From a psychological point of view
In psychology, emotions are divided into seven types. And one of them is disgust. This emotion is akin to contempt, a negative perception of something or someone that does not correspond to one’s own internal concepts of what is acceptable. It is generally accepted that a person cannot feel disgust towards animate things, that is, towards people and animals. The emergence of this feeling is possible only in relation to objects, taste sensations, smells, and condition. Sometimes insects, some types of amphibians or reptiles can cause disgust.
The statement is not always true. Yes, some people shudder at the sight of snakes, spiders or mice. It disgusts them to think about the proximity of these creatures to them. Even the thought of touching an animal or insect causes not just rejection, but horror. Fear and disgust often go hand in hand, arising simultaneously, or one provokes the other. A similar feeling sometimes arises towards other people. More often it is called hostility or contempt. But the emotion of disgust that arises towards people is not uncommon. This happens if a person you know has done something very bad. “How disgusting! How could he/she do this?!” This is exactly the reaction of those around him.
Another interpretation of disgust in psychology. This is the continuation of any action after receiving satisfaction. And often it's not just about sex. Although this comparison is also suitable. For example, the work being done. Having received satisfaction from the work done, having achieved a good result, the same actions, performed over and over again, will first begin to cause a slight dislike for work activity, and then disgust. In order for this not to happen, the business by which people earn a living must be loved and devoted to it. Although this does not happen often, and therefore daily work becomes a routine for most and does not bring joy.
Where does the disgust towards men come from?
Masha, there was something in your past that formed this pattern of behavior, I would say that it was somewhat destructive. If you want to remove this, then you should understand what is behind it, and then you can work with the situation as a problem. Let me send you one of my articles. I invite you to my website, I have a lot of material on relationships, and besides, I work as a psychologist-sexologist. Good luck!**
Obstacles to marriage. Women's loneliness. Posted in Articles | July 19, 2013
I want to talk to you, dear readers, about this topic. Perhaps some of the women who have been unable to build relationships and start a family for a long time will be able to better understand their situation and understand themselves.
Why is this topic so important? - But because a woman who wants to get married sometimes does not notice in herself any obstacles to this.
Maybe right now, dear readers, an important moment has come when you can understand yourself and understand the essence of things.
I, as a family psychologist, have worked with many women, including creating conditions for “getting married,” and I have noted some patterns that are important for everyone.
If a woman has problems with this, then first of all, she should look for the reason in herself. For example, my client from Moscow, who was slightly over 30. She also wanted to get married and have children. She was successful financially, fulfilled in her work, as they say - everything except the main thing.
She did not have long-term contacts with men. The whole emphasis was on work. She said that she only comes home to spend the night and she wants to run away somewhere as soon as possible. And the weekend was more stress than relaxation for her; the client was waiting for it to end.
At a psychotherapeutic appointment, she declared her internal readiness for marriage, and the complete absence of obstacles to this. In connection with this, she had a misunderstanding - why this was happening, there were no obvious problems. Outwardly she was pretty, with a good character, as she thought. The men paid attention to her, but somehow things didn’t work out.
During my work as a family psychologist, the main thing became clear - that she had obstacles to marriage that were deep inside and held this situation, preventing her from becoming happy.
The first reason turned out to be banal human envy. In a state of trance, she saw people who interfered with her personal life. You know, in Orthodoxy there are words that are used during confession “whether in word, deed, thought...”, here these words are quite applicable - everything was present... We resolved this situation, and changed the attitude of the client herself towards other people.
Her personal story came into the background. When she was 18 years old, she was in a relationship with a guy who did not act as he should have done (from her point of view). He didn't take the first step. And she decided that it was better to be alone.
The third point is the misconception about men that she received from her father. It concerned the fact that a man “can sit on his neck,” and she will be forced to do everything for him, getting more problems from marriage than benefits.
All this manifested itself in working with the client. When performing certain techniques, she moved strangely, taking a step into the future, she immediately took 2 steps back, thus marking time and not changing anything.
