Boredom is one of the reasons that prevents us from enjoying life! This article will not talk about any cures for boredom, ways to entertain yourself and keep yourself busy. I'm going to talk about how to make sure that you don't feel bored at all.
I’ll tell you why boredom is one of the most dangerous and harmful psychological states for a person and will lead you to the need to get rid of it. And you will also understand why this condition negatively affects our ability to enjoy life.
Why is boredom dangerous for a person?
As it turned out, doctors are very worried if they hear from their patient that he is bored all the time. They argue that it is much more dangerous than sexual desires and inadequate ambitions. Boredom is one of the most important problems of humanity, haunting people since the beginning of centuries. It is she who is the provocateur of various ways to dispel life, and often they end in tears.
In order not to experience discomfort due to the lack of interesting, exciting activities, people manage to find themselves in situations from which a lot of troubles can happen. Some people are ready to do anything to eliminate the symptoms of boredom, even engage in activities that do not interest them at all. Just to experience at least some sensations.
That is, people are addicted to activity. Activity is like a drug, necessary in moments when you want to wake up, shake yourself and do at least something. And if a person experiences pathological boredom and despondency associated with the state of his body, then not a single hobby can change the state of affairs. Entertainment and passion can brighten up the existence of a bored person for a short time. As soon as the holiday ends, boredom immediately makes itself felt.
Any person needs renewed emotions, pleasant, fresh impressions, and entertainment. We all need a release from home routine and monotony. If this is not the case, then the individual’s development begins to slow down.
What problems does boredom cause?
Is it true that the feeling of boredom we are studying can be the culprit of problems in a person’s life? Yes, doctors answer in the affirmative. What are they?
- Frequent nervousness, tension.
- The desire to suppress boredom with the help of alcohol, cigarettes, and drugs. It is because of this that many refuse to quit smoking and drinking. And if you manage to free yourself from bad habits for a short period of time, then over time they return.
- Avoiding boredom by visiting nightclubs and frequently changing sexual partners.
- Inability to enjoy the same state of affairs for a long time, for example, the same vacation, meetings, trips.
- Lack of ability to focus on important things.
- Loss of ability to relax.
- Presence of chronic fatigue.
- Inappropriate craving for various types of purchases of completely unnecessary things, shopaholism.
- There are a lot of tasks in my head, confusion, but I don’t want to do any of them.
- Melancholy, lack of active existence, apathy.
- Saturation with life.
As a result of a set of moments created from a boring life, a person loses the ability to make the right choice, make the right decisions. He loses chances and opportunities, and sees only false goals in front of him, does not feel happy and cannot fully enjoy life.
Well, how do you like this arrangement? Impressive? Believe me, all this was not taken from the air. In order to understand what threatens each of us with boredom, scientists conducted large-scale studies. They realized that most stupid, ridiculous and even dangerous ideas come into a person’s head precisely at moments when he becomes bored. Of course, having learned about this, few of us want to become someone who is capable of doing wrong things because of it. What is needed for this? That's right, get rid of this terrible boredom provocateur. Is this possible?
Boredom, apathy, laziness - you can cope with it
Boredom, apathy, laziness and a feeling of loneliness are only symptoms, which can be corrected by changing your lifestyle, understanding yourself and starting to act.
If you feel that boredom, apathy, fog or similar conditions are becoming permanent, the first thing you should do is take a rest - just lie down with your eyes closed and think about what you would like to do for a living. The images in your head will tell you what type of activity will make you feel happy while doing work.
This means that you will receive both happiness and money from this activity, without resorting to the work that destroys you. But in order to bring such images to life, it will take a lot of effort, time and perseverance. This will become a goal, and a person who has a goal is not in danger of laziness, boredom, or apathy (about goals). You also need faith in yourself (about faith in yourself).
Is it possible to eliminate boredom forever?
