Self-centered person: signs and ways to cope

Self-centered people are easy to recognize, but it is really difficult to communicate with them and find a common language. They generally like to talk about themselves, and can be quite dismissive of other people's points of view. A self-centered person is consumed by his own grandiosity. He looks down on his friends and loved ones with a sense of superiority, which often manifests itself from the position of “I’m better than you.”

This type of person is defined by other people as unpleasant and annoying. We've all dealt with this type in our personal relationships, brief acquaintances, at work and elsewhere. Below are some of the most annoying behaviors of such people. You may have experienced some or all of these behaviors.

Definition of the concept

In simple words, egocentrism in psychology is a state in which a person focuses exclusively on his own interests and never thinks about the people around him. We can say that this is ignoring the needs and desires of those around. The egocentric is sure that the world revolves exclusively around him. He believes that only his opinion exists and it is the only correct one.

In psychology, the term “egocentrism” was introduced by Jean Piaget, who studied the motives of behavior in young children. According to him, children's egocentrism is a normal phenomenon. This is one of the ways in which children understand the world and learn to subordinate it to their own needs.

Around adolescence, manifestations of egocentrism decrease significantly. Adults practically do not have it. But as we get older, this kind of thinking is gaining momentum again. In psychology, it is believed that it occurs more often in men than in women. And all because representatives of the fair half of humanity are able to empathize and take into account the feelings and desires of other people.

One of the characteristics of egocentrics is the opinion that everyone around them thinks only about them. They consider themselves the center of interests of all those around them. And it is useless to argue with them, even on this issue, or on any other issues. For a person with egocentrism, a dispute is not an opportunity to express one’s point of view and come to a compromise solution, but a way to convince opponents that one is right.

Egocentric people do not think that they are thinking incorrectly. They seem to be stuck in adolescence, when children exhibit a rebellious spirit and demand that everyone think the same way they do.

B) Egocentric thinking.

Like most researchers of the problem of children's thinking, Piaget notes the unconditional differences between the thinking of an adult and a child. An adult has a socialized thought capable of intimacy. Even during his personal, intimate work, he thinks socially, feels the need for control and proof, which gives rise to internal speech, constantly addressed to contradictory persons. The child thinks egocentrically, his thoughts are not inclined to intimacy. A child speaks infinitely more than an adult, because he does not know the intimacy of his “I.” His thoughts are expressed openly, but not because he wants to be heard, but only because he is not aware of himself in society. Piaget writes that “... an adult thinks socially, even when he is alone, and a child under seven years old thinks and speaks egocentrically, even when he is in society” (P.40).

Turning to the materials of previous researchers on the problem of children's thinking, Piaget notes that psychoanalysts distinguish between two main types of thought: rational and autistic thinking.

1) Reasonable thinking (directed), that is, one that pursues goals that are clearly presented to the mind of the one who thinks, seeks to influence reality. A person can express such thoughts through speech.

2) Autistic thinking is subconscious, the goals of such thinking are not consciously presented, cannot be expressed in direct speech, and are not adapted to external reality.

These forms of thinking have different origins, are rational and social and perform the function of processing and transmitting the information received; autistic m. is individual and uncommunicable. According to J. Piaget, in addition to these two forms, there must be a third, which is an intermediate link. The author identifies a type of egocentric thinking, i.e. one that tries to adapt to reality without being communicated and is in the interval between the rational and autistic stages.

Egocentric thought is an intermediate link between authentic and socialized thoughts. In its structure, it remains authentic, but its interests are no longer aimed at satisfying organic needs or the needs of play, as in pure autism, but are also focused on mental adaptation as in an adult. It is characteristic that in his reasoning Piaget relies on Freud’s theory: “And psychoanalysis came in an indirect way to an extremely similar result. One of the merits of psychoanalysis is that it established a distinction between two kinds of thinking: one is social, capable of being expressed, guided by the need to adapt to others (logical thought), the other is intimate and therefore not amenable to expression (authentic thought). However, under the influence of external factors, egocentric thinking is gradually socialized. The active beginning of this process can be attributed to 7-8 years (“the first critical period”), and the result is a transition to a form of thinking that Piaget called socialized, trying to emphasize the completeness of the process.

Egocentric thinking and understanding as a consequence of communication contain two different ways of reasoning and two different logics[3]. The author distinguishes between egocentric and communicative logic, noting that these two types will differ less in their conclusions than in their functioning. Piaget cites a number of differences between the two types of logic.

