How to prove to a girl that you love her through words and actions

Why does a girl say that she is not loved?

To fight the effect, you need to know the cause. Why can a girl repeat like a mantra about “dislike”:

1. Negative relationship experience.

2. Very high suspiciousness. She always believes that she is judged, not loved, not appreciated, belittled - in all areas of relationships: at work, in the family with her parents, at school, with a man.

3. He wants more of your attention and thus tries to provoke you into it.

4. Perhaps she collects men, squeezes everything she can out of them and forces them to constantly prove their love. Such young ladies are insatiable and overly self-confident, you can easily figure them out yourself.

Young man following woman — Image by © Roy Morsch/Corbis

Analyzing these reasons, one can understand that girls’ reproaches are just the cry of a person in need of attention. Women's pride does not allow girls to say that your attention is not enough. But they are taught to act “bypassing”.

Yes, not the most pleasant method, but now you know what is hidden behind her “you stopped loving me.”

Why proof of love is needed

When a woman begins to feel that she is not receiving enough love, doubts arise about her partner’s feelings. In some cases, evidence may be required, sometimes quite material. Convincing of the sincerity of intentions, as well as proving your love, in some cases is extremely important:

• The model of relationships in the parents' family, which is called the “life script,” is one of the possible reasons for the desire for “proof of love.” Even if you are aware of this scenario, it is quite difficult to avoid it. That is, if in the relationship between the parents, for example, there was a place for the spouse’s infidelity, the child was raised in an atmosphere of constant scandals and reproaches. In addition, attitudes like: “Men cannot be trusted”, “They are all the same” become the basis, the foundation of future life. All this calls into question such qualities as trust and honesty. In such circumstances, it is extremely important for a girl to feel loved, as she fears betrayal and pain.
• The need to confirm feelings can be influenced by an internal conflict consisting in the desire to receive additional love that was not there in childhood. Constant proof of love from the outside can turn into an obsessive state with manic overtones, when the desire to feel like a valuable and unique person is required literally every day and seven days a week. In such a situation, a man needs to realize what is happening in time, since such a “game” will not lead to anything good.
• Lack of understanding of the principles of unconditional love. Stereotypes firmly rooted since childhood associated with the image of the “ideal wife” cause a constant desire to live up to them. When in a relationship there is no demand from a man to meet the “ideal,” internal contradictions arise. For example, for many men, no cleaning would be preferable to a partner tired of household chores.

A woman needs to be helped to come to the understanding that building relationships should not be based only on the exchange of material goods, but also include care, warmth, attention and listening skills.

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Men and women understand love differently

From my own experience, I can say that men are usually “spoken” in the following love languages:

• 5 (touching, tactile contact, sex);
• 1 (recognition, encouragement, confirmation of its importance and significance);
• 3 (sit together in the evening, hugging each other, watch a movie together).

For girls, as a rule, priority is given to:

• 1 (verbal confirmation of her beauty, attractiveness, significance for you as a woman);
• 4 (help from you: in everyday life, in various situations where she is powerless, the feeling of a strong shoulder nearby and protection);
• 2 (tokens of attention, flowers, small gifts, serious gifts).

Let me remind you that for each person the list is YOURS in descending order of importance. You can ask your girlfriend what is best for her by offering her a choice of two, for example:

“Which is better – we’ll go on vacation (3 – time), or we’ll buy you a spa membership (2 – gifts).”

Or ask directly what she likes best when you do for her. If you find out WHAT it is and demonstrate your love in a language she understands, then very soon all her doubts will disappear, and she will not nag you that you don’t love her.

Original ways

Since it is sometimes difficult to prove to a girl that you really love her, you need to come up with an original gesture. With a little imagination, you can say about your feelings in a way that will be remembered, for example:

• Sweets in a handmade jar. You don't need any special skills or materials to make this craft. An iron or glass coffee or tea jar will do; you will need glue, as well as beads, seed beads, and sequins. The composition doesn't matter. The most important thing is her favorite sweets.

