Selfless help, what is it? Altruism is selfless help?
Are you sure? Wikipedia says that altruism is a concept that refers to the activity of unselfishly caring for the well-being of others; correlates with the concept of selflessness - that is, with the sacrifice of one’s benefits in favor of the good of another person, other people, or in general - for the sake of the common good. What is a person thinking about who gives money to beggars or why do companies do charity? Do you really think that this is selfless help?
Come on?
If everything is immediately clear about the activities of organizations (there is even such a concept as “Charity Marketing”), then what are the true motives of a person? Why is he even doing this? - because he thinks he is doing a good deed.
Someone was drilled into it by their parents as a child that they need to help (the person carries out the instructions unconsciously.
Someone cleanses karma (atones for sins. Someone later tells a friend that they gave money to see his admiration.
In any case, no matter what it is, it is always for yourself. Therefore, altruism in its pure form does not exist. What about those who call themselves altruists? Let's ignore the case if they say this without understanding what altruism is.
Yes, there are people who get high from words of gratitude, and they, more than others, need to feel significant and needed. More precisely, no, not like that.
Everyone needs this (to feel needed), but everyone gets it in different ways: some through power, others through money. Therefore, altruism is also one of the ways of self-affirmation.
What is self-affirmation? - lack of confidence within oneself and, as a consequence, - gaining it from the outside (at the expense of something or someone. You can start to dig even deeper, but we have already gone beyond the scope of this topic. At least there is food for thought. And if you want to understand people better, then, as an option, watch what they do “Just like that,” without demanding something in return (or not yet demanding it. In general, look deep. Look for true motives.
(BONUS) Do it!!!
It was in India for a consultation with an astrologer. A hereditary Brahmin, a 7th generation master of joytish, squints slyly and looks first at his monitor, then into my eyes, and begins to pour honey into my ears:
“Igor, you have such a good destiny, such a card! You are a happy person, you don’t have to worry about anything in this life - you will have money, you will have health, etc. and so on."
I sit with a satisfied smile:
“So, can we relax and do nothing?” - I ask him.
The expression on his face changes - a smile is replaced by concentrated wrinkles on his forehead, he takes off his glasses, leans closer to me and insinuatingly says:
“No, dear, you don’t understand. You have to work hard - without effort there will be no success. Your card is just potential, you have it. But to use it, you need to work!”
Here it is - the moment of inspiration! Knowledge, information, understanding and even good karma - all this is not enough, nothing can be a substitute for action.
Therefore, if you really want to change something in your life, you must take action.
To summarize : Stop reading, stop dreaming - it's time to DO!
So you read this post and thought “hmm, interesting, I should take note.” Well, so what? What will change in your life? I will never tire of repeating this again and again: information does not lead to transformation.
Most of the commandments above are active verbs that imply active actions - create and share value, earn in sattva, help others, donate...
Let's check how ready you really are to change something - write in the comments below the number of the item (one or more) and indicate specifically what you will do on this item today.
Good examples
- point 6. In the evening I will take inventory of my things at home, and take what I don’t need to the orphanage on the weekend.
- point 1. Today I’ll figure out how to create my own blog - I’ll share this and that there, it will be useful to people
- point 5. I decided to try gratitude - I’ll read the post about gratitude and start keeping a gratitude journal today - I’ll set up an experiment for 21 days to see from my own experience whether it works
- point 8. I know one good charity project, today I will send them help
Bad examples
- point 1. Yes, there is something in this, I need to start thinking about what I should do in life, what is my calling...
- It’s very interesting about the astrologer - maybe office work really isn’t for me?
- I always thought that I should relax when it comes to money - the food is so good, no - it’s also good
I read your comments.
PS Sharing value and selflessly helping other people is the basis of prosperity. Therefore, if you feel that this post has value and could be useful to your friends, share it with them. To do this, you need to press one of the social buttons. networks below. Be generous! May you prosper, may you be rich and happy!
Ligurian Riviera, Italy, August 2020. Igor.
This is selfless help to people. How to help unselfishly
Selfless help is a noble cause that gives satisfaction, and often helps to gain authority in society, especially when it comes to organizations. There are many ways to help unselfishly and many people who need it.
