Even the most positive person can feel sad. However, if you notice that melancholy bothers you too often, then this should be alarming. In psychology, this condition is called chronic sadness. It is accompanied by constant sadness and negative emotions. Such people experience sadness even when there are no objective reasons for this. To get rid of this condition, you need to be aware of it. We will tell you about the signs of chronic sadness.
Constant pessimism
People with chronic sadness have a pessimistic outlook on life. They see only negative aspects in any situation and notice only bad character traits in others.
Chronic sadness is accompanied by a concentration of attention even on minor troubles. Such people tend to exaggerate negative aspects. They exaggerate the situation and assume the most unfavorable outcome.
How to treat dysthymia?
First of all, we must keep in mind that dysthymia is a disease that should be monitored throughout life. You can achieve this if you follow these basic recommendations:
1. Antidepressant medications. 2. Attend behavioral and cognitive psychotherapy, with group therapy being very helpful. 3. Get regular medical checkups throughout your life. 4. Establish a good network of social and personal support.
Among medications, you should pay attention to the antipsychotics Sulpiride or Amisulpriide. Details about their dosage and use should be checked with your doctor. self-medication is extremely dangerous and can aggravate the course of the disease. Cognitive psychotherapy has also proven itself very well.
All these procedures should be carried out throughout almost your entire life. At the same time, you will be able to fully adapt, be happy and achieve your goals in all matters.
So, people who have been diagnosed with dysthymia need to be aware of their problem and gain the inner strength to understand what has happened. This is a disease that needs to be monitored and treated and, above all, any sources of stress and anxiety must be promptly eliminated, as they can cause a severe condition of dysthymia.
Remember also that if anyone in your family has had this disorder, you have a high chance of suffering from it too. Take measures, consult your doctor and follow all his recommendations.
In conclusion, we must note that it is important to distinguish Dysthymia from ordinary depression:
Dysthymia usually appears around age 21 or earlier. This is a state of constant sadness that has no specific reasons for this emotion, despondency. It lasts from one and a half to two years. If not treated early, it can progress to more severe depression, which sometimes pushes people to commit suicide.
Lifestyle changes
Chronic sadness is often accompanied by drastic changes in lifestyle. A person begins to wake up late because he has no motivation to wake up and get down to business. He may eat unhealthy foods, especially sweets. Psychologists call this “stress eating.”
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A person experiencing constant sadness is characterized by reduced physical activity. He stops going to the gym, doing morning exercises, and even going for walks. As a result, his body stops producing endorphins, which are otherwise called “hormones of joy,” and this aggravates sadness and melancholy.
I'm sad: what should I do?
- Throw a party at home , invite friends, stock up on delicious drinks, watch a movie with a group according to tradition (with popcorn).
- If the home atmosphere is not satisfactory, a good alternative would be a walk in the fresh air : a trip to the park or a trip to the forest for a picnic.
- Good advice for girls is to devote time to yourself . Go to the salon, get your hair done, massage, makeup. After such leisure, a sad face will turn into a happy one. If finances don't allow it, you can have a spa day at home. Although why only girls? This also applies to men.
- Good music lifts your mood to the maximum level. So let's stock up on the most rainbow playlist and dance all day.
- Shopping is a great way to lift your spirits. A few new things and there will be no trace of sadness left.
- How many means of entertainment can be found now: roller skates, bicycles, skateboards, skates, paintball, dancing. Any choice will be successful, as it will definitely relieve sadness.
- Well, cybersportsmen offer their own option: play computer games. Not very productive, but incredibly fun and exciting.
- Art saves you in any mood. Sadness will be replaced by passion if you get creative. There are many options: from drawing pictures, playing the guitar to creating new recipes.
- If melancholy accompanies you constantly, a change of scenery . What if you change the interior, come up with new decorations or make cosmetic repairs?
