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General characteristics of an introvert

The first description of two radically opposite types of people belongs to the famous psychologists Jung and Eysenck.
They distinguished extroverts, as people focused on the external world, and introverts, as people focused primarily on the phenomena of internal life. Therefore, to the question: who is an introvert, we answer that this is a person for whom his thoughts, fantasies, reasoning are much more important than the real events occurring in life. An extrovert (antonym for the word “Introvert” - editor’s note) is in the thick of things. He first perceives signals from reality, and then turns them into thoughts and impressions.

The peculiarity of an introvert is that for him the background of his internal state is primary and what is happening around him, he perceives not directly, but through a prism, as if looking out of a window. “At home” he is only alone with himself, with others he is always “away”. And when visiting, we are always tense, we monitor our words, actions, and other people’s reactions, and this tires us.

Extroverts like to experience more, introverts like to know more about what they are experiencing. Marty Olsen Laney. The Invincible Introvert

Introvert Behavior

It is not always possible to identify such a person immediately. Many people try to appear very sociable in public and support any conversation. But there is something that gives them away. A potential introvert almost always avoids talking about himself. Everything that concerns introverts themselves is not subject to discussion; personal remains their personal. They will easily carry on a conversation on unrelated topics, but speaking their minds or talking about personal things is not their style.

This type of person has few friends, but they are real, although they also do not know all the details of their friend’s life. Introverts will not call everyone they meet friend.

It is difficult for such people to stay in society for a long time. For one hour of communication, they need a couple of hours of rest alone. These are people who like to delve into themselves, reflect on their lives, analyze every situation and draw some conclusions.

These are unemotional people, all their feelings are hidden. Introverts almost always seem balanced and calm, even in the most critical situations. Making them laugh heartily is also not easy. In companies they prefer to remain silent, listen and observe. Yes, these are great listeners who will really dive into what others are saying and relate to their problems. Before speaking, an introvert will think several times so that it is appropriate and does not offend others.

Introvert - character traits

  • Communication is not spontaneous, but always has a clear, defined goal, even if it is not visible from the outside. You always feel tension with an introvert, even if the person seems open and emotional to you.
  • They can live painlessly for a long time without company.
  • They clearly maintain the boundaries of their personality. It manifests itself in immediate transactions of the interlocutor returning to the starting position, increased sensitivity and temper.
  • They think through their actions carefully.
  • Secondary type of reaction to an event: they “chew” an unpleasant situation for a long time, constantly returning their thoughts to it.
  • Developed fantasy and imagination.
  • Observation, penchant for analysis.
  • Patience.
  • Control over emotions.
  • Determination.

Features of education

A calm, introverted child who plays in his room is every parent’s dream.

But not everyone can perceive his other traits as positively: isolation, shyness, hovering over thoughts and a long time of transition to action.

Introverted children try to meet social demands: to be more active, communicate with peers, and express themselves actively in class.

This can affect their self-esteem as they will feel "not like everyone else/just right."

Parents should:

  1. accept the child with all his characteristics;
  2. do not try to “fix”, but support attempts to build contacts with other children, give unobtrusive advice;
  3. leave space to restore your internal energy: the opportunity to close yourself in a room, read a book.

Main features

An introvert is closer to loneliness

This concept was first discovered by the Swiss psychologist Carl Jung. In a general way, he defined an introvert as a person with interests aimed at external objects of the surrounding world.

Introvert in life

An introvert loves a secluded lifestyle, solitary behavior, in which he feels great.
According to many people with this personality type, they often feel ashamed of who they are, often wanting to become someone else. It is difficult for such people to explain their position, choosing the right words. And in particular, it is more difficult to believe that inherent traits remain a part of yourself when those around you have a different understanding and view of the world. In a word, an introvert is unlikely to be understood by someone who is not one.

These characteristics and characteristics are more characteristic of stable introverts. Stable introverts include phlegmatic people. Phlegmatic is a strong, sedentary type of temperament. Outwardly, these people are difficult to distinguish from extroverts. They can be quite sociable, easily make contact, cheerful, and their speech is distinguished by subtle humor.

You can understand that you are an introvert only by strictly maintaining a distance (you constantly feel a line that cannot be crossed) and by your reaction to stress. Under stress, stable introverts turn silent. They “digest” the problem within themselves and need peace. It's quite difficult for loved ones.

Introvert - features of upbringing in childhood

Introvert in childhood
The character traits of an introvert depend on upbringing and self-esteem. Extroverted parents try to make their child their own. They consider natural isolation, shyness, and a tendency to think for a long time about their actions and deeds as character flaws.

Children try to meet requirements, try to “correct themselves,” behave against their nature and thereby exhaust the nervous system. Low self-esteem, self-doubt and a negative self-image are formed. Throughout their lives, improperly raised introverts may consider themselves “freaks” because they do not have access to the ease of communication of extroverts and they will never be able to become like their parents with a different personality type.

An introvert’s personality will only be harmonious when he:

  • We accept our parents and loved ones with all the peculiarities and cockroaches.
  • It is brought up not by the “break” method, but by the method of pre-development of missing character traits. He learns to communicate, make contact, and competently protect his borders.
  • Has opportunities to restore energy: his own room, personal time and space for reflection and solitude.

The theory of Carl Gustav Jung

The description of 2 main life directions became Carl Jung's most famous contribution to the development of psychology. According to his developments, 2 components exist in a person at the same time, but one of them manifests itself more clearly and becomes dominant. Jung insisted that typology is innate or acquired immediately after birth.

