Masculine and feminine: why we need to abandon this simple division

Secret one: mistakes

Everyone makes mistakes in life, but not everyone admits them. Most guys apologize if they feel guilty towards their loved one. In other cases, they are happy to find the culprit: a neighbor, a dog, or a casual acquaintance.

The main reason is to appear perfect, even in the presence of guilt. At such moments, you should not point out errors, otherwise the chosen one may live up to the worst expectations. The husband’s psychology is structured in such a way that he will not agree with his wrongness. Therefore, the wife can assess the situation from his point of view or insist on her own. In the first case, it will give strength to the spouse. He will begin to strive to realize his hopes and will certainly achieve success.

Aspects of the male psyche

You can draw conclusions from the man’s conversation. If “we” comes up more and more often instead of “I,” then this is a clear sign of falling in love. The amount of time devoted to a woman also matters. The longer it is, the deeper his feelings. When he prefers to stay late at a bar with friends, go fishing or do meaningless things, instead of paying attention to a girl, you should be wary. This shows disinterest.

In this case, most ladies make a big mistake: they try to remind themselves by calling and writing to their lover. This will push him away even more.

Male and female: main differences

Regarding the differences between masculine and feminine principles, psychologists identify a number of features. They determine the following perception of the surrounding world:

1. Regarding orientation in space, girls cope with the task worse than guys. It is more difficult for ladies to adapt to the situation.
2. Women have a developed sense of smell. They capture more odors and determine contrast.
3. Regarding vision, men see better. Representatives of the fairer sex distinguish more shades. They see with peripheral vision.
4. Pain sensations are more acute in girls due to the greater number of receptors responsible for pain. However, the pain goes away faster.
5. Women's perception is subject to stress, panic, and anxiety. Regarding emergency situations, the girl will be confused, the man will remain sober. Representatives of the fairer sex are afraid of sudden changes.
6. Sexual perception is also different. For example, 4-5 minutes of sex is enough for a man to get pleasure. A woman needs at least 20 minutes to achieve orgasm. After orgasm, the hemisphere of the brain responsible for creativity is activated.

Sign language

The gesticulation of men says a lot about deep sympathy. In a conversation, they use much fewer movements, so it is easier for the weaker half to understand the guy’s psychology. It is not necessary to memorize them. The main thing is to perceive them comprehensively. The interlocutor often looks into the eyes of his chosen one, periodically glancing at her lips - this is a sign of his interest and affection.

When walking next to a woman, he places his hand on her shoulder or waist. This means that the partner values ​​​​the beloved. If your partner allows you to use his adult “toys,” which he carefully protects: he allows you to drive a car or use an expensive computer, this means he has serious plans for you.

Quarrels are also a good sign. An uninterested person will not show emotions and feelings. He will swear only if he has a desire to connect his life with you. But if during a conversation he suddenly leaves, then a clear lack of interest is visible.

The transition from thoughts to action in everyday life indicates that the guy is thinking about creating your future. This applies even to small things: buying a vacuum cleaner or fixing a faucet.

Another important aspect is conducting daily affairs with your companion. Cleaning or cooking together is a serious step for the stronger sex. By signing up for my personal consultation, you learn to recognize these and other gestures. You will also understand how to interpret them correctly. Despite the fact that female and male psychology in relationships differ, a wise woman will take all the secrets she has learned into account in order to further win the heart of her chosen one and build a strong family.

Female and male type of behavior...

Newbie, start here! One psychologist, responding to my comment, argued that today the “male model of behavior” “sucks.” And that the “female model of behavior” turned out to be more effective in the resulting conditions. There was also a statement: “to achieve success with women today and in life in general, you need to change your behavior towards a feminine one.”

But I have doubts about this pessimistic position. Based on the words of a psychologist, all hopes for a harmonious union between a man and a woman are meaningless. And this is a simple proposal to give up and screw yourself. And it didn’t suit me at all - because I’m not going to give up on my path. You don’t have to ask me - who is this person, I won’t answer.

We are different women and men! Accordingly, we behave differently, we have different tasks and goals in life.