- In order not to waste time scrolling through the Internet in search of the best comedies , we provide our list of the best. You can add and edit it as desired. Let this be an SOS list of films that you can watch if you feel sad. Grand Budapest Hotel
- Thor Ragnarok
- Good guys
- Macho and nerd
- Bachelorette Party in Vegas
- Killer Vacations
- Ace Ventura: Pet Detective
- Dumb and Dumber
- Mask
- Alone at home
- Third wheel
- Groundhog Day
If such methods do not help and sad thoughts do not recede one step, this is a signal that you need to approach the problem from a different, more professional angle. A visit to a psychologist will help you identify the source of sadness and figure out what’s wrong.
Frequent arguments with others
Some people are avid debaters. They engage in heated discussions even when they completely agree with the point of view of the interlocutor. This is not necessarily a bad character trait. Quite often, people prone to chronic sadness behave this way.
A person often tries to suppress negative feelings. However, sometimes it can be very difficult to contain sadness, period. During an argument, such people give vent to their negative emotions.
Tearfulness
Chronic sadness is often accompanied by tearfulness. A person is ready to cry at almost any moment. This reaction is also associated with the suppression of negative emotions.
People are often embarrassed to show others their constant sadness. They try their best to restrain negative emotions. But this is only possible up to a certain point. One day, negative feelings get out of control, and a person begins to cry at the slightest reason.
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Focusing on negative emotions
Joyful people focus on happy moments. They are grateful to life for what they have. If they encounter difficulties or troubles, they view it as a negative, but still useful experience.
People with chronic sadness fixate their attention on the negative aspects of their lives. They constantly replay unpleasant experiences in their heads and stop noticing happy events.
Where does sadness come from?
Sometimes, for no apparent reason, a person becomes sad. Everyone is healthy at home, and there are no problems at work. Jasmine is blooming, birds are chirping, and the evening promises a fantastic sunset - but the crown of nature is sad. It’s like he forgot something and can’t remember...
Sadness - where is it?
In the blood of someone who is sad, or, like a microbe, in the air, and everyone breathes it? When a person moves, it is difficult to be sad. It’s much easier to feel sad lying on your back, looking at the sky. Or lying on your stomach and looking at the ants in the grass. If you chop wood, you won’t be sad. You stopped chopping, sat down, wiped the sweat from your forehead - you were sad again.
One person told me that sadness comes from a sense of loss. The kind of loss you forgot about. That is, you yourself don’t know what you’ve lost, but you’re sad and don’t understand why.
Let's say you lost your house keys. Will you be sad and, especially, sing lingering songs? No. A hundred times no. You will swear with the last words, look for those to blame (your wife, for example), you will look at your feet, as if you were a mushroom picker, and there is a forest all around. You will be angry and active. And all because the subject of the loss is known.
But we have lost paradise. Completely and hopelessly lost. That is, in such a way that if you look for it yourself, you don’t even know which way to run. But they search when they know that they have lost. And we forgot about this loss. We forgot with our brains, but we remember with our souls. Our soul is sometimes like a dog. Something inarticulate whines, it makes you sad, but you can’t understand anything. This is where sadness in a person comes from.
I conclude that everyone is sad, although experience tends to refute this conclusion. I keep looking for yesterday and come across slender columns of optimists who feel warm in the world from complete oblivion of their main loss. I thought that they had a secret, that they were so cheerful because they had found the door and the key to the door in their pocket. He talked and asked questions. It turned out that no one knew anything. They don't even understand what I'm asking. Some, the smarter ones, shouted angrily: “Drive him away! He's about to stir up our conscience with stupid questions and turn our souls inside out! And we have football today, the Champions Cup final.”
If we, like in the Middle Ages, had a culture of public debate, I would propose an open debate on the topic of universal human sadness. Universal sadness. “Universal sadness is the engine of progress.” Or “An attempt to forget and have fun as a source of science and art.” It would be interesting.
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Sadness is not melancholy and certainly not despondency. This is not a mortal sin. On the contrary, optimism smells like a mortal sin. In eight cases out of ten, you can suspect that the optimist stole something, or escaped punishment, or came up with some cunning dirty trick. The Luftwaffe anthem breathes optimism, the one where “instead of a heart there is a fiery engine.” On the contrary, all lovers, that is, those who do not want to look down on the world and drop bombs, are sad. Lovers, of course, dance in the rain, jump over fences, spend the night under windows. But they are also sure to be sad.