Most of us mistakenly believe that the phenomenon we are studying is boredom, it is a natural, everyday thing. Without it, human existence is simply impossible. From time to time she is ready to overtake anyone, even the funniest clown in the world. And of course, we think that it is impossible to get rid of it under any circumstances, except to dispel it for a while.
And so every time, I got bored - I was distracted by something, time passed and I got bored again. But doctors say the exact opposite: boredom is a personality flaw. And if you work on your qualities, you can eliminate this unpleasant phenomenon once and for all.
Are none of our readers familiar with people who manage their time and emotions well? They are never bored, but always find something to do to their liking. Even at rest they are never bored. They listen to their favorite music, eat their favorite food and feel very comfortable at the same time. They do not look for simple, primitive ways to have fun - they do not drink alcohol, do not smoke, and especially do not use drugs. They do not need company to feel happy, to feel pleasure. They just know how to be alone with themselves and do not feel discomfort.
Loneliness. How to get rid of loneliness?
The easiest way to get rid of loneliness is that all you need to do is visit a place and communicate with different people. You may have to overcome your embarrassment and meet society halfway, but this is hardly more unpleasant than constantly being alone.
In the fight against loneliness, a person will be helped by developing his own charisma and getting rid of harmful and bad habits that could repel other people. But the most important tool for getting rid of loneliness is being in society.
If people are scary, just being in a crowded place is enough to get used to people. By observing people and hearing their conversations, you can learn to treat them more calmly, after which it will be easier to start communicating with them in any society.
How to get rid of loneliness? Start visiting society, be it sections, clubs, training sessions and communicate with people there. If it seems to you that signing up somewhere is embarrassing or unpleasant, then remember that all these sections exist precisely so that people can come there and study there.
The ability to spend time alone is a special talent
Since childhood, we have been afraid of the word “loneliness.” This is understandable, we are told that, being completely alone, a person is a defenseless creature who can be attacked by anyone. Nobody is saying that this is a wrong position. It’s just that as we get older, we begin to confuse loneliness with the desire to be alone with ourselves.
Everyone needs a break from socializing, especially if there is a lot of it. And what is boredom in this context - a way to minimize the amount of time we spend alone. Wait, why is this necessary? What's wrong with enjoying peace and quiet? Maybe stop thinking like you did in childhood and follow the stupid advice of strangers that you need to run away from loneliness.
Believe me, being in a single position, a person has time to think, think through his life, reassess his capabilities and find the very meaning of life. It was while alone with themselves that geniuses made their greatest discoveries, wrote books, poems, paintings, etc. It is impossible to become the author of an important decision, to understand what you are striving for, if you are constantly being interfered with, interference is created.
Doctors say that a person cannot concentrate and follow the desired course in life if he does not have the opportunity to think in silence. Do you know how the will of a person is subjugated in the army? It's simple - a soldier must be constantly busy with something - running, cleaning, sewing collars, peeling potatoes, learning the rules, etc. Whatever he wants, this is the only way he doesn’t have the opportunity to think again, to plunge into thoughts. This means that he is completely subordinate to the commander.
In totalitarian states, people are constantly in the information field. They are always shown and demonstrated something. And if he wants to calm down and relax, then they turn on the radio, and of course, with patriotic programs. And when the moment of solitude comes, he feels terrible discomfort. He immediately wants to fill the void with something, because he is not just bored, but even scared. Well, now you understand that the boredom we are studying is not a natural, but a developed phenomenon, a human quality.
Expand your powers
The next, completely logical step that anyone who wants to overcome boredom can take. If you have already demonstrated your new capabilities, talk to your boss about expanding your scope of authority. If you are a shift supervisor, have the additional responsibility of checking the level of readiness to start work, compliance with the dress code, or something like that.
Of course, there is a risk of making ill-wishers who will think that you are currying favor with your superiors. But it will relieve boredom. Relationships with colleagues are not a boring activity, it is a whole science, and sometimes a battle for survival. But, of course, it’s not worth taking it to extremes, at least if both this organization and this team are dear to you.