The psychologist explained that one direction in a person does not exist in isolation. One of them is the main one, the other is auxiliary. The different magnitudes of the presence of introversion and extraversion explain the diversity of personalities.

Introversion in psychology is, according to Jung’s teachings, an orientation towards contemplation, immersion in the thought process. Extraversion is, on the contrary, an interest in the outside world and other people.

To more fully describe human characters, Jung identified four main psychological functions:

  • thinking;
  • sensation;
  • feeling;
  • intuition.

As a result of combining the psychotype and one of the functions, 8 different typological portraits were obtained:

  • An extroverted thinker is a type that acts in objective reality and makes decisions thoughtfully. In a positive sense, they are reformers and innovators. In the negative - emotionally poor individuals, incapable of deep feelings.
  • Extravented emotional – subjects who tend to give a logical emotional assessment of the surrounding situation.

    Psychotypes introversion and extraversion according to Jung

  • Extraventated sensory – a type of people who determine the value of their environment by the strength of the pleasure they experience. These are aesthetes enjoying life.
  • Extravented intuitive - distinguished by extremely developed intuition, knows how to inspire. He quickly lights up with ideas and also cools down quickly. Among this type there are a lot of those who are called adventurers.
  • Introverted thinking - characterized by thinking that is distant from the surrounding reality. The creator of theories that are rarely applied in practice.
  • An introverted emotional person is a person within whom all sorts of emotions are boiling, while others may consider him cold and insensitive.
  • Introvented sensory - the orientation of this type, unlike the extravented one, is directed not at the object, but at the feelings that it evokes.
  • Introverted intuitive - this characteristic suits many science fiction writers and those called psychics.

Introvert in relationships

Marriages of mutual introverts are very strong

Psychologists dream: if only all married couples were made up of extroverted men and introverted women, a worldwide idyll would ensue. A strong, authoritative husband and a soft, submissive wife are the recipe for conflict-free family happiness. It becomes unclear what to do with introverted men and extroverted women?

It's unclear and unnecessary. Because family happiness and healthy relationships are influenced by completely different parameters than introversion or extroversion. An extroverted woman may try to take power into her own hands, but an introverted man will find his own ways of influencing his active spouse. Silence is a simple and effective method that will drive any extrovert crazy.

Two introverts in a family will understand each other and will be able to agree on a reasonable distribution of responsibilities. But only if they understand and recognize their characteristics.

Logical-sensory introvert

This type of personality as a logical-sensory introvert is a realistic person, with strong logical thinking and a practical approach to life and the knowledge that he possesses. He will be comfortable working in structures with a strict hierarchy, for example, in the army, government agencies or in the administrative apparatus.

The profession of a lawyer, a process controller in a company, or an official is well suited for him, since a logical-sensory introvert loves power and has determination; he strives to lead everywhere and take control of everything. This is a careerist who strives for a high position in society. This type of personality loves order very much and does not tolerate when someone violates his personal order. He assigns his own place to each item. For a logical-sensory introvert, comfort is very important, which he is happy to create himself.

Such a person maintains good relationships with others, even if he does not like them. He is always polite and behaves correctly. But if someone is on the list of his enemies, then he will not be able to forgive the insults. He reacts very painfully to criticism of himself and his abilities, so he behaves cautiously and suspiciously with new people.

Jobs for introverts

The main thing for an introvert is to choose the right profession.
Working with introverts is not easy. They are perfectionists, workaholics and demand the same from others. As managers, they are very strict. When it comes to working in a team, introverts prefer (and even choose) a team with a small number of colleagues. Small groups allow you to feel “like a fish in water,” which will definitely affect the result. In carrying out their duties, introverts try to remain responsible until the end.

Deep introverts prefer working from home. Emotionally unstable introverts are good at creative professions. The advantage of this type is involvement in one's business and responsibility.

Types of introverts

Logical-Intuitive introvert (Robespierre)

  • Has a strong analytical mind.
  • Capable of developing new revolutionary methods.
  • Loves solitude and quiet office work.
  • Unpretentious and ascetic.
  • Doesn't take care of himself.
  • Feels calm in a place well protected from prying eyes.

Logical-Sensory Introvert

Finds his holy grail among thousands of others.
This type of introvert defines a goal for himself, analyzes known methods, ways to achieve the goal, and unerringly chooses the best one.

He hones the chosen method of achieving the goal to perfection and achieves success. It is a priori impossible to lead him off this path.


- lives according to a schedule. He has complete order everywhere: in life, at work, in relationships and on the shelf in the bathroom. The only trouble that can throw a rational person out of balance is the appearance of free time. He takes into account human sloppiness, but if the trolleybus arrived 5 minutes earlier, where should those extra five minutes go? The material world rests on logic. Rationals respect only facts; they calculate, calculate and build everything.


– this is a person for whom the words “order” and “punctuality” turn into a complete nightmare. He doesn’t like chaos either, but he can’t do anything about the chaos in his life and around him. Irrational is pure energy and emotion. Plans are always impossible for him. If the irrational fulfilled the plan by 60%, this is the best result of all possible. The mission of irrationals is to generate ideas. They do not accept rules and therefore easily go beyond the boundaries. Everything new in the world comes from irrationals.

Emotionally unstable introvert

These are people with obvious signs of maladjustment in society.
They experience unbalanced emotions, low self-esteem, timidity, self-doubt, and hysteria. An introvert is a person who, in a minute, can imagine an unpleasant situation and its catastrophic consequences. To the real state of affairs, he adds fantastic details that enhance the negative connotation of the event, and does not realize that these are just probabilities.

