The word “hysteria” itself originates from the Greek word “uterus” and in the classical sense it can be translated as “rabies of the uterus.” Probably the worst thing that can happen to a man in relationships with women is to encounter an interesting and educational world that almost any girl can create by throwing a tantrum. There are several types of hysterics and each of them is dangerous in its own way for the stronger sex.
Simple, ordinary hysteria
This type of hysteria is usually associated with “I’m just not in a good mood,” “I have absolutely nothing to wear,” “You don’t love me at all.” And it manifests itself in sudden tears and accusations out of the blue, sometimes in rude reciprocal comments with a demonstrative turning out of everything that is stored in the depths of the closet.
This type of hysteria almost always passes without any particular painful consequences for the male psyche and is easily stopped with a calm and gentle “you’re right, my love,” “we’ll buy it well.”
Unfortunately, this trick does not work with more advanced people who have earned the title of hysterical girl. They are usually calmed down by “Stop rubbing” and “shut up.” Such hysteria is not dangerous and is typical for almost all young ladies. And with skillful attitude - very short. But if the reaction is extremely incorrect, it can drag on for long, very long days for a man.
Hysteria in men, problems in women
Women suffer the most from the hysterical behavior of representatives of the “stronger” sex. After all, you can take it out on them, use them to pour out slop and unwind... If you respect yourself, don’t allow this to happen. Problems need to be solved. Moreover, together. Then the man will no longer have the need to be hysterical, and your life will become richer, calmer and safer. This is the kind of relationship you should strive for if hysteria does not excite you. And this happens...
Hysteria loud and wet2
The cause of this hysteria can be events or actions done accidentally or on purpose to offend the girl. The same applies to the reasons “I came up with it myself, and was offended by myself.” Wet hysteria is always accompanied by violent slamming of doors and leaving “forever.”
And it doesn’t matter from a party, from work or from many happy years of married life. In the last version, by the way, it usually ends with returns, but in the first two, not always. The only way to respond to such hysteria is to simply wait and do nothing.
Why is a woman hysterical?
It signals that degradation has begun in the relationship.
A woman is intuitive by nature. She does not always understand what is happening, but she clearly feels when the situation smells of kerosene, development has stopped and a rollback begins.
Why is a woman so fundamentally concerned about the issue of development? What does she want?
A woman herself is a carrier of energy on which the future is built (children will live in this future, by the way).
If the man next to her does not develop, does not put this energy into action, an excess accumulates.
Women with powerful energy who find themselves in the role of a housewife are especially scared and severely hysterical.
For them it is already a matter of life and death. If a woman does not release her energy in hysterics, she will begin to get sick and die.
By the way, women’s favorite substitutes for hysteria: cancer, alcohol, drugs, deadly force loads (up to loss of consciousness).
All this is a consequence of unrealized, suppressed energy. Yes, sometimes silent hysteria lasts for years.
“Why do they do this to themselves?” - this begs the question. Because of self-dislike or stupidity.
Quiet, dangerous hysteria3
A quiet voice and gentle tone that psychiatrists usually use when communicating with their patients. All this betrays a quiet and unsafe hysteria. It is always accompanied by a quiet voice and silence, but it is at this moment that frying pans and children's toys fly past the head of the unfortunate person who happens to be nearby.
But its main danger is that men really don’t understand why girls get offended and what needs to be done in such a situation.
And at such moments, windows are broken and divorce applications are filed. It is precisely this kind of hysteria that should never be ignored under any circumstances. A girl in a state of quiet hysterics must be distracted with something: kiss her, give her a gift. Yes, in this case you will have to fork out more, otherwise it will cost you more money later.
How to stop a man's hysteria
A narrow-minded woman who does not value her relationships and family happiness will throw a scandal in response. Or he will counteract with phrases like “you’re acting like a woman,” “what kind of man are you,” and so on. This will not lead to a positive outcome. It is possible that the opposite is true: the hysteria will only intensify. Then what methods will actually be effective? Madame Georgette will suggest several possible strategies.
Hide and wait
Not every woman is able to bite her lip and remain silent, waiting for the end of the hysteria of her husband or beloved man. But sometimes this is the only correct way to behave. So, if you know that you are to blame and really provoked it, it is better not to aggravate the situation. Let him tantrum, scream, wave his arms, break something... After a while he will calm down, and then you will be able to talk to him normally. It’s another matter - if a man is prone to assault... Then you can’t tolerate it. We need to choose another solution. But until peace of mind returns to him, nothing can be done in principle.
