Pride should not be confused with pride. A person can experience a feeling of pride by rejoicing at his own or others’ successes. This is not a bad emotion; it will allow you to maintain your own dignity and adequate self-esteem. But pride destroys a person, because it instills in him confidence in his chosenness and superiority over others.
Why is pride dangerous?
Having risen above the rest, a person stops developing. He is marking time or completely degrading. It seems to him that he has already reached the desired peak and he no longer needs to study and work on himself. Pride is the enemy of development and progress. A proud person is completely fixated on his personality, and it does not matter whether he has any merits or simply an advantageous position in society.
This is a harmful feeling that leads to contempt and hatred. A proud person is not able to adequately perceive someone else’s opinion; for him, there is only his own position, and it is the only correct one. Pride does not allow you to see the positive in others.
What is pride?
Everyone has a rough idea of what pride is - when a person considers himself better than others, when he is arrogant, etc. Yes, this is clearly how pride is expressed. A person “turns up his nose”, puts himself above everyone else, and “condescends” to his interlocutor when communicating.
But there are also manifestations of pride that are not particularly noticeable. Moreover, the person himself in no way believes that he is subject to pride. He is not arrogant, not arrogant, he is pleasant in communication. But! But very often he behaves in such a way that indirectly shows that he considers other people to be somehow worse than himself. Most often this happens unconsciously. This person may not think so at all on a conscious level, however, somewhere deep down he has an attitude that he is better than others.
Let's take a closer look at this. Suppose a person, having understood some issue, tries to “chew” it by explaining it to others. When they ask him why he explains everything in such detail, since everything is already clear, he says: “I thought you wouldn’t understand!” That is, it turns out that he puts these people below himself intellectually, assuming that they will not be able to understand the issue that he himself was able to understand.
Yes, this behavior can be explained by the desire to make life easier for others, and by helping one’s neighbor, etc. However, it is often in such cases that, if you dig deeper, it turns out that the motivating motive was precisely the fact that the person considered others unable to cope with the task or believed that it would be much more difficult for them than for him.
In essence, this is hidden pride, when you subconsciously believe that other people are “worse than you.” Observe what motivates your actions when you interact with other people. If this is a sincere desire to help due to objective reasons (for example, a person is weaker than you - a woman, a child, an elderly person, etc. Or you clearly have more knowledge and skills in this matter. And so on), then everything is in order .
But if you have thoughts: “Well, he most likely won’t understand anything!”, “He probably won’t cope!” and so on. without objective reasons, but because “it seems so” to you, then there is already reason to think about whether you are susceptible to hidden pride? And if this is so, then you need to quickly take action, because pride is a very dangerous thing.
Signs of pride
Not all people need to fight pride; first you need to find out if you have this quality. Its presence is easy to recognize by the following signs:
Focus only on your personality
A person poisoned by pride revels in his importance, and other people seem primitive and insignificant to him. A proud man divides the world into two parts - he and everything around him. All his conversations come down to his own “I”.
Blind self-admiration
A proud man enjoys his superiority, despising stupid, unworthy people. For him, his own ego always comes first, and he views others only through the prism of profit and benefit.
Absolute confidence in your rightness
For a proud person, the arguments and arguments of others are completely unimportant. He considers his opinion indisputable and does not accept any criticism.
Pride in Orthodoxy
Pride in Orthodoxy is considered the main sin, since it is the primary source of anger and greed. After all, to save the soul it is necessary to love the Almighty and always use his commandments on the path of life. You need to love your loved ones, and for their good, sacrifice your interests and desires.
Pride is merciless; it rejects duty to people. And only humility can eradicate pride. The pride associated with women's emancipation, inspired by today's public opinion, lies in the "independence" of women and the desire to subjugate men. As a result, family scandals arise and the woman’s reluctance to reconcile, which forces the husband to extol the woman, while losing his self-esteem. The result of constant family squabbles may be a man’s desire to divorce.
The sin of pride in Orthodoxy consists of a biased perception of one’s individuality, which results in gross mistakes and big troubles.
He has his own principles
Proud people cannot find true friends, because no one wants to feel lower and worse. A proud person is incapable of friendship in the true sense of the word. He befriends people only to use them, and when such usefulness disappears, he throws them out of his life.
A proud man lives by his own far-fetched principles:
building relationships based on the principle of inequality total control of everything around confidence in one’s chosenness ignoring other people’s opinions inability to forgive the mistakes of others inability to be grateful undeserved criticism of others vindictiveness self-affirmation at someone else’s expense inability to learn from one’s mistakes
Proud individuals do not know how to love anyone but themselves and take care of others. Their feelings are always with the prefix “pseudo” and are aimed only at obtaining benefits.
Pride and pride
Often people do not know the differences between the concepts of pride and pride. Through their similar sound they are identified, but there are differences between the concepts of pride and pride that you need to know for the competent use of these two different concepts.
Pride and pride of difference. The first thing that needs to be said is how pride differs from arrogance - it is emotional coloring.
Pride is always a feeling with a negative connotation. It is negative because it has no positive product and is fraught only with negative results in all human relationships.