Introverted girl: what is she like?

Belonging to the weaker sex greatly complicates the life of an introvert.
An introverted woman is forced to engage in a huge number of interactions. The female social role of mother and wife itself does not imply seclusion. The child must be taken to the clinic, playground, kindergarten or school. This depletes mental strength and requires additional recovery time.

Unstable introverts are people with extraordinary charm

A high level of emotionality, subtle sensitivity to detail, observation and a sharp mind help them literally get under the skin of other people.
But they are not able to follow the entire huge body of social rules. Partly due to the fact that they simply do not understand them or because they are not capable of a quick reaction and instant analysis of the situation. They are considered lovable psychos. Among unstable introverts there are many famous actors and simply bright personalities. On the one hand, they need peace and care, on the other, they crave recognition and approval. Unstable introverts are capable of antisocial shocking behavior. The famous trick of Marilyn Monroe, when she congratulated President Kennedy on his birthday almost topless, is just from this series.

Features of an unstable introvert

According to Eysenck's concept, an emotionally unstable introvert is a melancholic person.
To the previous characteristics for this personality type should be added:

  • High sensitivity to negative stimuli.
  • Suspiciousness, tendency to negative forecasting, dramatization of events.
  • Self-doubt, low self-esteem, timidity.
  • “Blurring” of personality boundaries.
  • They do not tolerate prolonged loneliness well and are dependent on social contacts.
  • Fatigue, nervous system rigidity.
  • Stiffness.
  • Bad or inappropriate jokes.
  • Emotions are poorly controlled.

All types of temperament are considered innate, but some psychologists express an opinion about the artificial origin of the melancholic temperament. There is a hypothesis that a weak type of nervous system is formed as a result of improper upbringing and psychotraumatization in early and teenage years.

A stable introvert in an extroverted world is lucky and successful

Friedrich Nietzsche is an introvert.
He does not waste time on trifles, does not give in to momentary emotions, and steadily follows his goal. It can be compared to a boa constrictor. If the boa constrictor’s “thermal imager” has detected and selected a victim, nothing can save it. It is impossible to interrupt the path of a stable socialized introvert to his intended goal. “I see the goal, I don’t see the obstacles” - that’s about them.

Extroverts retreat and give up after a few unsuccessful attempts. They can be overcome by emotions of despair and disappointment. It is difficult for them to get out from under the rubble of broken hopes. An introvert will simply analyze the mistakes and move on. This is its undeniable advantage.

Types of introverts

There are several classifications.

Temperament classification

Despite the general psychotype, introverts differ in their types of temperament, and this makes them unique and inimitable in their own way. On this basis, psychologists distinguish the following types.

  • Introvert-phlegmatic

Unshakable, persistent and surprisingly calm. It is almost impossible to make him angry; he is simply incapable of aggression and an outburst of emotions. All decisions are balanced, all feelings are under control. He will never trust his intuition, because he is used to always analyzing everything and double-checking it several times. Serious, focused on a specific task, responsible. Seeks to avoid conflicts. The hardest thing for him is to get out of his comfort zone.

  • Introverted-melancholic

Closed, reserved, unable and unwilling to make contact. Vulnerable to society. Very sensitive and worried about any reason. Fine nervous organization leads to constant stressful situations and a depressive state, vegetative-vascular diseases. Recovery is only possible in complete solitude. But they are creative geniuses.

  • Introvert-choleric

A very rare, almost impossible type, since choleric people usually do not restrain themselves in emotions, unlike introverts. And yet, this temperament may well overlap with such a psychotype. The result is a character whose owner outwardly communicates well, is not withdrawn, but after this he feels a complete loss of strength and needs to restore it in solitude. Moreover, the longer it lasts, the better he feels.

  • Introverted-sanguine

The same rare type as the previous one. The energy from such people is in full swing, but they direct it exclusively within themselves, to replenish their own internal resources. A sort of extroverted introvert who has excellent intuition and knows how to find comfort both in communication and in solitude.

Socionic classification

Socionics (the concept of 16 psychotypes based on Jung’s teachings) also has its own classification of introverted personalities:

  • Logical-sensory introvert

One of the most purposeful. Always achieves what is planned, brings the matter to the end, obeys a single path to follow. He calculates everything in advance and avoids mistakes, as he analyzes every detail. It is impossible to stray from the intended path.

  • Logical-intuitive introvert

A theorist, a lover of the scientific approach, often resorts to classifications. He is attracted to new ideas, but he is not able to implement them: all his diagrams, plans and drawings remain on paper. Benevolent, but due to his lack of emotion, he is often considered too cold and heartless. He loves coziness and comfort, but often does not know how to create it himself, so he needs a caring and loving partner.

  • Ethical-sensory introvert

He experiences a storm of emotions, but keeps them exclusively within himself. Deeply understands other people, knows how to sympathize and empathize. Strives for harmony and beauty in everything. Has good taste. He tries to end any quarrel peacefully. Curious, constantly busy with self-development.

  • Ethical-intuitive introvert

A man of Napoleonic plans: he studies everything new, and on the basis of this he hatches some brilliant idea about transforming the world. Throughout my life I have been fascinated by it. But in practice, he cannot implement it due to his shyness and problems with communication. Unpredictable, changeable in mood, because he is too dependent on his idea.