From history textbooks we know that before, having conquered someone else’s territory, people killed all the men and children (usually), but they didn’t kill all the women, they took a certain number for themselves.

It turns out that the woman had to stay in the new territory forever, or until others conquered her new “homeland”...

In addition, women led a “mostly” sedentary lifestyle. While the man moved to new territories and RETURNED if he remained alive, the woman remained in the den, doing household chores, looking after the children and messing around (gossiping, chatting) if there was nothing else to do.

As a result of all this, there are many differences in female and male behavior. If a man with feminine behavior goes abroad, he will prefer to stay there. It’s the same with resources—the woman’s job was to spend the extracted resources and the man’s job was to extract them. Therefore, a man with feminine behavior takes out resources - he does not try to get new ones, but tries to use what he has, what has come into his hands, so to speak.

Another problem is the equation of men and women.

If a hierarchical struggle arises in a male team, then this is normal. Everything becomes abnormal when a woman begins to “work” in an obviously masculine profession among men. A situation arises - when a woman enters into a hierarchical struggle with men, although a woman was created for something else - she was created to procreate and unite with a man in a couple, giving birth to children. Then suddenly a situation arises - when a woman acts not as an ally, but as a rival for a man. “This leads to the destruction of family values, to rivalry between the sexes.

But a woman uses a man’s instincts at work, because men instinctively often, even very often, do not consider a woman as a rival - she takes advantage of this and moves up the career ladder quite easily.

The main problem of the northern countries is the erroneous assessment of the “female model of behavior” as more successful. On the one hand, because not everyone at work views her woman as a hierarchical component - and a deception arises that her behavior is more successful, although she achieves this position using male instincts. On the other hand, people are deceived into thinking that female behavior is more successful - because a woman has long been among the extracted resources, but has not mined new ones. And at first glance it may seem that her behavior is really successful, since she is surrounded by large resources, but the root of the problem is that she is surrounded, yes, but it is almost impossible to extract resources with female behavior.

These are the main causes of degradation. - Deception.

And I'll go back to the psychologist. The psychologist’s statement was that the male model of behavior with women does not work. Women's is more effective at the moment.

But my knowledge refutes this statement. Yes, today it is not easy to live with masculine behavior and one may get the impression that more feminine behavior is more effective with women. But for some reason, in recent years I have tried many different options, I behaved differently - I experimented. And for a straight male model of behavior to have no chance at all - there is no such thing. I had several relationships where, at the dating stage, I showed masculine behavior - and all this was effective and even the relationship developed more harmoniously than in other options.

That is, I have a masculine model of behavior, I will be modest, not often, but one can say that with short pauses I could find a woman who agreed with my masculine behavior and responded with feminine behavior.

And an afterword. It is men who use the female model of behavior not only on purpose, but even consider it the only possible one - they “suck”. The answers are simple - this model does not bring resources into the territory - the model only consumes resources, or takes them out of the territory. “This all leads to technological backwardness, to internal conflicts, to the export of resources from the country, to sexual struggle and much more. “I don’t understand how you can not “suck” under such conditions. This is for the future - “suck, suck and suck”

Behavior towards girls

If you know the basic features, you can significantly reduce the number of conflicts. One of them is silence when a quarrel is brewing. Many girls regard this as insult or anger. But at this time the partner is simply thinking about a plan of action.

But this applies not only to conflict situations. The difference between a man and a woman is that the former have the ability to act, while the latter have the ability to feel. Therefore, the stronger sex does not always perceive our feelings and emotions. In addition, they are distinguished by their straightforwardness, which is why they do not understand the most obvious hints. Therefore, you should not make an offended face or change the intonation in your voice in order to convey your indignation to your companion. It is better to express the insult in words. Another feature of male psychology is the “hunter” instinct. They need to conquer, go to the goal and achieve it.

Psychologist Daria Milai

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Feminine behavior in men

Feminine behavior in men

Feminine behavior in men, unfortunately, is becoming the norm. No, we are not talking about representatives of sexual minorities at all. People with normal sexual orientation cease to be men. Again, we are not talking about those people who take excessive care of themselves - is it bad that a man takes care of himself? It would never have occurred to me to compare such a man with a woman. We are talking about feminine behavior in normal men, who outwardly are no different from other men. Representatives of the stronger sex often exhibit feminine habits. They do not notice that they are not behaving like men.