Any thing made with your own hands shows sincerity, warmth and attention to your loved one.

• Flowers - maybe trite - still remain a win-win choice. To present an original sign of attention, you don’t have to climb like Richard Gere to her balcony with flowers in your teeth. You can purchase a composition in the form of a kitten, bear, elephant or other miniature creature. The main thing is surprise.
• Order a photo calendar. In order to make a small but meaningful gift, you need to select photographs associated with the brightest and happiest memories together. In addition, you can highlight dates that are significant for both of you in a different color (which will allow you not to forget about them yourself). It is important for a woman to know that a man remembers such moments.
• Video with your favorite song. Knowing your musical taste, you can choose a girl’s especially favorite song, record and edit a video of your performance. Even if “the bear stepped on your ear,” it will definitely be cute and unique.

It’s not difficult to show small gestures of attention: a simple morning coffee with foam in the shape of a heart or a happy smiley may be a small thing, but it’s very pleasant.

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How to prove to a girl that you love her with words

1. Thank her for what she does for you. By doing this you will show that you appreciate her efforts and you are pleased with such care for you. You are not an insensitive, indifferent cracker, but a sensitive and attentive man. But maintain your brutality: do not be scattered with gratitude, but speak clearly and to the point:

“Thank you for dinner, honey, it was delicious.”

“Thank you for ironing the shirts, my hostess.”

2. Give compliments. No, why is it difficult for you? And we are pleased. How beautiful, smart, gentle, affectionate she is. There is an opinion that your words of admiration for her are 50% of the success of creating a happy and lasting relationship. The remaining 50% is the sum of all actions, habits, daily activities, surprises, gifts, and so on.

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3. Words of love. Don't assume that a girl can see or feel your love by default. Can not! Does not see! Hearing is what we need. This is a different sense organ. The fact that you gave her perfume and took her to a restaurant did not reach her ears and understanding.

Seriously, say these words, girls need them like air. Without beautiful actions and phrases, just hug and quietly:

"I love you".

I assure you, it is the greatest bliss to hear such words from a man. All other indirect confirmations of love by some suspicious individuals can be interpreted in a completely opposite sense. (For example: if you gave flowers, it means you screwed up in something).

4. Make plans together out loud. These can be both long-term and short-term (trip, next weekend, vacation, entertainment, going to a club, cinema, visiting friends for birthdays). Such conversations show the seriousness and stability of the relationship. And a girl who doubts your love lacks confidence in this very thing.

5. Tell her about what is happening in your life. This builds trust and intimacy. This way she will understand that she is significant and loved by you.

Advice from psychologists and practical recommendations

Very often love is confused with falling in love, which does not last so long, but disappears forever quite quickly. True love must go through several stages of development, for which it is necessary to make efforts, constantly maintaining feelings and emotions at a certain level.

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Strong relationships are impossible without respect, attention, care, selflessness, and support. You need to try to make your significant other happy, because it is important to prove your sincerity to the girl, to show that you love her very much. For most women, loyalty and devotion of a partner are of paramount importance, which is why they are painfully perceived:

• Compliments that evaluate the views of other women.
• Correspondence with girls on social networks.
• Friendships, kisses, hugs with another woman.

Receiving regular signs of attention is an indicator of the manifestation of feelings on the part of a man. Kisses, words of love, compliments, pleasant surprises should be an inseparable part of the life of any representative of the fair sex.

In addition, you can prove the importance of a woman in a man’s life:

• offering help with housework or shopping;
• appreciating her culinary abilities;
• supporting her in any difficult period of life.

Women value in men such qualities as determination, willpower, as well as the ability not only to make difficult decisions, but also the ability to cope with ordinary, everyday problems.

For guys

You can show, as well as prove, your sincere love to a girl through actions and words by discussing joint plans for the future. If you immerse yourself in dreams together, it will bring you closer, strengthen mutual trust, and the girl will feel stability and solidity of intentions.