  • Sensory-logical

He loves comfort, so he will prefer sports and comfortable clothes to beautiful and fashionable clothes. He doesn’t allow anyone stranger to come close to him, even on a physical level: he doesn’t like touching, hugging, or kissing. Caring towards close and dear people. Economical and prudent, he relies on common sense in all endeavors. He does not know how to hide his emotions and may say unnecessary things in an argument.

  • Sensory-ethical

Soft, charming, has good taste and an innate sense of elegance, appreciates comfort and coziness. Achieves a good material standard of living through clear planning of his activities. Doesn't like fuss and confusion. Does not give in to strong-willed pressure from outside. He tries to keep his distance from others, to be even and calm with everyone.

  • Intuitive-logical

Subtly notices all the details in any matter. Careful in making decisions, calculates every step and upcoming costs. Leads a healthy lifestyle. He is ironic, loves solitude, and is irritated by noisy and nervous people. Scrupulous and meticulous to the point of pedantry. Independent and self-sufficient.

  • Intuitive-ethical

Elegant, dreamy, amorous romantic. He is attracted to everything beautiful, to art. She loves reading poetry, going to concerts and museums. He tries to understand everyone and help as much as he can. Has a subtle sense of humor. All his life he dreams of becoming part of bohemia, meeting artists, poets, designers and other connoisseurs of beauty.

Communication classification

Many psychologists oppose a clear line between extroverted and introverted personality types. Depending on their communication skills and characteristics, they divided introverts into the following types.

  • Social

They do not correspond to the general type of introverts, as they may well be sociable, laid-back, humorous, cheerful and talkative. True, they show all these features of their character exclusively in a close circle of friends and family. In any other society, including at school and at work, they are quiet, silent, withdrawn.

  • Thinkers

Oddly enough, this group also destroys the traditional view of the introverted psychotype. They may well be where there are a lot of people: they go to corporate parties, meetings and other collective gatherings. They do this only so that they will be left behind and not be asked (or forced) to attend the next event. But during these visits, thoughts are far away: most often they are thinking about something, drawing up diagrams, drawing in a notebook or writing poetry. This is their normal state. They are hidden from others in their own cocoon.

  • Alarming

They panic and get upset as soon as they find themselves in crowded places. They are afraid of new acquaintances, surprises, spontaneity, any surprise. They can only be calmed by loneliness and complete detachment from everything around them. If they find themselves in an unpleasant situation, they become fixated on it and feel guilty.

  • Discreet

They think through everything in advance - tactics. Already in the morning they know how to avoid going to the boss’s office and minimize communication with colleagues. At the same time, they are prepared in advance for surprises, so that they are not taken by surprise: they always have a couple of stock phrases in reserve and a cold smile, demonstrating complete detachment from you (and from the entire world around you).

Is it difficult for an introvert to be himself?

You often hear a series of seemingly harmless questions: “Why don’t you want to go to the party?”
or “Why do you look so unhappy?” But sometimes it is very difficult to give an answer. However, this does not mean that introverts cannot have fun or have fun in the middle of a crowd. They just want to do it around the right crowd, the right people who are like them, and most often in a quieter environment.

If you're an introvert, don't take the missed opportunity to be the center of attention personally. And remember a few simple things that distinguish a true introvert (see below).

Enjoyment of solitude, hostility of crowds

Yes, introverts love to spend time with themselves
. It is a proven fact that they get the maximum benefit from it. This gives you a chance to gather your thoughts and strength. Such solitude allows you to focus on things that introverts would like to do - for example, read, evaluate the past day in order to draw conclusions for the future. As a rule, introverts use their free time everywhere, but more often they need quiet places for privacy.

Large crowds of people make introverts feel tired. They cannot be surrounded by a crowd for long.

Even when they attend concerts, parades or other social events, they do not look far ahead, so as not to feel like they are in the center. Over a long period of time it becomes unbearable. Introverts have to suppress their emotions, and often such people want to scream or cover their ears. Of course, the rules of behavior do not allow this; the introvert will try to quickly retire to a calmer place.

An introvert is a person who, in a few minutes, can build a logical chain of illusions in his head and become depressed because of it.

Ethical-intuitive introvert

An ethical-intuitive introvert is a person who is driven by emotions. He wants to change the world according to his beliefs. He makes all decisions based on feelings. An ethical-intuitive introvert is a keen person, so he likes to jump from one thing to another, as he is drawn to new knowledge and loves new ideas.

An ethical-intuitive introvert is a charming and attractive person for the people around him. Always looks neat and elegant. Knows how to make a good impression on people. He will always prefer art to science. He is endowed with a good sense of humor. His behavior directly depends on his emotional state, so he often looks unpredictable. After vigorous activity, such a person needs solitude, where he can reflect on his emotions and accumulate strength. Leading everyday life is a burden for him, he can hardly be called a good owner, he tends to spend money on unnecessary but beautiful things.

In his work, he needs to be given a strict daily routine, since he cannot organize himself and follow the regime. He is easy to control if you speak to him in the correct, friendly manner. If an ethical-intuitive introvert does not like a person’s behavior, he can openly say so and even stop communicating with such a person, sometimes end the relationship completely. He will always notice and emphasize the advantages of a partner or friend and can use them to achieve a common goal.

Love for others

Despite their behavior, which is atypical for many, introverts have warm feelings for those around them.
It seems that they are cold, and therefore do not perceive the warm energy of their interlocutor. Be patient. Give these people some time to get used to you. For the most part, they want to get to know you better and enjoy your company, even if they don't show it openly. Introverts are big fans of getting to the bottom of the truth. They are ready to look for meaning in the most insignificant little things, sometimes thereby causing irritation. If someone treats the problem more superficially, then such introverts will find their own reason for everything.