Thwart manipulative attempts
This option is suitable if you know that he is trying to manipulate you with the help of hysterics. In the previously presented list of reasons, such men were mentioned in paragraph No. 3. Manipulators often try to achieve something with tantrums.
Remember that if a man has such a sin, he must be discouraged from trying to use you for his own purposes. And this can be done only by teaching him to solve all important issues in a calm state. So, as soon as someone starts to get hysterical, immediately pull away and say that you will not continue the conversation until you calm down completely. And most importantly - do not make concessions, do not feel sorry for him, do not be ashamed of his “callousness”!
Translate to another topic
As with small children, the method of switching attention works with men. And such a switch can have a different nature. From news like “I’m pregnant” or “mom is coming”, communicated suddenly in the middle of his hysteria, to a slap in the face or splashing cold water in the face. In the first case, the psychological mechanism of stunning is used. It is effective, but it is important that the “news” be believable and truly shocking. The second option uses physiological switching of attention. It's very simple and, most importantly, effective.
Use a safe word
This term is now heard by many. It is used in various areas, including quarrels. It is important to agree on a safe word in advance so that you can use it during a man's tantrum when it is most needed. What is this anyway? A safe word is your individual signal that you need to abruptly stop any actions or conversations. For 10 seconds or a minute – it’s up to you.
It is important that a man gets used to the existence of such a convention. And for this, you must also follow the rule and be able to stop your own hysterics if your husband (boyfriend) utters this safe word. Here, success depends on whether you two play by the same rules or not.
Be proactive
And another method is essentially prevention. It involves taking sedatives, visiting a psychologist (if possible), and using simple relaxation methods. This is what is required of a man. And you should get used to treating him correctly. If he explodes from problems at work, there is no need to ask him about his affairs again, unless he begins to tell him. If he is too touchy or jealous, you will also have to take proactive measures to prevent an explosion. It's much easier if you have the right method.
Of course, there are also pathological cases of hysteria when none of the above works. But this is already a reason to turn to a psychotherapist or even a psychiatrist. Few people will take such a step, which is understandable: Russian society is not used to solving problems, preferring to simply hide or hush them up... It’s a pity, because uncontrolled hysterical attacks cause a lot of harm to the man himself, and sometimes turn out to be extremely dangerous for a woman.
A vengeful hysteria that pretends to say “everything is fine”4
The most dangerous type of hysteria for a man. Manifests itself in the poorly understood symptom “everything seems fine, but I know SOMETHING is wrong here.” In a state of vengeful hysteria, not very experienced hysterical women inform the man about buying new boots. And at the same time, they run to witches and psychics to do bad things that decent men shouldn’t know about.
Ladies who are more experienced take lovers and immediately make them known to the public, while they themselves hire private detectives who will watch her husband and find good reasons to deprive the unfortunate man of everything he has during a divorce. The main similarity between these ladies is that in plain sight they do one thing, but in secret they are planning something else, and at the same time very unkind.
It is best to fight such young ladies using their own tactics. There are also the most advanced type of vengeful hysterics. These ladies will buy new clothes and have new lovers, but in no case will they curse their husband. Because they know for sure that they hold the keys to their own happiness, and the most correct way to take revenge is to become successful and happy.
Such women can easily trample any husband - that’s why they are professionals. The main danger that vengeful hysteria poses is breaking up with the girl. But in this case it is possible to be upset and there is no point in it; few heroes can cope with such a woman. Otherwise there wouldn’t have been any hysteria at all.
GuruTest
Female hysteria is an unpredictable, uncontrollable and incomprehensible phenomenon, due to which a huge number of relationships have failed and many marriages have broken up. Since female psychology is a mystery for many men, the editors of gurutest.ru suggest finding out the opinions of psychologists in order to clarify important points.
Causes of female hysteria
1. Hysterical personality type. There is a category of women who sort things out in a raised voice, deliberately start disputes, and behave provocatively and defiantly. This is the structure of their psyche: hysterical behavior is more of an innate skill than an acquired one.
2. Hormonal changes. They can be caused by menstruation, pregnancy, postpartum syndrome, menopause. In this case, the woman’s behavior is controlled not by her capricious nature, but by hormones.
3. Stress. A woman, like a man, leads an active lifestyle. She works both at home and at work, raising children. All this exerts psychological pressure, which causes nervous overexcitation. In such a situation, even the most persistent girls can lose control of themselves.
4 Loaded with problems. Solving problems is a man’s task, so when a woman puts too many responsibilities on her fragile shoulders, tries to do everything, improve her life, then, unnoticed, she comes to chronic fatigue, which soon results in hysteria.