Additionally, such problematic conditions as her were revealed: stubbornness, wastefulness, suspicion and suspiciousness. What was interesting was that she received all the negative conditions when her mother was pregnant with her. This was preceded by the following situation: a fire occurred, and the mother, being in a corresponding traumatic state, passed on these qualities to her daughter.
What also came out was her idea of her “uselessness”, which she received after her younger sister was born. Naturally, this had a certain impact on her self-esteem.
My client had such a “bouquet” of problems, which, in fact, I worked with as a family psychologist, helping to sort them out and solve them.
From all of the above, we can draw certain conclusions: is it worth continuing to wait for the prince on a white horse, or should we still return to the realities of life, having sorted out our problematic state, thus removing obstacles on the path to our happiness. What do you think?
Disgust with men (1 answer)
Afanasyeva Liliya Veniaminovna, psychologist Moscow
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From an anatomical point of view
Here the feeling of disgust plays, one might say, a protective role. A person would rather try to leave a place that smells bad, will not eat spoiled or unusual food, and will involuntarily close his eyes when watching scenes of violence. The body does not want to expose itself to stress, at the subconscious level, choosing protection in the form of rejection.
Disgust is a barrier with which people protect themselves, their physical and mental state from things, actions or feelings that have a negative impact on them. Such emotions can be caused by the corpses of killed people or animals, excrement, fecal matter, etc. Moreover, the feeling that arises is so strong that a person may feel the urge to gag or even vomit from what he sees. The reasons for disgust in these cases lie somewhere deep, at the level of instincts, being associated with illness or danger to life.
An unreasonable feeling of disgust often sets in.
Question for a psychologist:
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I’m 19 years old, I’m studying for a profession I love, I have enough money, everything is fine, but from time to time I get an absolutely causeless feeling of disgust for some person, or just like that. It’s so unpleasant for me that I feel some kind of aftertaste (?) of this feeling for the whole day, it’s as if it’s stuck somewhere in the solar plexus, I want to cry or just lie down and lie face down in the pillow. Of course, I fight this as best I can, but it doesn’t always work out.
I look at the cashier at the supermarket, a very pleasant, sweet girl, and the next second I’m already shaking, she seems somehow... I can’t describe it, but I feel disgusted, scared, sad. I come to the university and see my classmate, he is as usual, but today he makes me sick, today he seems pathetic, disgusting, lifeless to me. The next day everything is fine. Sometimes I wake up in the morning, and this feeling appears after some kind of dream, but such a fleeting feeling is forgotten after half an hour, I don’t remember such dreams, although I usually remember everything. Sometimes this feeling appears from some situations, sometimes just like that, in the abstract. Once a couple of years ago I met a nice guy, we walked around, held hands and all that. And one day we were walking down the street, spring, everything is very beautiful, he takes me by the hand as usual and just hits me with such disgust, I told him that I urgently need to go home, I left, and never wrote or called him again , and every memory associated with him is colored by this disgust. I would have thought that this was somehow connected with some kind of traumatic experience, and I immediately began to remember all the most tragic things in my life - the most terrible thing, it seems, that happened to me was my sister’s suicide attempt. I couldn’t recover from this for a long time, and by the way, I feel a permanent disgust for her, but it’s mild, and I don’t show it, because I still love her. But I remembered that I felt such attacks in childhood, and at 10 years old, and at 8, even before all these events.
Real situations in which this feeling would be appropriate happen to me extremely rarely. I will also say that I probably had depression or some other disorder since I was 13 years old. I cried every day, I thought that my parents wished me harm, I was upset that life would end, that the planets revolved in a huge galaxy that I would never recognize, I thought that all the good things had ended long ago, I woke up and immediately burst into tears, brushed my teeth and cried . In general, the entire period from 13 to 16 was like a curved line, where at the bottom there is apathy, tears in the subway, hatred of oneself, one’s body (I haven’t eaten for five days), and at the top there is hysterical happiness, self-love, almost delusions of grandeur . At such peaks, everything around was joyful and fast, it seemed to me that I would move mountains, I was better than everyone, that I was so incredible that simply no one could understand me, because to understand me, you need to be as incredible as me, and such people no more, well, etc. Then, at 16, I was somehow able to overcome this, and my state became calm, no mood swings, I sensibly assess my strength, my body, my relationships with my family and others. This is just disgusting. It looks like a sore throat, like a dead child, like scary huge eyes, I don’t know how to describe it all, it comes about once every 3 days. I eat normally, I breathe fresh air often, well, if that’s suddenly important. Thanks for the answer.