The beautiful thing about selfless help is the fact that you can help either one person or an entire organization by investing your strength or money, donating unnecessary things to charity and devoting as many hours of work as you want to this useful cause. Selfless help is also called altruism or volunteering.
help by deed
It’s easy to help unselfishly if in this activity you find something you like, something that touches your soul and gives inner satisfaction. First, decide what is most acceptable to you: working with children, animals, the elderly - these are the categories that most need help. you can select several people, for example, lonely old people who need help around the house, buying groceries, cleaning the apartment, and just regular communication. You can also care for the elderly in hospitals, nursing homes, and hospices. Or you can help a specific orphanage or animal shelter - cleaning the area, playing with children or walking pets. For children, you can bring old toys, arrange games or mini-performances, show theater, especially if you have a team of young people as assistants. For a shelter with animals, it is important to bring old things there, insulate the premises for the winter, walk pets, clean cages, buy medicine and food. All this does not cost that much money, but if the shelter is not funded, the animals may be on the verge of extermination. Blood donation can be an important part of selfless help to other people, especially now when blood donors have stopped paying even small amounts of money in public hospitals, and there is a catastrophic shortage of blood. Volunteering can be combined with travel. There are a huge number of international organizations that invite young people to work as volunteers around the world for periods ranging from several weeks to a year. You can work with lions in Kenya, help sea turtles in New Zealand, babysit children at a camp in Greece and much more. Volunteers are not paid, but they are provided with housing, food and the opportunity to travel around the host country in their free time. In addition, this is a huge chance to learn a foreign language, make friends around the world and learn the culture of other countries.
financial aid
There are a huge number of charities that could benefit most from financial assistance. Usually these are organizations associated with raising funds for treatment of serious diseases. their patients can be both children and adults. Parents themselves can contact caring people directly through social networks or their own website who can help their child in a difficult situation. Financial assistance can be of different sizes - no one will blame you, even if you donate a very small amount - 50 or 100 rubles. For donations, boxes are installed in supermarkets, electronic wallets are opened on the Internet or bank accounts - all to make it convenient for the donor to use one of the services. If you cannot help financially on your own, you can choose a charitable organization and start attracting sponsors - sending out offers to companies that can help this organization and its beneficiaries. To do this, collect all the documents of the charitable organization in order to prove the legality of its activities at any time.
Why children should help their parents around the house
Participation in household chores is an important part of education and further socialization.
Is the child required to help his parents around the house? No. But children love to help because it has psychological benefits:
- increase your own importance and self-confidence;
- learn specific skills;
- develop social status and communication skills.
I think my grandmother simultaneously used conscious educational techniques and (even more) acted intuitively. The point is not to “correctly” influence the child, but to build a natural relationship with him, in which he repeats and follows the adult while doing household chores.
The recommendations below summarize my personal experience, the experience of observing children, their parents, and the experience of psychologists whose work was really useful to me. If you are wondering how to get your child to help around the house, they should help you.
Selfless help to other people. What a selfless person he is
To gain trust or increase their rating, people often disguise their actions as selfless, but in reality everything is not so simple. People sense the motives that drive others and avoid those who want to benefit. A responsive person will not find himself surrounded by self-interested people, because good is returned in kind and close friendships arise on a selfless basis. Characteristics of a selfless person:
- There is no problem of choice, comparison or doubt. The decision to help without expecting anything in return comes naturally.
- A person voluntarily submits to the needs of others that arise around him and gladly helps to realize them, experiencing moral satisfaction from this.
This way of interacting with the world arises after long-term spiritual practices, but is often found as an innate quality.
Selfless help to people. Selfless activity as a way to be happy
In the modern world, people are mainly focused on making money, and few people are interested in selfless activities.
But if these people knew what such activity can give to a person...
Constantly thinking about money and looking for ways to earn it is a trap. A person should not think at all about how to earn money, but should think about how worthy he is of money and earning it.
I'll tell you one secret:
Even in a country that is in crisis and mired in unemployment, a person who develops unselfishness and godly qualities of character earns money without much difficulty. This happens because such a person is always noticeable and in demand in society.
If a person cares about other people with love and selflessness, then it is not difficult for him to earn money for a living.
Most people believe that, on the contrary, you need to make every effort to earn money, find a better job, improve your qualifications, etc. And at the same time, they see that it is incredibly difficult and almost impossible.
The fact is that the path to finding a job is different.
How can I make fate itself give me a job?
I need to learn to develop in myself those qualities of character that distinguish me in society as an individual.
The simplest example is for a man to develop masculine qualities, and a woman to develop feminine ones. This is very difficult to do, but it is necessary.
The more a person develops these qualities, the more noticeable he becomes in society. It is at this moment that those who can help him with his work pay attention to him. This is a pattern.
