There is not a single person on Earth who has not been deceived by someone at least once in his life.
We have been deceived since childhood. Because the child still does not understand many things, does not know how to handle many things and can harm himself. Some people prefer to be deceived by people all their lives. It’s a paradox - everyone shouts that they need the truth, but in reality it turns out that the person wants to be deceived... I suggest you look at this phenomenon from an unusual point of view, from a different angle. Perhaps you will see something unusual and unusual for yourself.
Deceived people
There are those who are looking for and finding more and more sophisticated ways to deceive a person, there are those who are trying not to fall into the category of deceived people. And there are those who, one might say, want to be deceived.
They even came up with an explanation - “white lie.” And many copies have already been broken on the topic of “legalizing” this type of lie. But this is more a philosophical question than a practical one. So let's return to earth.
How to cheat someone out of money
The first thing that the followers of the Great Combinator Ostap Bender specialize in is the invention of new ways of relatively fair taking of money from the population.
This is quite easy to do. Many people have heard the story of MMM and other financial pyramids. Where guaranteed “passive income” was promised. A person has deposited money once, lies on the sofa and spits at the ceiling, and the money drops turn into thin streams that merge into powerful cash flows and take this person out of his wretched closet into a rich apartment and into a rich, happy life.
Which of these, subsequently deceived people, took the trouble to think - after all, if the company does not produce anything, does not provide any services, then where can those coveted huge percentages come from? Yes, our economy has been turned upside down, but no one has canceled the law of conservation of energy. Something doesn't come from nothing! Those who did not pay attention to this “trifle”, obvious to others, joined the ranks of deceived people.
However, there are more veiled ways to deceive a person out of money.
- Pills for slimness. Eat anything and lose weight. Have you ever wondered how the body removes excess fat from the waist, sides, abdomen and other problem areas? Give yourself the trouble to study this issue - and you will understand that by buying these pills you again fall into the category of “deceived people.”
- Cream with collagen and nanoparticles (or anything else “like that”). This also includes various wraps, rubbing and steaming. I applied it to my face at 50 - the next morning I woke up like I was 15 - nonsense!!! The skin is a barrier organ (!!!), and one of its most important functions is to prevent all sorts of external substances from entering the body. You paid for an expensive “super-moor” cream, paid for expensive procedures in some cool spa salon - and still wear size 56 instead of the coveted 46-48, and again - deceived people. Or people deceiving themselves?
- We bought a waxed smartphone on credit (a fur coat, a multi-D TV, etc.) - we got the money.
- when you pay off the loan, your cool smartphone, which you never really learned how to use, is not so cool at all, you never used 80% of its functions (although you paid for them too);
- the fur coat will already wear out and lose its presentation, and you will still have to pay the loan;
- A “multi-D” TV, on which there is nothing to watch, will collect dust and take up space (I myself saw one such “dust collector” with a diagonal of about 1.6 meters from my friends), and the loan has still not been paid off.
I'm not even talking about the fact that by buying something on credit, you are drawing energy from your own future. You voluntarily (!) place yourself in a “debt hole” for a period from several months to several years (!!!). You won’t surprise anyone with either luxury or wealth for a long time.
The people around you, whose respect (admiration, envy and other emotions) admired (admired, envied, got emotional) for a week or two at most, and you still have to pull the “debt burden” for a long time, counting every penny and carving out money every (!) month for loan installment. You definitely won’t earn “respect” this way. All these are hidden ways to get money. (Again, “deceived people”)
It is much more difficult to deceive a sane person out of money than someone who wants to be deceived. While a person will soar in the empyrean, believe in “fairy tales” that you can do absolutely nothing and get everything you want “on the passive”.
Why is your loved one deceiving you?
In this part of the article we will not touch on the topic of betrayal. We will consider those cases when you suddenly find out that your loved one said that they cannot meet with you today because they are terribly busy, and you accidentally find out that the object of your adoration spent that evening at home on the sofa watching TV, went to football with friends (went shopping with friends), etc. spent time in a completely “non-criminal” way. Why is he/she deceiving you???!!!!!
Are you ready to listen to that “coveted” truth ? Are you ready to calmly, without indignation, reproaches and dissatisfaction in your voice, allow him to spend time as he sees fit (or as he wants)? If, in your opinion, he wants to spend time away from you too often, and this angers or upsets you, think about it, something is clearly going wrong in your relationship. But this is a separate big topic. Let's not go deeper into it now.
Why is my boyfriend deceiving me?!
I often hear such an indignant exclamation from my clients. And when it turns out that their young people simply decided to stay at home, or help a friend, mother, brother with something, I again hear the indignant “ honestly say this?!” “Would you react calmly to this?” Silence... “Well, that’s why he chose to lie.” In general, serfdom in Russia was officially abolished in 1861.
- But I love him! I'm worried about him!
- Whose problem is it that you love him in such an “exhausting” way? He is a capable adult. What makes you monitor his every sneeze and call (send SMS) 20 times a day to find out where he is and what he is doing?