Question author: Anna Age: 19
Acceptable for some, not acceptable for others
Common expressions are suitable here: “There is no arguing about tastes” or “There are no comrades according to taste.” What causes negativity in someone is quite acceptable for another category of people. Often this concerns food or smells. For example, a Chinese dish of monkey brains will lead a resident of central Russia into indescribable horror and disgust.
The same feeling is evoked by the mention that the Koreans eat dogs, the French eat frogs, and the meat of rats is popular in Vietnam, but not the ones that run around city garbage dumps, but those that live in the fields and eat grain crops and snails. But no arguments will help our man not to feel disgusted by such culinary preferences.
Treating a patient without his knowledge
An alcoholic often does not accept the problems he has, so relatives and close people try to heal without the knowledge of the drinker. This can be done forcibly by admitting the patient to a drug treatment clinic. Or add medicine to an alcoholic’s drinks or food. For this purpose, colorless, odorless and tasteless drugs are chosen so that the drinker does not notice anything. Without the knowledge of the patient, such drugs as Barrier, Colmi, Blocker, Disulfiram are often used.
If a person is being treated secretly, then care must be taken so that he does not find out that medicine is being added to his food and alcohol. Otherwise, the patient will start drinking again, but in a different place. It is difficult to treat an alcohol addict without his knowledge with pills. They should generally be taken with food in crushed form. It is more convenient to use the drugs in the form of drops, mixing them with alcohol or food.
Treatment without the knowledge of the patient is necessary only if the person does not recognize the disease he has and does not want to get rid of it. Then the relatives of the alcoholic take full responsibility. Doctors say that this should not be done, because... the entire success of treatment depends on the wishes of the patient himself. If a drinker believes that he does not have problems with drinking strong drinks, then it will not be possible to cure him of alcohol addiction.
With the help of drugs and medicinal herbs, you can make the drinker sick of alcohol. But this is not enough for a complete recovery from alcoholism. Many people eventually return with a bottle. To prevent this from happening again, you need to change your lifestyle. Try to have a heart-to-heart talk with the drinker and find the reasons for alcohol addiction. Prevent him from communicating with former drinking buddies. Support him in everything, provide him with work or important daily errands around the house. Otherwise, aversion to alcohol will only give temporary results.
Unpleasant odors
The same can be said about smells. Especially in the case of children. Some foods and smells disgust them for various reasons. Goat milk is very beneficial for a growing body. But children often refuse to drink it and eat cheese from it because of the unpleasant smell. Kids may not like some fruits and vegetables, mushrooms, meat, and dairy products. If a child is forced to consume these products because of their usefulness, then this will cause nothing but disgust in the child. Sometimes the rejection is so strong that the child experiences nausea and even vomiting. Over time, or rather as you grow older, preferences may change - with age, disgust and rejection of these products will disappear.
Moral aspect
With the help of an emotion such as disgust, a person determines for himself the boundaries of what is prohibited. What is contrary to human nature causes this feeling - this is, of course, taboo. This list may include the following:
- murder;
- violence;
- theft;
- indecent unleashed behavior;
- swearing
All those who disturb public peace, threaten the normal way of life, suffer from perverted addictions, cause in most people not just hostility, anger or contempt, these feelings develop into disgust.
American scientists conducted a study, which revealed interesting facts. Some words can cause disgust. For example, those that are associated with the physiological processes of the human body indicate actions or results. It has also been found that women are more likely to experience this feeling. The younger and more educated the respondents were, the stronger their negative emotions were.