If men behave like women, then women will have to behave like men.

A woman's behavior can be called a man's desire to gossip. Men are sure that women love to gossip, but they do not notice that they love to gossip much more. In the company of women, such a man will always find his place. He will amuse them, gossip with them, but they will not perceive him as a man. They will consider him their good friend. And he, despite the fact that he is friends with them, would still like them to pay attention to him as a man. But, alas, gossips do not attract women. And the more he discusses other people, the more dirty details he tells, the worse they treat him. His girlfriends can happily communicate with him, share funny stories, but they will choose a man for a relationship. A real man who will not behave like a woman.

However, some women are satisfied with this model of male behavior. If a woman is tired of relationships with ordinary men, she can relax with an effeminate man. He will be her friend, he will be a good conversationalist. True, she will love talking to him more than entering into a close relationship because after the spouses gossip, there is somehow no time for that.

Such a man does not owe a woman anything, but she must do everything possible for him.

It is generally accepted that a man should take care of his family. You can forget about this. More and more men are trying not to think about these questions. They are not interested in women who need to be protected and protected. Let them protect and protect themselves. It is much more interesting to find a profitable match and live in peace, without any problems. It does not matter whether a man will feel love for his wife, the main thing is that she provides him with comfort. And if suddenly a man loses his job, then he can safely rest - his wife will provide him with all the necessary benefits. If such a man hears that he owes a woman something, he becomes hysterical and tells what the woman owes him. A man with feminine behavior will never accomplish a feat for the sake of a woman, will not go to work in order to provide for her, will not be her support and support.

A man who forgot that he is a man who loves women to pursue him. He cannot imagine having to court a woman, give her flowers, win her over. Women should do it themselves, and so be it, he will honor them with his attention. True, many women do not realize that they should pursue him, and then he is offended by the whole world because the opposite sex is indifferent to him.

It's all due to spoiling. In my youth, a lot was allowed, a lot was forgiven... And multi-liter infusions of alcohol blurred the feeling of adequacy. But if in my youth I had plunged my head into shit once, my worldview would have changed.

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On the Internet, I read that recently, more and more often, men behave like women and exhibit “feminine” behavior. Namely: they sort things out, refuse the role of leader and beat around the bush, forgetting that a man is a straightforward and principled comrade.

I read it and thought, can all of this listed be called “feminine” behavior? Do we women behave this way?

Making decisions, taking responsibility and adhering to principles is something that any person has to do, regardless of gender, or rather, they don’t even have to, but both men and women have to do it. Otherwise, the personality “fades”, becomes “gray” - not independent, lacking initiative, irresponsible in a constant “relaxed” state. Such a person does not strive for a goal, often does not even have a goal, so he “pours from empty to empty”: he cries, refuses to take responsibility for his life and the lives of loved ones, endlessly finds out what and why, looking for those to blame. And such a person can be either a woman or a man, because first of all we are all people, and then women and men, and each with their own unique inner content.

Another question is that society has developed ideas about male and female roles, i.e. how a man and a woman tend to behave. Half of these ideas are the so-called gender stereotypes, on which the upbringing of a child is based on his belonging to a certain gender; on the basis of these stereotypes, a boy is raised as a boy, and a girl as a girl. The second half is social stereotypes, to which everyone “clings” and demands this or that behavior, they say “what a man should or should not”, such stereotypes can partly be called myths.

So, can behavior that is not characteristic of a man be called “feminine”? What is this habit of going straight to the opposite? If a man sorts things out, is prone to hysterics and avoiding responsibility, does not comply with any duties, does not make decisions, does that mean he is a woman? It turns out that this is what female behavior is like. Here she is a woman - irresponsible and unprincipled, unable to decide and clearly go towards the goal. Congratulations, dear women! The secret of the feminine essence has finally been revealed!