A girl is sad on a spring evening, feeling empty and useless. The nightingale chirps, the bird cherry and acacia intoxicate the mind with the luxury of smells, and she is sad. She feels that someday she will give birth to a new life. But when, when? And how will it be? And where is the one to whom you can lay your head on your shoulder? And so nature blossoms and has fun, and man, the one for whom nature was created, is sad and languishing.
The young man is sad and languishing. The blood in his veins is like boiling water in radiators. But why is he here? And why is the Moon so close, but you can’t reach it with your hand? The young man also feels that some girl should give birth to a new life. But he doesn’t know which one it is, and he doesn’t yet fully understand what it has to do with it. And nature continues its boorish spring joy. It’s the same as if the king was sad in the palace, and all the servants, all the pages, all the guards and cooks were incredibly happy.
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They used to think that man was great because he was able to make airplanes. Now only a person with a congenital mental defect can repeat such stupidity. A man is great because the whole world is not enough for him. And since it is not enough for him, since man was not created for this world, then he can only console himself with poems and songs. A man is great because he is sad about heaven and sings songs. And now there are unmanned airplanes. They are controlled by computers. But no computer will sing “Spring will not come for me,” and no computer will cry when hearing the song.
Not everyone understands physics. Not everyone can disassemble and assemble a Kalashnikov assault rifle. Not everyone can scuba dive. But everyone fell in love, and everyone was sad. This means that this is a distinctive feature of the human being. And humanity itself is a great family of creatures who have lost paradise, are sad about this and do not understand the reasons for their sadness.
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Sadness is a vague memory and an equally vague presentiment. This is an abyss that has opened up in the soul and cannot be filled with anything other than God. O soul, sad about lost bliss! Who should I compare you to? I will compare you with Princess Nesmeyana. Why not? We will talk about great things in children's language. Let's not be afraid to lift the veil on secrets with the help of jokes and jokes. We will behave like jesters, that is, like the saddest people in the world who seem to everyone the most cheerful.
Princess Nesmeyana cried in the palace. The difficulty was that she herself did not know the reason for crying. “If there is no diagnosis, there is no treatment,” said the German doctors. And the princess cried and cried, so that the parquet floor under her throne swelled, and the plaster in the corners of the maiden room began to become damp.
The Tsar Father was a progressive man. He believed in the power of pills and dreamed of interplanetary travel. “Look, daughter. I bought you a new mobile phone. It has three gigabytes of memory.” And she bursts into tears even more. “Let’s go, daughter, to my room. Let's watch Steven Spielberg's new film." And she howls even more strongly, and tears flow without any hint of exhaustion of the resource.
This tale then plays out in different ways. But the main line is the same everywhere. Everything newfangled, everything shiny, expensive, overseas intensified the unsolved suffering of the princess. So she would have killed herself with suffering, she would have lost her sight from tears, if not for her love for a person whom, due to his ordinaryness and homeliness, no one wanted to notice. He cheered her up, he consoled her, he wiped away her tears and brought her back to life. He became her friend and husband forever.
This, my friends, is the image of Christ infused into the fairy tale. This is an allusion to Christ, Whom those who are blinded by everyday tinsel do not see, and Whom, because of His simplicity and humility, is not taken seriously by the wise men of this age.
Well, the crying princess, of course, is our soul, which roars inconsolably and suffers, supposedly for no reason, until the Heavenly Bridegroom in simple clothes looks at her wisely and affectionately.
That's how it is.
Being withdrawn or overly sociable
Chronic sadness often makes a person withdrawn. He begins to avoid communication even with close friends and family, spending most of his time alone. In a sad mood, many people become silent. They have difficulty making contact with others.
There is another extreme, when a person, being in melancholy, is afraid of loneliness. He is afraid to be alone with his sad thoughts. Such people often and compulsively call old friends and are constantly looking for new acquaintances. If such sociability was not previously characteristic of a person, then this is a reason to be wary.
Getting caught up in emotions
Happy and joyful people may periodically experience negative emotions. But they do not allow unpleasant experiences to overcome them. A psychologically healthy person understands that negative feelings are natural. He does not feel guilty for negative emotions.