- Well, my parents (neighbors, relatives) still call each other several times a day to ask how they are doing, what their partner is doing now - this is normal (great, romantic, wonderful)!
- This is really wonderful, provided that both partners do not experience irritation and do not regard these numerous calls and SMS as total control. And if you insist that every 10 minutes (every half hour, hour) you be given a report about your whereabouts and activities, then pretty soon your indignant “Well, I love you, I’m worried about you!!!” You will hear “Don't love, don't worry, don't blow my mind with your total control! Let me live and breathe freely!”
Of course, this is not the only reason why your boyfriend may be deceiving you. But if you know (feel, guess) that he is dating only you - instead of throwing tantrums and pumping up your rights - think about it, your young man begins to be burdened by your company. Why? What is the reason? And also think about the topic - why are you provoking him to lie to you?
Although oh, how great, sometimes there is a temptation to classify oneself in the category of “deceived people”, to feel like a victim and enjoy one’s sacrifice and savor one’s grievances in the vest of one’s friends.
Sound familiar?
How can you deceive a person?
And again - no special difficulties. Just find out what this same person passionately wants and “sell” anything to him, without exaggeration - any unnecessary (useless) thing under the pretext that “this” will help (guaranteed to help) get what he wants, and if you add that it will happen without any effort and just instantly - the job is done. And if your brain is “blinded” by a passionate desire to get something, achieve something, become someone - just promise it that by purchasing your product, it will achieve, receive, become.
And then, when he finds out (discovers) that he never achieved, did not receive, did not begin - although he did, carried out, used strictly according to the instructions - find some little thing that he missed, tell him what exactly is in this small details and lies the secret to success, and that you simply weren’t paying enough attention.
Or even more shameless: “You don’t like a 2-meter TV in your 10-meter room?! And what does it stand on for you? Like on two stools from Ikea?!! You urgently (!!!) need to buy this bedside table for 499,999.99 rubles specifically for this TV and we assure you that then you will be able to appreciate all the advantages of this model.”
Of course, the situations I give as examples are greatly exaggerated. And you can tell me that I think people are idiots, and in real life no one will buy a giant TV for a small room, much less buy a bedside table for a quarter of the price of this TV.
Yes, in life this happens more hidden. Believe me, as a fortune teller, I quite often see developments in this scenario in the personal lives of my clients and in their business, and in other areas of their lives. If you are not satisfied with the salary, you need to open your own business. But practice shows that not everyone and not always their business brings in a large and stable income. But it is not important(!).
And instead of getting a good education and a higher-paying job (position), a person takes out a loan, opens his own business, rents premises, etc. and as a result gets a bunch of problems, a bunch of debts, constant employment 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. And he remembers the time when he worked for hire as the best days of his life.
You may get the impression that I am against entrepreneurship, against expensive things, wealth, luxury and comfort. Not at all. I am for reasonable spending and skillful management of my money and other resources. And I am also for a critical approach in those situations when we are talking about some of Papandopulus’s latest universal remedies for all problems at once.
No one will calculate for you whether your needs and desires match your capabilities. Any seller (consultant, manager, etc.) will try to lighten your pocket as much as possible. But do you need what is being offered to you, and will there be any real tangible benefit to you from this “acquisition”? Nobody except you, by and large, doesn’t care.
I'm not even talking about what happens in relationships between people, what (often voluntary) sacrifices, restrictions, humiliations one of the partners is ready for, in the hope of receiving love, attention, care. And they don’t want to see their partners shamelessly using them. And now, after several years (and sometimes several decades), they find out that all this time they were deceived in the most dishonest way, and they carefully closed their eyes, not wanting to see it.
And again, before us supposedly deceived people?... However, we move on.
Swindlers and swindlers. Philosophy of deception
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A few random texts from the book.
6.54.
They love to distract attention from one lie with another lie. While you expose one lie, another lie safely does its dirty work.
668. Trap.
Traps are usually set using the path of least resistance. The path of least resistance is usually a mousetrap. Trap holes are usually dug by the path of least resistance.
P.S. But there is one exception, unless it is your own path.
1544.
Everyone lies... People lie especially a lot about themselves and about their friends. They lie to make themselves seem better than they are. They lie to fill gaps in conversation. They lie just like that... Therefore, if they tell you something, and it gives you some deep emotions and surprise, take it calmly, most likely it is a lie.
1578.
If a situation or people seem like a miracle and a gift from fate to you, you should carefully look to see if it’s “cheese in the trap...”
You need to understand exactly how much you deserve miracles. Miracles usually don't just happen. Miracles must be earned.
2253. About the mousetrap.
To refuse temptation, you do not need great fortitude, as many people think. All you need is common sense and an understanding that temptation is a worm on a hook. If you try to eat it, then, apparently, your further existence will be sad.
3269.
Every mouse should know that free cheese is a sign of a mousetrap.
3339. The miser pays twice.
Greed... greed... I see as the most painful sin of man. Greed seems to me to be a type of sadomasochism. How many mice perished in mousetraps, drooling from cheese. How many snakes have choked, trying to swallow something that is bigger than them... How many have been overpaid... because of the desire to save...