It turns out interesting, a woman cannot be a leader, sorry, but it’s busy, so to speak, this is a man’s function. A man should not sort things out, because only a woman can discuss anything; a man cannot, because he spends all his energy on leadership.

In general, my opinion is that first of all you need to be a person, because such qualities as responsibility and principles, sincerity and decency, fulfilling duties and making decisions are all human qualities, and they are not divided according to gender principles. All this should be present in both women and men.

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How a man chooses his beloved

Guys take their choice of life partner seriously. Popular signs are:

• attractiveness;
• well-groomed and radiant appearance;
• character averse to scandals;
• the ability to create home comfort and surround your beloved with care.

These are quite feminine traits that are appreciated by most gentlemen. Therefore, girls with the above characteristics will always enjoy the attention of others.

The male psyche: how feelings manifest themselves

It’s easy to understand that your chosen one really loves you. Observe his reaction in the following cases:

• Showdown. During a quarrel, the partner will not leave the conversation, but will remain to indicate the reasons. If he's interested in you.
• Getting to know his close circle – parents and friends. The guy values ​​​​his friendships, so he won’t introduce everyone to the company, much less to his family.
• Everyday situations. If your gentleman helps with chores around the house, this indicates his plans for the future.

Among other things, joint shopping trips, purchases, gifts mean serious intentions.

Adviсe

There is an opinion that a man treats a woman as she allows him to do so. But when examining the details, it turns out that this is wrong. You can't change guys radically, but the little things are worth a try. This should be done in the initial stages, when the chosen one is at the stage of falling in love and is ready to please his companion in every possible way.

If the girl comes to her senses later, she will have to come to terms with her shortcomings and accept her lover as he is. However, in most cases, the actions of partners depend on upbringing and character. For example, if a wife asks her husband to take out the trash, he may answer that in his family the father did not do this.

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It is difficult to classify such men as courageous - there is not even a hint of aggressiveness in them. A calm, even voice, soft facial features, smooth movements, this is not quite femininity, rather boyishness, asexuality... They easily establish warm, friendly relationships with women. They are chivalrously polite and courteous, which creates the impression of some old-fashionedness. Mixing of characters

In the character structure, a mixture of features of various stages of psychosexual development may be revealed: pregenitality and genital desires may acquire a certain proportionality. This complicates the picture. But this is precisely the passive-feminine character.

In the most general form, the idea can be expressed this way: in a man of this type, traditionally feminine features are presented very clearly. These traits determine one of the personality aspects of a passive-feminine character.

Mechanism of occurrence

This character may have the same origin as the oral character. Let's imagine early weaning, which did not lead to a suspension of psychosexual development. The child, despite deprivation, reached the genital stage of the organization of the ego, but the oral component had its effect. Genitality turned out to be weak...

If during the period when the child was developing and his genitality and aggression were encouraged, then the oral element could disappear... A weaker organism does not give up genitality. He is only able to renounce aggression and take a passive position...

A person of this type can identify with a woman. As a child, this helped him overcome his fear of castration.

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Wilhelm Reich noted exaggerated politeness and compliance, gentleness and cunning. Here is what he wrote about one of his patients: “Phenomenologically, this was a typical passive-feminine character. The patient was always friendly and flexible; he apologized for any, even the most insignificant, reason. In addition, he was timid, awkward and dependent on circumstances.”

Another trait of this type is submissiveness. What holds back the energy of such a person? What happened to his aggression? The passive feminine structure is anchored in genitality, but at the same time it is afflicted with fear. Once a person has reached the genital stage of development, he can no longer return to the previous, pregenital stage. Therefore, the problem is complicated by the fact that a person of this type is denied the way both forward and

back.

The situation can be characterized this way: the bearer of a passive-feminine character reached the genital stage of the organization of the Self, but then experienced a shock of fear. The crux of the matter is precisely this paralysis.

Husband-child

A person with a passively feminine character behaves with a woman like a child. He is not capable of being a “man” with a woman...

