Hellinger constellations are a new method of solving human problems, and therefore are little known to a wide circle. It was designed by Bert Hellinger. He is a psychologist, teacher, practitioner and philosopher.
Increasingly, its arrangements are used by psychotherapists. They help people identify the cause of troubles in their lives and get rid of them.
Hellinger Arrangements: Description of the Method
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- 1.Method of arrangement according to Hellinger: Description
- 2. Description of the group arrangement
- 3. Family constellations
- 4. System arrangements
- 5. Generic constellations
- 6.Examples from life
- 7. Do the Hellinger arrangement yourself 7.1. In your imagination
- 7.2.On paper
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What are Hellinger constellations and why is there such resonance?
This type of psychotherapy was invented by Bert Hellinger, born in 1925 (still alive and well in 2020). The method has both fans and critics, everything is as usual. The essence of the method is that the client voices a certain problem of his and the psychologist arranges it in space with the help of substitutes (people or sometimes objects). At this time, the client looks at everything from the outside.
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Further in space, the substitutes begin to interact with each other, showing those feelings and emotions that arise when interacting with other substitute participants. Thus, a picture emerges of the interaction of all participants with each other and all this is the projection of the client.
The most important thing in the arrangements is that you can ask any problem, both related to your experiences and to certain objects. For example, I made arrangements for a car when I received a driver’s license, but I still couldn’t buy a car. A month later, I bought my first car, which I was extremely happy about. It’s also good to work through money using constellations.
There is also a type of constellation, the so-called “Spirit” constellations, their meaning is that you do not voice the problem to a psychologist in order to solve it. And you trust your subconscious and it seems to give out a problem that it wants to solve primarily for itself. And the subconscious is our ally and very wise. It knows a lot of things in advance and will perfectly understand what we need to work on first. In general, everything is on an intuitive level.
Composition of the family system
The family system includes all relatives - both living and deceased, and even those conceived, but not born - as well as those who, not being a relative, took a close part in someone’s fate: they cared, saved from death, provided, deprived property or life.
Hellinger considers family systems not only a clan of blood or emotionally related relatives, but also the system of an individual - his spirit, body and soul. Constellations can be single-level or multi-level, affecting systems such as work, business, spiritual movements, countries, national conflicts.
Why are constellations viewed negatively?
Fortunately, my first arrangement was with a professional clinical psychologist. And everything went quickly, with an understanding of the situation and a complete release of such a burden from my shoulders that I almost immediately took off from euphoria. This is where my journey of studying constellations began, as a method of working through negative beliefs and scenarios.
Further, naturally, after my arrangement, I participated as a deputy in other studies. Everything was just as successful; it was clear how people shed all the negativity from the past and gain confidence in their current life. Read more about how to change your life.
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But somehow I ended up doing a constellation with completely different people, whose work I had never seen, but judging by the reviews, this is something super-duper and this constellation is a super professional. So, the arrangement lasted 2 hours and the arranger did not achieve the result for the client. That is, the process remained unfinished. I'm wow to be honest. After such arrangements, people write negative reviews and say that this is evil. Of course, these psychologists do not complete the process they have begun. A person's pimple is picked out and not anointed with iodine, but it begins to bleed and make itself felt.
Simply put, to understand whether you need an arrangement, go as a deputy; your problem will not be sorted out, but you will get a good impression of the arranger and you will understand whether you need to go to him. To understand whether the arranger is a good one, just look at the clients and their requests, if people leave satisfied and happy, then everything is in order. You can trust this person with your life.
Classification
With the development of psychology and the emergence of new followers of the method of psychological constellations, several types of this technique arose, which have a separate classification.
Family
A type of arrangement that consists of two stages:
- Diagnostic procedures designed to obtain information of interest from the patient.
- Selection of solution options.
The technique is intended to solve family problems between close relatives.
Structural
When using techniques of this type, abstract concepts are used to depict various illnesses and feelings. The patient must take the place of the figures presented before him. Then its connections with various elements of the system are studied. Various figures can be placed around a person, which play the role of other people, different objects.
Organizational
Another type of technique that is similar to family constellation, but instead of relatives, colleagues, managers, clients, suppliers, and banks are placed around the patient. Used to solve business problems.
Client
A technique developed to help people working in social services, educational and medical institutions - doctors, teachers, psychologists. Technology allows a person to understand who is helping whom.
Spiritual
When applying this technique, a group of people is considered as a space that is intended for the manifestation of the spirit.
What awaits you at the constellations? You will cry like a little girl.
Everyone I saw for the first time at the constellations was crying. I myself cried in front of 20 people. But I didn’t feel any embarrassment or shame because these tears were therapeutic and everything that was stored inside of us came out and we had to relive it, but without pain, but with an understanding of why people hurt and what is the purpose of life in this. Everything goes through pain. But fortunately. This is the psychology of people.