Greed can become the source of a heap of sins...
Because of greed, you may not do your job or do it poorly, saving on materials and work. A job done poorly is a hellish sin. A huge number of cases were not completed, spoiled and ruined due to greed. Because of greed, you can simply throw away your money and get nothing. And then, at exorbitant prices, urgently order another one. And this is already a sin of energy inefficiency.
Few people get a whip on the back from fate as often as greed. Pain is the second name of greed.
3619.
A smart lion uses goats as bait for rams.
4171. Invitation to the mousetrap.
If you were given something to try, this is not at all a reason to buy. Free samples are nothing more than cheese or an invitation to a mousetrap.
4.345.
There is no sweet without sweat, except for drugs, cheese in a mousetrap, a worm on a hook, bait for fish, freebies for a fool, etc.
5.890.
You can find a barrel of honey by finding the fly in the ointment first. You can find a barrel of ointment with a spoonful of honey, having found the honey first. Cheese in a mousetrap and other freebies are a fly in the ointment.
6.213. Cowards are stupid.
Having frightened a person, it is easy to deceive him, because stupidity is an automatic weapon against fear, fear makes people stupid.
6.214.
They deceive mainly those who believe in fairy tales.
6.253.
If they want to deceive you, rejoice and take advantage of the moment, because it is easiest to deceive a deceiver.
6.260.
If they deceive you, don’t show it, but replace their lies with your false truth.
6.263. Pay for lying.
The deceiver is full of fear that he will be discovered, and you can control this fear, and then charge him for the lie.
6.283.
Drunk people lie no less than sober people, but more shamelessly.
6.853.
The loss of hope to deceive gives rise to honest people. An honest person is not infected with the hope of deception.
6.865. Honest lies.
Cunning is also deception, albeit an honest one. Now that you are an honest liar, you must pay honestly for your sin and be honestly forgiven.
5.23.
Cunning sellers love to program the buyer, forcing him to repeat after himself - ... yes ... yes ... yes. This moment must be seized and at the most decisive moment, smiling, firmly say “no”, because... cunning is a lie, and decent people have no business with liars.
Does a deceived person need the truth or does deceived people need help?
Surely every person, at least once in his life, has been in a situation where he tried to tell someone the truth, but they did not believe him.
Because people love to be deceived, and do not like to have their castles in the air destroyed by their “rudeness,” “tactlessness,” “rudeness,” “envy,” and other unpleasant actions. How many times have you heard from your acquaintances, friends, and acquaintances about situations when they tried to “open the eyes” of someone, but were accused of all human vices.
How can you help a deceived person? Comfort? Advise to sue the deceiver? Teach not to fall for the bait of deceivers?
Now answer yourself honestly - how does society treat truth-seekers who stand up for the truth? Are they carried in your arms? Are they awarded medals and orders? Do they pay them huge bonuses? Do they erect monuments during their lifetime?
Despite the fact that the overwhelming majority of “honest and decent” people are indignant when they become victims of deception, they demand “the truth and nothing but the truth” - but lovers of truth are not honored in our society, they are avoided, they have no or very few friends, With them just in case, they prefer not to communicate unless absolutely necessary.
I'm not talking about boors who slap the truth in everyone's eyes. I mean people who
they will tell you not loudly, calmly, delicately - don’t buy this thing, it won’t give you what you want from it. Don't buy this fur coat, better buy that one over there if you're so impatient to throw away your money. At least you look decent in it. Don’t get caught up in this person’s promises, he promises too much and too easily, play it safe, negotiate with someone else, etc.
At the moment when a person is “overwhelmed” by something, he doesn’t need any truth! I myself have personally heard so many times from my loved ones that I am angry, unfriendly, pessimistic, and the list goes on. And I stopped persuading and dissuading. In the end, people are adults - they have the right to have their own opinion and do as they themselves see fit - this is from life, their wallet, their destiny, their present and future, their lessons and their experience. And then they started accusing me of what I knew, how dare I not say and warn?!
As a fortune teller, I often ask my clients before starting a reading - are they ready to hear the very truth for which they came to me? Or do they prefer to hear only what they want to hear? If I see something completely different from what they pictured in their rosy pictures, are they ready to come down from heaven to earth? And not every time in response to such a question “head-on” I hear the same firm answer “Yes”. Although it seems like a couple of minutes ago they told me that they were not satisfied with anything other than the truth, and there was no need to lie or embellish anything...
And again “ deceived ” (?!) people??? deceiving themselves ?
Psychology of deception and manipulation
Deception is a phenomenon inherent mainly in human communication.
Human lies have existed as long as man himself.
It is sad to realize this, but lies and deception permeate all aspects of human existence, and each of us in our lives has had to deceive others more than once, wittingly or unwittingly.
And, even if in childhood we are convinced that it is not good to deceive, the older we get, the more life convinces us that you will not get far without deception.
Especially if we hold important positions or earn a lot of money.