For whom boredom is motivation?
Yes, in order to escape from it, we start doing something. Therefore, most argue that it is a motivation for more active activity. But that's not true! If you don’t believe me, then let’s draw an analogy with drug addicts.
Imagine a person who lived a normal life and made ends meet. But at one point, he was hooked on drugs. From now on, his need to get the next dose becomes more important than air. That is, he needs to look for a more profitable position so that he can buy drugs. Moreover, you need to work even harder, with responsibility, otherwise you will be kicked out without a second thought.
Do we really need to be grateful for the existence of drugs, since they motivate people to look for better jobs and work harder at them? No! It’s just that the drug addict’s life before that was quite satisfactory, either because of laziness, or because of unpretentiousness and low ambitions.
Boredom, apathy, laziness, loneliness and despondency.
Boredom, apathy, laziness, loneliness, despondency are conditions characterized by both a sad and inert mood and a lack of motivation to do anything. These conditions are felt by the following symptoms:
- inertia
- unwillingness to do something
- fatigue
- depression
- lack of motivation and energy
- yearning
- lack of purpose
- anxiety
- bad dream
- doubts
In order to properly eliminate such conditions, it is very important to understand the symptoms of what they are. All of these conditions have sources that cause such unpleasant symptoms. The symptoms themselves are quite difficult to deal with, since they themselves instill in a person a state in which the person has no desire to do something specific or commit any act. In other words, a person feels as if he is in a swamp from which it is difficult to get out.
Quite often, the source of these states is the lack of purpose in life and understanding of one’s place in it, and therefore a very important point in the fight against such depressive states is to think carefully and honestly answer many questions that have been postponed until this moment. It does not require the person to take any action, and although, for some, thinking about life can be unpleasant, it is a necessary remedy for healing such symptoms.
Such conditions are very difficult to deal with directly, since they are symptoms, just like in cases of disease. For example, cough is a symptom of illness. Treating the symptom but ignoring the disease is not the wisest outcome. If we do not solve the problems at the root, but simply extinguish the symptoms, then the disease will certainly return to us. Boredom, apathy, laziness, despondency or loneliness are not exactly a disease, and therefore it would be too rude to call a person in such states sick, but this is definitely a problem both in relation to life and in interaction with the outside world and society, which must be solved necessary comprehensively and competently.
You should start by analyzing your current situation and answering the questions: “ What is most important to me in life?” ", " Who am I? “, “ What do I want? ", " that I love? “, “ Why do I waste so much time? “. For this case, these are not abstract fundamental questions of philosophy, but applied reflections that will help understand the human situation. The answers to these questions should make it clear that a person is not living the way he would like. We are not talking about insane wealth and the fulfillment of all desires; rather, we are talking about an active lifestyle in which a person experiences a sense of realization of his talents, which bring him not only moral satisfaction, but also material comfort.
How to stop being bored
So, we talked for a long time about how boredom is a dangerous thing in our lives. Therefore, we pull ourselves together and carefully study how to get rid of it.
The most important thing is to learn to enjoy the moments when you are alone with yourself. There is no need to fear anything right away. It will be a little uncomfortable at first, but you will get used to it over time. Think about your life, remember pleasant moments from the past, plan for the future. Now no one can stop you from setting goals and dreaming of happiness.
If you have problems, think about how to get out of them, how to improve your financial situation. Is this really possible if you are always surrounded by loved ones and friends and you are not even allowed to think calmly? Of course not!
Boredom can also be caused by inner emptiness. If a person is not passionate, has no interests, joys, desires. Such people go with the flow. And they do nothing in their lives, they completely lack ambitious plans.
Peace and quiet are in short supply these days. Residents of large cities can only dream of escaping away from the hustle and bustle. So take advantage of the moment. It would be great if you went out of town, to the sea. There you will receive colossal energy from the fresh air, peace and quiet, disturbed by the evening breeze of the cold waves. You don’t need to think about anything, look at the blue sky, at the blue crashing waves, let your brain “rest.”