Pride is a concept colored by positive emotions. This is sincere joy for yourself, for your successes, without a share of arrogance and elevating yourself above others. Pride motivates you to set big goals and achieve them, while pride is fixated on one thing, not allowing you to develop.
Pride is always only a positive attitude towards oneself, one’s personal values and disrespect for the values of other people.
A proud person treats others fairly, respects their values and rules, shows empathy and sincere joy for their achievements, and is able to express support at the right time. People love to communicate with such a person, come to him for advice or just talk. A proud person is guided by the rule of honor; pride does not have an ounce of this feeling in itself. Pride in oneself, country, compatriots - these feelings are caused by sincere joy, and makes a person happy, this defines him as collectively oriented. A proud person is always personally focused only on himself, he is incapable of collective joy, he can experience envy, contempt, and disgust towards the group. Therefore, a proud person rarely belongs to any social groups. Wise people sympathize with such a person and sincerely feel sorry for him, because they see what he is doing with his life and where he is heading in his attitude towards other people. But they know that the time will come when he will recover from this unfortunate feeling.
Proud people always have a sense of confidence through relying on their merits, they know that they can rely on themselves, they know their worth, because this is confirmed by true facts. Those who are proud, in most cases, have nothing to look back on in their past in order to feel pride in actions that would also be recognized by other people. A proud person knows his worth, has dignity and knows the value of his actions, he is invulnerable.
A proud person, showing himself on all sides, can be very vulnerable inside. In a problematic situation, such a person begins to outwardly say that he is strong and will cope with all life’s barriers, but in fact, being left alone with his thoughts, he understands how scared he is and he needs support and not an ounce of indicative confidence does not remain in him, because he still knows the value of his abilities.
What is the difference between pride and pride? If we think about how pride differs from arrogance, we can say that a proud person is positively focused on others and their achievements. A person endowed with pride is more capable than others of being truly happy for others if they have achieved something, because she herself knows well the value of these successes. Often they look at such a person with admiration and are ready to emulate her. A person who has an excess of pride will never become a motivator for others; they will not be equal to him, mainly due to the lack of honor and justice in him.
How to get rid of pride?
The main cause of pride is improper upbringing. When a child is allowed everything, he grows up with the feeling that he is the center of the Universe. But if a person realizes his problem, this is the first confident step towards mental healing. Psychologists have developed 10 ways in which you can gradually eradicate this trait and rehabilitate yourself as a person.
1 Recognize the problem and the need to combat it. Try to look at yourself from the outside. This will help you step on the right path of personality formation.
2 Analyze your personal qualities. Write down your strengths and weaknesses on paper. Be honest with yourself. You will see that what you judge in others may also be true for you.
3 Be mindful of other people's feelings. You are surrounded by living people who may also be upset and suffering. Make sure that your words do not hurt other people's feelings, be tactful and be patient.
4 Keep a special diary. Every day, write down the negative consequences of pride, as well as the positive results of combating it. This way, you will have an incentive to improve further.
5 Learn reasonable humility. Humility and modesty are good qualities if developed correctly. To be humble does not mean to engage in self-flagellation, but only to be aware of your shortcomings and weaknesses.
6 Stop criticizing others. You may have demands on others, but people are not obligated to conform to your standards of behavior. Instead of constantly judging others, focus on your shortcomings.
7 Develop altruism in yourself. Give time to those who need help. Take care of others by helping them solve their problems.
8 Learn to take criticism calmly. Listen to constructive comments from family and friends, thank people for their tips.
9 Do the “dirty” work sometimes. Arrogant people with star disease will never take on a job that doesn’t suit them. To tame the beast of pride in yourself, try to sometimes do “dirty” physical work, for example, digging the ground, doing repairs, cleaning up after animals.
10 Refuse to associate with flatterers. Flattery, no matter who it is addressed to, automatically gives rise to pride. Even a modest and unprepossessing person can become proud if he is constantly praised. Hypocritical communication does not bring any benefit, so throw flatterers out of your life.
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Each of us can fight pride. The main thing is to understand that pride is our enemy. It inhibits personal development, creating the illusion of perfection. Remember that a wise person studies all his life, no matter how smart and experienced he is.
Once you get rid of this destructive quality, you will experience true joy and happiness.
Observation practice
There is a very good practice of observation, which helps to get rid of probably almost all negative qualities. As soon as we discover signs of pride in ourselves, we begin to observe this feeling as if from the outside. As soon as you enter the state of an outside observer of your emotions and sensations, in this case, the observation of pride, you will see how this quality begins to be “illuminated” by your attention and you begin to become more aware of it.
At the same time, enter into a feeling of humility and repentance for the fact that this feeling has manifested itself in you. After this, you will notice that you begin to get rid of pride.
Getting rid of pride is not as easy as it might seem.
This is one of the most cunning and insidious enemies on the path of soul development. Be careful to recognize this feeling. If your attention is directed to eradicating pride, then you will begin to notice it where you had not noticed it before, and this will begin to take you to a new level of development. Dear friends, I have prepared for you a practical guide, which includes dozens of the most effective techniques and practices for:
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