At the same time, they prefer to be surrounded by fewer people whom they have already studied on a deep level. In other words, every new acquaintance entails a lot of analysis. For this reason, introverts make friends in small groups, knowing everything there is to know about each other.

Excellent listeners, introverts draw information from the interlocutor if he is willing to open up. This is seen as an additional chance to get to know a new person. As a rule, they are ready to get really carried away by it. And they often get irritated by little things, if these little things prevent them from devoting full attention to their interlocutor.

An introvert is a person who...

It is worth considering that each person is an individual. Therefore, generalized traits are given to understand who an introvert is in simple words:

  1. They prefer solitude . It is difficult for them to constantly be in a noisy and hectic environment, so they prefer to replace them with quiet moments with themselves, indulging in reflection. They tolerate the absence of communication for a long time without pain. But I don’t mind talking to a good person who can listen to their thoughts and share theirs.
  2. They know how to make friends and build strong relationships . If an introvert has already chosen a person for himself, then he will be a reliable and faithful partner who will take care of his condition. But at the same time, introverts do not strive to make new acquaintances.
  3. Maintain personal boundaries . If someone wants to get in, they will either not let him do it, or next time they will avoid this person.
  4. Prone to creativity . Introverts perceive the outside world on a more subtle level, so they can see more beauty and something interesting and catchy in it. They often fantasize and become fixated on their feelings, which also gives a response in art.
  5. Observant . Attentive to any details.
  6. Prone to introspection . They often engage in reflection (how is that?), so they can get stuck in negative situations and constantly replay them. Sometimes they have philosophical conversations.
  7. They plan their actions ahead . Therefore, they are rarely late for meetings.
  8. Patient . They know how to control their emotions (how is that?).
  9. Do not depend much on other people's opinions . They can set a goal and go towards it, no matter what.

Introverts are connoisseurs of beauty

Introverts have a sense of taste.
They know how to have fun and are not boring at all! They just want to save emotions for the right people or events that, albeit rarely, happen in their lives. They are capable of silly things, blessed with creativity, and can be loud. Show up at karaoke and sing a song in front of everyone? No problem! But, of course, you can get more pleasure from reading your favorite book. The character of an introvert always remains a conscious thing for him. They understand what niche they occupy in society, sometimes dreaming of becoming extroverts - more relaxed, free, simple. Often indulging in thought, they imagine how they will find themselves in a large group of people, what they will do, how they will behave. It’s not difficult to fantasize in your head, but putting your plans into practice is not easy. And yet, daydreaming about how to become an extrovert is acceptable.

If you invite an introvert to a party, don't expect him to have fun. A huge number of people is not a pleasure for them. Even when there is a really good atmosphere around, the feeling of discomfort will not go away. This does not mean that such people are not interesting or do not know how to relax. It is quite difficult to remain yourself in front of a large crowd of people.

For an introvert, it is important not only to live calmly during the day, but also at night. Many people like to stay from Friday without leaving the city. You can go to a meeting with friends or even a party, but it would be foolish not to take advantage of the opportunity to be in silence. When you live in a city, it's hard to escape the crowds and noise. Therefore, the best way would be a good book or an interesting film.

Because of this, the reluctance to be in the spotlight is quite understandable. Introverts don't like public speaking when hundreds of eyes are on them. Difficulties also arise at work when you have to speak at a meeting or answer in the presence of others. It’s more pleasant to become a listener and hear someone else’s point of view. But this does not mean at all that there is no opinion.

Ethical-sensory introvert

An ethical-sensory introvert is a very emotional person, for him the world of emotions is very important. He understands and feels other people well. This type of personality is a creative artist who strives to experience life in all its colors and manifestations. Strives for beauty and harmony in everything. An ethical-sensory introvert in love is also an artist; he needs a muse that evokes strong emotions in him and that he will admire. But, if he does not see reciprocity and attention from the opposite sex, he will easily change the object of his love. Good taste is manifested in his clothes, in the choice of dishes, in the furnishings of the house. This type of personality always has an original style of clothing.

An ethical-sensory introvert is a very charming, friendly and sociable person. Likes to surround himself with people who give only positive emotions. He feels people well, so he can adapt to the mood of his interlocutor. He does not tolerate negative emotions well; he does not tolerate jealousy and mistrust from close people.

Due to his heightened emotionality, he can be quick-tempered, but he always tries to end disputes peacefully. He loves noisy companies and parties, and knows how to cheer up those around him. In everyday matters, he is a non-conflict person and will always find understanding with loved ones. He treats the people around him well, but does not impose his company on those who do not need it. One can only be truly frank with close people, whose circle is not wide.

An ethical-sensory introvert is a very inquisitive person, he is attracted to everything new, mysterious and inexplicable. Constantly strives for new knowledge. Often commits irrational actions. Such people can be found among accountants and financiers, but they do not get real pleasure from their work.

In a work environment, he can only accept criticism of his abilities if it is presented in a friendly manner. In a team and with others he behaves gently; it is not his rules to control and put pressure on others. But he extends total control to close people and can be very persistent and demanding.

Tell about yourself, learn about others

Who doesn't like to brag about their achievements?
Talking about success is inherent in human behavior. Introverts tend to get to know their interlocutor to the extent that this will allow them to talk about themselves in the future. Well-read and literate, they can support the conversation with valuable advice. At the same time, they are afraid if they are considered too talkative, so they always maintain balance. People who want a sincere relationship. In life you have to deal with lies and betrayal, and feel broken. Loving an introvert means being honest with him from day one. In turn, they will not open up right away, first “testing the waters,” that is, getting to know you. This may take some time, so be patient. You will be rewarded later - communicating with introverts will bring you pleasure.