Thus, deception for many people becomes a profession based on a simple formula:
“Money + deception = big money.”
Therefore, deception has a habit of meeting quite often on the path of every person.
This means we must try to comprehend this natural process and understand its psychology and learn the technology of deception.
We will look in more detail about non-verbal language of communication in other articles. I think knowing a non-verbal language is more important than knowing a foreign language.
Now I’ll give you a couple of examples to illustrate.
If a child tells a lie to his parents, he will immediately cover his mouth with one or both hands.
A teenager, deceiving, begins to cover his mouth, but he has already learned to deceive and therefore only slightly begins to cover his mouth with a finger or trace the outline of his lips.
When an adult lies, his brain sends an impulse to cover his mouth, but at the last moment the hand moves away from the mouth and the person, for example, touches his nose.
Eye movement patterns also give away lies. It is not for nothing that experienced investigators place a suspect in the light and carefully monitor eye movements.
Yes, both men and women perceive their own lies differently.
For men, lies or deception, as a rule, are situational, pursuing a specific goal.
And accordingly, realizing why they are deceiving, they are critical of their honesty.
Women can deceive, quite sincerely considering themselves honest people.
They have a smooth transition from half-truths to deception.
And they believe that this lies in a harmless desire to present themselves from the best side in the eyes of their interlocutor.
To convince men, you need to give arguments, build some logic in your presentation, and prove something.
But in order to convince a woman, you need to monitor not only the meaning, but also the form of presentation of the material, the intonation with which it will be said.
We will talk about this quite a lot and in detail in other materials.
In this same article we talk about manipulation, so what does manipulation mean to you?
When a self-respecting person hears about the manipulation of consciousness. He thinks that he cannot be fooled.
But deception is so ubiquitous that it can be left without serious attention.
Then the question arises:
“Is it possible to study it, because it is so many-sided and diverse?”
Let's narrow the topic and consider the illusions that arise from the imperfection of the senses, because this is also a deception, no matter how interesting it may be.
In the media, modern journalistic and scientific literature, we have recently often come across the term “zombie”.
Let's consider several concepts used in everyday life corresponding to manipulation methods.
Scam - a fraudulent enterprise, fraud, dubious transaction.
Bluff is an invention, deception aimed at intimidating, instilling an exaggerated idea of oneself.
Scam - cheating, fraud.
Trickery, intrigue, deceit, cunning.
Manipulation can be carried out through a third party, who does not suspect anything that he is being used. The deception can be extended over time.
In a word, this is a rather complex procedure, often similar to art - a procedure of influence and deception.
Read what we write to teach you not to fall for scammers and avoid being deceived.
Never deceive people
This is what our parents teach us in childhood. They are echoed by kindergarten teachers and school teachers - you cannot deceive people! But it is parents, educators and teachers who give children their first lessons in deception. Everything happens quite innocently, out of love and care for children. But adults forget how tenacious a child's inquisitive mind is. And children also see (feel, understand) that only children are punished for lying, which means you can’t lie only when you’re little, and then you can.
And believe me, deceived people, while you want to ride to heaven on someone else’s hump, join the “freebies” and “freebies”, you will be thoughtlessly driven to create “passive income” on the pennies you invested, and count on fabulous interest rates falling at you from the sky in any weather, until you want to hear the voice of common sense - there will be more and more new and sophisticated ways to deceive people. And you yourself create the demand for deception.
If a person deceived you, this does not mean
- that he is your worst enemy;
- that he wishes you harm;
- that this person constantly deceives everyone and in everything
- that this person is a pathological deceiver, a scoundrel and a traitor;
- etc.
Maybe he just didn’t want to upset a loved one. Or I didn’t see the point in reporting something if you still can’t influence the situation and help. Or he didn’t want to listen to your moralizing about what you knew and always warned him about. And there may be many other, completely non-malicious reasons for this. I will not be lazy to repeat again - if you are often deceived, and especially if you are often deceived by close people, this is a reason to seriously think about why this is happening in your life? What does this mean? What should this teach you?
Well, now - the favorite “soap opera” of the Soviet and post-Soviet people.
How ordinary people are deceived
The only thing that can and should be said here is that “simple” and “stupid ” are far from the same thing. They deceive the stupid, not the simple.
My grandfather’s entire education was 1st grade at a parochial school, and my grandmother had 2nd grade at the same school. And the whole street went to them for advice both on the simplest everyday issues and on serious life problems. They did not have the opportunity to receive a good classical education, but they read a lot, observed, thought, reflected, noticed and were able to cope with many life difficulties.
And it was almost impossible to deceive them - they saw right through people. And they were very rarely deceived. And they preferred not to discuss what was going on in the country, but simply to organize their lives in such a way as to depend as little as possible on someone else’s mercy. They considered it beneath their dignity to live like zucchini in a garden.
Two examples from my personal life.