How to relieve boredom
Now let's move on to the simplest ways to escape from a boring pastime. They are available to everyone without exception. In addition, they are completely harmless, but rather useful and will bring a lot of pleasure.
Sign up for a dance course. How often do we realize after work that we would like to spend time with interesting and cheerful people. Dancing is what you need! At the same time, you can improve your figure, get rid of excess weight and improve your mood.
A great way to get rid of boredom and do something useful is to start cleaning your apartment or house. Surely you have places where you haven’t touched a dust cloth for a long time. Organize your closets, remove books from shelves, and remove dust that carries allergy mites. Look at the condition of your flowers. After all, how nice it is when, after a few movements with your hands, your home takes on a clean and beautiful look. According to psychologists, when you put things in order in the house, this directly affects the person’s condition. If there is a mess in it, then there is confusion in the head.
Start cooking. Maybe you have taken on kitchen responsibilities before, but now start creating something new, original, extraordinary. Open cooking websites and you will understand that there really are no limits to human imagination. Look at what masterpiece creations are presented on video channels, such as YouTube. And each dish always comes with a full explanation, recipe, and cooking instructions.
Make new acquaintances. This is the best way not only to dispel boredom, but also to gain new impressions and sensations. There are no completely identical people on Earth, so look for new connections from which you will expand your knowledge.
Bored men are generally nonsense. After all, there is always something to nail, glue, or fix in the house. Therefore, do something useful. Put things in order everywhere so that cabinets and shelves don’t fall on your family’s heads.
Go out of town to pick mushrooms. A quiet hunt brings peace, and the smells of trees will bring tremendous pleasure, refresh your thoughts, and calm your nervous system. If you don’t know how to pick mushrooms, don’t understand them, don’t take risks. It’s better to fill a basket with acorns, cones, chestnuts and other natural home decor items and create beautiful crafts. How to make them - look on the Internet.
Take up some hobby. Open the pages of the World Wide Web and be amazed at the diversity that will simply make your head spin. What wonderful things you can create with your own hands using available materials. Moreover, having a pleasant time with a hobby will also allow you to earn good money, which will not hinder the family budget.
Keep up the correspondence. The epistolary genre is a thing of the past, and this is a great pity. Well, let's catch up with modern methods, especially since there are a million possibilities for this. Go to social networks, find friends with similar interests, they group there, and correspond with them. Believe me, it’s very exciting to tell a complete stranger about your hobby, life, and joys.
Ride your bike. Rent a very healthy vehicle and drive around the places provided for this. At the same time, you will not only enjoy the speed, but also strengthen your health, muscles, and gain colossal energy.
Go to a meeting with friends, visit a disco. No need to drink alcohol, just relax and dance, listen to music and share your news with your friends.
If you're bored, call your old friends. There are probably a lot of numbers in your phone book that you haven’t dialed for a long time. I wonder how their lives turned out, maybe there are some big news or events.
The easiest way to relieve boredom is to watch TV. Everything here is optional, if you want to watch the series, please, there are special channels. If you want to watch the life of amazing animals, there are a lot of channels through which you can plunge into the world of the Jungle, tropical forests, deserts, etc.
Take up board games. For those who have a more active approach, we suggest learning to play table tennis, chess, and possibly checkers. By the way, if there is a park nearby, take chess, dominoes, backgammon - your choice, and go there. It won't take long before you find a great gaming partner.
You can also get carried away with computer games. But there's a catch. Playgrounds offer their users not only real games for money, but also demo versions of video games. Starting with free entertainment, some switch to money and lose large sums. So be careful!
Start drawing. If you want to develop your artistic talent, sign up for a drawing course. They will help you in a matter of weeks to comprehend the secrets, thanks to which you will be able to reflect whatever you want on canvas. Take a palette and canvas with you and go to the park, to the forest, to the river and paint pictures.