And yet disgust for the person
No matter what psychologists say, people are disgusted with their own kind. And this happens for various reasons. Various forums are full of messages like: “I am disgusted with my sister, wife, (brother, husband, matchmaker, parents, etc.)….” The following are the reasons why this happens. Self-analysis is human nature. Loathing for one’s own kind is a negative and wrong emotion, so to speak. Therefore, people are trying to find the true roots of this attitude towards others.
The main character of the popular TV series “Lie to Me,” Dr. Cal Lightman, explains to the audience in the next episode: “If you see disgust on your wife’s face, consider that your marriage is over.” And it's hard to argue with that. Such relationships between a man and a woman do not have a solid foundation built on love, mutual understanding and respect. It happens that disgust towards a partner provokes fear. A person is afraid of being beaten, insulted in public, cursed. Gradually, this fear develops into disgust, reluctance to be near a person, the need to distance oneself from him. It's good if such a marriage ends in divorce. It is worse if the current situation finds a more aggressive solution.
What is Disgust?
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Disgust is a negative human feeling and the ability to experience sharp hostility or antipathy, combined with disgust and satiety
Why do you need to know what Disgust is?
The feeling of Disgust is a very difficult feeling.
Disgust is an extremely dangerous feeling and a consequence of unlimitedness, immoderation, gluttony, rejection and unjustified expectations. You ask why dangerous? The esoteric explanation of the danger of this feeling is as follows: It’s all about the characteristics of our Soul.
Unlike conscience, the Soul is subject to the evil influence of feelings, reason and false Egoism. This means that to satisfy the Soul, increasingly strong Emotions are needed. Extinguished feelings for his wife lead to his mistress. Maybe this way you will find a new taste of happiness, the person thinks? But this is still a very long way from death due to Disgust! A flash in the brain and an insatiable feeling of Voluptuousness leads a person to sexual Debauchery.
Fed up with ordinary sex, he rushes into all serious things, such as sadism, masochism, swinging. When these pleasures become boring, a person is drawn to even more sophisticated pleasures, and there is no limit to this. Ultimately, the last refuge of voluptuousness becomes a crime against Man - murder. Either suicide or murder of another.
Knowing all his disgustingness and baseness, a person is forced to lead an unconscious lifestyle or find salvation in Cynicism and Misanthropy, Aggression. He begins to think with disgust about people, about life, about himself. He Hates Everyone and Everything! He believes that the outside world treats him with Disgusting Hostility and Antipathy. He experiences Self-Loathing and Fear of Death and this real Fear of Death ends in Suicide.
How the feeling of Disgust manifests itself and the formula
When does Disgust occur? It turns out that if you do a deep analysis, then Disgust is an acquired feeling that arises according to a certain formula. This formula involves the following human Feelings - Hunger, Expectation, Satisfaction, Satiety, Habituation, Satiety, Disgust, Disrespect.
The sequence of these feelings described here is the formula for Disgust.
Emotional Hunger > Anticipation > Satisfaction > Satiety > Habituation > Satiety > Disgust > Disrespect Disgust is actually poisoning with these feelings, monstrous fatigue and foggy Consciousness. Disgust is a complete incapacity for its opposite feeling of Temperance.
Needless to say, our whole life is constantly aimed at obtaining pleasures and pleasures. However, when feelings have passed the stage of hunger, satiety and satiety, they often fall into the stage of disgust. A person doesn’t want anything, everything makes him sick, everything is unpleasant and disgusting. A large and interesting section - Human Feelings - is still awaiting my description of these wonderful states of Man. Positive Feelings radiate positive energy and a state of Happiness. Therefore, the importance of feelings and emotions cannot be underestimated.
So, let's continue about the feeling of Disgust.