Attention to detail and the interlocutor

“Can we shut up already?”

A person can be so busy with everyday activities that many things pass him by. An introvert is less likely to miss minor details. And if the problem has been solved or solved in another way, they are ready to offer an alternative option. Moreover, they rarely dare to say this out loud, but they always keep the options in mind. Studies of this type of people show that they can be good leaders.

When communicating with a person, an introvert will try to understand him as much as possible. Even if the point of view turns out to be the opposite, he will make every effort to look at the picture from a different perspective. And it will almost never make your interlocutor feel inferior or guilty - before judging, you will have to thoroughly analyze all the pros and cons.

People often assume that introversion and shyness are necessary allies. And although there is a lot in common between the concepts, this is far from true. An introvert is not afraid to meet people, he does it in his own way.

But if a partner has a high level of energy, he has every chance of tiring his interlocutor. It is important to constantly feel the balance in which both people are. If the first one tends not to feel tired, then the second one will need a short break. The best option is to interrupt communication for a while.

How difficult is it for a person to take a step forward? Yes, there are people who rush into battle without thinking about the consequences. An introvert will always weigh all potential outcomes before making a decision.

Sometimes this process is delayed so much that the need to make a choice disappears. The only wish in this situation would be to analyze as little as possible, although this is problematic.

What are the benefits of an introverted woman for a man?

Mysterious and extraordinary, outwardly extremely calm, but in fact it is a fire of emotions. It is difficult to meet such a woman. A man is waiting for feedback, but you won’t get it from an introvert. This creates obstacles in the early stages of dating. Such a woman knows all her shortcomings and does not suffer from narcissism, so after a certain period of time it becomes easy to communicate with her. Possessing extreme observation, an introvert sees all the shortcomings . But he does not condemn a man for smoking or drinking, being engaged in a non-prestigious occupation, or not dressing “haute couture.”

But if an introverted lady finds “her” man, she opens up to him completely . She has no secrets from him. She wants to be around, she has a formed image of a happy life in her soul. Having taken a “step forward”, a man will be surprised at how many more interesting ideas and plans his chosen one can offer.

What is it like sexually?

Another myth is that sex for an introvert is a disgusting thing, and one’s own attraction is an abnormal manifestation of the body.

Such a woman believes that sex is not only a physical, but also a spiritual connection, and therefore pays attention to detail. “Quickly, quickly” will not work with her; during the process she will definitely pay special attention to what her partner likes and will achieve his complete satisfaction . At the same time, he does not hesitate to say what exactly he prefers, and will ask you to do it. Since an introvert is an expert in everything, this character trait also manifests itself in sex. So the sensual, slow, stunning process until complete orgasm is achieved is the drive that awaits the partner of a woman of this type in a sexual relationship.

Is work the main thing or the secondary thing?

An introvert will not work only for big money. It is important for her to invest her ideas in grandiose projects . Competition and working in a noisy office with a lot of empty conversations, smoking rooms and lunch breaks are not for her. It seems that she is unable to live in a constant state of stress. But she can get ready on time, because she is prudent and very productive. Organizational skills, understanding of people and a sensitive attitude give her the opportunity to easily solve the problem that has arisen. Maybe that’s why there are many introverts of the “weaker sex” among lawyers and jurists.

Interesting! She likes to work remotely, without experiencing discomfort without personal communication with the customer. For example, a blogger, writer, designer.

Possession of good knowledge in a certain topic and the ability to work with a large amount of information is suitable for scientists, IT specialists, SMM professionals, consulting - all these are professions accessible to an introvert, in demand and well paid. The extrovert will leave the meticulous and methodically scrupulous study of the material and delving into the details of the topic for later. But only an introvert is able to get to the very essence .

What is family to her?

For a person who is unable to compromise in love and is obsessed with details, starting a family seems impossible. However, an introverted woman really appreciates the slightest manifestation of care and attention. Such a wife will fill the family with harmony and mutual understanding if she is given the opportunity to enjoy loneliness in her personal space .

This will be the “very best” mother who jumps up in the middle of the night when the child calls, she will have no problems answering the baby’s questions, and she will never say “Ask daddy.” In addition, this is a wife who does not look around, waiting for the reaction of other men (and why, because the best one is with her).

Phobias and fads

Interesting! Introverts are often called social phobics. If the former need solitude for relaxation, they communicate with people, and for them the opinions of others mean little, then for the latter the main defense is self-isolation from society, which they are afraid of and, nevertheless, try to meet some of its standards.

Can a woman's desire to be alone be called a phobia? It used to be called “I went to powder my nose.” When there are three children in the house and you can’t hide from them anywhere, then the box from under the refrigerator standing in the yard will become a “shelter for a weary traveler.” You can call it a deviation, but who determines this?

How does an introvert like to relax?

Perhaps Iceland is suitable for her - a country of Martian landscapes, where you can be alone with yourself and miss people.

Group travel with a quick change of places is clearly not for an introverted woman . Her pace of life determines her routes around the world. It may be that the beauty of famous places on the globe is not her option at all. Hiding in a small mountain hut with only a fireplace and a kerosene lamp, as well as a lot of books, is the ultimate dream.

How to deal with an introverted woman?

