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How to change your life?
Another guide to action to improve your life and put in order not only your thoughts, but also your things. As we know, everything is connected: if you hang your head and slouch, you will immediately feel insecure. But as soon as you, even in a bad mood, raise your head, straighten your shoulders and smile, everything around you changes and you are already the king of the ball. “100 days of summer” will no longer work, so let’s add a small piece of the velvet season there for good measure
In order to change your life (and in any direction), you need very little - just start taking action. But this “simple” is not always that simple. Sometimes we know what to do, but these actions seem scary to us. And sometimes we have neither a clear plan nor an understanding of how to make this plan. Perhaps these 60 small steps will help you finally start doing at least something. And even if after 20 steps you realize that this is not your plan, you will be ready to make your own plan. Your eyes are afraid, but your hands are doing well?
House
1. Create your own “Calendar for clearing the House of unnecessary things”, distributing the cleaning of various areas of the home over the days.
Day 1: We sort through magazines.
Day 2: We disassemble the DVD.
Day 3. We sort out the books.
2. Live by the mantra: “There is a place for everything and put everything in its place.” Try to follow the following 4 rules for all 10 days:
1. If you take something, put it back later.
2. If you open something, close it.
3. If you drop something, pick it up.
4. If you take something down, hang it back.
3. Walk through your home and find 100 things that need fixing or a little touching up. For example, change a light bulb, seal a hole in the wallpaper, screw in a new socket, etc.
Happiness
4. Finally, follow the advice that psychologists from all countries and completely different views repeat - write on a piece of paper from 5 to 10 things for which you are grateful in your life every day.
5. Create a list of 20 small things you enjoy doing and make sure you do at least one of those things a day for the next 100 days. For example, eat your lunch on a bench in the park, walk in the park with the dog in the evening, 1 hour of watercolor painting, etc.
6. Keep a diary of your mental chatter—that is, write down your thoughts and feelings that arise throughout the day. For example, how many times a day have you accused yourself of something, how critical are you of others, how many times a day have positive thoughts come to your mind, etc.
7. For the next 100 days, try to have a good laugh at least once a day.
Let's fill life with pleasant moments and interests
A life filled with pleasant and exciting activities will be perceived better than a boring life full of routine activities. Therefore, you must definitely set aside time for what makes you happy (but does not destroy you). There are many simple joys in the world: music, books, handicrafts, cooking, DIY crafts. Even renovations can be fun if you approach them with a positive outlook and a creative mindset. You need to learn to find pleasure in the little things, in everyday life.
Study or self-development
8. Choose a difficult book that you still haven’t decided to read, but wanted to. Read it in 100 days from cover to cover.
9. Learn something new every day. For example, the name of a flower, the capital of a distant country, the name of your favorite dog breed, etc. And in the evening you can go over in your head all the new things you learned over the past day, take out a dictionary and learn a new word.
10. Stop complaining for the next 100 days. Negative thoughts lead to negative results. Every time you feel like complaining, try to stop yourself.
11. Set your alarm a minute earlier every day for 100 days. Try to get up immediately after the alarm clock rings, open the windows, and do some light exercise. After 100 days, you will wake up 1.5 hours earlier without much effort.
12. For the next 100 days, keep “Morning Pages” - a simple stream of consciousness in the morning, which you will write down in a special notebook. This should be the first thing you do after you wake up.
13. Over the next 100 days, try to focus your attention on the thoughts, words and images of who you want to become and what you want to achieve.
Effective ways to improve your life
Since all people have different values, it is necessary to improve life by defining an important goal. This goal is different for everyone. Therefore, everyone must clarify for himself how he wants to live, who he sees himself in, in what environment, and so on. Don't put off having a happy life, start it right now. How to improve your life? Elgreloo.com advises to follow this scheme:
- Find out what doesn't suit you;
- Analyze your habits;
- Learn to manage your time;
- Set a goal - slowly but surely change everything you are unhappy with;
- Do something healthy for yourself every day;
- Be kind to others;
- Add a hobby to your life if you didn’t have one before;
- Believe in yourself and smile.
