In Ozhegov's dictionary
SUCCESS, -a, m. 1. Good luck in achieving something. Succeed. Develop (maintain a high rate of attack; also translated). 2. Public recognition. Noisy performance. The book has 3.mm. Good results in work and study. Good, bad successes. Success in music. Production successes. * With success - easily, successfully, without difficulties. Complete the assignment successfully. To enjoy success is to be popular, to arouse interest. With the same success (so ironic) - the same, not at all better. I failed to complete the task, but another tribute was met with success. How are you doing? - how am I going] grandfather? occupy the entire surface with something. U. shelves with books. * Fix your eyes (gaze, gaze) on someone or something, at what - stop a fixed gaze on someone or something. Stare into space. || nesov. set, -yay, -yay.
What is success?
There are hundreds of them, take my word for it. Such publications make me smile ironically. Pay 100 rubles, read, take note of something, or even use it as instructions - and everything will become simple, success will come into your hands. It's funny, isn't it?
Multi-colored advertisements invite you to dubious trainings in the style of “Become successful in 3 days,” promising participants “mountains of gold” and a life “without black streaks” in just three, five, seven days - whatever. The danger of such trainings is that they use methods of “reprogramming” the psyche, manipulation, and hypnosis. The work is based on the principle of network marketing: in order to move to the next stage of training, the student needs to attract a certain number of newcomers to the first stage. And although each new level costs more and more, the participants get hooked and can’t stop. I don’t want to say that trainings are bad, that you shouldn’t attend them, you just need to be more attentive and selective. To be more attentive and discerning... - sometimes this is the most difficult thing.
What is success? Agree, we use this word quite often in conversations, but sometimes we don’t think that everyone means their own definition by this.
Boris, 17 years old: “This is when you stop for a minute and think: “I’m happy with myself!”
Alexander, 18 years old: “There are 2 ways. You can realize your reality - shape your body, accumulate your property, gain recognition in society, power... And the second way is to realize your spiritual Self, gain knowledge, draw knowledge from the Universe around you, that is, achieve wisdom... So this is success for me - this is something in the middle between these two paths of human development, but this is difficult to achieve. Therefore, success is regarded by men as the number of cars, houses, deals, academic degrees, and by women - plus a created family... I repeat, this is if we take it deeply and do not consider “success” as a victory over something specific in the present or future... »
Vsevolod, 16 years old: “Success is a state of mind when everything turns out just right, by the way, when everything literally turns out just perfectly... Success consists of many factors and aspects. In my opinion, another concept of “success” is when you achieve something in a typical activity, and someone appreciated your capabilities and believed in your strength...”
In other words, success is something relative. Someone holds the position of director in a tiny company and considers himself quite successful. And someone stays at the top of the music charts for months, but, nevertheless, does not consider this the limit and experiences dissatisfaction. Success is when you are constantly moving forward: from goal to goal, and you like it.
But everyone really wants everything to end as planned, so that there are no problems at home, and relatives smile, so that money flows like a river into their pocket, and happiness knows no bounds! Unfortunately, success is not just luck. It’s not enough to want and dream about something, get ready to do it and put it off again and again. Those who are just about to live live poorly. Therefore, you should not wait for the blue bird of luck to fly. It is not a fact that you will catch her by the tail.
It's unlikely you'll be the first person to open the first McDonald's on Saturn. You probably won't even. And you won’t go into space without a spacesuit. (Unless you're one of that rare breed of absolute idiots). This does not mean that you have to give up on your dream: you just have to reconcile it with reality. Maybe you'll be second.
But you will have to learn to satisfy your pride not to the maximum - after all, I am not Anna Politkovskaya, no matter how sad it is. This is especially true for teenagers who are looking forward to “adulting” and becoming... woohoo! The very best! It won’t work, all the best ones have already been there for a long time. Or almost everything. Yes, I am in no way saying that goals should be set more simply. Valid and adequate does not mean simple.
You probably expected me to write a formula for success? I won't write. It is individual for everyone. Just like the man himself.
Good luck!
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In the dictionary D.N. Ushakova
SUCCESS, success, husband. 1. Good luck in your planned business, successful achievement of your goal. “Our successes in the field of socialist construction are truly enormous.” Stalin. Be successful. Succeed. The search was successful. I tried for a long time, but without success. The attempt was unsuccessful. I wish you complete success. | success in a military operation, victory (military). Proper preparation of the operation is the key to success. Expand the first success achieved into the final defeat. Successfully develop success. “Word of his success has spread again.” Pushkin. | only plural The same goes for school learning and academic performance. 2. only units. Recognition of such luck from others, public approval of something, someone’s achievements. The play was a deserved success. The exhibition is a huge success. The first success turned the young singer’s head. A resounding success. The book's widespread success. 3. whose. Society's attention to someone, recognition of someone's merits, as well as success in courtship, flirting, etc. “My successes in a whirlwind of light, my fashionable house and evenings.” Pushkin. • With (some) success - successfully, without difficulty, very easily. “The working class of our country has proven in practice that the people can successfully do without exploiters.” Stalin. Plastic successfully replaces wood and other materials. With the same success - with *****
At the beginning of some of my trainings, I quite often ask who has what goals and who came and why. One day a young man in a suit came forward and cheerfully declared: “I want to become successful!” It's great that you have such a goal. What does being successful mean to you? And in response, he just as cheerfully and just as energetically said: “I don’t know, I haven’t thought about it yet!”Often the goal that a person sets for himself is like an empty label on a computer. If you click on it, it turns out that there is nothing in a person’s head... Therefore, it seems to me that it is very important to begin the path, the movement towards success by forming images of what success really means for you.