About 9-10 years ago, gasoline prices somehow began to rise sharply. I received a message on Skype something like “Boycott action against the sharp increase in gasoline prices” with a request to send this message to as many people as possible. The message said, now I don’t remember exactly which company in the fuel and lubricants market, which increased prices more than all others, and it was proposed not to buy gasoline at gas stations at this class=”aligncenter” width=”552″ height=”268″[/ img]
I sent this message to several hundred people, posted it on my social media pages. networks. And what do you think? Did anyone support? You guessed it - the zucchini in the garden were just too lazy to turn from side to side, because they had to go to another gas station, which is not near the house, or transfer to public transport. It's like it's for life
Can you imagine what would happen if the overwhelming majority of the Russian population supported this action? Including owners of small and medium-sized businesses? Yes, I agree, a month is not an hour or a day. But probably something would have changed for the better for consumers, that is, for you and me.
Case No. 2.
Moscow. End of the working day. I'm standing at the last bus stop. The driver is sitting in a bus parking lot about 50 meters from the stop. 5 minutes pass after the bus is supposed to leave for the route - the driver is sitting, the bus is standing. 7 minutes pass, nothing changes. People are starting to get nervous. The driver continues to sit, the bus continues to stand. A couple more minutes pass, the driver brings the bus to board. We left 11 minutes late.
We approach the metro station, a crowd of people begins to storm this bus, which by that time is already 20 minutes late. And one of the women begins to demand from the driver the telephone number of the fleet that owns this bus, in order to call there and find out why the bus arrived so late. Do you think someone supported her? They started shushing her and defending the driver! !!
They began to justify his lateness with Moscow traffic jams and other reasons. At this point I couldn’t stand it and said loudly to the whole bus that I was coming from the final stop, and the driver had already left there 11 minutes late, and we didn’t encounter any traffic jams. Do you think someone supported this woman in her demands, which were legal, by the way???
And again they guessed right - no one (!), moreover, they called her a brawler, a disturber of public order and tranquility, etc., and almost offered to throw her out. I stood up for her again: “People, come to your senses!!! She is also trying to defend your rights! So that you don’t stand at subway stops after the crush and don’t wait for irresponsible drivers so that you can get home faster. After all, if we do not call to order those who receive salaries for serving the population, no one will do this for us! You all nod to the West and America how everything is good and correct there. So they have it because they don’t give anyone permission - they complain, they demand! Nothing will happen by itself and nothing will change for the better!”
The bus continued to drive, the passengers muttered under their breath that there was chaos all around, and no one cared about it... ZUCCHINS!!! Is it possible to deceive such people? Need to!!! Maybe at least then they will at least think about something?...
Why do they deceive people?
Deception has become a part of our life. This is an unfortunate fact. If a person gets a job, he must lie at least a little, otherwise they won’t hire him. If a person tells everyone what he really thinks about them, they will start to shun and avoid him. True, these days it’s not a particularly hot commodity.
Imagine two candidates for mayor or president. One says “I will increase pensions, restore and
develop industry and agriculture, I will increase the salaries of teachers and doctors, and in general everything in our city (region, country) will be heaven on earth in a couple of years.” and the other says “The situation in the city (region, country) is critical, and in the next 3-5 years we will have to work hard and hard to stop the devastation and improve life.”
Who will the majority vote for? For the honest one? Or for the “sweet-tongued”?
Another example from life on the topic of the desire to be deceived . Large Moscow store on Novy Arbat. A very stylishly dressed woman of about 45 approaches a department where all sorts of things for manicure are sold and asks the seller for nail polish remover without acetone. The seller honestly answers her that there is no nail polish remover without acetone, and in a nutshell politely and calmly explains why this liquid must contain acetone. And he adds that the expensive liquid contains purified acetone and various oils are added to soften the effect of acetone.
The lady purses her lips displeasedly and goes to another seller, who says (pointing his finger at the exact same bottle with exactly the same composition and name) that this liquid is produced using the latest, most modern nanotechnology (?!), and there’s not even a trace of acetone there No. The lady exhales with relief, takes out her wallet, pays, takes a bag of miracle liquid, and proud and happy walks past the honest seller, casting a victorious glance at the “enemy”...
It is difficult to imagine, and almost impossible to calculate, how many ways to deceive gullible and narrow-minded people will still be invented. And all these “secrets” of how to deceive people lie on the surface. Thus, Life forces “sleeping biorobots” to wake up and bring their brains into working condition, and finally begin to use them for their intended purpose.
What to do if you deceived someone
Fortunately, in our time there are still people who worry if they unwittingly (unintentionally) deceived another person. For them, the law “Deceiving people who trust you is the last thing” still applies. The answer is obvious and simple - you just need to admit your deception. In the old days this was called repentance. Sooner or later, your deception will still be revealed. And if you value your reputation and your good name, then the sooner you admit that you deceived a person and ask for his forgiveness, the more chances you have of maintaining trust and relationships with this person
If the deceived person suffered any damage as a result of such deception, then try to at least to some extent compensate him for the damage caused.