Here are lines from the diary of one woman who describes a passively feminine character: “I am now deciding whether to continue living with Denis or not. I'm tired of being a mommy to my husband. In the morning he is capable of causing a scandal because I bought a cake for my son, but didn’t buy it for my husband. But this is his favorite cake... Now I live with one single exhausting thought: why am I with this person? I bring him pain and suffering..."

Pavel Gurevich

Psychology of men's behavior in love

When you first meet, a guy is unlikely to think about serious connections. Otherwise, they are not a priority. Therefore, the stronger sex is quite happy with meetings that do not imply obligations. You can seize male territory smoothly and without harsh statements. Since your demonstration of rights to his heart can act as a stop signal for a gentleman.

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Boasting

Men's psychology in relationships with women is often determined by “spreading dust.” A source of pride is a new car, a successful career, the number of books read. The admiration of young ladies gives strength to the stronger sex, “inspires” and motivates them to new exploits. A simple guy feels like a superhero who has the ability to solve every problem.

This happens on a subconscious level, because everyone tries to surprise their companion and be the best in her eyes. In this sense, he is like a child. Therefore, you should not cut off your sense of greatness, but believe in its possibilities.

Straightforwardness

Women strive to get pleasure from communication, while guys want the necessary information. They take what they hear literally, but hints and veiled phrases are not for them.

To reach gentlemen, you need to speak directly. This is the path to mutual understanding in the family. Many people believe that their partner should read their thoughts and guess their desires on their own. They imagine how he will act in a specific situation, and when the companion does everything his own way, they are disappointed. This causes a response from the stronger sex - temper and indignation. Therefore, girls who express their requests as clearly as possible make the task easier for both their husband and themselves.

Masking emotions

The psychology of male behavior is built on restraining feelings. A real man should not take out his feelings on his loved ones. Difficulties at work or other obstacles will make him withdrawn.

Women at this moment act according to two scenarios. They may become self-absorbed, imagining worst-case scenarios. As a result, the chosen one has a new problem. The second option is that the girl arranges an interrogation, trying in every way to find out what the matter is. I advise you to wait out the storm that has washed over your husband and not allow the behavior described above.

The main differences between men and women

The problem of mutual understanding between the sexes

Many problems in the relationships of men and women with each other (and even relationships with themselves) stem from a misunderstanding of the essence of the feminine and masculine principles. We are taught anything, but they are not taught the most important thing - they are not taught how to be a person: an individual, a man or a woman, how to be a spouse, how to be a parent. Therefore, here we will briefly discuss the main differences between people of different sexes in several aspects - from physiological and psychological characteristics to the spiritual purpose of a person of a certain sex in life.

The ratio of female and male

The female body is basic, and only an increase in the amount of male hormones in the mother’s body during pregnancy “completes” the basic organism of the unborn child to become male. Therefore, the female body is more viable, and its biological reactions manifest themselves in a wider range.

The concept of gender by Vladimir Geodakyan

If a species has two sexes, females are carriers of the best traits for survival, and therefore have greater adaptation potential. Males are an “evolutionary laboratory” - new bodily characteristics and modes of behavior are developed on them, therefore men are more prone to experiments and deviations, to risk and more often die at all stages of life.

Neuroandrogenetic theory by Lee Ellis

Male hormones program specific behavior: aggressive sexuality, control of territory, the desire to create male groups and hierarchy, the desire for diversity and adventure, competitiveness, aggressive and “predatory” behavior of the hunter, a high desire to go outside the home, high persistence, stubbornness and poor learning ability, slow acquisition of defensive reflexes, tolerance to pain, weak attachment to parents and family, relatively weak emotional reaction to stress and danger. In the absence of male hormones, a person implements programs of basic - feminine behavior.

Differences in brain structure

Male and female brains are wired differently. Women's brains have better connections between the hemispheres, each of which has a speech center, while men have it only in the left hemisphere. Men's right hemisphere develops faster in childhood, so they are better oriented in space, while women's left hemisphere develops faster in childhood, so they have better developed speech skills, including skills of expressing emotions.

