Top 7 qualities of a successful woman: how to become successful

Psychologists have studied what is included in female success and what qualities are needed to become a successful woman. Check if you have these qualities!

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It’s fashionable to be successful today, so after work we run to personal growth training, flip through a self-improvement book on the subway, and in the evening we fall off our feet from fatigue... Maybe we’re doing something wrong?

They say that a successful woman is one who manages everything: at work, at home, makes a cucumber mask, reads a new bestseller overnight, and posts a positive photo on Instagram. She is also self-confident, purposeful, hardworking, well-groomed, wealthy and, it seems, incredibly tired.

Self-control

Having set a goal and gained self-confidence, a person is filled with enthusiasm, which is commendable when building a plan for achieving success. Enthusiasm motivates action, while self-control is the flywheel that directs actions in a creative direction. A successful person achieves a balance of enthusiasm and self-control. This is especially important for women, who are more emotional and impulsive by nature.

Highly developed self-control does not allow one to be influenced by pessimism and does not allow others to decide for themselves. He will stimulate imagination and enthusiasm until they inspire action, and will control actions without allowing himself to be controlled by them.

He who has self-control will not slander or take revenge, will not hate the dissenter; on the contrary, he will try to understand the reason for disagreement and benefit from it. A typical sign of lack of self-control is the habit of talking a lot. An intelligent woman who knows how to succeed in life carefully monitors her words and speaks competently.

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How to become a successful woman

A successful man is one who earns more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who was able to find such a husband.

Lana Turner

All people want to become successful, regardless of whether we are talking about a man or a woman.
The need for success is one of the most significant needs of a healthy, full-fledged person. When talking about a woman’s success, we must not lose sight of her natural purpose, which largely determines how happy a woman will feel. And the feeling of happiness, in turn, is, in essence, success. According to nature's idea, a woman is a mother, and to become a mother, she needs a man, so a man and children are of great importance to a woman. But, of course, it is not only the presence of children and a good relationship with a worthy, loving, caring man that makes a woman successful. In no case should we forget about a woman realizing her abilities, her creative potential and business qualities. Therefore, in our time, in most cases, we associate a successful woman mainly with a woman who has achieved a lot and made a good career, that is, she is a strong, independent woman. Does this contradict its natural purpose? Not at all. Because success in business is also a woman’s natural need. And in this article I will talk about how to become a successful woman in everything that is important and valuable for most women. I think a man’s opinion on this matter will help many of you, dear women, gain inspiration and self-confidence to achieve absolutely any success in this life, no matter what you see it in.

First of all, let's pay attention to one common problem in our lives that prevents us from achieving success in various areas. Namely, the choice that a person, in our case a woman, has to make between different values, mainly between family and career. Many women do not achieve success in life only because they cannot choose what to devote their lives to, what specific activities. And if they make such a choice, then they doubt its correctness, so they feel unhappy, even if they really achieve a lot. And if there is no happiness, there is no success. It is believed that you cannot succeed in everything, at work or in business and in your personal life, that you have to choose what to devote your life to. Because of these choices, it is difficult for women to become successful, either in raising a good family or successful in their careers and businesses. And you know what, in most cases this is true, one thing interferes with the other. Therefore, you have to make a choice. And some women simply do not know how well they could succeed in this or that business if they did not do, for example, household chores, but devoted themselves to work that interests them. However, if you approach this problem creatively, you will find that you don’t need to make any choice - you can successfully combine your career with your family and achieve success in everything. How to do it? It's all about interest.

You see, my dear readers, your job or business can be such that it will not interfere with your family. The main thing is that you are interested in doing something and that all your needs are met. Usually, we strive to become successful in what interests us, that is, if we talk about our desire. If we talk about our reluctance, then in this case we strive to succeed in what we consider important for ourselves, taking into account our problems and unmet needs. Well, let’s say you’ve lived in poverty all your life and therefore you have a desire to get rich, no matter how, just to earn a lot of money so you can simply stop feeling poor. That is, this desire comes from your unwillingness to be poor, so you want to earn a lot of money and become a rich person. Discomfort and dissatisfaction, as well as a feeling of fear, are in this case the source of a woman’s desire to become successful.