5. Emotional release. For some women, hysteria is a way to release accumulated negative emotions. According to psychologists, this method is often resorted to by unbalanced individuals and closed people who are accustomed to restraining emotions. When feelings do not find a way out, with their pressure from within they force a person to “explode”, throw out a wave of negativity and thereby relieve the soul.
6. Anxiety. If a woman worries or worries about something for a long time, this may well develop into hysterics.
7. Routine. Melancholy, routine, emotional hunger - all this depresses and frustrates a woman and tests her patience. When a woman becomes a “cornered horse”, loses her individuality, interacts little with society, does not rest, and completely drowns in routine, this causes devastation and deprives her of feminine energy. Growing dissatisfaction with her life and blocked paths of self-realization lead her to hysterics.
8. Lack of communication with your partner. When a man does not hear and does not try to hear a woman, understand her feelings and desires, this pushes her towards hysterical behavior. Hysteria in this case is a cry for help, a way to convey your feelings to a man.
9. Manipulation. Do not forget that a woman can use tears and hysterics for selfish purposes in order to achieve what she wants. Throwing another tantrum, she knows that she will get her way, especially if she has realized that this always works flawlessly.
How to deal with female hysteria?
A sensitive man knows that a woman’s hysteria is simply a request for love. However, according to psychologists, many men have the wrong attitude towards the situation, which provokes a repetition of the plot.
1. You cannot take responsibility for her emotions. A woman must understand that all the difficulties and victories that she experiences are the result of her efforts or lack thereof.
2. You can't ignore a woman. Many men think: “He’ll stop freaking out and calm down.” No. Don't treat hysteria as a non-existent problem. There is a problem, and the woman perceives it very painfully.
3. You cannot respond to a woman’s hysteria with negativity. Using this approach, it is impossible to solve the situation. Anger, aggression, irritation - this will not help calm a woman.
4. It is important to hear what the woman has to say. There are only a few women who fully understand their emotions and can calmly explain the reasons for their hysteria. Usually the fair sex themselves do not realize what causes the hysteria. In this case, the man must show flexibility of thinking in order to find out behind the emotional flow what really worries and upsets the woman.
5. Hysteria cannot be regarded as inappropriate behavior. Many men try to sober up a woman verbally: insulting her and belittling her feelings.
Such mistakes by men make it difficult to eliminate hysteria and calm the woman down in time. Of course, women should also make an effort not to go to extremes at the first quarrel. In this case, the following recommendations will help:
1. Ask your partner for more attention and learn to speak the same language with him in order to convey important feelings, thoughts and experiences. Through communication, you can not only prevent conflict, but also strengthen your connection with your beloved man.
2. Warn the man that at the moment you are “on the edge” and you need to throw out your emotions. You can even explain to him what to do and how to behave while you express your emotions.
3. Improve your intimate life . Lack of intimacy affects women's behavior.
4. Change your daily routine , including time for proper rest and women's affairs.
Every female hysteria has its own reasons. It is important for men to remember that they should not respond with aggression to a woman’s attacks. This will lead to an even more negative outcome. And dear ladies should not forget: in order to maintain a relationship and not push a man to break up, you need to independently monitor your emotional state and try to harmonize your personal life. Love each other
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19.07.2019 00:36
How to stop a woman from throwing tantrums?5
The most effective way to get rid of female hysterics is to prevent their preconditions in the bud. If changes in the girl’s actions become noticeable and you feel the imminent onset of hysterics. It’s worth putting everything aside and trying to talk with your loved one, find out what’s bothering her. If you find out in advance the reason for the impending hysteria, you can try to stop it with the help of a compromise.
If talking doesn't help, you can take a video of your girlfriend at the moment of hysteria, and then show her the recording. Let him look at himself from the outside and draw conclusions. If a woman is throwing a tantrum on the phone, under no circumstances should you adopt her behavior and you should not talk to her in a raised voice.
It’s better to tell her as gently as possible that such complex problems cannot be solved over the phone and let her wait for you at home. Very often, by the time you return home, the hysteria ends on its own and you can calmly discuss the problems.
