People are accustomed to communicating with each other in everyday life, exchanging various information about their hobbies, interests, and everyday issues. They also have to find contact, being in a relationship at work, in business, in the neighborhood, in housing and communal services, in medical, transport, educational services, and so on. And in all this interaction, conflicts often occur. They occur due to the lack of common ground between people with different characters, different temperaments, the complex and harsh disposition of one of the opponents conducting a dialogue or argument. What is it like to be a non-conflict, simple person?
The meaning of the word "simple"
Modern terminology includes many interpretations of the concept “simple”, since it is important to understand what object this word is associated with and in what context it is used. If we are talking about a subject, then when applied to it, the concept “simple” means elementary, not complex in nature, ordinary. If we talk about an empirical substance, for example, a simple truth, a simple solution, then it must be interpreted as something devoid of difficulties, accessible to understanding, unpretentious, unpretentious and uncomplicated. In a word, the concept of simplicity implies something that does not require effort, which is characterized by ease, accessibility, freedom of action and application. But if we are talking about a person, what is simple?
What is the definition of a common man?
A person is determined by a huge number of qualities, characteristics, characteristics of the psychotype, and type of temperament. It can be assessed from various positions and aspects in terms of emotional and psychological state. But what is the meaning of the common man? What does this concept mean when applied to a rational being?
A simple person is a representative of humanity, an isolated unit of society, who goes through life with an easy and relaxed attitude to the course of events developing around him, and builds his life in simplicity and spontaneity, without using complex techniques in communication. A simple person is characterized by his abstract attitude to the world; he is straightforward and simple-minded. Carrying out communication activities with the world around him, he does not set as a goal the establishment of contact between himself and the intended interlocutor, he does not set the goals of influence in communication, does not use complex conversation settings in a manner beneficial to himself, and does not select wording and intonation. Such a person simply says what is in his thoughts and soul directly, without unnecessary tricks or analogies.
The lexical meaning of the words “simple” and “man”, when understood as a collective phrase, also presupposes the simplicity of a representative of humanity not only in communications, but also in actions, deeds and life in general. When communicating with people, such an individual starts from the principle “because” and not “in order to”, as do human communicators and human manipulators. His entire worldview is built on simple truths and simple actions, without any attempt to influence anyone or anything in this way.
Simplicity Simple man
Simplicity is an unconditional consequence of the consciousness of internal usefulness.
Fazil Iskander
Simplicity as a personality quality is the ability to demonstrate direct, clear, transparent, devoid of secrecy, free from mental duplicity behavior in accordance with one’s understanding of things.
The clerk, leaving the office, looked at the emperor's palace with its sparkling domes, and thought: “What a pity that I was not born into a royal family, life could have been so simple...” And he walked towards the center of the city, from where the rhythmic knocking could be heard hammer and loud screams. These workers were building a new building right on the square. One of them saw a clerk with his papers and thought: “Oh, why didn’t I go to study, as my father told me, I could now do light work and rewrite texts all day, and life would be so simple...” And the emperor at this time he walked up to the huge bright window in his palace and looked at the square. He saw workers, clerks, salesmen, customers, children and adults, and thought how nice it must be to be in the fresh air all day, doing manual labor, or working for someone, or even being a street vagabond, and completely do not think about politics and other complex issues. “What a simple life these simple people must have,” he said barely audibly.
Simplicity is an amazingly powerful personality quality. It gains its strength in true patience, from which it takes its origins. True patience means that a person is truly internally happy that he can endure. The patient becomes simple, because simplicity is not afraid of uncomfortable external situations, she does not shrink from horror that she will have to sleep with her sweetheart in a hut and does not become depressed at the thought of how she, her husband and child will live in a one-room apartment, or with his parents . An ordinary person has so much happiness inside that he knows, no matter what difficulties life throws at him, he will cope with everything. Therefore, simplicity does not suffer from worry and anxiety about what is happening around it. Yukio Mishima in his book “Thirst for Love” writes: “Simplicity is the highest point of contact between life and art. Anyone who despises simplicity evokes only pity... If a person is afraid of simplicity, then he is far from mature.”