Logic difference

Male logic is one-dimensional - linear, sequential, rational and therefore well expressed in words and other signs. Women's logic is multidimensional - nonlinear, multivariate, parallel, intuitive and therefore difficult to express in words, and the result of thinking appears as an inexplicable intuition. Multidimensional female thinking allows you to see flat male thinking entirely and in advance. There is no need to be afraid of this, we need to use it. The male mind copes better with tactical tasks and situations of stress, while the female mind copes better with strategic tasks in situations of influence of many changing factors.

Spiritual Differences in Purpose

In spiritual terms, the masculine principle is fullness, redundancy (manifested in the external location of the genital organs), the feminine principle is a lack, emptiness (manifested in the presence of a cavity in the body for conception and birth of a child). Accordingly, the masculine principle is form, mind, the feminine principle is matter, body.

This manifests itself as a way of behavior: male - action, outward expansion, development, creativity, change, diversity, perseverance; female - perception, ingestion, preservation, reproduction, stability, flexibility and adaptability, learning ability.

In behavior, this is manifested in men saving strength for a possible extreme situation, feat, and women’s daily concern for survival in everyday affairs. A woman inspires a man to be active.

The functional division of male and female is that the woman creates and preserves life, and the man provides the woman and child with the necessary resources.

The biological role of a man is to leave his genes in his offspring by impregnating as many women as possible. The path to a man’s spiritual development is to move from an extensive to an intensive way of forming relationships: to deepen relationships with a single woman and realize oneself through the creative transformation of the world.

The biological role of a woman is to preserve life, create, protect and keep close to her loved ones - a man and a child. The path to a woman’s spiritual development is to learn to let go, recognizing the independence and maturity of not only the man, but also the growing child.

The need for unity between masculine and feminine

Thus, many misunderstandings between people of different genders lie in the fact that each / each evaluates the other / the other by the standards of their gender, not understanding the basic differences between them. Knowing these fundamental features allows you to build relationships more respectfully and harmoniously. These differences should not serve to separate and contrast, but to unite and complement people of different sexes. And then the unity of male and female turns into a huge creative force.

Association by company

The herd instinct is determined at a subconscious level. Basic principles of group distribution:

• Age interests. They have a lot to talk about, given the temporal and cultural connections.
• General hobby. This includes fishing, cars, hunting and sports.
• Uniting against the enemy. Here there is intolerance towards a certain course of life with an increased sense of justice.

The girl may not be happy with the fact that her lover is away for a long time. You can come to terms with this by doing business in his absence. Or try to infiltrate the team.

"The Dying Swan"

There are times when you need to treat a guy with special care. There is no more defenseless person than a sick person. All this goes towards his upbringing: the boy is taught that during illness the world revolves around him. But this is a great moment for the fair sex to show off their advantage. Making hot broth or raspberry tea, care and attention will do the trick. The satellite will quickly get to its feet.

How to read the psychology of men

Their main goal is self-affirmation. In an effort to achieve this, they can push even their relationship with their beloved into the background. Difficulties on the way to the top of a career, problems at work can provoke a partner’s withdrawal. During this period, the lady's rational behavior will be an excellent motivation for achieving success.

Some tips on how to understand a guy's psyche:

• Do not interrogate or meddle in your companion’s affairs unless asked to do so.
• Do not criticize his actions, since a kind word is perceived positively, unlike reproaches.
• Provide support in difficult situations.
• You shouldn't show your superiority.

The brain is like a mosaic

At first glance, the idea that sex is not necessarily the only way traits are transmitted between generations seems inconsistent with the evidence.
Research shows that genetic and hormonal components of gender influence brain structure and function. However, recent studies in rats about the effects of sex on the brain suggest that these effects may vary and even be opposite under different environmental conditions, such as different levels of stress.

These interactions between gender and environment, which can also be different in different parts of the brain, give rise to brains made up of unique “mosaics.” Such mosaics have recently been discovered in humans.

In other words, gender affects the brain, but this does not mean that there are two different types of brains - “male brains” and “female brains”. While you can predict a person's gender with better-than-chance accuracy based on their brain mosaics, attempting the opposite—predicting a person's unique brain mosaic based on the shape of their genitals—would be more difficult.