You should never forget about compliments and admiration for your girlfriend. Do not neglect words about love, she needs to hear them. Thanks to such attention, a woman will feel tenderness and care.

For girls

There are several simple ways you can prove your love to a guy:

• Yes, the way to a man's heart really is through his stomach. You need to pamper your chosen one with his favorite dishes and surprise him with unusual recipes. He will certainly appreciate such a manifestation of care and attention.
• Spend as much time together as possible. Every couple should have common interests, and you must try to find them. Watching movies or traveling to interesting places is the beginning of people being ready to devote all their time to each other. If the girl is ready, for example, to go to football with the guy or show interest in his passion for computer games, that’s great. He will understand and properly appreciate that his interests are shared.
• Nice words, support, praise for any achievements will show the guy that he is admired and appreciated.

For boys

For a girl to understand that you love her, you need to be very attentive: know what films she likes, what music she listens to. Perhaps she is interested in collecting or beadwork: this is a great chance to make a good gift.

You don’t need to limit yourself to communicating only on social networks. It's better to take a walk in the park or go to the cinema. Don’t be shy and silent, because girls like interesting, cheerful boys with a good sense of humor.

For girls

To show a boy that you love him, you can ask what he is interested in, his achievements in school or sports competitions. For future relationships to be strong, you need to learn to be honest with each other and find common interests.

Boys like girls who are smiling and open to communication. You need to laugh more often and always be in a good mood.

For husbands

In order to answer the question of how to prove to my wife that I love her very much, I need to remember the atmosphere of romance that surrounded her during the candy-bouquet period. A woman always needs tenderness, support and affection. We should not allow the drab life and routine to consume the wife and make her think that she is no longer loved.

Kisses, hugs, compliments, words of support and just heart-to-heart conversations are things that should never disappear from a relationship.

For wives

Not only women, but also men need love, support, and attention. Your husband will always be pleased to hear kind words. Intimate life should also not become commonplace: erotic lingerie and role-playing games will diversify sexual relationships and strengthen marriage.

A joint vacation or a trip to a country that the husband has long wanted to visit, a trip, for example, on a fishing trip, will have a beneficial effect on the marital relationship.

Realizing your worth and importance is important for every girl. Men, by their nature, are concrete and practical. This is why all emotions are tied to action. When a guy experiences deep feelings, he tries to show them through protection and care, as well as an attempt to fulfill a woman’s dream.

Daily Activities

1. Support, empathize and encourage during difficult periods of life. Don't be left alone at such moments. At the same time, do not impose your help; it is better if you simply ask what you can do for her now.

2. Give gifts, flowers. They may not be chic bouquets or expensive gifts, but at least they will be there . Gifts are a tangible expression of love and affection.

3. Show attention and interest in her affairs. Ask how the day went, how she would like to spend the evening. Actively listen when she talks to you (nod, ask clarifying questions).

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4. Treat her with respect: be polite and speak respectfully of her in her absence. By the way, if you judge and blame her behind your back, then remember that this is your choice. So who is to blame? Relationships are equal partnerships.

5. If you are discussing a serious issue, do not start joking, this is inappropriate and disrespectful towards the girl.

6. Help around the house without special instructions or requests.

How to convince the woman you love that she is your beloved?

Every woman is different and everyone needs something different.
For some, it is enough to say “I love you” occasionally, for others, endless expensive gifts are required, and for others, the main thing is that the husband be a responsible, caring family man and loves her children. Therefore, if we are talking about a one-time method, then there is none. In any case, no woman can be convinced that she is loved once and for all. Confirmation is constantly needed, because... women (especially those who are greedy for words and gifts) tend to doubt the feelings of their man.

You just need to know what makes a woman happy and try to follow it. If her demands are too much, then that’s another question.