I have a friend who doesn’t believe in all this nonsense and considers it sectarianism. But somehow we decided to go to the constellation, I am a friend and another friend. And my friend has the fate that at the age of 4 he lost his parents in an accident. In general, a friend came with some request related to money and we, as deputies, stepped into the space. And all the deputies, in all roles, just started crying a lot. Everyone was crying. Because there was so much pain that it could no longer be contained.
After the event, he said that he was blown away by what he saw and felt everything on his own skin and how he relieved himself of some pain from which he suffered greatly and could not express it in any way.
The impact of egregor on humans
The interpretation of the concept “egregor” is quite broad. The most “down-to-earth” version is a person’s unconsciously learned attitudes that force him to perceive others from a certain point of view.
The most common example is that parents’ constant quarrels force their grown child to consider all members of the opposite sex as enemies, but at the same time be sure to strive for relationships with them. This leads to unhealthy relationships being repeated. At the same time, a person cannot explain to himself why he is looking for a partner and why he is constantly annoyed with him.
In especially severe cases, this leads to the patient subconsciously looking for the most inappropriate and annoying partners.
By looking at such a situation from the outside, a person can realize it and stop reproducing it. But there is a risk that relationships with other carriers of the same life position (the same egregor) will deteriorate.
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Peculiarities
The Hellinger method involves working in a group of up to 30 people. There is no specific distribution of roles. Everything happens intuitively. People give themselves over to feelings, emotions and go where their subconscious leads them.
This is complete improvisation. Complete strangers gather. Then one person formulates his request, and others help him solve the problem, getting used to the roles of his family members.
An important point after the arrangement
After the arrangement there is always a slight euphoria and a feeling of love for everything. This is not some sectarian bullshit, it’s just that our psyche is glad to finally get rid of the layer of negativity in which it has lived for the last decades. And in general, after dropping the load, there is a flow of happiness.
But the other side of any psychotherapy in general, no matter the arrangement, no matter how different, is that after draining all the negativity from the past, another will always come out. Our subconscious helps us understand what to pay attention to and therefore, after good work, in most cases another problem arises or mild depression emerges.
Yes, after psychotherapy, after some time, the cleansing processes continue and they manifest themselves as light flows inside the body, pumping out all the negativity. The point is that this can be compared to lifting mud from the bottom of a reservoir. With psychotherapy, we lift a certain load from the bottom of the lake, but the water still raises some of the silt. I hope the analogy is clear.
The dangers of bluffing in psychology and psychotherapy
The poker term "bluff" - a good face for a bad game - causes negative feelings when it turns out to be applied to science. You can believe or not believe religious figures, mystics, esotericists - but the authority of science in the eyes of people is too high. And when another “scientific sensation” appears on the Internet (and long before the Internet era), like the discovery of giant skeletons in India in the spring of 2007, people naturally feel disappointed when they learn that the National Geographic Society doesn’t know any giants, but Photoshop can do a lot ... It’s a shame, of course, that there is no archaeological discovery, no scientific miracle. But the authority of real archaeologists did not suffer. And no one was hurt - we sighed, laughed...
But when we are not talking about dead giants, but about living people - that is, a soap bubble turns out to be something that directly concerns them and has an impact on them... This is no longer a joke (giants could, with a stretch, be taken for a joke) - this almost a crime.
A psychologist and psychotherapist who use untested, unscientific methods of work are simply dangerous. If only because they cannot predict the consequences of their work for each specific individual.
But it becomes even more interesting when a certain method is proudly brandished by people who have a very indirect relationship to psychology and not the slightest connection to psychotherapy.
How many arrangements do you need to make?
Unfortunately, there is no answer to this question. It all depends on your childhood and everything that happened in it. In childhood, we draw everything from the external environment, therefore, the more shit we saw, excuse me, the more shit we carry within ourselves.
And it’s even worse when a child sees scandals between parents and begins to blame himself for everything. The child's psyche is so complex that it blames itself for everything. This is where guilt complexes appear in adult life, which need to be cleaned and removed as thoroughly as possible.
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Personally, I made 20-30 arrangements, to be honest I don’t remember anymore. But I had a strong desire to free myself from all the accumulated negativity in my soul. And I constantly solved my problems and got a kick out of it, and now my hobby has grown into a job and that’s even cooler.
I solved problems with a complex of guilt, shame, resentment, anger, anger. All this was not removed the first time, but the process after installation lasts up to 1.5 years. Or it might work the next day. I also did the arrangement for the car. And I don’t know if it was thanks to this or another, but after 2 weeks I bought myself a 2002 Mini Cooper. Just right for a first car.
What do other people decide with constellations?
During all this time, I had seen enough of many cases and thought that in my life I was the only one with a star. But no, I was deeply mistaken. I remember a pretty girl came to the constellation with the problem that her father raped her as a child. I was simply blown away. She says that she seemed to have forgiven him, but during the constellations she cried in pain. Strongly. Very much.