Maybe the presence of a flair of mystery attracts men to such ladies? “I clenched my hands under a black veil, why am I pale today?” Solve it, dear ones, you can’t still pave the way with defeated women’s hearts! Finally, turn on your brains.

Not everyone enjoys throwing money and a fancy restaurant, even in Monte Carlo. Well, she doesn't need it. If you really touched your heart, be patient . This woman will understand that you are not a random person in her life. And if you are tactful, polite, and present yourself correctly, then consider victory yours.

How to find common ground with an introvert?

Just be kind and respect the inherent need for this type of person to be alone.
Not only extroverts, but also other introverts sometimes feel awkward around quiet and vulnerable introverted individuals. They are probably worried about the question: “Is it really necessary to constantly restrain yourself so as not to offend this person?” We all want to be relaxed and natural, but relationships flow more smoothly if we take each other's needs and interests into account.

The following suggestions from The Happy Introvert are for people of all personality types who have to deal with introverts:

Finding a common language with an introvert

  • If you want to talk, ask if this is a good time to talk, instead of assuming it's a given.
  • Often, without clarifying questions, it is impossible to determine whether an introvert is preoccupied with something, is simply lost in thought, or wants to be left alone.
  • Help the introvert relax and feel safe, and show interest in their worldview.
  • Be gentle with an introvert—loud voices and dramatic expressions of emotion can frighten them. He will accept your point of view faster if you do not put pressure or force him to choose, but convey it persistently but tactfully.
  • If the problem is making contact, come up with a creative solution. One option was offered by Dr. Elaine Chernova, an extrovert by nature: “I considered a patient named Bob to be a passive-aggressive introvert, since I had to wait a long time for an answer while he looked around and thought about something, as if not noticing me. Realizing that he wasn't trying to get on my nerves, I started doing other things, forcing him to follow me. He pondered the question for some time and finally came up with an answer. This method of communication suited both of us.”
  • When an introvert wants to be left alone, remember that his nature requires this and he is not trying to get rid of you. For example, let's take the famous actor Anthony Hopkins. Being an introvert, nevertheless, sometimes he can be very sociable, but he prefers to do his favorite things that are not related to acting (playing the piano, composing music and traveling by car) without the company of other people. In one interview, he said: “I usually have enough company with myself.”

    “One is a company, two are already a crowd.” The replica belongs to the hero of Oscar Levant in the film “An American in Paris”

  • Respect the wishes of people close to you with an introverted personality if they want to be alone in difficult moments of life. According to Anthony Storr: “In a culture that believes that interpersonal relationships are the best remedy for all suffering, it is sometimes difficult to convince well-intentioned helpers that not only emotional support, but solitude is also therapeutic.”
  • If you're feeling frustrated that your introverted friend isn't responding emotionally enough to something, try paying more attention to the words, rather than how they're said. Multiply his every expression of emotion by ten.
  • Pay attention to nonverbal signs of affection. Sometimes it is easier for introverts to express their feelings not in words, but in writing or through some kind of action.
  • If one of your introverted friends or relatives withdraws and watches from the sidelines alone, don't think that they are unhappy.
  • Invite your introvert to join in the fun, but don't pressure him.
  • Be careful with the adjectives you use for introverts: perhaps instead of the adjective “passive”, it is better to use the words “shy” and “delicate”. It is also possible that they are not introverted, but that their main interests are not always related to other people. And, most likely, they are not selfish or narcissistic, but simply love to live in their inner world.
  • Let your introvert know that you value them as a person.
  • Remember that neurological differences are at the root of the misunderstanding between introverts and extroverts. Introverts' minds, by nature, are constantly occupied with something (this property is called internal wakefulness), so they sometimes find themselves unable to respond to sensory stimuli. An extrovert is seized with unpleasant anxiety at the slightest irritation, so they are constantly looking for action.
  • Since extroversion is generally celebrated in our society, spend some time praising the positive qualities of introverted behavior.

Introvert and extrovert, who is it?

The definition of an extrovert and an introvert lies in the characteristics of their energy. Since all vital processes are energy-consuming, the way to compensate for this energy is a very important process for every person. Typically, recuperation occurs through food and sleep; only individuals need additional resources. Thus, extroverts need company; from communication they receive an additional charge of positivity and strength. Without active interaction with other individuals, extroverts begin to “wither” before our eyes. Introverts have enough sleep; they can go through the day without communicating with anyone. From this definition it follows that an extrovert is to some extent an “energy vampire.” An “energy vampire” is a person in need of energy recharging. He replenishes his reserves by absorbing the energy of other people, doing this in a non-constructive manner.

Thus, an energy vampire is an extrovert who gains energy through causing pain to other people (offending, threatening, blackmailing, criticizing).

But if we say that an extrovert is an energy vampire, then we must first indicate that not all extroverts are such. Most extroverts who gain energy from people do so through kindness, benefiting those around them.

To understand the difference between an extrovert and an introvert, you need to observe a person’s behavior. Behavior best expresses the entire essence of a person.

Often, almost all people in friendly companies tell jokes to each other from time to time, but there is a person in the company whose jokes always seem to be the funniest, most cheerful and amusing, and everyone is ready to listen to this person for hours. This person is without a doubt an extrovert who brings pleasure to other people and enjoys it himself.

In every office, every company or factory, you can find an extrovert and an introvert among the workers. And each of them, both extrovert and introvert, has advantages and disadvantages. For effective activity and performance, it is necessary that all the advantages of an extrovert and an introvert are fully used one hundred percent. Disadvantages, in turn, on the contrary, must be tried to be processed in order to turn them into advantages.

