Abandonment of plans
You have long planned a joint vacation, a trip to the theater, a concert, or a trip to visit someone’s parents. However, recently your partner has begun to evade your clarifying questions about the upcoming event and say that you still have plenty of time to resolve the issue... Of course, there is no need to panic yet, but psychologists say that this may be one of the signs of cooling in a relationship. If at this point you recognize yourself, then it’s time to think about why you don’t want to spend time with your man.
Love
The very beginning of a relationship is almost unforgettable: those first correspondence and calls that last until late at night, walks, excitement before the meeting. It’s all so beautiful and gives inspiration for creativity. The best poets and artists created their masterpieces under the influence of this level of relationships.
The partner’s shortcomings are practically not noticed, and the object of passion tries in every possible way to minimize them. At this stage, a person tries to show himself exclusively from his best side.
The period of falling in love does not last long: on average, up to a year. It can end even earlier if a man and woman tie the knot prematurely or simply start living together. Everyday life will quickly reduce the frequency of romantic dates, and, on the contrary, will increase the amount of dirty dishes and other not entirely pleasant elements of living together.
Therefore, not everyone is able to face a frightening reality and, having steadfastly withstood the blow, continue the relationship, moving to the next stage. Some individuals spend their whole lives breaking off another union after going through the stage of falling in love, because they sincerely believe that this is love and it is over. Only wisdom accumulated over the years can open their eyes to the real state of things and get out of the vicious circle. The next stage is less rosy, but not yet the most difficult that can happen.
Your inner voice tells you to leave
How do you know when it's time to end a relationship? Sometimes you just know it. True, in order to take your inner voice seriously, you must be in harmony with yourself.
Honestly answer the question: “Should I continue to be with this person?”
If you have doubts, ask yourself hundreds of times, and are also interested in the opinions of friends, mother and colleagues, then you definitely shouldn’t: you probably just fell out of love. Psychologists also advise rating on a scale from one to one hundred how happy you are with your partner. If less than seventy, then you should probably break up with your partner.
Psychology of men in love
Women see the sons of Adam as creatures full of secrets and mysteries; however, representatives of the stronger half have a similar opinion about beautiful women. A woman’s brain is constantly tormented by thoughts: “what is he thinking about,” “how to understand his actions,” “what’s going on in his head.” Often male behavior simply baffles Eve’s daughters. How to find common ground when often men and women do not want to find them? And if they want to, I just don’t know how.
The psychology of men in love is designed to help with this. First of all, you need to understand one simple fact: all people strive for happiness, but everyone has their own idea of this state. For one, it is enough to eat delicious food to feel satisfied with one’s own existence, while another will go through his entire life without ever knowing happiness. Someone can see the beauty in ordinary things and get pleasure from it, another, after achieving the next goal on the path to happiness, will feel empty and unhappy, setting the next bar for themselves. At the same time, most people experience similar needs - for safety, procreation, respect, love. These are inherent human aspirations, born of instincts. Most men tirelessly repeat that when choosing a lady they are guided by the following criteria: a rich inner world and the ability to cook deliciously.
The psychology of a man in love is such that representatives of the stronger sex are very disingenuous when they call these criteria prevailing when choosing a soul mate. First of all, the sons of Adam in love relationships are based on the young lady’s compliance with his standards of beauty. A man on a subconscious level makes his choice in favor of a certain girl, based mainly on her appearance. Only much later, in the process of communicative interaction, does a man begin to evaluate the inner world of his chosen one and her thriftiness. Therefore, at the first rendezvous, there is no need to describe to the guy all your culinary achievements.
The psychology of men in love is determined by ancient instincts. Consequently, a man is inspired by his own success. From here we can deduce the main components of the behavior of the stronger half and their psychology of love:
- an irreconcilable desire to conquer the girl you like;
- tendency to always dominate in relationships;
- desire to feel superior;
- the desire to please other ladies and attract their glances;
- need for love and attention.
The psychology of men in love is initially based on the banal instinct to conquer and conquer. Many young ladies have noticed that guys in love are capable of much to win the heart of their beloved. Therefore, if a gentleman “sings” about love and constantly postpones meetings, hiding behind a lack of time, does not respond to the girl’s requests, and rarely calls, then this indicates that all his words are empty.
Instinct pushes representatives of the stronger sex to reckless, and sometimes even slightly inappropriate actions, for the sake of the admiring gaze of their beloved eyes. At the same time, girls should not think that such reckless behavior will last forever. The process of conquering a beloved usually does not last long. As soon as a man makes sure that he has firmly reigned in the heart of his chosen one, he will begin to give surprise gifts and surprises less and less often. Rare representatives of the stronger sex are able to care for their chosen one throughout their lives. So, the beauty is conquered, the proud conqueror of women’s hearts goes to rest, and the dominant male comes to the fore.