So some women have to provide for themselves when they simply do not have a worthy man who can take care of them. A woman wants to feel protected - this is one of her basic needs, she wants to live in human conditions and have everything necessary for a normal life. Therefore, when there is no man next to her who can take proper care of her, she has to take care of herself. This is how a woman’s desire arises - to be successful in those areas that run counter to her need to have a good family to which she could devote herself. She simply does not have this normal family, there is no man with whom she could feel protected and provided with everything she needs. And if he were, the woman would not strive to devote herself entirely to work, business, earning money, or rather, she would do such work, such business that would not harm her family. To solve this problem, a woman needs to figure out what is simpler and more important for her - to find a normal man who can take care of her, with whom she can create a good happy family, and living with whom she can do work that will not interfere should she take care of her family, or take care of herself all her life. As you can see, a choice still needs to be made, but not as difficult as the choice between career and family. It all depends on what efforts a woman is willing to make to achieve success in life, taking into account her natural feminine needs. If a woman believes that she is unable to find a worthy man for herself and is going to devote herself only to work, then we can say that her success will be incomplete. Or rather, everything will depend on her feeling of happiness. If career success makes a woman completely happy, then she will not have any problems. But I warn you that nature does not give rest to those people who do not follow its goals, so success in business, with simultaneous failure in your personal life, most likely will not allow you to feel truly successful. True, a woman can devote herself to her children, if, say, her relationship with a man did not work out, but she has children, and at the same time make a career - this is better, much better, than just a career. Raising and raising a child is without a doubt a great success that brings great satisfaction to a person, especially a woman. After all, our children are our future.

If we talk about our desires that are related to our interest, then they can be anything, absolutely anything. When nothing puts pressure on a person, no problems, obligations, dissatisfaction - he can desire anything, and will be happy to realize his desire, even if it consists of simply doing something of little importance to other people. That is, you see, if you save a person from all internal problems and help him become interested in something, then he can be happy from any success, no matter what it is. It is the interest in success in this or that business that allows a woman to devote herself, in addition to her family, to a business that will give her great joy and satisfaction without interfering with her taking care of her family.

So what should a woman’s success consist of so as not to interfere with her being a mother and having a happy family and at the same time realizing herself? Yes, there are a lot of options you can come up with. What, isn’t it possible, say, to stay at home with the children and engage in writing? This is an excellent area for self-realization. Or is it possible to engage in entrepreneurship via the Internet, again, without compromising family relationships, without compromising your role as a mother? Yes, even work outside the home may well be combined with family values and at the same time be quite significant and well paid. Suitable options can always be found, taking into account your abilities. Do you agree that this is possible, dear women? I'm sure you agree. So why do we, or better yet, you, have problems choosing between different values, between the need for family and children and the need for a career? It is obvious that, firstly, many women do not see other opportunities for self-realization that would not harm their personal life, but, on the contrary, would complement it, and secondly, some women have the wrong interest; they want to succeed in those areas that they don't really need. Sometimes, however, a woman has a choice between success in her personal life and success in her career, in some matters, because her family is not very happy, and she is unhappy because, how would it be more correct to say – the wrong soulmate. Well, I already wrote about this - some women are forced to achieve success only in those areas in which they are capable of achieving it, from their point of view. But still, don’t rush, dear women, with the choice of what to devote your life to - don’t push your basic needs under the rug, don’t give up on areas of life that are important to you - look for opportunities to achieve success in them - don’t hide from life at work , in business, in other activities that give you only partial satisfaction with your life. I think you need to fight for happiness, and not just hope that it will come to you someday.

Some women go into business or work with their heads only because they simply do not have a normal, satisfying relationship with a man, they do not have a family that would give them great joy. Therefore, although they can achieve great success in their business, due to the fact that they will devote all their time only to it, they, alas, do not feel complete happiness because of this. You can't fool nature. I do not want to say that every woman must get married, have children and raise them in order to be considered successful, since in some cases this is impossible, for various reasons. I want to say that in some cases, some women themselves deprive themselves of the opportunity to be successful in everything that is important to them, according to correctly set priorities and their natural desires, because they do not solve the problems they have, but prefer to hide from them. Thinking about how to become a rich and successful woman, they do not consider it possible for themselves to be a happy mother and wife at the same time. But it is possible, believe me. Just think about what kind of woman can be called successful - the one who, say, has made a good career for herself, or the one who feels happy? And a woman can feel happy from many things, from a successful career, from realizing herself in some business, and, of course, from a happy family. Another thing is that her life priorities must be correctly set and the woman must have an interest in what she is doing. And this interest, if you wish and if you try, can be instilled in everything. In any case, she must strive to satisfy with all her might the needs that are important to a woman. So a man, children, family, some interesting business with the help of which a woman will realize herself - all this fits perfectly together.