One can only be convinced of this based on personal selfish goals. And if you have any, then I’m not your advisor here. And there may also be a need to convince a woman of your love in cases where she has selfish interest in you, and at the same time she is simply leading you by the nose, or when you Not her type and you won’t get anywhere at all. But then there’s no need to convince. And if you don’t have any self-interest for her, and she doesn’t have any self-interest for you either, but at the same time she is not indifferent to you, then why convince? Just love and that’s all, she will definitely understand and feel it. I will say more than that: smart girls and women are always wary and distrustful of those who try too hard to convince them of their love.

It is difficult to convince a person, especially a woman, of something that is not there.

Women are very sensitive to feelings, care, and attention.

Do you show attention to a woman in the good sense of the word? No, don’t just drag her through the mud and then say that you didn’t mean to offend her. ) But in human understanding.

How does your concern for the woman you love manifest itself? Allow yourself to be loved and at the same time say that you did not feel her love?

I have a young man I know. Just MACHO! Sometimes it blows your mind. There is no doubt about his feelings. He will always find a reason to call. Or he calls even for no reason. We watch movies together that we both like and listen to music. We sometimes argue because of our passions. Sometimes we just chat over tea and pies. He makes up problems with the computer just to be around. And recently he asked me to write a story about him. and added that he could tell everything about himself from childhood and it would turn out to be a whole book. )

But I’m not Pugacheva, who easily overcomes age barriers.

We are friends. And I am glad to have such a friend. He's reliable. He doesn't allow anyone to treat me without respect.

What do I give to such a good friend, you ask? EVERYTHING except sex.) Attention, help, your time, interesting communication, your experience. Age difference. But I will try to ensure that he finds the right girl for himself.

Romantic actions

1. Write to her in a letter how you feel. Normal, by hand. Although electronic is also suitable. Girls love such actions and displays of emotion because they themselves are emotional. You can write a short phrase on a sticker and stick it where it will definitely catch her eye.

“I'll think about you all day”

“I can’t wait to see you again.”

2. If you don't live together, make it a habit to say goodnight every day. This is a very powerful way to show that you care and love her:

• Make it clear that the girl is on your mind every night;
• You will be the last thing she thinks about before she falls asleep.
• This will give her the opportunity to talk about any problems she has had during the day, which will bring you closer.

3. Give sweets (chocolate, candy, ice cream). They don’t cost a lot of money, and besides, chocolate promotes the production of the pleasure hormone - let her associate this with you.

4. Organize a dinner together (buy a bottle of wine and pizza) or a picnic (marinate the meat). Well, here it’s worth starting from the girl’s taste.

5. Show your feelings when she least expects it from you:

• Sneak up to your lover while she's cooking and give her a quick kiss.
• Give her a hug before you leave.
• Hold her close when you walk together on a cold day.
• Take her hand when you go outside.

6. Remember the anniversary of the relationship, the girl’s birthday, do not forget to congratulate her on the holidays. Now there are a large number of applications that will remind you of important events. Install them, add all the people who are significant to you and don’t get into trouble because you are forgetful.

7. Show your attitude towards her in public: hold her hand while walking, hug her. If you meet someone you know, don’t distance yourself from her, introduce her to your friends when greeting her.

8. Boast about it and praise it in front of others. You can do this in front of her too. Let him listen and be embarrassed.

9. Take selfies together. This is very captivating and attractive to girls. We love to take pictures, but when a guy takes out a smartphone and wants to take a picture of himself with us, it has some kind of sacred meaning for girls and they lose their heads from the feeling of their importance to you.

10. Call her by some cute nickname. It can be derived from her name, it can be from the category of “babies”, “honeys”, “sweets” or the classic zoo “bunny”, “mouse”, “kitty”. What is enough imagination? The main thing is that it is affectionate and not offensive (“bun”, “filly”).

The nature of women's doubts: why prove anything?

So, you are beautiful and confident and, it seems, you always knew what the fair sex needed. Joint walks and romantic meetings, heart-to-heart conversations and gatherings in cafes, bouquets and sweets and even sweet surprises - all this was and is, but...