Simplicity is an understanding of one's worth. When you do not disturb other people's egos, you are actively listened to, your thoughts reach people's minds. An egoist, as soon as he says a few words, immediately turns on the “light bulbs” of other people’s egos, causing disputes, objections and disagreement. A simple man speaks, and one wants to listen to him. With their sixth sense, people perceive that in front of them is not a buffoon, but a worthy person. Lukman Hakim writes: “Let your words always be pleasant, good, and your face simple and open, and then for people you will be more loved and closer than those who give them gifts.”
In addition, a simple person is friendly towards all people, even those who laughed at him, condemned him and gossiped. Therefore, in interpersonal communication he is extremely open, he has no reason to withdraw, isolate himself and fence himself off. Moreover, an ordinary person lacks the motivation to pretend, lie and be a hypocrite. He has nothing to hide in front of people. It is pure, like a virgin forest.
What personality quality immediately frees a person from envy, pride, arrogance and duplicity? That's right, simplicity. A simple person, without any special intention, opens the hearts of people, they themselves come to meet him. Simplicity, as one of the most acceptable states of mind, brilliantly scans the virtues and vices in people, that is, it provides a sober look at one’s surroundings. Honest, sincere people begin to trust the common man. People in passion, thinking that in front of them is a fool - a simpleton, try to use him for their own selfish purposes, to deceive him. People under the influence of the energy of ignorance get angry and insult simplicity, treat it arrogantly, boorishly, contemptuously and disdainfully.
An ordinary person doesn’t need to work very hard to understand how and with whom to communicate, who to stay away from, and who to bypass or keep at a distance. You can’t offend true simplicity and you can’t sit on its neck. O.G. Torsunov accurately noted the presence of three types of simplicity: “simplicity in goodness means that a person is simply disposed, that is, he is very open towards the world, but if someone tries to commit violence against him, he is very simple, again, honest, simple , tells him that he can’t do that. Simplicity in passion means that a person plays at simplicity. Depending on what I need in life, how I want it, that is, if I have any benefit from simplicity.
Simplicity in ignorance, as they say: “Simplicity is worse than theft.” That is, simplicity in ignorance is when a person is simply a simpleton, that is, he is such a simpleton, a very gullible person, this is called gullibility. When a person is very gullible, doesn’t understand the situation at all, says something out of place to everyone, who is such a completely simple-minded, somewhat stupid guy. Simplicity in ignorance means that a person is simply narrow-minded, and he, not understanding the situation, says what comes into his mind. This is what is called simplicity in ignorance, or naivety in another way.” Anatoly Aleksin in the book “Heart Failure” writes: “Simplicity is above all! - Gennady Semyonovich assured me. - Not the one that is worse than theft, but the one that you come to through complexity. I don’t know a single great creator whose works were incomprehensible. Others' obscurity replaces talent. And in Pushkin, remember: “The time has come, she fell in love...” Two subjects and two predicates. Everything - everything! But it becomes clear to us that it is impossible to escape from love, like from the change of seasons or from another alternation: after the morning there is day, and after it there is evening. And there’s no getting away from it!”
True wisdom is simplicity in goodness. Take, for example, elite society. Interpersonal communication there is saturated with mannerism, pretentiousness and constraint. You won't find true friendliness, openness and sincerity there. Sheer pomposity, arrogance, secularism, in a word, pride personified. A person who has a high social status, and at the same time has retained such a magical personality quality as simplicity, even in this show-off environment he enjoys favor and sympathy. He has many real friends, deep, sincere relationships with them. If something unpleasant happens and they will forget about the swaggering, arrogant proud person the next day, they will only gloat and slander. When a simple person from the “high” society gets into trouble, friends will do everything to get him out of trouble, they will protect and help him in every way. A simple person cannot be abandoned, he can only be lost.