If you managed to deceive a person
This does not mean at all that you turned out to be smarter or more cunning. This means that you simply cannot be trusted. And this is bad not so much for the people whose trust you have most likely lost forever. First of all, it's bad for you. I'm not going to write soul-saving appeals. If you like to deceive those who believed or trusted you, this is primarily your problem. And it is quite possible that you will come across other ways to easily deceive a person. You will have to live with this, you and choose what you will do with your own life. This article is more about those who have become victims of deception. And this is not about you yet
And now, for the most patient and hardworking, “for dessert” let’s talk about a hypothetical person who is never deceived.
Deception number two: the state
The state is a wolf in sheep's clothing, replacing concepts with the dexterity of a magician and having as its imperative goal the pacification and control of the masses of people for the benefit of the state - the elite at its head.
Throughout its existence, the state has always manipulated and in one way or another deceived the naive citizen, either posing as the Motherland, which they had to serve and sometimes die for, or taxing its citizens at its own discretion, including taxes on toilets, as in during the reign of Emperor Vespasian, or a tax on cowardice, as was the case in England in the 12th century. Or the ear tax in modern Tibet, when the money goes to support the army, as well as taxes on the nose, eyes, shadow and freedom.
In the USSR (until recently) there was a tax on bachelors, as well as on alcohol. What and how much to pay for is always decided by the state, outlawing anyone who evaded paying taxes.
The lie of the state simply lies in the fact that by educating its citizens in the necessary way from childhood through schools, universities and social attitudes, it passes off its state interests as the interests of the citizens themselves. In fact, we all see how much, for example, raising the retirement age is in the interests of citizens, and how much it is in the interests of the elite. On the surface, a rare citizen, for example, knows how much and why he pays taxes, why he is obliged to serve in the army and has no choice, etc.
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The state is one way or another, undoubtedly, the most violent of all instruments of coercion, suppressing the free will of a person and denying him the right to choose even without entering into any agreement with the state, a totem that replaced the once bloodthirsty gods of antiquity and took their place.
A person who is hard to fool
I’ll tell you a secret - there are no people in the world whom no one ever deceives! We are talking about adults. As children, we were deceived quite often, starting with the version of our birth - from the romantic stork that delivers babies to loving mothers and fathers, to the completely prosaic finding of us in cabbage patches.
And so - a person who is difficult or impossible to deceive. The logical conclusion is that:
- this person does not trust anyone (this is not far from paranoia);
- constantly worries, checks and double-checks everything and everyone;
- he can never relax, rejoice, have fun, because there are only ill-wishers around him who resolutely intend to constantly deceive and rob him;
- sooner or later such a person begins to suspect everyone and everything;
- sooner or later he begins to deceive himself.
And he must also periodically study an avalanche of information on the topic “Behavior of a deceiving person” in order to figure out how to understand that another person is deceiving, study and remember the facial expressions and gestures of deceivers and scammers, decide how to find out whether he is being deceived if he communicates by phone, and there is also an endless number of all kinds of manuals (which often contain nothing but deception) on the topic of how to protect yourself from deception. And turns his life into walking through 7 circles of hell...
Perhaps it’s worth at least occasionally putting your suspicion and distrust on pause and at least reflecting a little - are your suspicions and distrust justified? And can it even be so that all your close and distant, acquaintances and strangers do not sleep at night and sweat all day long and are busy doing nothing but to betray you, deceive you, rob you, and the list goes on?...
And in one of these pauses, you suddenly discover that most people simply live their lives, move towards their goals, build and implement their plans, and in these plans point number ... eleven (or point number 1) is completely absent - to deceive , betray or rob you. Because there are many more useful, interesting and useful activities in their life.
And there is also this unpleasant thing called
Self-deception
And this is a very insidious thing. How much trouble and disappointment it brings to a person.
Look at this picture. What do you see there? I suspect that most people will say something like “I see a portrait man .”
And very few will say that all they see is a man's hat, mirrored sunglasses and a blurred background. Here, in fact, you can “invent” anything you want, including gender (after all, now women also wear men’s hats from time to time) and age.
Of course, this is a fairly “straightforward” example. But how often does it happen that a person himself invents (invents, “completes”) something that actually does not exist, thereby deceiving himself first of all. And then how many griefs, disappointments and even tragedies happen when it turns out that what a person has invented does not at all correspond to the actual state of affairs. And what’s even more interesting is that such a person begins to make claims against the “glasses and hat” and accuses them of deception and pathological deceit!
In addition, people who deceive themselves are usually very offended by the whole world because they are constantly being deceived, and that there are only liars and scammers around. Meanwhile, they themselves very often deceive people, passing off their “inventions” as the true state of affairs.
Summing up this essay, I cannot help but note one more circumstance that usually escapes the attention of people trying to understand the topic of lies and deception. Namely:
Deception
Deception as a personality quality is a tendency to
deliberately mislead another person for selfish purposes .