There is an observation that success means different things to different people. Why? This is due to the fact that different people have different life values. Let’s say that success is often understood as financial solvency. Such people have been actively moving towards increasing their finances since high school. And it also happens: a woman came to one of my coaching sessions who had achieved great success in business, was financially prosperous, with several apartments in Moscow, cars and other luxuries, but it was clear that there was success, but only financial, and There was still no happiness in the eyes. But when we touched on some personal topic, she always tried to get away from it with the words “I have no time for this right now... I need to promote a new project... all my thoughts now are only about this...”, and I understood that in fact this person is a little I was deceiving myself. She does have a lot of money, that's true. She really has a successful business and she has realized one of the values of business success. But at the same time, all other values turned out to be “pushed back.”
Another situation: let’s say a person has a wonderful family, several children and, it seems, a full house, everything is fine, but at the same time a worm of some kind of unfulfillment is gnawing at him. He has talents and abilities that he never showed. And this fact prevents him from being either happy or fully successful.
In my understanding, every person has some kind of radar diagram. You can imagine it as a snowflake, whose ray line is about at the level to which a person was able to realize one of his values. Then success will be the equal implementation of each of these values.
One more example. At one of my trainings, a young man talked about how he was doing at work. He said this cheerfully, with enthusiasm. But when the conversation turned to his emotional state, he somehow became sad: “Well, now everything is somehow not fun, because I devoted myself entirely to work,” but then suddenly joy and warmth flashed in his eyes: “Oh I used to allow myself hobbies and hobbies. But then I went to training at another center, and there they explained to me that there was no need to engage in hobbies, that it was a waste of time. And I had an aquarium, a big one, with a lot of fish... And the young man started talking about fish, algae, aquariums and everything else, but from that moment his eyes really really shone.
What happened? It’s just that at some course they explained to him: “Guy, if you want to be successful, then you need to throw out everything in life that doesn’t give you money. How much time do you spend on the aquarium?
- An hour.
- You're taking an hour away from your money, throw it away.
The guy made a commitment to the group and to the coach that he had to throw out the aquarium along with the fish.
The young man continued his story: “Of course, I didn’t throw out the aquarium, but took it to the dacha. And I gave the fish to friends, I couldn’t kill them - they’re like family to me!” I clarified: “Do I understand correctly that the aquarium was one of your values, your hobby?”
— Yes, I really like reading about fish and working in the aquarium. I usually spent an hour a day on this, but it gave me a feeling of inner joy. Yes, it’s true, I don’t earn money from this hour, but it was very important to me.
Then I said: “Go get the aquarium. Right now!"
I met him a week later. The guy collected all his fish back, restored his entire aquarium, spending not an hour, but all eight. But here’s what he said about it: “You know, Vladimir, when I go home, I’m in such a good mood, such enthusiasm. I understand that you found the element that I was truly missing. Now I understand that I shouldn’t have given up on him.”
Why did I tell you this? People who strive for success have one characteristic - they highlight only one value and subordinate all others to it. I don't think this is very healthy. Most of the trainings in Sinton (mine for sure) are devoted precisely to the harmonious development of a person, so that each of his values feels good. And if all values are friends, supporting each other, then this, in my understanding, is success.
What is success like?
Oddly enough, the concept of success can be classified.
1.Final or intermediate.
When you achieve a big goal that you have been working toward for a long time, you can consider such success to be final. For example, you have reached a financial goal and now you earn $1,000,000 a year. You break the path to a big goal into smaller goals. This achievement can be considered an intermediate success. For example, you started earning $3,000 a month.
2.Personal and public.
Personal success is when, let’s say, you learned how to create and maintain a blog. And public success is when your blog is read by a large number of people and it will have a lot of traffic.
3. Partial or complete.
Partial success is when you have achieved great heights in a certain area of life: health (sports), relationships, money or self-realization. For example, you starred in a film that brought you fame and received an award at a film festival. This will be a partial success, you have realized yourself, you are a successful actor. And when a person achieves great heights in all areas, then this is complete success. Such people are called successful. They are in excellent health, they have a wonderful family, they are financially free and do what they love. This is the kind of success everyone should strive for.
Success is a science, if you have the conditions, you will get the result.
Oscar Wilde
Good and bad success
Good success benefits both the person personally and the people around him; it is useful in the long term. The price for it is low. Everything is in the same spirit, we don’t need to go into detail...
But the bad thing is what you wanted, what you strived for, but when you achieved it, you were more disappointed than when you just dreamed about it. At the very least, such long-awaited success did not solve your real problems, but rather created new ones, adding difficulties to the general baggage.
What, that wasn't the case?
This means that either you are not living long enough, or you are setting sky-high goals for yourself.