O.G. Torsunov states: “There are three pillars that create a lack of simplicity. The first pillar is vanity, or pride, when a person strives to show himself better than he really is. The second is politics, that is, when a person tries to instill in other people something that actually does not exist, but what he wants them to think. That is, being political means deception to some extent. And the third type of lack of simplicity is anger, embitterment. When a person is angry, although he can behave straightforwardly, this cannot be called simplicity, because an angry person still does not reveal himself as a person, he is still mentally clamped, so it cannot be said that he behaves in a simple way “An angry person is always constrained, squeezed and tense inside.”
Arkady and Boris Strugatsky called: “We need to be simpler! Easier! Happiness is in simple things!” Henry Worl Beecher writes: “The art of being happy lies in the ability to find happiness in simple things.” Man's path to simplicity is difficult and thorny. First you need to cultivate humility in yourself and give up pride. Then you need to renounce violence, cultivate patience and eliminate prejudice towards others. Lack of simplicity creates problems in the family and at work. On the other hand, the owner of simplicity is satisfied with life, there is not a drop of dissatisfaction in him. He is satisfied and happy.
Petr Kovalev 2013 Other articles by the author: https://www.podskazki.info/karta-statej/
Keeping it simple: pros
Is being a simple person good or bad? In order to understand this, you need to find out all the positive and negative aspects of this concept applicable to the individual.
A simple person is good because he:
- easy to communicate - his unpretentious, undemanding, moderate and unpretentious attitude towards everything around him endears his interlocutor to him;
- never argues - he has no goal of proving anything to anyone, especially if the question does not concern his department or competence, since he does not see the need for this due to the simplicity of his character;
- conflict-free - this trait of his character stems from the absence of the need to argue with people;
- modest - this type of personality never puts itself on display and does not strive to please everyone;
- frank and sincere - incapable of deception, weaving intrigues and perjury.
Difficult character is a medical problem
The notorious “adolescent age” is also characterized by a change in the teenager’s character, not for the better. During this period, most of them have exactly this character - complex and difficult. But, when the hormonal changes end, the guy or girl again becomes quite adequate, and the epithets that others use to describe them no longer include these definitions. Hormonal changes, the cause of menopausal changes, are also often accompanied by changes in behavior and deterioration in character. But these are all temporary phenomena. There are people whose character is “difficult” for others throughout their lives.
People with complex personalities tend to have strong energy, creativity, and the ability to make innovative decisions, which, in some cases, makes them good employees.
This behavior is a psychopathic disorder and, most often, it is a hereditary disease and one of the parents of this person also had a difficult character. A child who has taken such manifestations for granted since childhood will also not learn to restrain himself emotionally. But this is not only a pedagogical problem, but also a medical one. Neurologists say that a difficult character is a consequence of slight brain dysfunction. The average person has special mirror neurons in his cortex that help him understand the feelings of the people around him and predict their behavior and reactions. As a result, a person easily predicts what will please others and what may cause them pain. According to one medical theory, people with complex personalities, or, more simply put, psychopaths, have a deficiency of mirror neurons, especially in the frontal lobes of the brain.
Take your partner’s complex character for granted and don’t try to change him, just take this into account in everyday life.
Being simple: cons
However, for all its positivity, the definition of a common person is a rather ambiguous concept. In addition to the advantages, it also has a number of not very attractive qualities, namely:
- vulnerability - the innocence and kindness inherent in the characteristic spontaneity of a simple person entail his gullibility and falling “on the hook” of crooks, insidious and treacherous liars;
- partial crudeness and undiplomaticity - a simple person will not be sophisticated in building a constructive dialogue and selecting the right words to express his thoughts;
- lack of ambition - a person with a simple character does not strive to be better, to come to the forefront of honor, to achieve the heights of Olympus;
- gullibility is a dual quality, which is often expressed in the fact that an ordinary person is often left in the “fool” of being deceived.