Egocentric logic:

1) Intuitive, more syncretistic than deductive, her reasoning is not clearly expressed. Judgment jumps from the first premises directly to the conclusions, bypassing the intermediate stages.

2) Pauses little on evidence and does not control proposals.

3) Has personal analogy schemes based on memories of previous reasoning.

4)Visual schemes play a big role.

5) Personal judgments and assessments have more influence than collective ones.

Collective logic:

1)Tries to understand the connection between sentences, deductively.

2) More insistent on proof. Clearly organizes the presentation of ideas for greater persuasiveness.

3) Eliminates schemes by analogy, replacing them with deduction.

4) Eliminates visual patterns.

5)Strives for judgments expressing a collective assessment.

The egocentric type of logic is most typical for a child. This feature is reflected, for example, when a child tries to explain something to his peer. Piaget notes the egocentric nature of the child's style; the child speaks for himself, thinking that he explains well, while children rarely understand each other correctly.

These are the main theses expressed by Piaget regarding the characteristics of children's speech and thinking. It is difficult to overestimate the importance of the work of this scientist; his research represents a whole era in the development of the doctrine of child speech and thinking. The significance of Piaget’s work was wonderfully expressed by E. Cleopard in the introductory article to the French edition of the psychologist’s book: “While the problem of children’s thinking was made into a quantitative problem, Piaget posed it as a qualitative problem. While the progress of the child's mind was previously seen as the result of a certain number of additions and subtractions (the enrichment of new data from experience and the elimination of certain errors, the explanation of which science considered its task), we are now shown that this progress depends primarily on the fact that the child's mind gradually changes his very character.”

We can say that it was this study by J. Piaget, despite its controversy, that paved the way for further study of child psychology. Moreover, all further theories were to a greater or lesser extent based on Piaget's research.

VYGOTSKY!!!!!!

Criticism of the theory of children's egocentrism by J. Piaget.

The results of the research activities of Vygotsky and his colleagues were reflected in many of his publications in 1928-1931. The most significant of what was achieved was compiled in the books “History of the Development of Higher Mental Functions” (1931) and “Thinking and Speech” (1934). One of the central topics of these studies was the problem of the development of the child’s psyche. He, together with his students and followers, critically rethought Piaget's theory. In his work, Piaget tried not to be influenced by existing theories and focus directly on collecting facts and processing them. It is also impossible not to notice the author’s “biological past,” which is manifested in the extraordinary care of the arrangement and classification of facts. It is the latter that Piaget pays special attention to, deliberately avoiding attempts to prematurely analyze and systematize the variety of obtained facts. “We tried,” says Piaget, “to follow step by step the facts in the form in which the experiment presented them to us. We, of course, know that an experiment is always determined by the hypotheses that gave rise to it, but so far we have limited ourselves to only considering the facts” (P. 5-6).

Piaget avoids the system in his presentation; Vygotsky tries to find “the central link in this entire chain of facts, from which connecting connections extend along all other links, and which supports this entire structure, taken as a whole” (p. 25.). According to Vygotsky, for Piaget this central link lies in the idea of egocentrism in children’s thinking: “this is the main nerve of his entire system, this is the cornerstone of his construction.” Vygotsky argues that in order to be confident in the accuracy of Piaget’s statements, you need to find out what factual material they are based on. Thus, the Soviet psychologist questions Piaget’s assertion about the functional uselessness of a child’s egocentric speech. Vygotsky conducts a number of his own clinical studies; he writes that they: “led us to a different understanding of the psychological nature of the child’s egocentric speech than that developed by Piaget.” Vygotsky and his assistants studied children's speech under conditions similar to those in which Piaget carried out his experiments. But a number of things were introduced that made the child’s activities difficult. So, for example, the colors of pencils necessary for drawing were taken from the child and they looked at how the child uses speech, trying to get out of a difficult situation. Thanks to a series of similar experiments.

Causes

So what is egocentrism? By definition in psychology, this term means the inability of an individual to accept that other people have a point of view that differs from theirs. As people say, an egocentric person sees everything only from his own bell tower.

Psychologists consider egocentrism to be a personal deformation, since the “patient” does not understand where else his personality is, and where the other person begins. It turns out that improper personality development is the main reason for the development of self-centeredness. Essentially, this is an identity crisis. But sooner or later it happens to each of us. What's wrong with egocentrics then?

The fact is that such a crisis can be dealt with in two ways: constructive and destructive. Egocentrism is the second option. A person does not accept the uniqueness and value of the people around him, which is why over time he loses his own uniqueness. Consequently, the completion of identity in his case becomes impossible.