Typical male hysteria. How a smart woman should behave
25.02.2004 03:34
Society
Your man suddenly begins to scream deafeningly or scream piercingly, depending on the natural timbre of his voice, and at the same time sprays saliva, stomps his feet, slams his fist on the table, throws dishes on the floor, runs out of the room ten times and runs back in, slamming the door. The look is crazy, the speech is slurred, the face is red, the hair is on end. The distinctive feature of this behavior does not attack people; there is no targeted aggression. The scene lasts about half an hour. The name is a typical male hysteria. 1. Strong and passionate
Typical male hysteria. How a smart woman should behave
Personalities are emotional, romantic and sentimental, sensitive, but at the same time strong-willed, capable of leading a family, earning money and caring for a wife. In early childhood, they received a strict instruction from their parents: a real man never cries, hides his feelings, is restrained, stern and balanced. How can he be balanced if he is torn apart by emotions from the inside? You have to force yourself and he tightly closes with the armor of self-control the exit to all manifestations of joy, pity, anger and love. He begins to burst from the inside from suppressed energy. He solves serious problems calmly. And he uses all sorts of little things in order to discharge himself with minimal damage to his business, family and self-esteem.
How does the hysteria end?
A strong and passionate man has an idyllic scene: how sweetly the sun shines after a storm. If you have never been rude to him, he feels relaxed and guilty, he comes at you with kisses, apologizes, and especially the proud one, as a sign of reconciliation with his arrogant appearance, allows himself to be fed lunch and thaws out in the process of eating.
2. Strong and smart
A nervous, impressionable and talented person uses hysterics to achieve the goal he has set for himself. He accumulates tension for a long time and vigilantly looks around when it is advantageous for a thunderstorm to break out. Key point: the situation suddenly gets out of control. We need to put everyone in a state of shock and turn the tide of events. The wife demands that her mother be accommodated for a year in a two-room apartment “to look after the child.” The husband is having an awe-inspiring hysteria. The wife gives up her intention in fear.
A typical historical example is Napoleon. He knew already in the morning that today he would trample his cocked hat with his feet foaming at the mouth in front of the formation of soldiers, and therefore demanded to give him the old marshal's beret. By the way, he knew how to create such scenes: he would fall on the floor, kick him, and roll his eyes. Some doctors even decided that he suffered from epilepsy. In fact, he didn’t have any epilepsy, he just felt it too much and strongly. Alexander the Great had similar attacks.
How does the hysteria end?
The strong and smart are satisfied with themselves: the goal has been achieved, and there is no reason to continue the scene. He emerges from the process majestically. He plans to hold the next hysteria in six months so that people don’t get used to them.
3. Weak and quarrelsome
The third type of hysterical men are not devoid of artistry, but are very weak and, due to their weakness, absolutely unrestrained. The cat cried with emotion, but there were no brakes either. This category can be recognized by the persistent habit of yelling with a raised voice on the last syllable, so instead of saying: “No one takes me into account here!” he asks: “No one here takes me into account?!” They throw tantrums for any reason because they are unable to cope with anything in life. This is not a storm of feelings unleashed, but a way of getting rid of negative emotions and the cry of a helpless child.
How does the hysteria end?
The weak one calms down slowly, from time to time bursting into inarticulate cries and groans, sheds a stingy tear and demands that everyone at home apologize to him for bringing him to such a mournful state.
How a smart woman should behave
What to do
Do not contradict under any circumstances. Wait it out. All the same, until he screams, he will not calm down. You can leave the room, but that doesn't always work. What's the point in throwing such a magnificent stage without spectators? After all, he has an artistic temperament!
Male hysteria is safe for others and for the screamer himself. This is not an explosion of aggression or hatred, but an outlet of normal human feelings. If he shouts: “I’ll kill everyone!” this means that he is angry if “I don’t want to live!” It means it’s very painful and difficult for him. Be careful not to let any expensive thing fall into his hands: a plate painted with pheasants and rabbits, a watch, a crystal vase in the heat of passion will be swept to the floor, and then he will be terribly upset.
What not to do
There is no need to demonstratively engage in extraneous activities: wiping dust from furniture, washing dishes or reading a book. Show respect for his feelings and pay attention to him, listen. You can try to shout him down (besides the hysteria of a strong and smart person, his goal is to change the situation, and not just swear) as a kind of shock therapy, but only if you are sure that you will not lose control of yourself and will not say all sorts of nasty things to him in the heat of the moment.
How to prevent hysteria
Try to find opportunities for your husband to regularly express his emotions in a civilized manner: play cards, sing karaoke, go to a restaurant or visit. Sports help many men relax: watch football on TV with him, go out with friends to cheer for your favorite team. Some men are embarrassed to admit their passion for heartbreaking melodramas; love these films yourself, and then, as if yielding to you, he will be happy to watch “soap”.
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