And in this world it is arranged in such a way that some people who want to achieve success at work and are afraid of being left without work often actually lose their jobs; other people achieve success by working on themselves and they are never left without work.
Every person needs to know that he has some pronounced character trait that needs to be developed most strongly. Contrary to this, we often do the opposite - we develop weak character traits.
It is the development of your strengths and selfless activities for people that will greatly help you in life and help you correct your destiny.
In addition to these lines, I recommend that you study the article about how and where to start self-development
Most people tend to think about how to make money, and Vedic treatises call such people misers.
Why misers?
Because such people do not know how to cultivate true values, but hoard what does not carry too much good. Such people are attached to quick results.
Developing character traits and selflessly helping people is something that does not give quick results. It takes several years to grow in this direction.
The action plan is as follows:
You have some kind of job, and you continue to work at it, and devote all your free time to working on yourself. First of all, this should be manifested in caring for other people, in investing strength in relationships with them.
By acting in this way, a person becomes noticeable after a while. This is the law you need to learn:
“The more we honestly care about people, the more caring people become your friends, the more our status in society increases, and the easier it is for us to find a good job.”
Most people live in illusion and are deceived by the wrong idea about life. And they sincerely, from the bottom of their hearts, believe that if they don’t find a job, they will disappear.
But that's not what you need to think about.
You need to think about how valuable you are in society and how much it needs you. If your value is not yet great, then act in this direction.
A person's value is determined by the degree of his selflessness.
If a person is an excellent specialist, but very greedy by nature, then he still will not find a job, and even if he does find one, he will receive little benefit from it.
You need to overcome this greed in yourself and try to selflessly do something for people. As a result, the person’s status gradually increases, he has good friends who see that he is very unselfish. And they hire him.
A selfless person will never be left without money. Because such a person is under the protection of God.
So is selfless activity and the development of favorable character traits important?
Let's summarize the article.
How can a person become successful? How can he find a good job? How, in the end, can you change your destiny?
Authoritative writings and a number of modern psychologists advise not to waste a lot of energy searching for the job we need, since such behavior is often useless. On the contrary, they advise spending energy on developing your positive character traits and the ability to act selflessly.
Thus, first a person needs to take a lot of austerities, that is, work a lot on himself, and then he has stability in life, which makes him calm, happy and confident.
He becomes necessary for society, and, above all, for the same pure, elevated people. It is such people who create additional opportunities for this person and protect him from harm.
And according to tradition, I will say that only you can make a choice and decide how to live in this world and how to build your destiny.
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Honor your artha
Eastern wisdom says that there are four goals in the life of every person:
- Artha - material wealth, prosperity
- Kama - desires and pleasures
- Dharma - spirituality
- Moksha - liberation
Artha
For a prosperous life, every person needs material benefits, by receiving which he fulfills his desires. From a spiritual point of view, there is nothing wrong if a person earns money and has everything necessary for life. The main thing is that he correctly uses material goods and at the same time remembers spirituality, spiritual development, and self-improvement.
Kama
A person always has desires, but he needs to try not to become too attached to them, to fulfill only good desires and learn to transform them into higher, spiritual ones.
Dharma
Spirituality. The basis without which material wealth and the fulfillment of desires will not give a person constant joy and peace.
Moksha
Liberation. This is the last stage of spiritual development, when a person knows his nature and unites with God.
A person is born with a certain karma due to his past actions. Karma, among other things, predetermines a person’s artha - his financial situation in this life.
The idea may seem wild, but my observations and experience confirm this theory: we do not earn all the money in this life. Rather, on the contrary, we have already earned 70% of all the money in this life in the past. And in this life we create the foundation for prosperity in our next life.
It is interesting that according to Vedic astrology, money can come to a person in various ways - for example, through hard work, through creativity, through family, through friends, as well as easy money that comes as a blessing from above.
The ways of getting money in this life are also determined by karma - they can be different for people, so it is important to know which ways of getting money are open to you, and which, on the contrary, will not lead to success.
If a person does not know the characteristics of his artha and strives for money in an unnatural way, he can harm himself.
For example, if, due to karma, the path of hard work is closed to a person (perhaps he must earn money through his creativity), then working in an office will be torture for him and will only bring him troubles - destruction of health, personal relationships, etc.
Summary You must understand and accept that not everything depends on your actions in this life. Do what is in your power, create a foundation for the future and accept the fruits of your karmic seeds with dignity.