In one restaurant, one of the visitors asked to cook live fish. The waiter caught a fish from the pool and showed it to the visitor. He asked him to throw the fish on the floor. The waiter did what was asked of him. He threw the fish on the floor, then picked it up and disappeared into the kitchen with it. As it turned out later, in some establishments visitors are offered live fish only to, having gone to the kitchen with it, throw it back into the water. And instead of presenting the fish to the visitor, they prepare a dish of suffocated, stale fish. Knowing this, the visitor, by asking to throw the fish on the floor, protects himself from being deceived. Once the fish has hit the floor and is half dead, there is nothing left to do but immediately transfer it to the frying pan.
Sadly, deception permeates all spheres of human life, and countless regiments of its owners, as a clearly manifested personality trait, are multiplying and multiplying their strength. Virtuosos of deception are represented in Russian literature by the images of Khlestakov and Ostap Bender. It happened that such a master of deception as Count Cagliostro visited Russian soil, convincing his contemporaries of his immortality. “You know, Viscount, I’ve already heard a similar thought somewhere... Oh, yes, it was at Cleopatra’s feast - it was uttered by the governor of Alexandria.” In the novel by the 19th century Russian writer E. Salias “The Magician,” dedicated to this world-famous adventurer, there are the following lines: “Everyone went to the count for his own. Everyone knew that he had untold wealth, since he himself made gold and diamonds using alchemy. Some hurried to his magnificent lunches and dinners, others - to correct their shaky fortunes with the help of alchemy, and still others, bolder ones - to enter through him into a community with spirits and the dead. Finally, the majority, and especially the common people, did not go to the alchemist, but to a wonderful physician. The Count-Doctor's incredible cures, almost supernatural, were known throughout Paris. The rumor about them preceded his appearance, and now several cases have confirmed this rumor. In addition, the magician doctor, returning the barely living and dying to life, always did it for nothing... Many prudent people, both in the highest circles and among the bourgeoisie, shrugged their shoulders, grinned contemptuously and even got angry when they talked about the magician Cagliostro. They explained everything very simply. Countess Lorenza was for them only a depraved woman who was cleverly traded by her husband; he himself was a charlatan and a talented magician. His miraculous healings by A. Cagliostro were always performed among the common people, but two healing experiences in the highest circles failed. These prudent people went so far as to assert, but without proof, that Count Cagliostro hires half-vagrants from the suburb of St. Anthony and forces them to play the roles of the sick, dying, and sometimes even dead, in order to show his miracles on them.”
Deception is many-sided and diverse; if you try to describe all its varieties, even a thousand pages will not be enough. A person can be forced by circumstances to deceive - this is a “one-time” deceiver; deception has not become a manifest quality of his personality. But there is another category of people who, having deceived, say: “I cannot do otherwise.” These are real deceivers for whom the tendency to mislead people has become second nature. Thus, the famous swindler of the early 20th century, Sonya Zolotaya Ruchka, played the role of the Lady with the Wrong Number. Sonya called this method of robbery “guten morgen.” The deception was as follows. Having settled in an elite hotel, she entered someone else's room before dawn, knowing that at this time people were usually fast asleep, and began to empty their pockets. If the residents suddenly woke up, they saw in front of them an elegant lady in expensive jewelry, who began to undress, allegedly thinking that she was in her room. The performance ended with innocent embarrassment and mutual apologies.
Deception is a consequence of deceit and lack of faith. His instrument can be any object, fact, phenomenon, word or disguise. An anecdotal incident occurred with Tatyana, who served in the army under the name Kurtochkin during the reign of Catherine the Great. The daughter of one of the regiment officers fell in love with her, or rather with Captain Kurtochkin. Since Tatyana, for obvious reasons, could not reciprocate, she gently rejected the girl in love. In revenge, she decided to slander the honest captain, saying that he seduced her and shamelessly abandoned her, promising to marry her. The captain was put on trial, and no matter how much Tatyana tried to expose the deception, no one wanted to believe her. As a result, the court sentenced her to deprivation of all rights and deportation to Siberia. Then she submitted a petition to the Empress, in which she honestly admitted that she and Captain Kurtochkin were one and the same person. When this was confirmed, the court reversed its decision and dismissed her, retaining the rank of captain.
An interesting episode of dressing up that took place in an elite hunting ground that served members of the CPSU Politburo is described by Yu. Shcherbatykh: “General Secretary Nikita Khrushchev and the then ruler of East Germany, Honecker, arrived there to hunt. Moreover, the latter was a passionate lover of hare hunting. For such guests, pre-caught hares were released onto the lawn in front of the hunting lodge, and they shot them right from the porch of the house. However, the day before, trouble happened: the fence of the enclosure where the animals were kept became leaky, and every last one of the hares escaped safely into the forest. Upon learning of this, Khrushchev became furious and promised to remove from their jobs all those responsible for disrupting the hunt of his high-ranking guest. The huntsmen greatly valued their dust-free and profitable service and therefore began to feverishly think about how they could get out of this situation. Meanwhile, Khrushchev and Honecker went to have a snack and a drink from the road. And then the chief huntsman came up with a brilliant idea. He took a hare skin and, together with his comrades, sewed a local cat who lived in their house into it. After that, they carried the poor animal onto the front lawn and informed the guests about it. The no longer sober leaders of the friendly powers jumped out onto the porch and began firing at him with guns. The cat, stupefied by the shooting, found nothing better than to climb the nearest pine tree with an arrow. Such an unusual sight made the German feel sick. “What an amazing country,” he said later. “Even hares climb trees here.”