We can highlight the main advantages of an introvert in his professional activities. The introvert’s tendency to work individually prevents many problems, since all responsibility for implementation lies with him alone and in case of any misunderstandings, then all questions will be put to only one introvert, and he, in turn, knows well what he is doing and is not Who will be blamed?

Professionally significant advantages of an extrovert: the ease of making new contacts allows an extrovert to conclude successful deals and conduct interviews. Extroverts are so self-confident and sociable that it doesn’t really matter to them who stands in front of them, whether it’s an ambassador or an ordinary worker, they know their job, their work is their life.

Extroverts are sociable among friends and no less sociable at work. Extroverts have no fear of public speaking; on the contrary, the more they see people in front of them whose eyes are fixed on them, they feel more and more self-confident because they are saturated with the energy of those gathered.

In addition to the advantages of introverts, they also have disadvantages. Due to their personal characteristics, introverts do not communicate well with their boss or work colleagues if they have to meet. Through too solitary work, introverts' communication skills may become even more difficult, since there is no need for communication, and they do not have to talk to anyone at all at work. Lack of business communication skills becomes a big problem for introverts, but if their work involves solitary activities, then they will do it at a high level.

Although extroverts are loved and accepted by almost everyone in their circle, because they are active, sociable, want to develop, and self-actualize, at first it seems difficult to identify any of their shortcomings. But precisely because extroverts are too active, they are mistaken for irresponsible people, since their mood can change quite often, and this affects their performance. An extrovert in business and personal communication, in most cases, does not worry about the comfort of the interlocutor or client. Even if a person expresses negative reactions, the extrovert also accepts them, because this is also energy. Extroverts have a weakness in public speaking, so if an extrovert gets too carried away with his performance, he can turn it into a farce.

Extroverts and introverts can be given some recommendations, using which they can develop patterns of behavior similar to those of the opposite personality type.

Introverts must learn to communicate with people in such a way that they receive only positive reactions from the interlocutor or from his listener. To do this, they need to be patient and force themselves to communicate with others, especially with those with whom communication should bring certain success.

Introverts who do not like to communicate, but must do so, due to business or personal circumstances, can find among people a person who likes to talk a lot, then there will be no need to exert much effort on the part of the introvert, since a talkative, especially superficial person will take advantage of the listener and will talk incessantly, and the introvert, in turn, will get what he wanted - the necessary connections.

Extroverts may wish to learn to control the communication process in order to be able to stop the moment they see that the interlocutor is tired of their monologue or the expression of any other negative reaction. An extrovert needs to learn to curb his emotions and put the interests of his interlocutor in a high place, and not show dominance of his own interests.

In individual psychology, there are three types of personalities: introvert, extrovert, ambivert.

Extrovert and introvert have already been discussed above; it remains to define the type of ambivert. An ambivert is a person who combines the properties of two types: an extrovert and an introvert. That is, an ambivert at times becomes the life of the party, that is, an extrovert, but often he may have a desire to be alone, like an introvert. These are people whom you sometimes don’t immediately notice in a large company, but in a close circle they are quite sociable. An ambivert is capable of speaking publicly in front of people, but may have trouble making new contacts.

Pros and cons of introverts

Positive qualities of an introvert

  • True to your word.
  • Determination.
  • Consistency.
  • The ability to control your emotional state.
  • Persistence in achieving goals.
  • Perfectionism.
  • Thinking ability and strong analytical skills.
  • Attention to nuances and details.

Weaknesses of an introvert

  • Inflexibility of character. They find it difficult to compromise and do not accept another point of view.
  • Mental rigidity.
  • Dwelling on negative emotions.
  • Poor ability to relax, which can lead to depletion of the nervous system and physical resources of the body.

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WikiHelp: Rigidity - rigidity, hardness, elasticity, inelasticity. In psychology, unpreparedness to change the program of action in accordance with new situational requirements.

Famous people are introverts (photos, list)

Among the most pronounced introverts are such famous people as (pictured above from left to right):

  • Abraham Lincoln
  • Bill Gates
  • Christina Aguilera
  • Steven Spielberg
  • Nikolai Vasilyevich Gogol
  • Marina Ivanovna Tsvetaeva
  • Victor Tsoi
  • Sergei Sergeevich Bodrov

Below, see a more extensive list of famous and famous people who are introverts.

Great people are introverts (list)

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  • Alfred Hitchcock
  • Arthur Schopenhauer
  • Howard Phillips Lovecraft
  • J. K. Rowling
  • Jerome David Salinger
  • Johnny Depp
  • George Lucas
  • Isaac Newton
  • Clint Eastwood
  • Kurt Cobain
  • Layne Staley (Alice in Chains)
  • Lionel Messi
  • Louis De Funes
  • Marcel Proust
  • Mick Mars
  • Audrey Hepburn
  • Robert DeNiro
  • Rosa Parks
  • Søren Kierkjegaard
  • Steve Wozniak
  • Tim Burton
  • Philip Kindred Dick
  • Franz Kafka
  • Frederic Chopin
  • Friedrich Nietzsche
  • Edgar Allan Poe
  • Igor Yakovlevich Krutoy
  • Alexander Ivanovich Pokryshkin
  • Georgy Mikhailovich Vitsin
  • Joseph Vissarionovich Stalin
  • Konstantin Arkadyevich Raikin
  • Mikhail Yurjevich Lermontov
  • Fedor Mikhailovich Dostoevsky
  • Yuri Nikolaevich Klinskikh (Gaza Strip)
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