So here is the answer to the question - how to become a successful woman. You just need to interest yourself in a business that will fit perfectly with your need to have a family and children, and strive for success in it. There is no need to strive for stereotyped success, for what other women have achieved - go your own way. If you have a good husband, children who need your attention and a wonderful family in general, but your career is harming it - give it up, do something else - you can realize yourself in many areas that do not harm family values. A person can love anything, as long as his basic needs are satisfied. There is no need to look at other people, other women - they have their own lives, their own problems, their own life experiences, which largely determine their value system. There are women for whom their career is more important than anything else - this is also good, but good for them, for their life situation, for their values. If they are happy that they have succeeded in some business, in some area, then it doesn’t matter what they do, you can only be happy for them - they have found themselves in this life and this is without a doubt a success. But you need to think with your own head about what is important and valuable to you. Don't follow others' example - live by your values.

Let me give you a good example from my life. Although I am not a woman, I can still show you, using the example of my life, how you can achieve success in what is important to each of us. When I was very young and didn’t know very much about life, so I didn’t fully understand what was really important and valuable to me. And I did everything I could, dreaming like many other people - about big money, about fame, about high status in society, and so on. My desires and goals were not much different from the desires and goals of many other men who want to succeed in this life. But when I had a family, I began to rethink a lot in my life. I worked a lot with people, while I didn’t pay enough attention to my family. And it was not very good, both for my family and for me. And the point is not so much that my family was dissatisfied with this, although this, of course, is important, but that I myself was dissatisfied with it. I believe that spouses should spend as much time together as possible in order to live the same life and adhere to many of the same values. I also believe that parents should actively participate in the education and upbringing of their children, so that their children are their children, and not someone else’s. You cannot trust your children to other people, those who will fill them with certain knowledge, instill in them certain values and goals, and shape their worldview while they grow up. This was important to me. And it would seem that this is a conflict; you cannot be successful at work and at the same time devote a lot of time to your family. And this is true if success at work is associated with a specific type of activity to which a person devotes the lion’s share of his attention. But this conflict will not happen if a person decides to do another business, another job that will not harm his family, will not harm himself, due to the fact that he does not pay enough attention to the people dear to him and his children, who, in fact, are his future. So what did I do? I made my choice. I simply changed the type of activity, I took up another job in order to become successful in something that, firstly, is as interesting to me as my previous job, and secondly, and this is especially important, in something that is very important and valuable for me. And at the same time, this type of activity does not tear me away from my family; it complements my value system, and does not kill it. And now I can’t even bring myself to say that I’m not happy, and therefore not successful. Everything suits me, I'm happy with everything. In my opinion, this is a success. Yes, perhaps, if I continued to do the work that I was doing before, I would be much richer, would gain some fame, would become a more significant person, but would this make me a happy person? Judging by the internal discomfort that I experienced, not being able to spend a lot of time with people dear to me - definitely not. Then what kind of success would it be, for whom would it be a success? No, I don’t need that kind of success.

I don’t know if you share my views on life, dear women, but I believe that the question posed in this article about how to become a successful woman is a consequence of the answer to another question - what should be considered success? In other words, you need to decide on your value system before you think about success. As for your capabilities, on which your success largely depends, their limit is sometimes very difficult to determine. Sometimes it seems to a woman that, except in some one thing that she is used to doing, she will not be able to be successful in anything or anywhere else. But as soon as you draw her attention to other opportunities available to her, which she herself was not aware of or which she ignored, her picture of the world immediately changes, and she begins to make completely different plans for life, which are much more consistent with her interests. It is very, very important to understand what you really need and what you really can do. There cannot be success in a person’s life if it connects him with goals that are far from his real desires and needs. Thus, in order to become a successful woman, you need to decide on your values, and then find interest in something that does not contradict these values and begin to actively work in this direction. You yourself can perfectly guess what exactly needs to be done to succeed in any particular business, because sincere interest in some business will help you find all the necessary answers to your questions. I cannot give you detailed instructions on how to achieve success in this or that business, because each of you has your own values, your own goals, your own desires, and therefore your own affairs. Therefore, I will only talk about what is important for the vast majority of women - about relationships with men, without which you will not be able to start a family and have children. Success in this matter will definitely make you happy, even if you cannot realize yourself in anything else.