But the most interesting thing is that in the process an understanding comes of why the father acted this way and basically this motive is love. Yes, it sounds strange and wild, but love manifests itself in different ways. I'm shocked.
And another interesting case, the psychologist told. Her husband was diagnosed with brain cancer and was already in a coma. It was at this time that she was learning Hellinger constellations. I won’t describe it at length, but they did the arrangement for her husband. The man came out of his coma and continued to live. But he began to have difficulty moving, as the parts of the brain responsible for coordination were affected. But the intellect, thank God, was not affected.
I myself saw him live, an adequate person, with humor. But he had difficulty moving. Although I took the subway myself. I don't know whether to believe it or not, but it is true. I don’t even really believe it myself yet.
Two main problems that the arrangement solves
We are all human and love money, and most importantly we would like there to be more of it, right? And there are also various problems related to money, such as: constant debts, money that always goes somewhere, loans, and it is almost impossible to escape from this. Some force still leads to these problems and there is no end to them.
So, about 5 years ago, I thought about the problem of money and why I didn’t have it, and it disappeared somewhere without even having time to settle in my pocket. Moreover, earlier in my childhood, I remember always saving money and I had enough of it, because I wanted a computer.
But then I came to the constellation with a request for money, and the following picture emerged in my family: there was an ancestor in the family who was close to the state treasury or something similar. He either stole and was afraid that he would be caught, or else they simply stole money from the treasury, and he decided to settle scores with himself using soap and rope. Where does the information about the treasury come from? It’s just that the deputies have a stream of intuitive assumptions, and their sensations become greatly aggravated. In general, after the arrangement I stopped being afraid of big money. And this makes me very happy.
The second strong problem is related to abortion. Children who are born take a lot of energy and attention from both parents and children born after abortions. If a person has such a problem, he cannot live happily, since he constantly wants to save his newly born brother or sister. I had the same problem, I cried a lot. But then came acceptance and the desire to move on.
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History of discovery and main followers
The founder of the technique is Bert Hellinger. This is a German psychologist who simultaneously studied philosophy and psychotherapy. In the 80s of the 19th century, he created a new technique that was intended to resolve family problems.
He combined a number of psychological consultations, which allowed him to establish a new practical method. Directions that make up the arrangement technique:
- family psychotherapy;
- analysis of life scenarios;
- hypnotherapy developed by Milton Erickson;
- primary therapy from Arthur Yanov;
- the provocative technique of Frank Farrelly;
- solution-based brief therapy;
- group dynamics;
- family reconstruction, sculpture;
- conceptual therapy.
Each of these techniques provided the basis for the development of psychological constellations.
Myths about constellations
The most important myth about formations says that deputies take on the role that they assume in formations. As a deputy, I probably took part in 100 arrangements and I can say with confidence that I didn’t attach anything to myself, but on the contrary, I just got rid of everything unnecessary. Don’t believe those who tell you this, just check it for yourself.
Laws of order of love
The family constellation method is based on two main concepts - conscience and order. The psychotherapist in personal philosophy relies on the aspect of conscience, which acts as an analyzer and “organ of balance” of a person. The system will work well only if the conscience is calm - then there is internal confidence that family life has worked out. Anxiety means that a person can no longer belong to the system. This concept is a detector of the degree of internal balance.
Hellinger divides conscience into unconscious and conscious. If an individual acts in accordance with the latter, he violates the rules of the unconscious. Thus, the conscious conscience gives us excuses, and the unconscious makes us feel guilty. The psychotherapist says that conflict between them often causes problems in the family. The relationship between husband and wife in such a conflict will be destroyed even in the presence of strong love.
Many people believe that established family routines can change under their influence or that they can be easily defeated with some effort. However, love is not capable of giving order, since the latter serves as a fundamental principle, and love is only a component of order. Thus, love is formed exclusively within any order, and it is impossible to change it through one’s own efforts.
Personal conclusions on arrangements
I think this method is effective and has a very positive impact on people’s lives. I don’t know where the negativity is coming from, but most likely it is either unfounded, or on some order. Although again, it all depends on the arrangers and their experience. Fortunately, I fell into the right hands, but I can’t speak for others.
I gained a lot of experience, and most importantly, I gained an even greater understanding of human psychology and the psychology of the species. There is room to grow and strive.
It is also important to understand why you need to do the arrangement yourself. It certainly brings miracles, but it is not a panacea. The most optimal way is to bombard global problems with arrangements, and small ones with already defined techniques, where you can work on yourself. For example, this is what I do, if some kind of problem arises that I cannot solve on my own, I go to the arrangement. I solve all minor problems myself.
In this article, Hellinger constellations, what they are, I described my thoughts about this wonderful process. I’m not an arranger myself, so if I wrote something wrong, just correct it. If you need an experienced arranger, then write, I will recommend those with whom I personally worked.
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