What it is

Egocentric people do not see anyone around them, they consider themselves to be in charge.
Initially, this concept was introduced as a characteristic of the personality traits of children. This condition was considered normal in childhood. It was supposed to reflect a certain level of development of the baby in the cognitive sphere. Experiments were conducted with the age category from eight to ten years, which confirmed the presence of egocentrism. Their results revealed that children are unable to put themselves in the place of another person. They cannot evaluate themselves as an annex to someone; they see themselves only as a central figure. The fact is that almost all parents who have a small child radically change their lives, their interests, and forget about their needs and dreams for the sake of the baby.

Thanks to egocentrism, the toddler has the opportunity to get to know himself, his desires, capabilities, learns to take care of himself, and perform certain actions. As he grows up, he will realize that he is not the only one, that there are other children with their own opinions, and he will see that his parents do not always agree with him. But the fact is that not all children manage to realize this. This is how adults grow up with such a character trait as egocentrism.

Signs

Adults show the following signs of egocentrism:

Inability to experience defeat and accept setbacks.
Rigidity in judgment, complete categoricalness. According to egocentrics, they are always right in everything. They will prove their point of view to the last.
The inability to see people's motives, to understand why they act this way and not otherwise. In the presence of a person with egocentrism, any conversation ends, otherwise he will not be able to remain silent and will begin to teach, criticize and advise. And it doesn’t matter to him how others will feel at that moment.
Lack of tact. An egocentric person will not even think that making a remark in the presence of others is tactless behavior. He can easily make unflattering comments about a colleague’s appearance or criticize his work.
Expectation of praise. Egocentric people are always expecting praise. They depend on her, waiting to be admired. If this does not happen, they begin to humiliate others in order to stand out from their background.
A person with obvious egocentrism is a real dreamer. The fantasy manifests itself even more strongly if he experiences a lack of communication.
Egocentric people do not pay attention to information that differs from their opinions and beliefs.

Another characteristic feature of egocentrism is excessive suspiciousness and excessive sensitivity.

Differences between egoism and egocentrism

Many people confuse selfishness and egocentrism. But there are a number of obvious differences between them.

Egocentrism	Selfishness
Most often appears in childhood and adolescence	Doesn't depend on age
Has no positive components	The only positive trait is that a person always takes care of himself
Does not notice the people around him, their desires and needs	Knows that other people have their own opinions and needs, but does not take them into account
Poorly developed communication skills	Very sociable
Egocentric people are self-sufficient, they are not bored with themselves	Can't be alone for long
Promotes personality destruction	Less destructive

How to recognize egocentrism in yourself

To understand whether you have egocentrism, pay attention to the presence or absence of the following signs:

It is difficult for you to see the true motives of the actions of people around you. Therefore, many of their actions are a surprise to you. Let's say your colleague didn't invite you to her birthday. Are you surprised. But they completely forgot that just recently they spoke unkindly about her figure and family, and at work they undeservedly criticized her.
You don't understand why people don't want to accept your point of view. There are 2 reasons for this. Firstly, it is useless to argue with egocentrics. The dispute in this case will not be an exchange of opinions, but his attempt to prove the correctness of his opinion. Secondly, a dispute with such people can drag on for a very long time. They won't even notice that their opponent is already exhausted.
You feel like you are being discriminated against. As adults, we understand that others have more important things to do than discuss our actions. For egocentrics, everything is different. They believe that all other people do is watch their every move. As a result, they are in constant tension. It’s difficult to control yourself if it seems that friends and strangers are evaluating all your actions.
You don't notice that you are crossing boundaries. Being in a state of nervous tension, a self-centered person is unable to restrain his emotions. This leads to him lashing out at those around him. And at the same time, he does not think about his behavior at all, violating personal boundaries. It costs him nothing to make a caustic remark, touch on a “sore” topic, or prick his interlocutor with a statement. And he doesn't see anything wrong with it.
You believe that you have a lot of life experience. A person with egocentrism is confident that he knows how others can live better. Therefore, he is sincerely surprised why those around him do not take his advice, they are offended and irritated. The reaction to such behavior is insults from the egocentric, statements that the interlocutor is lazy and stupid for not wanting to change life for the better.

Egocentric education, or everything for the child

Can there be too much parental love? Probably not, but its excessive manifestations while simultaneously ignoring the interests of others is the essence of an egocentric type of education. The child is perceived by parents as a super value, the meaning of life, an idol to which the entire way of life of the family is subordinated.