So, as for men, it is very important to understand one very important truth, not only for you, but also for men - your goals, values and interests should coincide with the goals, values and interests of your partner, as far as possible. If you want to succeed in some matter, say, in business, then your man must be somehow connected with him, or you must involve him, involve him in this business, or in a similar business, in order to move with him in one direction. There is no need to get involved with a slacker who will fool around all day and spend the money you earn, this will inevitably lead to conflicts. But even if you have found such a husband, then try to involve him in your activities so that he becomes a part of it, even the most insignificant one. In other words, connect your relationship with a man, your family with your business, your business, your goals, desires, dreams. Nothing brings people together like a common cause, common goals and values, a common passion for something. And then you will have an excellent reason to make every effort to achieve success in your business, which will be in harmony with your other values, including family values. The ideal option is for the whole family to do one common thing. It's just wonderful. In this case, everyone will be happy with their lives, because everyone will receive the necessary attention to themselves during cooperation. Would you highlight, and perhaps even see, how friendly and happy people live when everyone is doing one common thing together, which they all love, which is interesting to them all. It is clear that not every business can be shared with all members of your family, at least with your soulmate, but you can find such a business. I wrote about this above - it all depends on the interest that can be instilled in everything.

Of course, success in a woman’s life depends on many other factors that I have not mentioned here. We will talk about them in other articles in order to consider them properly. In this article, I showed you how important it is to adhere to the right value system and strive for success in life within those values. I’ll just say a few more words about motivation, which is also very important for success in life.

Motivation, I believe, ideally should also be based primarily on cognitive interest, as well as passion, vanity, the desire for self-realization and reasonable greed, and not on necessity caused by fear. Although it must be admitted that fear can very well motivate a person to action, it also seriously limits his creative abilities. If you become motivated by fear, which awakens in you the need to achieve something, then you will be determined to work hard, to plow a lot, and not to invent something, to create, as is the case in those cases when interest is the motivation.

It is also very important to properly reward yourself so as not to extinguish your motivation. You don’t need to buy yourself anything, please yourself with something, have fun, simply because you want it - link your desires with your achievements in order to always demand greater and better results from yourself. Let's say you want to buy yourself a new dress and you have money for it that you honestly earned. It would seem that nothing is stopping you from realizing your desire. But don’t rush to do this - the desire needs to be tied to some new achievement of yours. You must set a condition for yourself - I will buy myself this dress if I do this and that in the near future, if I achieve some goal. And since a dress is not such a big desire, the goal can and should be short-term, that is, achievable in the very near future, but nevertheless requiring some effort from you. It doesn’t matter whether we are talking about a job where you need to achieve some result, or about relationships with people, for example, with the same man, in which you need to put things in order - just do something that needs to be done, achieve it in something, albeit small, but success to deserve a new dress. If you’ve done something, you can reward yourself; if you haven’t done it, don’t buy yourself anything, don’t please yourself with anything. Do with yourself as trainers do with animals, whom they reward only when they successfully perform some trick. This is a very good way of motivation, I often use it myself. I have money for something that I need, that I want to buy, but I don’t buy anything for myself until I achieve some new result in this or that business that I am currently doing. And that’s why I’m always highly motivated to work. For success, the right motivation is everything. Without it, sometimes even good knowledge and skills will not help you succeed. We are such creatures that, either out of great interest in something, we do something, or out of necessity, when, as they say, life itself makes us move. I prefer to use my interest in something as motivation, although sometimes I use fear to not relax.

Thus, I believe that a successful woman is a woman who knows what and why she wants and achieves success in those areas that are important to her, that correspond to her value system, and also, and this is the most important thing - This is the kind of woman who not only feels happy herself, but also makes other people happy. I sincerely apologize to those of you, dear women, who hold different points of view on this issue. I respect your opinion very much, so in no way do I insist that my point of view on women’s happiness and the way to achieve it is the ultimate truth. But if you agree with me, then I will be infinitely happy if you follow my advice and thanks to them, but to a greater extent, of course, thanks to yourself, you will achieve the success you need.

Please decide on your goals, values, desires, understand your needs, evaluate your capabilities - and make sure that everything you need from life is in harmony with each other and complements each other. And then just start doing what you need to do, and everything will work out for you - you will become a successful woman, I promise. If you don’t know how to figure it all out, how to understand what you want and how to link what you want with each other so that nothing conflicts with anything, you can turn to me for help. I have good experience in solving such problems, and, as you now know, thanks, among other things, to my own life experience. My opinion is this: if you become happy, you will be successful. And if you are successful, but at the same time unhappy, then this is not real success.