If you have a desire to write your own creations, start. It's time to show the world your talents. Write poems, stories. It's okay if they are a little awkward at first. Believe me, each of the great writers started out the same way. Over time, your abilities will take on a brilliant form, and you will be able to be proud of everything that was created by your thoughts and hands.
Since childhood, you have dreamed of playing musical instruments - please. Moreover, in our time, you don’t even need to waste time going to school and money for lessons. Open online video courses on learning different musical instruments and repeat.
Go to the cinema, it's been a while since you've been there. There is a big difference between a home theater and a stationary one. You can really feel the breath of the actors in the new film. Get real pleasure from eating popcorn, powerful sound and amazing effects.
If there are no four-legged friends in the house, go to the bird market and buy yourself a cat or a dog (if there are no allergies). Together with your pet, it will be easier for you to get up in the morning and walk in the park. Motivation for a more active lifestyle and discipline appears.
Take patronage over a lonely old woman. Most likely, in your house, in your neighboring house, in your neighborhood, there are elderly people who need your help. You don’t need to spend a lot, just buy groceries for them, clean their house, take them for walks, bring them freshly baked cookies or a cake. This way you will find true peace, because mercy gives us colossal energy and peace.
Do charity work. This method is unique in itself, as it provides invaluable assistance to those who need it. Now you will not waste time, and with every step you take towards those who suffer, your spiritual component will develop more and more.
You can provide assistance to animal shelters, carry food, medicine there, or to hospices where sick people are located. There is no need to scold us for putting these two types of assistance on the same level. In both the first and second cases, the matter concerns living beings, and our smaller brothers also need kindness, mercy and human participation, just like people. So, you can spend all your free time in hospices. Assisting staff in caring for patients, reading books to sick children, walking with a patient in the clinic park. This is the best thing a person can do to another.
Fatigue and accumulated stress
Boredom, apathy, laziness and loneliness can come from fatigue and stress. Because stress and fatigue chronically take away a person’s opportunity to recuperate and change their life, it is necessary to combat such things as boredom, laziness, apathy and loneliness, to get rid of fatigue and stress.
Fatigue should be treated with small physical activities, as they will help increase the overall tone of the body. Measured and proper rest is also very important. It consists of a simple break from everything on the bed or sofa. Not only work, but also entertainment puts a lot of stress on a person, since the information that comes in while on social networks or watching a TV series is much more voluminous and varied, which puts a lot of strain on a person’s brain, giving him a constant feeling of fog and fatigue. For a full recovery, a person just needs to lie down once a day for 10-30 minutes and just doze, giving the brain the opportunity to digest everything.
Fatigue can also be reduced by changing the environment, at least for a while. For example, take a walk or go somewhere. If you do everything correctly, fatigue will subside after a while, returning you a lot of strength. But the main thing is, again, not to overload the body with excessive loads, and the brain with unnecessary information.
It is necessary to get rid of stress through sublimation: physical activity, hobbies, and hobbies are also important here. Proper communication often helps, allowing a person to share difficulties. The most difficult option will be to realize what causes stress and change your attitude towards the object of stress in such a way as to reduce or completely remove it. But this requires work on yourself.
Getting rid of boredom - changing ourselves
So, we figured out how to say goodbye to the boring days in our lives once and for all. And only now, when we apply the acquired knowledge in reality, can we understand how rich, interesting and incredibly beautiful our existence is becoming. Now, we wait with pleasure for everyone to go away and leave us alone, alone with our thoughts, desires, and dreams.
It can even go so far that it is in a state of peace that we feel the happiness that nature bestows on every person. No fuss, no one asks a lot of questions, especially stupid ones, no one will need your participation. Just relax and contemplate the joy of being. And if you periodically, following our recommendations, do good to those who need it, then you will feel such a surge of natural strength, happiness and satisfaction that you are about to fly to heaven with pleasure.