Everyone is familiar with the almost caricatured image of a spoiled child: a kind of rosy-cheeked, strong man whom his mother feeds with a spoon, and around him numerous relatives entertain him with jokes and jokes in the hope that he will eat another spoon. In life, this may manifest itself differently, but boundless adoration, permissiveness and indulgence in any whims of the beloved child remain unchanged. In a family, a child has no concept of regime or discipline; the word “cannot” is uttered extremely rarely, and even then so uncertainly that it costs the child nothing to turn it into “possible.” Sometimes parents make attempts to introduce some restrictions or even punish the child, but very soon the feeling of guilt will make them regret what they have done: “Well, he is still small and does not understand that it is not good to take without permission and spoil other people’s things, to cause inconvenience to others with his screaming.” , running around, whims. He has no idea that his words and actions can offend, anger, or irritate someone.” And all this happens because all other feelings of the parents are overshadowed by love for the child.

But those around him - both children and adults, faced with such a king, for some reason refuse to play the role of subjects, and what causes delight and admiration at home is perceived at best with indifference. Any attempts by someone from the outside: relatives, acquaintances, teachers - to make it clear that such upbringing is wrong are met with bewilderment: “After all, we love our child and want him to have a happy childhood!” They are sincere in their desires, they really feel good; They took on the role of parents sacrificing everything for the sake of the child voluntarily and are happy to fulfill it, no matter what madness their child comes up with.

Stubbornness: whim or point of view? Stubbornness occurs in several cases:

as a means to achieve what you want. It passes if the parents serenely, that is, steadfastly and calmly, refuse the child. An indispensable condition is the fairness of the refusal, that is, you can refuse something that is dangerous, impossible, or untimely for the child;
as a reaction to overload - physical, intellectual or emotional. In this case, the child must be provided with adequate rest;
as an age characteristic - a manifestation of a crisis stage in a child’s development. Such stubbornness must be waited out patiently and kindly;
as a point of view. No matter how ridiculous, unrealistic it may be, respect it. Then the child will learn to respect your point of view.

A five-year-old girl, who dreamed of celebrating the New Year, did not want to wait until the allotted time, no matter how much she was persuaded, and her grandfather had to go for the Christmas tree in November, while her mother and father took out decorations and hung garlands.

Another inventor’s favorite game was to “hide” all his relatives in numerous closets and then look for them. The family had fun with this game every evening, and the boy had no idea that his grandmother had just come home from work tired, and his mother had a headache.

In such a family, the child will definitely be identified with some kind of “talent” and will develop it with all their might. This will take a lot of time, money, and, perhaps, parents will deny themselves the most basic things, easily buying for the child everything that they consider necessary for his development. The mother of one girl admitted that she hasn’t had her hair done at a hairdresser for several years, but she takes her daughter to get her hair cut in a good, expensive salon. “Let a girl get used to good things from an early age, because she is a future woman. Besides, she’s so beautiful,” my mother explained her behavior. It’s hard to say what kind of woman this girl will become if her entire childhood is spent next to her tormented mother who has given up on herself.

With the birth of a child, parents (especially mothers) decide that now their life entirely belongs to the baby and they must forget about their hobbies, habits, and acquaintances. Some find it impossible to continue their studies and quit their jobs. Perhaps, for some limited period of time, such decisions are justified, because the child is still too small, but the trouble is that there is no foreseeable return to the old life, the woman is completely absorbed in the role of the mother.

An egocentric type of upbringing is difficult to imagine in a large family. These are mainly families in which one child grows up, surrounded by a large number of adults. Often such an attitude towards a child is introduced by a grandmother, when the appearance of a grandson or granddaughter gives her life new meaning.

Ksyusha is a precocious and well-fed girl. The first time she was brought to kindergarten by the whole family - dad, mom and grandmother. Grandfather was left at the exit to guard the sled. The girl quickly took off her clothes in the locker room and confidently went to examine the group. It immediately became clear that Ksyusha did not know how to ask and negotiate. She only demanded, and if refused, she became irritable and aggressive. The teachers softened the situation as best they could, urging the children to give in to the new girl, to be hospitable and kind. But soon their patience ran out. Three days later, Ksyusha was punished for taking a toy from a girl and pushing her. The response was hysterical, which continued until the grandmother arrived. The angry grandmother grabbed her sobbing granddaughter and ran to the manager to “sort things out.”