Disgust cannot be understood as a highly specialized feeling - let’s say for food, this is a broader concept. There is disgust towards anyone, both an animate, living creature and an inanimate one. Disgust occurs towards an entire society, society, state, system, world, towards oneself. The purpose of this article is to give the concept and idea of the feeling of Disgust, to try to give the basic idea and coloring of negativity or positivity. If we describe in detail and deeply about the feeling of Disgust, then with examples and vivid manifestations it will take several pages and this is the topic of an entire book.
Prevent the feeling of Disgust in your married life
In married life, the feeling of Disgust is an extreme trait. In order to prevent a feeling of Disgust in family relationships, spouses must have great Wisdom or at least experience in how to maintain hunger in their relationships, how to properly build a system of restrictions in relationships, how to prevent addiction, not to get bogged down in routine and everyday life, how to maintain Romance in family relationships.
As you understand, family relationships are not just conversations, they are a whole range of both feelings and emotions. This is a deep energy exchange at the subconscious level. When at least one of the spouses is fed up, the family is under threat - at any moment, satiety can develop into deep Disgust.
An ideal marriage presupposes the ability to keep a small distance in Feelings and relationships. This is Wisdom when it is necessary to prevent coldness and aloofness, and at the same time, not to allow addiction and satiety into the relationship, which threatens to develop into Disgust.
Spouses do not notice each other's shortcomings when they are bored and sensually Hungry. When saturation sets in, the gaze first falls on the roughness of the skin, spots on the nose, folds of the abdomen and, in increasing order, disgust. Satiation occurs when the shortcomings of your loved one become clear and contrasting.
An increase in the feeling of Disgust occurs not only due to external signs or behavior. The spouses experience a strong antipathy towards each other, a hostility filled with disgust and disgust as a result of different points of view. For example, attitude towards some events or objects. The husband loves perfect cleanliness, the wife has a different point of view and allows significant contamination of both the dishes in the sink and a thick layer of dust on the shelves.
The Husband’s hostility occurs, developing into insults, coldness, aloofness, and disgust. When people do not know how to keep their distance in family communication and allow reproaches and swearing to invade their personal space and turn to personal insults, a feeling of disrespect arises.
Negative influence of Disgust on the state of Happiness
Hypertrophied and insatiable feelings of Pleasure completely distort the emotional coloring of the state of Happiness. When the taste of happiness is wrong, directed in the other direction from morality, aimed at something vicious, satiety and disgust appear. The feeling of Saturation completely contradicts the bright state of Human Happiness.
Physiology of Disgust
From a physiological point of view, Disgust is actual poisoning and the inability to process excess hormonal levels released by the pituitary gland. Adrenaline and Dopamine are considered hormones of pleasure and, in fact, narcotic substances that are generated by the human body itself.
As you understand, the requirement for a higher level of hormonal levels of pleasure leads to a refusal to process excesses from the human adrenal glands and liver, or to a complete refusal to generate new portions of hormones by the pituitary gland. At the same time, at the level of the body’s protective functions, a feeling of Aversion to pleasure is developed.
Reasons for disgust towards a person
Sometimes a person’s rejection arises on a subconscious level. The reason may be:
- unpleasant odor coming from the body or from the mouth during close conversation;
- unkempt, dirty or torn clothing;
- a person's behavior or manner of speaking.
It sometimes happens that some physical disabilities or injuries can cause negative emotions. Some people are disgusted by citizens of a different skin color.
Emotion as a way to combat bad habits
Modern society suffers from many addictions - smoking, alcohol, drugs, gambling. These same misfortunes include gluttony and cravings for sweets, leading to health problems. Therefore, people who want to get rid of a habit are sometimes interested in how to create an aversion to something. Such methods are based on the body’s rejection of harmful substances. Severe intoxication after drinking alcohol will make you forget about your harmful addiction for a long time, and sometimes forever.
Methods for getting rid of smoking or alcoholism include instilling disgust for the item of consumption. In order to enhance the effect, specialists sometimes resort to medications. For example, in the treatment of alcoholism. You can instill an aversion to smoking using hypnosis. Having a strong will and a desire to get rid of a bad habit, a person is able to instill in himself a dislike for something.
