How does a responsible person feel?
Responsibility, a sense of internal obligation, can be manifested in certain areas of human life. This may concern health issues, family, children, work issues.
Associated with responsibility are feelings of “ability” and “duty” to fulfill one’s obligations. For every person with an active and positive position, being responsible means, first of all, the need to tune in to the task, understanding the significance of agreements and duty. Sensitive individuals who are pessimistic in responsible situations are dominated by a feeling of anxiety about possible failures. They feel guilty for not fulfilling their responsibilities.
However, in any mood, responsibility is considered an indicator of reliability, people’s readiness to honestly and diligently fulfill agreements and their duties, and also be responsible for any results, including mistakes.
There is a distinction between social and personal responsibility. In fact, there is not much difference. But the second type involves an internal understanding of the need to perform certain work by a specific person. They have a strong character and enormous willpower.
Those who are ready and able, within a reasonable framework, to be responsible for everything that happens in difficult moments of their lives have a responsible position. High-level responsibility is a sign of human maturity.
What does it mean to be a responsible person? This implies:
- The ability to be responsible for one’s actions, everything that happens in one’s life, without blaming others and current circumstances for the negative consequences, results of decisions and actions.
- Awareness of direct participation in the “creation” of one’s own life, as well as the innocence of other people and circumstances for what is happening around.
- The ability to build deep, conscious relationships with the environment. The basis for them is spiritual closeness, respect and love.
Responsibility in approaching something requires a thorough analysis of situations along with forecasting the likelihood of the consequences of various actions, including action or inaction. At the same time, a person understands that there is always a possibility of failure in any situation. Any responsibility is associated with great waste of mental strength; they require thoughtfulness of every decision and common sense. However, the freedom that comes from being able to take responsibility for life outweighs everything else.
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Responsibility (Wikipedia) is the subjective obligation to be responsible for actions and actions (inactions), as well as their consequences.
In ethics, responsibility is certainty, reliability, honesty in relation to oneself and others, it is awareness and willingness to admit that the result (reaction) that you receive in the course of your actions and actions is the consequence of your actions (actions).
Responsibility is not guilt, it is confidence. Responsibility, rather, involves personal accountability and the ability to act ethically for the benefit of oneself and others. Responsibility is the ability to explain and show how you achieved this result.
For me, responsibility is a kind of internal core, the basis on which the decisions made and the resources for their implementation rest.
Each of us is born with our own measure of responsibility inherent in transpersonal experience (the experience of the current and previous incarnations): from fear of taking responsibility to a state of hyper-responsibility. How important it is to consciously bring your responsibility into moderation and normality.
Taking responsibility is directly related to the health of the spine. If responsibility is in moderation and normal, then the spine is healthy. Any deviation from the norm is an unhealthy spine. At the same time, both insufficient responsibility and excessive responsibility are destructive.
When I was young, the phrase was often heard: “A man is hope and support in life.” Many women, getting married and having such an attitude, shifting responsibility to a man, often got problems with the spine.
Responsibility beyond the norm is also destructive. One day, while getting ready for my old friend’s birthday (we worked together after graduation), I thought about why this handsome man, who is always ready to help everyone, who has many friends, and everyone loves and appreciates him, has such a magnificent giving position, why are his intervertebral discs worn out and constantly plagued by back pain? The answer arose in the form of an image: he took responsibility for his family, for the company he heads, for his friends, for everyone who asks for his help... All these people hung on him as an exorbitant burden, his spine could not withstand such a load, it collapsed, now punishing his master with constant pain for exceeding the norm and measure in such a good deed, taking someone else’s responsibility...
Responsibility is the key to solving any problem.
Each of us is responsible, first of all, for ourselves, for our state of harmony, for solving our own life problems. This is our 100% responsibility.
In every case, in every interaction with other people, it is important to determine your level of responsibility. This always happens in the process of experience. Relatively speaking, if there is a bucket in front of you with cotton wool, water, sand, stones, then by trying each of the buckets by weight, you can determine your load norm. A measure of responsibility is also born from experience, one that preserves our health and our harmony.
Responsibility is a tool through which the path of life is paved.
Trying to do something for someone else is the same as taking him out into the forest, showing him the direction of movement along the road of life, and taking away from him the main tool for making this road in the forest.
When parents try to overly decide something for their children, giving them a ready-made result, they destroy their health, and in response they only receive reproaches and complaints. What would you say to a person who would take away all the possible tools from you and send you into the forest empty-handed to blaze a trail?
Each of us came into this life to find our own path, to pave our own path. And in this case it is so important to have a good tool. Such a tool is knowledge and experience. By depriving loved ones of experience, trying to give a ready-made result (money, opportunities, benefits, guardianship, advice, care, pity, guilt, etc.), we unwittingly provoke their anger and claims.
The woman wrote on the forum that she devoted her whole life to her son, worked two jobs, raised him herself, and gave him a good education. After graduating from university and receiving an inheritance, he not only did not help his mother pay off the loan for his education, but behaved extremely disrespectfully towards her and did not value her at all.