Only a clear understanding of what went wrong in life will allow you to change the situation. Perhaps your girlfriend left you. She did this for the reason that you promised to quit smoking and did not keep your promise. Think about what is more important to you – a relationship or a bad habit. If you feel incomplete without a girl, not a single cigarette will save you. Choose a priority - a girl and go towards this goal. Nothing leads to greater unhappiness than idleness.
Learn to manage your time and plan things. You may want to change everything at once, but this is unrealistic. And therefore, very often those who wish for quick, significant success do not achieve even little. Such a person is not able to determine specific steps and the time of their completion, so he does nothing.
Finance
14. Create a budget. Write down every penny you spend in 100 days.
15. Look for good financial advice on the Internet and choose 10 of them. Try to follow them for the next 100 days. For example, going to the store with a limited amount of cash and without a credit card, doing several things in one trip to save on gas, etc.
16. Pay in stores only with paper money and put the remaining change after shopping in your piggy bank. After 100 days, calculate how much you can save.
17. For 100 days, do not buy anything that you do not really need (this means fairly large purchases). Use this money to pay off a loan (if you have one) or put it in a deposit account for six months.
18. For 100 days, dedicate at least 1 hour a day to finding or creating a source of additional income.
Time management
19. For the next 100 days, carry a notebook with you everywhere. Write down all the ideas and thoughts that come to your mind, make your to-do list, add new appointments literally on the go right after your calls.
20. Monitor how you use your time for 5 days. Use the information you've gathered to create your "time budget": the percentage of your total time spent on the things you do each day. For example, house cleaning, time to travel to work, rest, etc. Make sure you stay within your budget for the next 95 days.
21. Identify a low-priority task that you can’t do for 100 days, and replace it with something that’s really important.
22. Identify 5 ways your time is wasted and limit that time for the next 100 days. For example, do not watch TV for more than 1.5 hours, do not spend more than 1.5 hours a day on social networks, etc.
23. For the next 100 days, stop multitasking and do only one important thing a day.
24. For the next 100 days, plan your day in the evening.
25. For the next 100 days, do the most important things on your to-do list first, and then everything else.
26. Over the next 14 weeks, review each week. During your weekly survey, answer the following questions:
What have you achieved?
What went wrong?
What did you do right?
27. For the next 100 days, at the end of each day, tidy up your desk and sort out your papers and office supplies. So that every morning you will have order on your desktop.
28. Make a list of all the promises and commitments you've made over the next 100 days, then take a red pen and cross off everything that won't bring you joy or move you closer to your goals.
29. Over the next 100 days, before you switch from one task to another during the day, ask yourself whether this is the best use of your time and resources.
How to change your life for the better
Where do thoughts about life changes come from?
Everyone wants to be happy, but in order to make the dream come true, sitting and waiting in one place is not enough. Therefore we have to act.
At first thoughts come that say that that’s enough, this is no longer possible! And they, in turn, materialize into actions. This, of course, with a responsible approach to your own life. After all, without doing anything to change the situation, you can bring yourself to a moral emptiness (which is very undesirable, since it is difficult to get out of there). In this regard, whenever the mind and soul are prompted to action, one should immediately begin making the first attempts to change one’s life.
Health
30. Losing about a pound of weight requires burning 3,500 calories. If you reduce your calorie intake by 175 each day, you will lose approximately 2.5 kg after 100 days.
31. For the next 100 days, eat vegetables 5 times a day.
32. For the next 100 days, eat fruit 3 times a day.
33. Pick one food that consistently disrupts your attempts to eat healthy—whether it's cheesecake from the local bakery, pizza, or your favorite potato chips—and stop eating it for the next 100 days.