But, nevertheless, doubts remain in the woman’s eyes. At the same time, young ladies in most cases are divided into two categories: some doubt you as if by chance, timidly, while others shamelessly expect something great and extraordinary, only passionate hugs and truly cinematic declarations of love.

Of course, it’s a little easier to “melt” the first category of women than the second, but in both cases you can’t do without beautiful: a) actions; b) speeches. At the same time, it is important for a man to understand what love means specifically for him - perhaps the root of the problem is that you and the woman dear to you have different understandings of love.

How to give compliments correctly

#1 Don't suck up . If you give a compliment with the goal of being liked, it will not work. The girl will feel false, and this will only push her away.

#2 Be sincere . Say what comes from your heart. If you see some feature in your loved one that you particularly like, express your emotions.

#3 All the best in moderation . Don't overwhelm a girl with flattery. I said nice words to the lady - continue the conversation in a more constructive manner. You shouldn’t shower her with the entire list of compliments from this article at once.

Are you proud that your loved one is next to you? Are you speechless when you look at her and her beauty amazes you? Let her know about this using the beautiful words below.

Brief compliments to a girl about her beauty in your own words: list, poems

“Brevity is the sister of talent!”, this is the eternal truth. But, when choosing a compliment for a woman, brevity can play a cruel joke on you. That is why always give preference to sensual compliments, beautiful phrases and lines that can “reach the heart” from the first words.

Compliments:

• You are above all praise!
• You are my Goddess!
• You are charming and stunning!
• Your beauty is divine!
• Your features are flawless!
• You are beautiful like an angel!
• Not a woman, but a song!
• You are a fairytale queen!
• You are an incredible beauty!
• I have no words! You are beautiful!
• What a miracle! You are simply beautiful!
• You are majestic!
• You are my Queen!
• My God! Your beauty is something!
• You killed me with your beauty!

Poetry:

I'll be brief: You are beautiful! And if I met you - Life is not in vain!

I'm not an artist, but I'm ready to draw you today! I look and I love you, You are a deity, no matter what!

If I were a poet, I would write poems about you, And spread them around the world, After all, there is no one more beautiful than you!

Sorry, I can’t find words to describe your appearance, You are so beautiful and fresh, Just insanely good!

I’m not good at beautiful words, But you inspired me so much, That I’m ready to scream with happiness About your beautiful beauty!

Short compliments for women

We talk about feelings directly

When thinking about the question “how to tell a girl that I love her,” pay attention to the simplest, but at the same time the most correct way - to say it directly, throwing away antics and uncertainty and looking into the eyes of your chosen one. Organize such recognition in several steps:

1. Set your chosen one up for a conversation with the phrase: “I need to talk to you seriously.”
2. Compliment the appearance or character of the lady of your heart.
3. Emphasize her uniqueness among other girls.
4. Continue the conversation with the following phrases: “I am attracted to you (pulled)”, “I find it much more interesting to spend time with you than with friends.”
5. “Sweeten” the situation with a bouquet of flowers or a box of chocolates.
6. Say three cherished words, while ensuring tactile contact between you with a gentle touch on the hand, forearm or hair of your chosen one.

Don't play

When trying to get to know a girl's interests, don't pretend. If you don’t like exhibitions, cats, extreme weekends, then don’t pretend, don’t break yourself. Give up the idea of ​​getting this girl's attention.

Within the framework of what is reasonable and useful for oneself, one can sacrifice something. For example, quit smoking or give up a dangerous form of entertainment. Consider whether you can make a “sacrifice” that the girl will appreciate. She may have already mentioned something, such as being overly dependent on friends' opinions or being indecisive.

Don't ask for dinner with friends or relatives if you don't really want it. And if you are ready, then behave sincerely and with dignity. Remember that these are the creators of the object of your love.

Don't be afraid of your feelings. Share something secret. Demonstrating trust in a girl is direct proof of love. Think out loud in front of her, admit your fears and anxieties.