Male psychology in love is such that for representatives of the stronger sex it is very important to dominate in relationships, to be the head of the family. Women often hear statements from their loved ones that they are always right, that all decisions remain theirs, and the only argument in favor of such phrases is that they belong to the masculine gender. This desire to dominate is not due to instinct; rather, it depends on upbringing, as well as on the model of relationships accepted in the boy’s family. A man’s adequate desire to dominate should not be perceived as a shortcoming; it should be fought and eradicated. After all, women are still the weaker sex, destined by nature to be the keeper of the hearth, but not its defender. It’s worse when the wife has to carry both her “breadwinner” husband and children on her own fragile shoulders.
The psychology of men in love also manifests itself in the desire to be the center of attention of the chosen one. Guys are quite greedy for praise. Therefore, you need to praise your loved one, emphasize his uniqueness, say how kind, smart and simply wonderful he is. At the same time, praise should not be overt flattery. The lack of praise pushes the spouse to look for someone who can appreciate his merits.
Men in marriage have slightly different manifestations of love - psychology says so. After all, for representatives of the stronger half, the very word marriage is associated with the loss of freedom, and yet they are very afraid of any restrictions. In addition, it does not matter how much the spouse earns, what his social status is, he strives to command and be in charge. Sometimes for men, the family is the only place where they can assert themselves and practice their commanding voice. Also, “males” dream of an economic wife. And it doesn’t matter which spouse has more free time, the wife’s destiny is the kitchen. However, not all men behave this way. Women need to remember that even if they come across the most accommodating gentleman, they should not go too far in defending the right to make decisions. If a man feels that his freedom is too limited and constantly pressured, then in the near future he will escape to freedom. A wise and loving wife who values family relationships should try to organize life so that the man feels like the head of the family in any situation. After all, for the male part of the population, actual power is not as important as the presence of nominal power.
The psychology of men in love is inextricably linked with sexual desire and intimate relationships. Below is an ideal intimate life with your wife through the eyes of a man. First of all, the stronger sex should feel at its best in bed life. Therefore, in this area of coexistence, women should not skimp on enthusiastic exclamations and praise. In this area of the relationship, the spouse also seeks to dominate and should be allowed to do so. At the same time, it won’t hurt to occasionally take the initiative and dominate in bed.
The psychology in bed of representatives of the stronger half is completely determined by their instincts. That is why men in intimate relationships always want to feel strong, skillful, and attractive. If the spouse feels exactly like this when he is next to his missus, then he will definitely not look for anyone else.
In addition to the professional, intimate sphere, it is also important for men to pursue their hobbies, for example, fishing or designing model airplanes. Therefore, taking the position of a tyrant, forbidding her husband to do what gives him pleasure, is not the best strategy. The stronger sex perceives any prohibitions as a restriction of freedom, which will lead to a desire to break free. Men are freedom-loving creatures with whom you need to be able to negotiate, and not act with prohibitions. Any restrictions in a couple, no matter which side they come from, always only harm the relationship.
Not only do women want to feel like they are behind a stone fortress in marriage, men also need to know that they are safe, that they will not be betrayed, that they are loved and expected to be accepted in any way, that they will support their endeavors and help, if necessary. In addition, a man should not only feel safe, but also be surrounded by the protection of all the people dear to his heart. This is also a manifestation of an innate instinct, which can be briefly formulated by the following attitudes: my territory, my property, my wife, etc. Responsibility for the family, own property, a sense of ownership - all this is also very important for any representative of the male part of the population. Therefore, women are advised to show their loved ones how important it is for them to feel protected and supported by their spouse. In addition, we need to tell our husbands more often that they are strong and courageous.
Women should try not to lose sight of any, even the most insignificant, success of their man. Only admiration in the eyes of his beloved and enthusiastic words will push a man to further achievements. Only with that woman will a man live his whole life with whom he will feel his own uniqueness and significance.
What, in essence, is the psychology of love and relationships, how do you understand that you are loved?
In fact, knowledge of the basics of male behavior and the main aspects of psychology is the main assistant of the weaker sex in terms of winning the heart of a lover. With age comes wisdom, and the path to knowledge is always open if there is a desire. Only understanding the specific behavior of a man in love will allow you to build healthy, long-term and happy family relationships. And if your loved one begins to make surprises less and less often, you should not panic, thinking that your chosen one has fallen out of love. After all, he could simply decide that he has already conquered his beloved, therefore, he now needs to take care of his material well-being, and gifts will wait.
Humility
If the union has crossed the previous threshold, this means that both partners are wise and responsible enough. They take quarrels completely calmly and understand that the conflict will pass, but the sediment will remain. Therefore, they try to solve problems constructively.
The other half is now perceived not as a set of disadvantages and advantages, but as an integral personality with its own baggage of distinctive features. At this stage, such a mutually beneficial quality as respect for interests and manifestations of character appears. Therefore, emotional outbursts are no longer perceived as a red rag by both participants in the relationship. They both try, for each other’s benefit, not to start scandals out of nowhere, and even if a quarrel does occur, they quickly move away and make up.
This stage is also characterized by maximum expression of patience. Partners already know where they need to remain silent and where they can speak out, so as not to drive their loved one to a white heat.
The humility stage is where mature relationships begin. This means that partners clearly understand that in a couple it is important not only to listen, but also to hear each other.