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If a person is in a state of chronic sadness, then he plunges into unpleasant experiences. All his actions are guided by negative emotions. At the same time, he often feels guilty for negative feelings, which aggravates sadness and melancholy.
What is sadness
Sadness for no reason rarely appears, because the main function of this emotion is a signal one; it is created to notify that the satisfaction of some needs is not available or that other important internal things are frustrated. This is a complex emotion, but at the same time it is unambiguous in its experience and this experience is always with a minus sign in order to motivate to solve problems. Not a single person is capable of staying in this experience for a long time and no one wants a repetition of such an emotional spectrum, due to which all active functions are turned on, aimed at ensuring the necessary standard of living and self-realization.
This is a complex feeling that is not innate and is not directly related to the process of survival. Sadness has many components, it is capable of regulating complex social life, is involved in reflection and the formation of personality, but it appeared only as a result of psychological development and the complication of the psyche. Just as fear gives the first reaction and ultimately saves a life, joy indicates what is favorable for the individual (biological level), so sadness signals the wrong state of affairs (on a more subtle and complex personal-social level).
It is important to distinguish sadness from similar concepts and other emotional states. So this is always a short-term, not very deep experience that arises more in everyday matters. As for pain, stress, resentment, these are all emotions of a stronger spectrum and are not related to the experience of sadness, but it can appear in their place when the situation becomes less critical or urgent.
Sadness is not a consequence of psychological trauma, as an acute situation that endangers the integrity of the individual or the life of the body. It does not relate to manifestations of psychopathology that require medication or psychotherapeutic intervention, since it is a completely ordinary feeling, characteristic of all people.
People with a more sensitive nervous system and those who are prone to empathy are more likely to experience sadness. Such individuals need more time to digest what is happening and what they have heard, they are more seriously immersed in the problems of others, so they often need a certain antisocial position, where grief occurs over what happened.
Sadness helps us perceive the world more subtly, more detail and closer, and be able to analyze it. Some of these states can be called light sadness or longing for something that has not come true, where a person simultaneously feels sorry for something that has passed or never happened and at the same time there is gratitude and joy from pleasant memories or fantasies.
Thoughts about the future
Chronic sadness is often accompanied by constant rumination about the future. These can be not only disturbing thoughts and fears, but also empty dreams that are not supported by deeds. It seems to a person that in the future the situation will change by itself, and the sadness will pass.
Thinking about the future is much easier than taking action in the present. It is important to remember that if you do nothing, chronic sadness will not go away. If you do not get rid of melancholy and sadness at the present time, then it is impossible to expect a happy future.
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How to get rid of sadness and melancholy?
Many people try to find the answer to the question of how to get rid of sadness. One of the most effective methods is
changing the way of thinking.
In addition, experts recommend:
- Deal with all negative relationships, end them, or try to change them.
- Resolve all conflict situations in some convenient way (apologize, find compromises, come to an agreement, stop communicating with the person, etc.).
- Start communicating with positive, successful and confident people.
- Monitor your overall stress level biologically and emotionally (planning and time management helps).
- Control the balance of your diet, add vitamin-containing foods to your diet, drink enough water and add physical activity to your life.
- Take sunbathing more often and be in nature.
- Learn to relax and unwind, enjoy every minute of life.
- Learn to meditate, take care of your body.
- Define realistic goals for yourself and strive to achieve them.
How to rid yourself of boredom? The first thing you should do is accept the fact of your frustration and grief without any reservations or understatements. Suppression only adds tension. By accepting this negative emotion, a person will be able to express it, pass it through his body and remove it from it. In fact, in order not to worsen the condition, you need to allow yourself to feel everything with your soul to the end, here and now.
But the emotion of sadness must be expressed by a person, as an observer. Being in such an emotional state, you should concentrate on the sensations of the physical plane. This is the anchor of an observer from the outside.
To fight we need to know what we are dealing with. Internally, everyone knows the truth, but does not want to admit it even to themselves and accept it. The main source is an unsatisfied desire, an unachieved goal.
