious” fusion is discarded.

Love is pain when the personalities of the partners do not develop separately

And the state of stagnation is not maintained for a long time, which means that in such a “complex” they begin to imperceptibly but confidently degrade.

Love is pain when the image of oneself and another is distorted

Often the images are very polar: either an ideal without flaws, or “the devil in the flesh.” And these images alternately change - there is no middle adequate perception of each other separately and separately of one’s feelings for this other (after all, the other here is a part of me, and I am a part of him).

Love is pain, when confusion arises, where is “mine” and where is “yours”

It is not clear what belongs to whom, difficulties in everyday life, confusion in desires (“we want” instead of “I want”), shared responsibility (personal responsibility is divided in half with a partner, as a result of which no one holds it, in fact), feelings ( one begins to experience the same experiences as the other, unable to separate one’s own from that of others).

Love is pain when there is no living energy in a relationship

Although this is most likely not pain, but simply boredom. Relationships are preserved. Some people like the following example of “ideal love”: “Grandparents walk hand in hand in old age. And they walked like this all their lives.”

In fact, most often there is nothing left in such relationships. And what’s more, sometimes such couples have a rule, whether explicit or not: “a step to the right, a step to the left - execution!” Otherwise, their hands would be separated at least sometimes.

These are people who really just “didn’t let go” of each other, even physically. But for relationships to live, and not exist, they need new, fresh emotional, intellectual and other food, which each of the partners can bring only after “being free.”

It's funny that the last wording sounds so much like prison. And I think that’s how it is - such tied-up relationships are an emotional prison.

Love is pain when there is a desire to take more from a relationship than it can give

If a person cannot satisfy some important needs elsewhere, then he will try to compensate for everything where he can - in existing relationships that “limit” him. But people are multi-needs (have many different needs), and relationships cannot satisfy all the needs of each partner.

Love is pain when fear and/or guilt for contacts with the world outside the couple appears or intensifies, and such desires and attempts of the partner are denied and angered

At the same time, in such a situation, anger also arises at the partner “tying me up” (“because of him I ...”, “for his sake I ...” - and often the partner does not need this). Suspicion, envy, excessive jealousy and, ultimately, “quiet embitterment” appear from the inability to live a full emotional life.

Do you recognize any “symptoms” of the race to fall in love? Do some or much of what is written resonate with you?

So, what do we have today? Confusion in the concepts of blind love and true (mature), strong romanticization and dramatization of the experience of falling in love, a dopamine race, well spurred by the consumer orientation of society (“consume more, chase new experiences”). Who else is surprised that love is pain in the thoughts and feelings of many people?

Indeed, there are many options for how to be together, everyone chooses their own. The most important thing, in my opinion, is that this choice occurs consciously, and not be a “choice without choice.” That is why finding a partner and experiencing falling in love is only part of the spectacle of love. And that is why I pose the question “how” and not the question “with whom”. Again:

“It’s better to be alone than together haphazardly”

In order to be less likely to get hooked on love, you should pay attention to a number of factors. There are quite a few of them, and they deserve special attention, so a separate article will be published on this topic soon.

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Love or love addiction12

Good and lasting relationships can only be built on true love. An analysis of the relationship should be carried out to understand what feelings hold the couple: tender love or indomitable love addiction.

Love is built from the most positive properties. She endures for a long time, does not seek her own, forgives, does not envy...

Love addiction takes revenge, tries to influence a partner, achieves what it wants by any means necessary.

Love works for good. A loving woman encourages a man, admires him, praises him in front of strangers and is not afraid that someone will take the “ideal guy” away.

"Fashionable" diagnosis

Chlamydia is considered one of the most common STDs. Its causative agent is chlamydia (Chlamydia trachomatis). In most cases, it is contracted during sex. The likelihood of catching the bacteria in another way, for example, after swimming in a pool or using someone else's towel or washcloth, is minimal. The insidiousness of this disease is that it is often asymptomatic. As a rule, chlamydia behaves very quietly in the body, hiding for the time being and waiting for an opportune moment. And sooner or later it comes: as soon as you get a little nervous, overtired or overcooled, insidious bacteria immediately go on the attack. There is discomfort when urinating, the uterus and its appendages become inflamed, the eyes hurt, the joints of the legs swell, and the fever lasts for months. But it also happens that there are no external manifestations of infection, and the only thing that worries a woman is the absence of children. Therefore, if you have been unable to conceive a baby for a long time, be sure to take a test for the presence of chlamydia in the body (PCR and ELISA are the most informative). By the way, chlamydia does not bode well for men either: advanced disease often causes prostatitis, urethritis (inflammation of the urethra), as well as proctitis (inflammation of the rectal mucosa). Chlamydia is treated with antibiotics. Here it is important to choose the right medications (this should be done by a competent doctor, and not by a pharmacist at a pharmacy or a “friend in misfortune”) and complete therapy to the end. After the course, it is worth doing a control analysis (and preferably more than once).

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Toxic relationships13

Mad love has destructive properties. A man, under the influence of love addiction, is very jealous of his passion, humiliates in front of strangers, tries to tame and besiege, and constantly controls. To achieve his goal, such a guy goes to any lengths. He professionally manipulates women's feelings, forcing them to act in ways that benefit him.

True love has purpose and patience. If young people want to start a family, they will gradually move closer to their cherished goal.

Love addiction affects partners differently. The man wants to ring the lady and hurries to take her to the registry office as soon as possible. Observing women's doubts, he does not want to show patience and goes straight to the goal: he causes jealousy, constantly jabs in the eyes that they are “nobody to each other”, talks every day about the need for a “wife and mistress”, which he will rush to look for as soon as possible , if the lady does not hurry up with consent.

A woman with an uncontrollable drug addiction is at a loss. On the one hand, she is not ready to get married, on the other hand, she is not ready to let her boyfriend go. She becomes very anxious, rushes about, is jealous, and throws hysterics. Even having agreed to strengthen the relationship, she will continue to worry about the devotion and love of the man who forced the young lady into marriage through gross manipulation.

French runny nose

That's what gonorrhea was once called. It occurs almost as often as a runny nose. In the United States alone, there are a million cases of this infection per year. As a rule, it is transmitted through sexual contact. A household route of infection is also possible (swimming pool, bathhouse, toilet), but, fortunately, the gonococcus that causes the disease quickly dies on an open surface, so such cases are very, very rare. The danger of this disease is that in 90% of cases, gonorrhea in women does not manifest itself in any way (men usually complain of painful urination a few days or weeks after infection). The diagnosis is usually made when the infection is already deeply rooted in the female body, causing enlargement of the glands around the vaginal opening, inflammation of the uterus and fallopian tubes. In this case, menstrual function is disrupted, the temperature rises, nausea bothers you, severe pain in the stomach and back occurs, and sex becomes not a joy. As a result, infertility may develop. However, all this can be easily avoided by undergoing a course of antibiotic treatment. By the way, in the early stages, treatment will take up to 2 weeks. If the disease is advanced, therapy may take several months.

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Love works for good14

True love develops like a blossoming rose. First, a bud appears, which gradually matures, opens and delights with its beauty. Tenderness and love give people joy, happiness and peace. Crazy love exposes partners to torment and unreasonable worries.

A guy and a girl, being in a toxic relationship, must understand themselves and the structure of the “tormenting romance.” To feel happiness, they have two options: break the toxic relationship or learn to sincerely love their soulmate.