34. Over the next 100 days, eat from smaller plates to control the amount of food you eat.
35. For the next 100 days, consume 100% juice instead of high-sugar substitutes.
36. For the next 100 days, drink only water instead of soda.
37. Make a list of 10 easy and healthy breakfasts.
38. Make a list of 20 easy and healthy dishes that you can eat for lunch and dinner.
39. Make a list of 10 easy and healthy snacks.
40. Use your healthy meal lists to plan your meals for the week ahead. Eat this way for the next 14 weeks.
41. For the next 100 days, keep a food journal to see if you are deviating from your menu plan.
42. For the next 100 days, spend at least 20 minutes exercising every day.
43. For the next 100 days, always carry a pedometer with you and try to walk 10,000 steps a day.
44. Set up your scale and hang a chart with your bathroom. At the end of each of the 14 weeks, weigh yourself and record data on weight loss (gain), changes in waist size, etc.
45. For the next 100 days, set a reminder on your watch or computer to repeat every hour to drink water.
46. For the next 100 days, meditate, breathe, visualize—make it your daily ritual to calm your mind.
Relationship
47. For the next 100 days, find something positive about your partner every day and write it down.
48. Over the next 100 days, keep an album of your joint activities and start scrapbooking. At the end of your experiment, give your partner the resulting album and a list of all the positive things you observed during those 100 days.
49. Determine 3 actions that you will take every day for the next 100 days to strengthen your relationship. It could be saying “I love you” or a hug every morning.
Social life
50. Chat with someone new every day for the next 100 days. This could be your neighbor with whom you have never communicated before, your comment on a blog where you have never written anything before, a new acquaintance on social networks, etc.
51. Over the next 100 days, focus on connecting with people you admire and respect.
52. Over the next 100 days, if someone has hurt or upset you, think for a minute before you respond.
53. For the next 100 days, don't even think about making a final verdict until you've heard both sides.
54. For the next 100 days, try to do at least one good deed a day, no matter how small.
55. For the next 100 days, praise everyone who deserves it.
56. For the next 100 days, practice active listening. When the interlocutor speaks, listen to him, and do not rehearse your answer in your head, ask again to make sure that you heard everything correctly, etc.
57. Practice compassion for the next 100 days. Before you judge someone, try to look at the matter from their point of view. Be curious, find out more about the other person (his interests, beliefs, etc.)
58. For the next 100 days, live your life and don't compare yourself to anyone.
59. Over the next 100 days, look for good intentions in the actions of others.
60. Over the next 100 days, constantly remind yourself that everyone is doing the best they can.
What to do if you give up
It often happens that a person works hard on himself, constantly improves himself, but he is still overtaken by failures. Due to intimate, work or family problems, it is simply not possible to change your life for the better. What advice do psychologists give in this situation?
- Try to shift the focus of your activities to a new but similar goal.
- Constantly convince yourself mentally that crises and obstacles in life are quite normal.
- Try to maintain an optimistic attitude despite the problems that have befallen you.
- Chat with a person who went through a similar path, but managed to cope with troubles.
- Understand the true causes of the crisis.
- Awaken positive anger within yourself, which will help you overcome the obstacle faster.
Many people, faced with significant obstacles, prefer to retreat and try to realize themselves in a completely new area. However, this position is a priori losing. By retreating every time, a person shows his weakness. He can slightly adjust the goal, but completely abandoning what he wants is not recommended.
A very important psychological technique is the awakening of anger, but not towards oneself, but aimed at that very obstacle. A person must sincerely hate this barrier and dream of overcoming it once and for all. Only then will it be possible to achieve results.
If you cannot solve all the problems that have arisen on your own, you can turn to your loved ones or a knowledgeable person for support. Sometimes it is very important for someone to say words of encouragement and tell their life story. Often people who grew up in poor families or orphanages eventually achieved incredible results in their life. And, believe me, they had to face considerable obstacles. However, the desire to move forward, not to stop in the face of problems and dangers, ultimately brought them to the desired level of development.
It is also very important to remember that changing your life for the better is a complex and lengthy process. You won't be able to achieve results in five minutes. Sometimes a person has to work on a result for several years in order to then enjoy the fruits of his own diligence.
Rita, Rostov