And it is important to never forget that you cannot stay in the world of negative emotional states for long. This country of emptiness, emotional immaturity and loneliness is suitable only as a temporary refuge, but not for your permanent life. Despite the fact that many creative people in such a place are inspired to create their masterpieces.
What makes us sad?
Sometimes waves of sadness come over people for no reason. It seems that nothing foreshadowed such a state, everything around is calm and good. Some even begin to feel sad that everything in their life is going so well.
However, most likely the human psyche is simply expelling something in order to protect itself from the consequences. And if a person wants to help himself, he must test his emotional state. To do this, it is recommended to check:
- nutrition, state of the digestive system;
- relationships in the family, with relatives and friends, as well as other people from the environment;
- Are you on the move enough?
- whether the person is satisfied with the results of his activities;
- topics of communication with the environment;
- what thoughts are your head filled with?
If such attacks occur for quite a long time, you may need to seek advice from a psychologist. The problem must be solved as soon as possible, because it can provoke serious mental illnesses.
Lack of initiative
In a state of chronic sadness, people rarely try to change the situation. They become apathetic and lacking initiative. A person can remain in a job that has not satisfied him for a long time. Such people often continue toxic relationships that only bring them unpleasant emotions. It is important to remember that as long as the negative situation continues, it is impossible to get out of the state of chronic sadness.
Why are people sad?
Why is a person sad? The culprits for this condition may include biological, situational and psychological aspects. It can be provoked by:
- health problems;
- poor nutrition, lack of vitamins;
- poor quality sleep, lack of sleep;
- sedentary lifestyle, lack of physical activity;
- frequent stressful, conflict situations in the family and at work, in transport, supermarket, etc.;
- chronic fatigue;
- unfulfilling work or activities;
- environment with a negative attitude;
- low level of demand and fulfillment of a person.
Sadness and depression
Very often people confuse sadness and depression. These two conditions are similar in external manifestations. Chronic sadness is characterized by frequent experiences of negative feelings. However, such emotions are not a sign of pathology. They are completely surmountable with the help of psychological methods.
Depression is a mental illness. It is accompanied by persistent causeless melancholy, anxiety and sadness. This pathology sometimes requires not only psychotherapeutic, but also drug treatment.
How to distinguish ordinary sadness from illness? The following symptoms are typical for depression:
- Loss of control over mood. A person cannot get rid of depression through willpower. Advice from others to “pull yourself together” irritates him.
- Physical symptoms. Depression is often accompanied by headaches, nausea, weakness, and intestinal disorders.
- Exhaustion. When depressed, it becomes difficult for a person to perform basic actions. He feels a loss of strength and gets tired very quickly.
- Difficulty in describing your feelings. It is very difficult for a person with depression to express sadness, sadness and anxiety in words.
If you notice such signs in yourself, immediately visit a psychotherapist or psychiatrist. Depression does not go away on its own. This disease requires serious treatment.
The main causes of sadness
As we have already found out, sadness is a negative emotion that appears as a result of a lack of satisfaction or the unattainability of specific situations at a certain period of life. To answer the question: Why am I sad?
It is worth understanding that any emotion is associated with the experience of some event. Therefore, finding out the cause of sadness will not be difficult. Since the feeling of sadness is a short-term phenomenon and arises as a result of recent events
It is necessary to understand this issue. Find out the reason for this state of mind. Sadness can be caused by the following situations:
- Conflict . Any quarrel provokes the appearance of aggression and anger, which means that a person loses control over himself and can make many mistakes. After a conflict, sadness always sets in from what was done.
- Resentment towards someone . If a loved one insults you or says something unpleasant, then a strong feeling of resentment makes us more pressed, constrained, withdrawn into ourselves, and in this state we begin to feel sad.
- Loneliness . When you are alone with yourself, sad thoughts appear on their own. When there is no one around it is very sad, so it is better to find something to do for yourself or get rid of loneliness as soon as possible.
- Bad moments in life . By making some mistakes, we may not get the desired result. And disappointment from unfulfilled circumstances causes a feeling of sadness.
It is worth understanding that if you do not quickly get rid of a sad state, this can lead to depression or other psychological disorders.