The next day, Ksyusha was not brought to kindergarten, but her mother came to see the preschool psychologist. She, unlike her grandmother, came not with a scandal, but with her own misfortune. Ksyusha was born when her parents were barely 18 years old. The grandmothers took full care of the young family and newborn granddaughter. They convinced my mother to leave college and convinced her that now her life should belong only to her child. She tried her best to become a good mother and earn her own mother's approval. The child was never denied anything. Ksyusha spoiled and broke expensive things, and feeding the child turned into a theater where each adult played his role.

The young parents tried to be firm and introduce at least some restrictions. On this basis, quarrels with the older generation have become more frequent. And finally, the parents decided to send Ksyusha to kindergarten and do everything necessary to live separately as a family.

In communicating with adults, each of us has at least once encountered an example of immaturity and selfishness. Such a person may be sweet, charming and friendly, but if you get to know him better, all desire to communicate will disappear. Employees of the company, during a group lunch, watched as a young girl, a new employee, chatting merrily, gobbled up all the delicious things from the table, and put the rest in her purse - “I love sweets so much, I’ll finish it in the evening...” At the same time, she behaved like this, as if those around her should rejoice at her excellent appetite and excellent mood. But you can “put a stranger in his place” or simply avoid such situations, but what to do if a person close to you was raised in a similar way? It must be said that this behavior will flourish if there is someone nearby who has willingly taken on the role of an enthusiastic parent.

In the lives of people adored in childhood, extreme stress and tragedy often occur. The situation that others cope with more quickly may cause depression or a nervous breakdown in that person. Children's illusions that everyone loves you turn into bewilderment and disappointment. Lack of adaptation to life can be expressed in an absolute inability to take care of oneself, not to mention those around you. When such people have children, they can repeat the parental scenario in raising children or, on the contrary, they will be indifferent, indifferent, capricious if they perceive the baby as a rival. The only way to learn to live harmoniously with others is to learn basic lessons like “know how to share”, “think about your neighbor”, “rejoice because you brought joy to someone else”. It is better, of course, if they are mastered in childhood, so that undivided parental love does not later turn into pain.

Recommendations for parents

Assess the degree of your parental care. You may continue to care for your child the same way you did several years ago when he was little. Over time, your behavior has become automatic, you don’t really think about what you’re doing. For example, you tie your child’s shoelaces or put away his toys, dress him, or even continue to grind food, although your child already has a full set of teeth! Such care is taken for granted by the child; his chances of becoming independent are small. Think about what he is not yet able to do, and provide him with help, but let him do what is accessible and feasible himself. Soften his possible protest, explain that he is already big and can handle it on his own. And most importantly, drive away all remorse and pity when your child becomes capricious and requires help.
Remember how often you feel sorry for your child. He got hurt, he was offended by his peers, he lost at chess, he wasn’t allowed to recite a poem at a party... His sad eyes, pity, and tears make you want to help in some way, to console you. These feelings are familiar to many parents. But what actions do they push you to take? Maybe you are very active in defending his rights and very openly expressing your pity? Then, probably, you will go to deal with the offenders and insist on leniency towards your child; by playing along and pretending, you will avoid his losses. But any manifestation of pity for a child makes him helpless and weak. Life situations do not teach him to cope with difficulties on his own, and the most important lesson that he successfully learns is “You have to complain to your parents.” Pity differs from sympathy in that it does not focus a person on solving a problem. In case of any difficulty, let your child know that you sympathize with him, but are confident in him and in his abilities.
It's time to take care of yourself! Remember what hobbies you had before having a child. Or maybe you look with envy at people playing football, visiting exhibitions and concert halls, or just walking? Believe me, if you devote some time to yourself, your friends and hobbies, nothing will happen to your child. On the contrary, he will have the opportunity to communicate with other adults (after all, you won’t leave him unattended!). And the sight of a happy mother or a father satisfied with life will become an indicator for the child that life is interesting. While your child is still small, and you are young and full of strength, learn yourself and teach him to live his own life. You should not convince yourself that you are not interested in anything except the child and that the baby really needs you. Over time, this will turn into reproaches and mutual insults, or your excessive affection will become a fortress wall between you and the entire world around you.
Do not allow your child to offend other people, hurt them, or humiliate them. It all starts small: the touching baby hits his mother with his chubby palm, and shouts to his grandfather: “You are bad!”, in front of the adults, he picks off the flowers planted by his grandmother, and stains his father’s suit with his dirty feet. And everyone around him laughs, watches his pranks with emotion, or simply tries to distract him, bribe him, or pretend that nothing is happening. If you are now reaping the benefits of such upbringing, then very decisive actions and consistency in the behavior of adults will help correct the situation. Tell your child that he is doing something bad, or better yet, show the feelings you are experiencing: “I am very offended when you take and spoil my things” or “It seems to me that you offended your grandfather.” Such phrases will let the child understand that he is hurting others, causing inconvenience, or doing something wrong.
Swap roles with your child. At least sometimes give him the opportunity to show your concern, help you, console you, and sympathize. After all, you have moments when you want this, why not get attention from your child? But to do this, you need to learn how to ask your child and speak openly about your desires. Don't hint, don't demand, just ask. Bringing a glass of water, closing the curtains, turning off the music when mom has a headache, putting dad’s wet shoes to dry, leaving something tasty for grandma—even a preschooler can do this. Perhaps the child himself will think of doing something similar. Appreciate his action without loud admiration or rewards in return, just thank him and say that you are pleased. Let him learn not only to take, but also to give and feel joy from it.
Stop sacrificing for the sake of your child both in big ways - work, career, communication, hobbies, and in small things - shopping, your favorite show, time to care for yourself. Everything is good when in moderation, but denying yourself a handful of berries or a glass of juice, saying that vitamins are for a child, is probably not worth it. And if the family budget does not allow you to buy a lot of everything, then it is still worth dividing the delicacies among all family members. In this case, the child will, of course, get fewer tasty foods, but he will gain something more - he will learn to share and appreciate the pleasure of a little family joy. Every time you do something for your child, ask yourself, what do you want? Adults also have their own list of needs that need to be met. And why did you decide that new toys for a child are more important than new tights for mom or a magazine for dad? If you easily spend money on a child and for a long time cannot decide on the most insignificant purchase for yourself, then you should think about it and change your behavior before your child turns into a demanding egoist.