Recommendations

Listen to my following rules:

• Listen carefully to your companion, share his interests.
• Smile more often, laugh at his jokes.
• Don't forget to give compliments.
• Don't be intrusive, control your emotions and try to be grateful.
• Love yourself, take care of your appearance and be diverse.
• Keep quarrels to a minimum, support your partner and do not focus on mistakes.

Feelings or sex

The psychology of men often comes down to the priority of intimate connection. Of course, love also occupies an important position, but not in the first stages of dating. This is due to instincts that even the most intelligent cannot cope with. At the same time, the spiritual part and physiology do not always represent a single whole. Serious intentions can be understood by the behavior of the companion. In this case, he shows concern and waits for a response, tries to achieve mutual understanding and appreciates the devotion of the chosen one.

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Woman's emotions = man's behavior

I very often receive letters with complaints about the behavior of men, about a lack of understanding of why a man makes this or that decision not in favor of a woman. These letters contain a lot of accusations, resentment and anger towards the behavior of men. They are filled with misunderstanding and helplessness.

Very often in my trainings I explain that any behavior of a man gives rise to a woman’s emotion. An example and proof can be at least the fact that the same man behaves and shows himself completely differently with different women: with some he is polite and kind, with others he is rude. For some women, a man can do everything, he can find time, opportunities and ways! For others there is never time, desire or opportunity. And it is worth noting that this is not just like that...

Even a simple request, such as buying a cup of coffee with some women, causes pleasure, but irritation with others. Why? Here is an example from the life of my girls, who after the training simply completed the task.

• Girl number 1.

I asked 6 men to buy me coffee, but they all refused. Politely, but they refused. I didn’t have time, I don’t have a large amount of money with me, I don’t have the opportunity right now, with my wife. When I asked, I experienced emotions such as awkwardness, discomfort, shame, resentment, anger, irritation, embarrassment and self-pity.

• Girl number 2.

I asked 5 men for coffee, everyone agreed! They treated me to coffee, gave me flowers, said compliments, invited me to go for a walk and showered me with compliments. What emotions did she experience: lightness, cheerfulness, self-love, respect for men and herself, confidence.

You won’t be very surprised, but the girls were in the same cafe and asked for attention from the same men! Yes, you can check it yourself, I personally have carried out this experiment 114 times already, more than 1,000 women have completed this exercise, and the result is always the same. The behavior of men depends on your emotions!

When a man does not behave the way you expected, wanted, imagined, or his behavior does not give you pleasure, you should think about your emotions that you experienced before his behavior, and why you attracted such a man into your life in the first place? What is it about you that resonates with him? Blaming a man for his behavior is a futile exercise.

I often hear from women that he always earned little, he was always rude, he beat me, and my emotions had nothing to do with it. The only question is why are you with this man? Why do you only see men who cheat on their wives? Why do all your men always spend little time on you? Why exactly in relationships with you did men disappear and appear only for a while? Why are married men attracted to you? Men from other countries? You can undoubtedly blame men for everything, but this does not solve the issue.

Negative emotions of a woman

• Resentment,
• anger,
• irritation,
• disappointment,
• aggression,
• anxiety,
• jealousy,
• distrust (control),
• non-acceptance (when a woman says “I myself” and does not allow the man to express himself),
• contempt,
• disgust,
• insincerity,
• competes with a man

Cause negative reactions (behavior) in men:

• Offends
• do not appreciate,
• does not devote enough time (disappears),
• hits
• starts drinking
• humiliates
• changes,
• angry, aggressive,
• doesn't give money
• does not take responsibility for a woman,
• is getting poorer
• loses interest in you.

When a woman is filled:

• Self-love
• self-acceptance,
• respect,
• good
• sincerity,
• openness,
• admiration,
• recognition,
• self-confidence,
• with gratitude.

Then a man shows his best side and becomes better, he has a desire to develop and move forward. If a man is at a low level of life and development, then he will not approach such a woman. He will give preference to the one that already has what he manifests!