Secrets of centenarians
How do centenarians differ from other people? What is their secret? All their lives they move a lot, walk a lot, they are said to be easy-going. This constant movement is their secret. Life is a continuous movement. Moreover, this is not only the work of the muscular system, it is the work of the whole organism. And the body is a single whole.
For experimental purposes, scientists kept rats in a sedentary state; as a result, they lived seven to eight months less than those that moved a lot. The simplest and most accessible method is walking: from work, to the store, up the stairs, walking before bed in the park area. But older people should remember that the loads should not be heavy for them. You need to be extremely careful about running at this age. You should remember the simplest things.
The best rest when tired is sleep. During active rest, the nature of the loads should be changed. But the most undesirable thing is overwork, which is the most unfavorable factor for longevity.
Simplicity as a personality quality
And yet, what can be said about simplicity as a quality of personality? The theme of the common man touches on a list of his personal qualities in terms of how society perceives him:
- patience - he never goes against fate, but only patiently waits for happiness to visit him, and accepts his fate and his life as a given, considering this the highest measure of happiness;
- benevolence - the simpler a person is, the kinder he is, the less his thoughts are tainted by the harmful influence of the current callous society;
- purity of conscience - such a person is devoid of selfishness, duplicity, envy, pride and arrogance;
- a share of ignorance - excessive ease and ease in communication predetermines an overly simple person as an insufficiently intellectually developed, stupid representative of society.
Is simple a compliment or vice versa?
It is impossible to unequivocally answer the question of whether it is pleasant to be called a simple person or not so much. After all, on the one hand, this is how they position a person who is conflict-free, pleasant to communicate with, and incapable of causing harm, with whom it is comfortable to be in the same environment. But, on the other hand, the label of a simpleton does not allow one to achieve those heights in life that are open to ambitious, sometimes arrogant and arrogant individuals who go forward towards their goals by manipulating the consciousness of others, which a simple person is completely incapable of.
Manifestations of a complex nature
The inability and unwillingness to understand the feelings of other people makes people with complex personalities sociopaths; they are not constrained by generally accepted norms of behavior. Therefore, it seems to them that they can allow themselves anything: to violate moral principles, throw tantrums in public, and not control attacks of anger or irritation. They can cause a scandal in the family or at work because of some nonsense and then, when the rest are unsettled and drink Corvalol, they are quite sincerely surprised - what did they say or do? It is difficult to expect sympathy from a person with a complex character when moving towards his goal; he does not recognize moral barriers, so you should not expect behavior from him that is adequate, from your point of view.
The duality of the concept of “simple” in society
Is being a simple person good or bad? This question is repeated again and considered from different perspectives. But assessing the objectivity of the above pros and cons of a good-natured simpleton, we can conclude that it is better to be a modest person with a clear conscience than a successful careerist with a reputation as a notorious scoundrel.
Good morning magic
Have you asked those people who like to get up early what helps them to be so easy to get up early in the morning? For some it’s morning exercises, and for others it’s dousing with cold water. But whatever it is, the main thing is that early rises charge a person with energy for the whole day. And what fresh nature and clean air it is in the morning!
In conclusion, to summarize, we note that an easy-going person is someone who can easily and without much effort or requests go or go somewhere.
What kind of person is he - a person with the character of a simpleton?
Being a simple person is not so easy. Is it possible not to react to the anger of the world around us? Is it easy to be helpful, carefree, patient in today's brutalized society? Isn't it difficult to be humble during global cataclysms and crises? It may be hard to believe, but a simple person is incredibly strong. He is strong in spirit because he lets through his thoughts the negativity of the current arrogant public. He is strong in self-control because he does not provoke modern ambitions. He is strong in his kindness, because in a world of cruelty and topicality he shines as a bright ray of warmth, honesty, openness and sincerity.