Deception involves creating favorable conditions, in particular the trust of the potential victim. The deceiver uses openness and charm, forms an appropriate reputation, creates the image of a truthful, honest person, speaks in a confidential tone, creates legends, ensures uncritical perception on the part of the object of deception, flatters, evokes pity, plays on the individual’s personal characteristics, creates an appropriate role situation , evokes a sense of self-importance in the potential victim of deception.
Playing on the compassion and mercy of people, sworn deceivers cover up their selfishness with “noble” goals: collecting money for the construction of an Orthodox church or an orphanage for orphans, sometimes for the treatment of sick children or another no less pure and sublime goal. The philosopher Dubrovsky comments on this phenomenon: “With few exceptions, deception is an immoral form of protecting one’s own interests. At the same time, however, the appearance of compliance with moral and other social norms (principles of honesty, justice, legal laws, etc.) is created, which, as it were, doubles the deception and determines the duality of any act of deception. Without creating such an appearance, without carefully camouflaging his real aspirations, the deceiver cannot count on success. Therefore, someone who strives to achieve his practical goal at the cost of deception acts, as a rule, under the guise of a champion of truth, goodness and justice. How many times have we been read high morals by the creators of vile deception! How many times, under the cover of pompous speeches, lies have triumphed, cunning half-truths that lead away from truth and responsibility!”
Deception always goes hand in hand with one or more vices. His favorite allies are greed, stupidity, fear, hypocrisy, flattery, cunning, slander, hoaxes and hypocrisy. It is quite difficult to identify deception when it is hidden under the hypocritical mask of sincerity, openness and love. The master of this kind of deception was Empress Catherine II. If she did not keep her word, then she arranged the played out plot in such a way that she, like Caesar’s wife, could not be suspected of anything. The historical episode with the overthrown young Emperor Ivan Antonovich is a clear confirmation of this. He was imprisoned in the Shlisselburg fortress and, it seems, did not pose any particular danger, but in a certain unfavorable scenario he could become a dangerous contender for the Russian throne. He had much more legal grounds than the empress, who killed her husband with the help of her lover, Alexei Orlov. From the book of the outstanding art critic, long-time librarian of the St. Petersburg Public Library V.V. Stasov, “The Brunswick Family,” it follows that the plan to kill Ivan Antonovich came directly from the empress herself. On the night of June 4-5, 1764, Lieutenant V. Mirovich of the Smolensk Infantry Regiment tried to free the prisoner. When the bailiffs guarding the prisoner saw that the attackers could free John, they followed the instructions given to them by Catherine for this case and killed John Antonovich. Mirovich was captured, arrested, tried and sentenced to death.
According to G. Danilevsky’s novel “Mirovich,” Polixena, Mirovich’s fiancée, obtained a reception from Catherine II with a request to pardon her fiancé. Next, let’s give the floor to Danilevsky: “- Empress, can you at least promise? she asked. - Everything in my power. - Even a pardon? - Polixena asked with a flashing gaze, glaring at Catherine. - I’ll see!.. According to your sincerity... Are there any accomplices, instigators? - There is... One face. - Is it alive? And you know? - the empress asked slowly. - I know... Alive... - Can you convict, prove? - Can. — And he wasn’t brought into the investigation? “Nobody knows him, and all the blame lies with him...” Catherine stood up. A cloud passed over her face. “If you please,” she said, “I even promise pardon, tell me, who is this person?” “You were frank with me,” she announced to the petitioner. - I will keep my promise... Polyxena fell at the feet of the empress. She gently held her and hugged her. A gentle, kind smile shone in Catherine’s eyes. “Just don’t say a word about it to anyone,” the empress concluded, “the execution is tomorrow, in the morning.” The decree of pardon will be delivered by courier to the scaffold. On September 15, 1764, Mirovich was executed. The executioner lifted the severed, pale, bloody head of the executed man by his long blond hair... The square gasped, the cry of a girl was heard, unconsciously falling into the arms of an old woman distraught with grief. “Yes,” said the dapper Preobrazhensky, walking from the place of execution with the Izmailovo man, “incomprehensible.” Nikolai Ivanovich, the courier... was only five minutes late. He appeared, you can hear, from the Tuchkov Bridge, when everything was already over.” Formally, “good” Catherine kept her promise - the decree of pardon was signed by her. It's a shame that this slow courier was delayed on the way to the place of execution! But what does she have to do with it? Blind chance intervened and injustice triumphed. No one tried to convict the empress of deception and hypocrisy. And why? John Antonovich, together with the unfortunate lieutenant, went to another world.
Petr Kovalev Other articles by the author: https://www.podskazki.info/karta-statej/