Consequences of egocentrism

It is difficult for a person with egocentrism to establish relationships with others. And even if he manages to start communicating with someone, the opponent won’t last long. Such people often have conflicts at work, at home and in personal relationships. In addition, egocentrism has a bad effect on other areas:

confidence;
intimacy;
emotional health;
ability to make decisions;
teamwork.

An individual’s egocentrism has a bad effect on those around him. Long-term communication has the following consequences:

Low self-esteem. A feeling of worthlessness, uselessness, and irrelevance appears.
Diffidence. It develops due to the fact that the egocentric questions your words and reasoning.
Resentment, sadness. Everything is simple here. When a person behaves offensively, it is not surprising that you feel offended.
Anger. Low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and an inability to get your point across cause frustration.

Most often, communication with a self-centered person ends in alienation. Who would like to constantly endure insults, unmotivated criticism and offensive remarks? The exception is situations when it is impossible to limit interaction in any way, for example, if you have to work in the same team.

How to get rid of egocentrism

Sometimes being self-centered is good. These are situations where others disrespect our values and priorities. But in other cases, you need to get rid of this trait. There are several recommendations:

Do not take hostility to advice to grow up and learn to accept the opinions of others. This is one of the main ways to get rid of egocentrism.
Don't expect the world to revolve around you; the people around you will rush to fulfill your every whim. They have more important things to do.
From time to time, analyze other people's thoughts and feelings about you or society in general.
Show interest in those around you. Communicate, really listen to what they say to you, delve into the information received.
Through “I don’t want”, force yourself to think about how other people might feel. Make it a habit. If it's difficult, try writing down your thoughts.
Don't give advice unless asked. If someone needs help, they will tell you about it. Someone might want to hear your success story. Tell us without forgetting about your interlocutor.
Discuss some situations with your friends. Let them express their point of view, and then check if it coincides with yours.
Egocentrism requires recognition, a sense of significance. Therefore, an egocentric person is recommended to engage in useful activities, for example, become a volunteer or engage in creativity.

Psychologists also suggest playing an interesting game. Ask your friend to act like a self-centered person and force you to fulfill his wishes all day long. This will help you understand the consequences of self-centeredness and also see the world through the eyes of another person.

A message for self-centered people

I'm sure some of you reading this article will see similar behaviors in your lives and in yourself personally. But this article is not intended to insult you or imply that you are not a decent person. We all deserve the same love and respect, regardless of our annoying behavior. And we can all learn from our mistakes and learn that we need to be considerate and empathetic to other people and not just think about ourselves.

I hope that this article will encourage many people to introspect. Which in turn will lead to the understanding that we should all be more loyal and respectful towards other people. And understand that our behavior affects people close to us. So work on yourself and become better.

Where do you most often encounter self-centered people?

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