How often people like to give advice, what kind of protest they sometimes cause. It’s the same as starting to solve problems together, and each time voicing the answer in advance, without even allowing you to think, find a solution, or feel satisfaction from the solution.
Without taking responsibility, a person does not find satisfaction: he could not, did not do, did not achieve, did not realize.
Take RESPONSIBILITY - give yourself an account, an ANSWER in your words, actions, deeds, think: “Why am I doing this?” “For what purpose am I saying this?” “What are the consequences of my words or actions?” This is called "mindfulness."
A responsible person has no one to blame; weather, government, crisis, husband, wife, children do not affect the results of his life. He himself created everything that happens (directly or indirectly, in the current or past incarnations), he himself is responsible for it, and, therefore, he himself can change everything.
A responsible person is the master of his life. He writes the script of his life himself, corrects and rewrites it himself.
Great happy changes begin with the awareness of responsibility for your life!
I wish you all success on your path to health and awareness of your responsibility!
Author Galina Dubrovskaya
What is each of us responsible for?
What responsibilities do people have? We must be responsible for every decision, choice, aspiration,
because they are endowed by nature with the ability to think. An exception to the rule is individuals with complex brain injuries, as well as those with mental retardation.
This quality is manifested:
- When fulfilling parental obligations, all parents must be responsible for their own children;
- In work activity, there are different levels of work. Managers are responsible for the results of the activities of their subordinates, who are also responsible for their area of work;
- In a situation of conflicts of interest, the responsibility of one of the participants in the conflict makes it possible to become a process controller and make an important decision for everyone. He has everything in order with responsibility for his behavior, a sense of duty and strength of character;
- In military service, the command staff is responsible for their subordinates, for their lives and actions;
- When fulfilling any obligations, it presupposes the presence of deadlines and a high level of quality of work performed and services provided.
Species diversity in the development of this quality
In order not to be afraid to take responsibility, you should get a more developed trait:
- Work on yourself, improve self-control. We must be attentive to ourselves, our own statements, not promise impossible things, and make decisions carefully. You need to be patient and the results will definitely come;
- Using the technique of writing tasks to yourself involves writing down on paper, in a notepad, tasks that have specific deadlines. When a person performs his own task, he develops his individual skills;
- Engage in organizational activities. By interacting with people, organizing them, coordinating their actions, each of us is able to achieve our cherished goal;
- Interact with children. In such situations, all human responsibility is mobilized, because an adult is always responsible for the child. There is simply no other way out here.
Are guilt and responsibility mutually exclusive?
Probably, in an ideal world, people really do not have a feeling of guilt, but only a sense of responsibility - they evaluate their capabilities, take on obligations and fulfill them. However, in life, even the most responsible and diligent person makes mistakes and, despite the fact that he is able to bear responsibility for his actions, this does not mean that he is not bothered by feelings of guilt. For example, you accidentally broke your best friend's ancient Chinese vase. You can take responsibility for this action - compensate for the damage (for example, give money or look for another vase). And this does not exclude feelings of guilt for what happened.
Therefore, it is very important to understand to whom you feel guilty, to what extent and for how long.
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In the last article, we examined the imposed feeling of guilt, which is cultivated in us from the outside (usually by parents). It causes one to experience significant moral torment that does not correspond to the scale of the problem or does not have sufficient grounds at all.
Let us repeat that such guilt leads to low self-esteem, lack of aspirations and goals in life, and to a number of other unpleasant consequences. People who are characterized by this feeling easily become victims of manipulators. Of course, there is nothing positive or constructive here. However, if a feeling of guilt arises in you for objective reasons and does not so much make you suffer aimlessly as pushes you to take action, use it
. In other words, focus not on what should be done, but on what can be done now. Don’t think about yourself in the spirit of “I never succeed”, “I’m always wrong.” Instead, analyze what you can do now and in the future to prevent this from happening again.
In addition, this feeling can warn you against something that you may regret in the future, it will help you look at the world through the eyes of other people, and sympathize with them. As you reflect on a controversial action, you can ask yourself: Will you feel guilty later? At the same time, you should not think that if there is a chance for this feeling, you need to immediately abandon your plans. If the person is truly important to you, perhaps you should first consider whether you can somehow correct the consequences of your choice yourself.
Feeling of shame
Shame often accompanies guilt. Although the specific definition of shame varies among experts, let us assume that the feeling
a person feels guilt before himself, and shame - rather before others.
That is, guilt reflects how we ourselves evaluate our actions, and shame is a reaction to how, in our opinion, others evaluate our actions and us in general
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It’s as if we look at ourselves through someone else’s eyes, and we don’t like what we see. It is important to consider that this is our personal, subjective idea of the opinions of other people
, which may have nothing to do with reality. For example, we may be ashamed of someone for something, although this someone did not even pay any attention to our offense. And on the contrary, a person may not feel shame, although people important to him do not approve of his behavior.