The only problem is that a woman does not realize and does not feel even half of the emotions that I have listed. Only when she begins to do everything herself, and when the man does not want to take responsibility, when the man begins to cheat, finds a woman to whom he gives money, only then does the wife begin to realize that she experienced disrespect and mistrust.

Only when the husband stops hugging, kissing more often, showing care and affection, a woman begins to feel that such emotions as resentment and anger are sitting inside her.

And today a woman does not recognize half of her emotions, because she has been accustomed since childhood that showing emotions is shameful and bad. This is why half of real painful emotions are covered up with positive affirmations, because women don’t know any other way to smooth out negative emotions, no one talks about it. Nobody says that you need to get rid of negative emotions, and not cover them up and hide them from yourself. One common way is to force yourself to think positively, force yourself not to hear, not to feel. Only this makes the problem worse and turns into a disease in the body. In this connection, in order to solve my problems in the matter of female happiness, I want to share simple steps that once helped me in solving my female problems:

1. Observe the behavior of men around you - their behavior is your emotions.
2. Recognize your negative emotions and throw them out in a form that is convenient for you (scream, cry, go through meditation, hit a pillow).
3. Be honest with yourself at least!
4. Pump up your feminine energy.

Your emotions = a man’s behavior... Having realized this with your body, feelings and head, you will not only move to the level of awareness, but also qualitatively improve your relationship with your man.

With love and respect to you, author.

A little about betrayal

Women themselves push men to be unfaithful. It so happened that they made intimacy a kind of bargaining chip. This is how they reward their partner and deprive her as a form of punishment. But such attempts at manipulation can end badly.

Another point is everyday life. The stronger sex also loves the attention of others. Living together forces spouses to get used to it, and interest slowly fades away. And a pinch of admiration from a stranger can rip off your companion’s head.

There is a category of young people who love risk. It is he who forces them to cheat, since this is accompanied by a feeling of danger and adrenaline. Moreover, intrigue with a large number of ladies increases self-confidence. There is also the psychology of male hunters, for whom a woman is prey, she must behave like an unsolved mystery and maintain the interest of her chosen one.

Male psychology of love and relationships

Men's psychology of relationships with women differs significantly from the understanding of love and living together among representatives of the fairer sex. Girls are faced with controversial opinions regarding the feelings shown by their lover. Women lack attention, they doubt the feelings of their lover, since there is no open expression of feelings.

A large group of girls think that the stronger sex is driven by feelings of lust. However, they show love and care, but in a veiled way. Girls do not notice their lover’s signs of attention, which causes a number of disputes and gossip regarding male behavior.

Males believe that women need money. However, the girls are looking for a father for their future children.

The main demands put forward by women are reliability, prosperity, and financial independence. It is important that the object of interest is strong, reliable, has solid ground under its feet, and has significant capital.

An opinion that indicates a cold attitude of men toward others, circumstances, and the world is considered erroneous. Scientists have conducted studies that have confirmed the presence of male sentimentality. They get emotional about romantic films. They need affectionate, gentle touches. However, men carefully hide their feelings.

If you ask a guy about the qualities that interest him in girls, 80% of the answers will turn out to be false. A representative of the stronger sex will name the inner world, character, and worldview of a woman. However, initially the stronger sex pays attention to the girl’s appearance. If the appearance suits him, he studies the inner world.

What should the fair sex do?

Don't be selfish. Every person needs attention and care. And the partner, in turn, wants to be the best for his companion. Therefore, you should not suppress these aspirations, reproach and criticize your spouse. Support, a kind word or pleasant memories can often accomplish the impossible.

Your actions

Often it is men who clearly understand what they need from a relationship. Whereas young ladies cannot determine their desires, simultaneously building suspicions about the intrigues and betrayals of their chosen one. Signing up for my consultation will help you get rid of obsessive thoughts. Together we will identify the root of your problem and find the right solution.

A few more recommendations for girls:

• get out of the habit of being sarcastic and touchy;
• look for common ground;
• know how to listen and understand your partner;
• don't try to dominate;
• make him feel like a hero.

The advice is aimed at preserving the guy’s important feelings: self-esteem and respect from others. This is what helps them be strong and successful.